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The third wheel
12 yr old girl~
This is a long story:my mom said that i was grounded for sleepovers for the rest of the school year.Well my two friends were having a sleepover at friend #1's house. i was told i was able to go over there to watch catching fire(the hunger games). so went over there and friend #1 said that this boy was over there and that they'd come get me when they are going to watch the movie at 7. so i waited.7:30 came around and no one had come down.so i went down there(she forgets a lot). well i went down there and she said that the boy's mom was out w/ her mom.and that no more kids were allowed in the house. i'm not sure if she's lieing but still,she really wanted me to come over and now she thinks that she is to cool to hang out with me. I don't know what to do and i really feel like a third wheel. PLEASE ANSWER!!!!!
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My sister just turned 13 and trust me she has similar problems. There is always that friend that is going to have a crush/bf and is going to feel to good with themselves. Trust me it happens alot even when your older. Honestly you guys are so young and haven't experienced anything yet.! It sounds like maybe they were tryna be sneaky and make it seem like they were doing a sleepover and tryna have you guys "go over" so they can be left alone, but in actuality they probably did not want u there. It does sound a little sneaky, but it's also her first crