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Alright I will try to make this brief and to the point. I am a transgender man, meaning I was born with a female defined body but my mentality or anything else is male. I identify as a male. I am not yet on hormones but will start soon, I plan on having top surgery and I am currently saving up for it.
Now then, for over the spread of 5 years I have been very close to a cis-male. He was born male and identifies as male. When we first met I was presenting as female. We became close as friends he wanted a relationship I did not.
For the reason that he was straight, slightly homophobic and transphobic. He didn't know anything about transexual people or much about differences in sexual orientation and gender expression or identity. Time passed within a year of knowing him I started telling him how I felt. He saw it as being a tomboy.
Some more time passes by we stop talking once I start talking about how sad I am how depressed and inadequate I feel, how alienated I feel from my body. I go on to tell him I'm seeking psychological help and will do all I can to feel good and accept myself as female so I can be happy with him. It doesn't work we stop talking for 7months.
We begin talking again, by this time around I've come out to family friends, negative familial reactions positive friend reactions. He asks how I'm doing we catch up, I tell him I'm going through with transition and tell him my preferred name. Some detest from his part, I continue to not talk to him. A few more months pass by we start talking, he says he misses me. Needs to talk is unhappy without me. I have mixed feelings.
We start talking again he apologizes, asks me questions. I inform him about how I've felt for a long time and how psychology has helped and all that; he starts to use my preferred/right name and proper pronouns. A month in fallout, tells me he sometimes wants to call me by "my name" (birth given name.) I Withdraw once more. Am deeply hurt and frustrated why I can't shake him off.
Reconcile, 3 years in very close again. Have changed a lot physically just by working out and diet. He compliments me, I don't look female except for wide hips and round rear. He starts talking about how attractive other men are. I'm both intrigued, jealous and suspicious. He begins to flirt heavily I ignore and keep my distance. Abruptly stop talking to him because my old feelings come back. I'm insecure, scared and anxious and confused. Cut off all communication for about 5 months.
4 and a half years mark, I'm depressed decide to write letters every day. Terrible love letters, embarrassing cringe worthy mushy and full of sadness and logging; sending them to old messenger he hadn't used in 3 years. 3 months worth of that. I meet a new person we connect, she helps me make sense of my feelings (aside from my therapist.) I feel ready to let go and move on. I send one more letter. Long. Detailed. Embarrassing.
Next day, I wake to an explosion of replies. Just my luck, he logged in that very night for no apparent reason, read them all. Feelings are mutual he says and is eager to talk. He's very positive, sweet, comforting and gentle. All of that leaves me feeling nauseated and anxious, feeling of cynicism washes over me. (through all this time, my mother father and siblings all hurt me when they didn't accept my coming out and I've been damaged emotionally and psychologically. I'm getting help but it's hard to confront and let go of the pain.)
He's pushy about getting into a relationship, I really don't want to. Insecure about everything. I ask him how this happens if he's straight. He says he no longer identifies as being straight, is deeply in love with me and blahblah. I'm unsure and scared. Somehow I give in, things get sexual fast I feel insecure and used. I'm withdrawing, he eases up tries to reassure me, help me.
5 Year mark now, been together in this roller coaster ride for 8 months. He likes men, likes penis, reassures my body is perfect the way it is. He loves me the way I am, I feel lesser as a man next to him. I'm easily jealous and insecure when he talks about other cis-men. I want to throw everything away and just be alone for the rest of my life. He talks about marriage and adoption. I tell him I have many problems and he should find someone better, to be happy with a more attractive cis-man. (I have major bottom dysphoria. I don't know if I'll be getting bottom surgery ever, if I ever have the money however I have mixed feelings about it because I won't be able to ejaculate.)
I've spoken to him about how I feel, my insecurities he has both reassured me he loves me and that it doesn't matter if I have male genitalia or not and toys are alright. Tells me it's not all about sex. I understand, I still feel sick and rejected. I have no reason to, I know. I don't know what to do. I should be starting hormones soon, he tells me he's excited and I'll be even more handsome. I feel fine most of the time, except when things get sexual or when he compliments another man. I've told him to leave me many times and to go find a cis-male. (He has an asian fetish, I'm not asian ads to my insecurity.) I tell him he'd be happier with someone from that ethnicity and who has functioning real parts. He gets upset with me, sometimes emotionally distraught and cries, I always apologize and we make up.
Today he tells me he had a dream about sexual things with cis-men parts. I start to have a mental breakdown, I feel like I'll never feel complete as a man. I have yet to talk to this with my therapist since I only see her once a week and most of the time I get onto the topic of family and all that mess. I'm only asking here because I feel very upset and rejected and lost and ashamed and inadequate. He apologized after he realized what he said upset me, I just left and haven't spoken to him. What do I do. Any advice at all will help. We are in our early 20's.
You wrote asking further questions where people place comments on the first answer. Advice givers can't answer from there. I can only answer there in an edit within 24 hours so you lucked out I saw this in time. Go to my column dragonflymagic and write to me straight from there, then I can answer as often as you need on any other questions you have.
So the last few weeks I've been really depressed feeling and like I just get super stressed out where my chest gets tight. I'm under so much pressure from everyone because everyone expects something different from me. I feel like I've lost a lot of friends and family members. I just feel like no one cares about me and I never come first or even second to any one in this whole world:( people never have time for me or blow me off. Lately my grades have been suffering I went from getting 80''s and now I'm failing or getting 60's. I feel like I have no one to talk to and honestly I wanna talk to someone but I don't wanna be honest about this stuff. Also I get jealous extremely easy I hate having to share people. I cry often as well. If it helps I'm a teenager. I just need advice can you please tell what I can do to stop feeling this way do you think I'm getting depression or anxiety? all advice is appreciated.
You didn't give your age or sex.
When you say you cry often....that finally made me think teenage girl with emotional struggles due to the hormones of puberty. It can sneak up on you, being fine one month and the next, all of a sudden you cry easily at anything, are really sad and can also get easily irritated or anger for nothing. Sometimes these hormones that come with puberty can be out of balance, just like teen periods can be very irregular for the first couple years. Eventually your body figures out what's a normal amount and normal pattern and settles in just fine but for a couple yrs it can be really really bad. I've recently read of parents taking daugthers to the Dr to have the hormone levels tested and they were extremely high and causing the problems which included depression and anxiety over things happening to them that they didn't understand. The parents wrote that the daughters were put on meds for a couple years and later taken off once their bodies went back to normal. And it made a world of difference in their level of happiness.
The tightening in chest suggests anxiety and depression but I can't say for sure whats going on, for all I know you might be a male.
Jealousy is common in teens because this is a time when we are so unsure of ourselves and worry alot about what others think of us, of making a good impression and so we also fear losing something, fear losing friends, popularity, fear doing bad in school, fear that we are not good enough to make friend material, we compare ourselves to others and we are the most critical of ourselves. But understanding what the mental thought process is and learning how to feel self secure and confident and will deal with the problems of jealousy.
So let me know if you are a female. Because I would suggest mom take you for the check up I mentioned to rule out hormones. If not that, then the doctor can refer to someone to work with you on the feelings of anxiety or whatever. There are a few things I can suggest you try if you really want to, that help with depression due to circumstances around you rather than a clinical depression where a person must go on medication.
I got this list on line. My daughter got the same list from a psychiatrist through her job and we both know it works for us whenever we have situation/circumstance related stress. If you want to try it let me know, also whether you're female or not. If you have no improvements by end of a week, then you definitely need to see a doctor.
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Hello,
I got interviewed for a job a week ago and they said they would call me to tell me whether or not if I got a job. They called me yesterday and said that they really enjoyed talking to me and they had a lot of fun talking to me but they unfortunately went with another candidate.
Then she said, "But I really liked talking with you and I enjoyed being with you. I was wondering if you would like me to pass your information to the HR to see if another department is hiring because I would really like to work with you."
I told her that I actually applied at the same company but a different mall as well and she said, "oh, working for this company is great. I worked at the mall too but I would REALLY like it if you worked at the mall I work at. I would love it if you became part of the team because I really enjoyed talking to you."
I was disappointed at first because I studied hard and worked hard to get that job but then I was relieved a bit. My sister thought it was probably because I wasn't meant for that department and that it's good that she likes me and that she wants to help.
Is this what most managers say to those they interview to make them feel "not too bad" about themselves? does this happen often?
Sometimes a person will call, say they really liked you but they went with someone else. Typically they wish you luck or say to try them again in the future.
This woman sounds like she really liked you. She didn't say it once but repeated herself so you made a good impression on her.
Just in case you don't get the other job either, I would tell the lady now , if you didn't already, to go ahead and submit your info to their HR department.
Personality means a lot in a job and if you have just the right personality, then in time, the company will find a position for you. This manager will be putting in a good word for you even if its a different department.
I met this person at my college. At first, we were distance, but then we became friends. I was happy because I had a best friend during my first semester of college. However, these happy feelings were short lived. I realized being friends with this person is not easy or fun. It's not my friend's fault that I have these feelings. I know that if this friendship fails, it would be my fault. In the past and probably even now,I am antisocial, insecure, awkward, strange, and the list goes on..As such it surprised me when this person wanted to be my friend. This person is the whole package: nice and charismatic. I don't wanna be friends with these person anymore because every time I'm in the same room with this person, I feel so much pain and anger in my heart. I don't know why I hate this person so much, I do. I tried ending the friendship, but every time I want to, I am unable to. Whenever I imagine my life without this person, I feel even more pain, but a different kind of pain. I feel sorrow and grief. I know that if I end this friendship, I would be in pain. But I don't want to stay in a relationship that may lead to more pain for the both of us.If I stay I'm in pain, if I leave I'm in pain. I don't know what to do.
As you said, you'd be in pain no matter what you do. Therefore unless you get some professional help to deal with why you feel so much pain and anger in your heart, anti social, insecurities, etc...then it doesn't matter who you come into contact with in life, life will be upsetting to you.Unless you become a hermit and go live on a mountain far away from civilization, you are going to have to interact with people. You may think you can handle people without any difficulty if they were not a friend, but that is not how it works with any of us. If the clerk at the supermarket has a migraine, she might be short and snippy in her speech due to pain but because of your internal problems, you see it as a slight against you. Or you can come up with dozens of times you have to speak to a stranger you dont know on the phone in a customer service call center. I am a pretty easy going person but the idiots I often have to deal with in calls to so called help centers can rattle my calm that day, with you, it could upset you for the next week.
I am no psychologist but I am guessing a couple possibilities, life at home growing up wasn't caring and supportive or the family were disfunctional and not able to be good learning examples for you
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You deep down have feelings that you may or may not have acknowledged of not liking yourself or loving yourself and actually despise or hate yourself instead.
It's a known fact and its also in the bible, if you can't love yourself first, then you'll be unable to love others, let alone tolerate them.
And then you could be one of a small percentage of people who prefer to be more alone, less people around, not very social, not shy, just prefering solitude. But that doesnt explain the strong feelings of pain and anger because this personality though a small percent of the population are happy and content to live this way.
There may be something you are not sharing that might shed some more light. I have a list of instructions of how to overcome social anxiety/shyness if thats what you are suffering.
I know of a technique called EFT (emotional freedom technique with tapping accupressure points/ meridians that help you to process through whatever you are dealing with in your subconscious mind and emotions. If you want to try it, let me know and I will send the links.
Otherwise, I would suggest counseling for you. good luck dear.
I'm a 13 year old girl and I usually have a pretty normal period cycle, but I haven't gotten my period for the last two months. Instead, I ALWAYS have clear discharge. I heard that it could have to do with weight gain/loss, but there has been no change there and I am not sexually active. I know that most of you guys probably aren't doctors, but any ideas on what this might be? Thanks in advance!!!!
Clear discharge whether you have your periods or not is normal for your reproductive system. Just as periods are normal, the females vaginal tract cleanes itself continually, sometimes visual only as a whitish dried powder on your panty when dried or thicker and crusty. This is a good sign that the self cleaning system is working just fine.
When I got my period, mine was all over the place, lots of spotting, 3 weeks of the month or no periods for a couple of months. I told my mom who had regular ones herself and she panicked. Not all females, mom's included realize that it is normal for teen girls to have periods that vary greatly for the first couple years and may not stabilize and become regular until 17 or 18 even. I am giving you a link to an article
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/irregular_periods.html
This is on health for teen girls regarding periods and explains what I just said. Thats for in case your mom reacts thinking you're pregnant or somethings seriously wrong.
If a girl was having extreme pain with periods, or between them, then its time to go see the doctor. If there is abnormally heavy bleeding, then go see the doctor. And lastly, hormones of puberty can go out of whack and be out of balance which can make a girls emotions worse than the normal emotional changes of puberty, if that happens, thats another reason to see the dr. to be put on temporary meds to stabilize you for a couple years until your own hormones levels go down to normal.
Just make sure to always carry a pad or tampon with you since you'll never have a warning as to when your period is about to start, especially if the periods are irregular.
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If I'm 35 and haven't had a period in years but always thought it was due to being underweight and the medication I'm on... I wasn't getting regular period for very long time but had my son seven years ago... I've heard its def possible to ovulate without menstruating. Anyone else experience this and KNOW FOR FACT they are ovulating but not getting their period? I'd like to have one more child.
Hon you need to go see a Dr.
I will agree it is not a normal occurrance when you look at what is going on for the majority of women.
At the end of each GYN appt of mine, Drs always said to come in immediately if I have any sharp pain or excessive bleeding that won't stop. Those are what they consider signs of something majorly wrong needing immediate attention. You don't have that. Once out of our teens, our periods begin pretty regular with no variations other than delayed some due to illness or stress. The irregular periods don't hit again until menopause and that the next point I want to make.
I knew a neighbor who when I was pregnant with my third child at 33 told me she wished she could have a 2nd child. I asked her "why not" she said because she went through menopause at 30 and the Drs. removed her uterus because she was having complications because of it. She was about the same age as me. I was shocked.
I suppose its rare, but its a possibility. So if you haven't had any period, and want to have another child, better go see the doctor and get tested. You could be one of those rare cases going to menopause extremely early and be totally healthy in all other ways.
What do you do if you are messing around with a boy, and finding out that he has another girlfriend, and may have a baby by one of his ex-girlfriends. What should I do I mean I don't claim him so what should I do?
Stop the relationship.
He has his priorities, a current girlfriend and who knows how many children out there he needs to take care of. As long as there are women willing to be available as a sex partner on the side, he is not going to learn to grow up and became a man.
If you are currently not ready to get into a serious relationship, and all you want is a sex partner, thats fine, but make sure the guy is really single at the moment and not involved dating another girl who he is cheating on with you. If he lies at first, then the moment you find out, end it.
am sixteen,n my boyfriend is 20,i love my boyfriend alot,but since am kinda egoistic,i pretend nt to care atimes but still i feel i care too much still,his ex girlfriend is my cousin,i asked her bfor i got into d relationship n she said she was cool with it.he doesnt try at all,i text,call even send him airtime,still he doesnt care,sometimes,hes WORLDS MOST CARING BOYFRIEND,other times,hes BIGGESR JERK OF THE YEAR,av tried alot to make our relationship envious enough,hes not even bought me anything sinx we bin datin for 6months nau..i know he doesnt have his eyes on another girl,i evn go through his phone,he allows me...is it that his tired of me or what?last 3days made it the sixth month we've been together,and he forgot our anniversary...av broken up with him once but he pleaded n even told his mum to apologize on his behalf..he was really frustrated,he promised me all would b ok..but i dont see it gettin better...only earlia on he tried...please,what do i do?
You mentioned ego right up front. Yours or his? I am guessing you meant him. Any person with a big ego is going to be prideful and think the world spins around them and owes them something without their having to put in any serious effort into anything in life...relationships included.
You said you pretend not to care at times and that could mean that
A. you pretend that his ego or anything else you don't like is no big deal. If this is the case read on. If not, skip to B.
Pretense in this case is the wrong thing to do and will actually make your situation worse. When a guy does not come up against any opposition to his behavior, then he will assume its okay, that he can get away with it. However, sometimes when a gal makes her stand and says where she draws the line, that things need to change for the better, a guy won't take her seriously, so she need to break up. He may have to go through a handful or more of strong females training him that what he does is not right or good enough and when he doesnt shape up, they all leave him. Eventually a guy is going to get the message and grow up. I have listened to male relationship experts now turning 40 and they both confessed they made many stupid mistakes in their 20's but due to females who held to their standards, they eventually got it, just not in time to save any old relationship.
B. Your pretending not to care meant you have deep feelings for him but you never show it, act cold and indifferent to him. If this is the case, pretending not to care doesnt help you or him, it gives him no clue how serious you feel about him and the relation. If he treats you well, then don't be afraid to show you care about him.
When it comes to guys and communication via technology, A great majority prefer communication in peyfor rson face to face. With texting, its too easy for him to be distracted by any of his other priorities in life. Girls make a boyfriend their one and only priority, while males juggle several like school, job, friends, sports, family, and of course girl friend. The only time there's a real problem is if you are not one of his top 3 priorities. My guess is that young guys still trying to figure out females, rely alot on body language and facial expression to gauge how a gal is reacting to what he said, is she is really interested in something or pretending, etc. and they can't get that with texting or phone calls.
If he felt he had to go to his mother to smooth things over, then he's got a lot of growing up to do and he better get serious or forever be a mama's boy with no backbone of his own. There's something wrong about a person who can't apologize for themselves and has to send someone else to do it.
Though he may be older, he still sounds like a pretty inexperienced kid. He may have good potential. You said it yourself that half the time he's a great caring boyfriend.
So as has been suggested, have a good talk with him. When you explain how you feel a good conversation tip is to not say something that comes across in an accusatory way such as
'you make me upset when you forget...'
'you are too lazy to answer my calls so thats why I'm in a bad mood'
instead make a statement where you are taking full ownership of your feelings, not saying he caused them but that when certain things do or don't happen, thats how you happen to react emotionally.
This will be useful information to him instead of something he feels he needs to defend himself over. Notice the last two comments started with 'YOU'. Instead use " I "
Heres what you'd say instead using same examples:
'I feel like I am not important enough to you when you don't return any texts or calls. If you are busy, I understand but a short text 'busy, call u later' would show you care. I feel like everything else has a higher priority than me. I dont ask to be the top priority, i know job or friends are important too, but I need a little more than I am getting." See, isn't that a nice way to share how you feel? And for the other
"Special dates and celebrations of them are very important to me so I felt upset when you didn't make any mention of the anniversary of another month of dating gone by. I dont expect you to be interested the same way but if you want to show me how much you care about me, then supporting me in something that I like and is meaningful to me would be terrific. I may not have a great interest in sports but if you wanted my company at a game, I would go to support you in something you have interest in and my going along shows you how much I care about you.
Ask him also angry about his preferance in keeping in touch. Ask if he likes chatting on the phone or likes texting or in person and why. Don't always assume there's bad intent behind any action.
i work for a adult day care and i started to notice a serious pattern with the owner. She seems to complain all the time! at the clients or at her staff. she seems very impatient with the people that are there and they seem afraid of her. Meaning during meal times if i am feeding one of the clients and its taking a while she want me to rush them to eat. I also saw her having a full on cursing argument with one of the clients with dimentia. there is another client with advanced dimentia that she almost pulls up the hall and they have a hard time balancing themselves. What do i do? Im not sure is she is just finging a reason to pick with me or the clients.
Regulations and requirements can vary state by state.
So I am providing a link I found that lists each of the states and you can go over the particular state that you're in to see what regulatory agencies are the ones to handle the licensing and approval and yearly inspections of any Adult day care facility. They would also be the agency to take an anonymous complaint from someone who works there and make an unscheduled complaint visitation to see if they can experience proof of what is going on.
The owner may be going through some personal emotional stress in her own private life but people are not supposed to bring that to work with them and dump on employees or clients just because they have some personal problems or difficulties in life. If she has changed recently and wasn't like this before, thats likely an explanation why but still doesnt excuse such behavior. It's very unprofessional, immmature and unrealistic.
My dad after a couple mild strokes needed someone to help him eat from a spoon. It was a long slow process. He had difficulty getting the swallowing motion to work. If he had been forced to eat faster, he would have choked on his food. People bringing loved ones to such a facility are going to expect good care for them.
Here's the link. Hopefully this will help you know what agency to file a complaint with.
http://nadsa.org/providers/state-regulations/
Hii 15F... I am single. I have 2 bestfriends and both of them have loving bf's... So every break at school they kiss and cuddle and I just stand there. I really like tgis bpy but I'm to ugly(I get told) a guy told me I was fat yesterday and it broke "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ heart... Yea I know I'm a bit over weight vut I'm not that fat!! Please help me :( what should I do?
The boys you've met so far have zero social skills, and zero tact. If you approached a guy and he just didn't find you his type based on looks, thats his personal choice but to point it out as you having the problem is uncool.
Unfortunately, teens bodies fully mature before the frontal part of the brain responsible for being able to make better decisions and make better call's socially. The pre-frontal cortex doesnt finish growing until our mid 20's, so he has at least 10 years to go before he is capable of being a gentleman.
There are females without extra weight who have the same problems you do of finding a guy. So if looks has nothing to do with it, what does?
Check out this link of tips for larger women who want to find a date.
http://www.ehow.com/how_6962215_dating-overweight-women.html
Adult male dating coaches all say they will choose a female with confidence over a female with model looks every day because confidence and attitude is much more sexy. Thats point number 2 in the article.
Until guys maturely mentally, a greater portion of teen boys will be more interested in the looks department. But that doesnt mean the right boys aren't out there now..yGuys don't care about name brand clothings and the hairstyle or nail art that is in. A guy worth dating, is one who finds you attractive but his sole reason for going after you is not sex, he wants a whole relationship. A guy who wants just sex will go after what the body looks like, he doesnt make out with u ou just have to know what you are looking for. Don't fall for guys telling you they want to date you or they have feelings for you, just to get in your pants. They will assume that all overweight girls will be lonely and have a low self image and no confidence and be willing to give the guy sex to get a little attention.
Let's put things in perspective. First I am a straight female. Hubby and I are nudists. At a nudist camp I was able to meet and observe two females who were very obese, not just overweight. I was fascinated to see that even I as a female found that one of those two females appeared to me as an attractive beautiful person while the other not so. It wasn't until shortly after I read something about how beautiful and sexy confidence in women was over their looks, that I finally got it. SO work on your confidence. Thats the best asset you can have dear. Good luck
12 yr old girl~
This is a long story:my mom said that i was grounded for sleepovers for the rest of the school year.Well my two friends were having a sleepover at friend #1's house. i was told i was able to go over there to watch catching fire(the hunger games). so went over there and friend #1 said that this boy was over there and that they'd come get me when they are going to watch the movie at 7. so i waited.7:30 came around and no one had come down.so i went down there(she forgets a lot). well i went down there and she said that the boy's mom was out w/ her mom.and that no more kids were allowed in the house. i'm not sure if she's lieing but still,she really wanted me to come over and now she thinks that she is to cool to hang out with me. I don't know what to do and i really feel like a third wheel. PLEASE ANSWER!!!!!
I can't quite follow what the issue is here. You said 'so went over there and friend #1 said that this boy was over there' So at the friends house that you went to for watching a movie, you were told that a boy was present, that he was also there to watch the movie. Either you saw him or you didn't but you didn't clarify that.
Perhaps you meant you were told the movie watching was at #1's house but once there, you're told it is actually at number #2's house where supposedly there is a boy hanging out.
Perhaps the two girlfriend have rules their parents gave them of not hanging out with guys unless a parent is home. Sounds like perhaps they were trying to get away with something. Unless you heard the rules straight from the lips of the adults whose home you were in, you don't really know for sure if any friends at all were allowed to be there. More often than not, parents aren't entirely comfortable with their child inviting over friends that the parents aren't very familiar with and know they can trust. No strange kids were allowed in my home when I wasn't there but if it was a long time friend and I knew the kids and her parents well, then I was okay with it. At one birthday sleepover, just girls, my daughter invited those i knew and some girls i'd never met. Of the ones I didn't know, one got really wild and started throwing couch pillow, the kind you sit on...around the living room while I was in my room giving them their space and I had no idea this was going on. In the morning, I was disappointed to find several precious memento's of mine broken. I told the daughter, that one girl was never allowed back in our home. Parents want kids that they can trust in their home.
Give this girl some time to prove herself of what quality person she is. If she is the kind who likes to bend and break the rules and be wild, and thats not you, then tell her thanks for the invite but you have other things you'd rather do. If she ever tries to talk you into doing something you feel uncomfortable with or you know is against the rules for you, then tell her you are not comfortable with that and to stop asking you to do those kinds of things. I don't understand how you feel like a 3rd wheel unless you meant the parent had no knowledge of your presence. If you felt guilty about that and knew they were bending the rules, then these would not be the very best choice of friends. You can do better.
Hi im english and i want to know the differnece between "making out" and french kissing....us english dnt use da term makin out lol
According to Wikipedia: Making out is a euphemism[1] of American origin, dating back to at least 1949, and is used synonymously with the terms kissing, petting and necking,[2] but may also refer to non-penetrative sex acts such as heavy petting. They also state that 'snogging' is the term used in British-english.
Petting is just another term for 'making out'. Petting is actually a term that covers a broad range of sexual behaviors, including giving/getting a hickey, serious intense kissing,(not just the peck on the lips) and sexual touching of one's partner. The touching, caressing, massaging and kissing of another person's body can take place through the clothing or under the clothing, and 'heavy petting' usually involves removing some clothing and touching BELOW the waist.
Dictionary.com says necking is kissing, caressing, and other sexual activity between partners that does not involve stimulation of the genitals or sexual intercourse.
So in answer to whats the difference between french kissing and making out,
french kissing is only one part of the many types of kissing and also just one part of making out, whereas 'making out' is everything but sexual intercourse meaning 'penis in vagina' sex.
Forecast for New York... Does anyone here live in nyc? How bad is the weather there in the winter? Should I be afraid to move there? Would you leave LA for NYC if you wanted to try stage acting, or would you stay here to avoid the weather?
What another person would or would not do depending on things weather wise should not influence what you do, any more than what my personal taste in food should influence what you eat.
I suggest you make a list of pro's and con's about going to NYC or staying in LA and see which outweighs which.
My daughter was recently in NYC for a business convention, first time and compared to west coast says one big impression is peoples attitudes there. Overall, they seem more cold and unfriendly towards others. There's feelings of being crowded and claustrophobia, and it felt like a generally dirtier city. Everything is rush rush and a hassle to get anywhere with the amount of traffic and people. If offered a chance to go to NYC again, she'd turn it down. Too stressful a place for her.
So in making your list you need to think of what things are important to you. If there are better opportunities for stage acting there, then the vocation should be the strongest influence in a decision, not weather. From what I've heard, the east coast gets snow long before or more often than the west coast. If you fear driving in snow, don't worry, with all the traffic there is, you won't get a chance to drive your own car, you'll be utilizing taxi's.
Plus NYC is also much more expensive for anything and everything compared to west coast. Husband has a daughter who moved there due to job offer. She agrees everything is more expensive. She says just a McDonalds meal for one person costs the same as paying same amount and getting 3 people fed here on west coast. Just a couple things there to get you started with your list.
Is it worth the extra money to buy BPA-free plastics for your family? Is there really anything to worry about, do you think? We are about to have a baby and I am getting paranoid about it the more I hear about it over and over again. Advice?
I am sharing an article about BPA free plastics, namely an plastic item you can think of from storage containers, baby bottles, plastic dinnerware, soda pop and milk jugs etc...are all as bad because they all contain a synthetic estrogen.
A human of any sex exposed to too much of any type of hormone is going to be affected, but especially developing babies.
http://thestir.cafemom.com/baby/169069/bpafree_bottles_sippy_cups_might
I also remember reading in the past claims that the BPA was being blamed for under development of the male genetalia as the child grows and also the lack of a healthy male libido as they get to puberty age. But I cant find that one.
So to give your child a better head start development wise, I would suggest glass bottles or breast feeding. I highly recommend mothers milk over formula because there are also reports that there are ingrediants in baby formula that are not healthy for a baby either.
Our world today is a very toxic place and children are born with toxins in their bodies they got through mom along with all the good stuff. So that kind can't be avoided, but adding to it by use of certain products after birth can be avoided.
I found a bonobo music video on youtube and I just LOVE it! Now I want to find other things that are the same style but I don't know what genre or style to call this sound. What would you call this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WF34N4gJAKE
I did a search for "what is bonobo's music style"
and this site came up listing 5 styles.
http://www.ambientmusicguide.com/pages/B/bonobo.php
My own definitions are that it sounds like a blend of techno and lounge music with something else tossed in. Hope this helps
So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL!
You might want to ask the friend who told you what companies specifically. I had 3 kids and never signed up anywhere to get free baby stuff in the mail because something like that was not advertised.
However, shortly after each time I had given birth, I did get an occasional sample of one free disposable diaper or skin ointment or the one dose of baby shampoo, nothing much, and definitely, not an amount to crow about. I suppose that companies get a list from hospitals of people who gave birth.
If you are hoping for such great volumes of things in the mail so you have no need to buy any personal care items for baby, then forget it. Thats not going to happen. You'd do better interviewing other moms to discover which baby products they liked over others and why and then just try out the ones you think are the healthiest for baby.
If you really believe such a thing exists, do some internet searches or look up brand names of baby product companies on line and ask them by email.
There's this guy that's in ALL of my classes. He's really starting to creep me out for various reasons. I started to "dislike" him awhile ago, and that's when I just started paying more attention. I don't want him looking at me, and that's why I've been paying more attention I guess. How can I just stop this? By the way, no, I do NOT like him.
I can only imagine what your two 'various reasons' are but if he's looking at you a lot for one, its possible he finds you interesting or attractive and hasn't developed the nerve to approach you to talk to yet or ask to go out with.
Sometimes, just having someone watch your every move can be unnerving, especially when they do nothing to let on what they are thinking....its a big mystery.
It could possibly be that the subconscious part of you deep down likes a good mystery and that alone is what has you intrigued, intrigued enough to begin watching him now too. I think the only thing that will really help stop your need to focus on him is to take the wondering and mystery away from why he stares at you. And the way to do it is to go talk to him whether you like him or not. Say something like, "I have noticed for some time how you seem to be watching me a lot. It is quite unnerving. Is there something I am doing or saying that is weird or something?" That way you get him started talking. I can only say this based on the only example I have of what he is doing is staring at you. If this isn't helpful, you need to explain more.
Without actual examples of why you dislike him and specific things he may have done, I couldnt have any other advice for you.
13/m
So last Friday was a dance at my school and I went with a girl i like. She and all of her freinds know i like her and her freinds told me if i was to ask her out, shed say yes. So i took the chance and asked her out and she said yes. So now we are dating and this has been my first relationship in well over a year so im a little rusty. This being said im a little reluctantbto saying that i love her or calling her "babe" because i dont want to rush things if you know what i mean. So I was wondering when it would be a good time to start with this and ill take any other relationship tips that you can give me. Thank you for your help and have a nice day.
This advice works for people of any ages regarding when to say I love you as I learned directly from relationship experts.
Saying "I love you" too soon can scare a girl or guy away, works both ways.
They suggest saying other things and using compliments such as "I really enjoy spending time with you." "I have so much fun when I'm with you." or "I really like how you make me laugh" or more like a personal compliment, "I like how self confident you are. Once you do have feelings, It is best to say "I'm am beginning to have deep feelings for you" or "I am beginning to fall in love with you", If it is stated as a process just starting, the other won't feel compelled or pressured to say 'I love you' in return if you say it when they are not ready tgs and using compliments such as "I really en mo acknowledge it yet.
On to other tips: Communication-- females are generally good communicators, they just feel unsure about when saying something is TMI for a guy, and they don't tend to ask questions when they don't understand, they run to others asking if they can figure out what you meant when you said......
So watch her face for clues, and from time to time ask for feedback, does she understand what you meant, would she like you to reword that? This is one of the most often seen thing from teen girls in this advice column.
The other has to do with communication too by its technology based, venues on computer, texting and calling. Girls tend to get tunnel vision and make their boyfriend their only priority whereas guys can handle several priorities all at the same time, like school, sports, and girlfriend. So your attention is taken up by other things, the girls have their entire focus on the guy with nothing else to occupy them so if they don't hear from you often enough. So if its not a good time, don't give short answers or just not text back, tell them you can't talk now and tell them when they can expect a call if its going to be in 2 hrs. and then hold to that promise. Girls write in pissed about guys who seem to drop off in the middle of a texting conversation. I highly suggest you carve out time for a phone call and give your undivided attention if you can't be with her in person. Texting does not help build social skills and communication skills and girls don't like to be left hanging with a half done conversation.
All humans need someone who believes in them and recognizes their strengths and talents and compliments them. Females especially need it from the guy they are dating or married to.
Teens are still somewhat unsure of themselves and teen girls are overly concerned about whether they as a whole person are attractive to the opposite sex. They focus more on their looks and such than simply having self confidence. If your girl doesnt wear makeup, tell her she has a natural beauty and you're glad she doesnt cover it with makeup. If she has a talent for being good with animals, let her know you notice that and share articles regarding people who have special bonds with animals with her...I'm sure you get the picture. If she's really good at math and you have some trouble, don't be all weird about not having the same skill, she won't think less of you. In fact if you compliment her ability and ask her to help you, that will mean a lot to her, so put the pride aside. In healthy relationships for adults, one will have strengths where the other has weaknesses and both will cover for each other in a wonderful give and take relationship. So good communication and building her up with compliments are the biggest things right now these days affecting teen girls and that would help alot to pay attention to it in dating. GOOD LUCK
OMG! I have blonde hair and I just went swimming in my pool and i got out and my hair was GREEN! What can i do? I have to go places!!!
It isn't the chlorine that turns blonde hair green. Oxidized metals in the water bind to the protein in the hair shaft and deposit their color. The metal that produces the green tint is copper, which is most commonly found in algicides, though it naturally occurs in some water. The bleach that is added to a pool may be responsible for oxidizing the metal, but it's not the cause of the color.
If your hair turns green, you can remove the discoloration by using a shampoo that chelates the metal. To some extent, you can prevent copper from binding to the hair by sealing the hair cuticle with a conditioner before swimming. Rinsing your hair immediately after leaving the pool will help protect it, too.
And so to know what shampoo's are chelating ones, here's a link that lists a few. If they're not available in your area, go to the local pharmacy and ask the pharmacist to help you find a chelating shampoo.
http://chelatingshampoo.com/
Either have someone go for you or put on a hat and tuck your hair up in it and go yourself.
i read the answer to my response and you said something about iphones to be honesty i really do not care for iphones at all and also im not really interested in contacting the icon music series at all i just thought it would be nice if they made a cd called Elton John Icon since Elton John represents that record company which happens to be universal so anyway i just thought it would be nice if someone answered that question that is all not interested in the stuff young people are becuase all young people think about is crap thats popular that nobody older than them cares about and that would be the best thing about escaping my 20s and if you respond to this can you please not compare me to any young people that have iphones becuase i dont have one and i dont want one thanks .
YeaH, I guess that would be nice cus it would make your day.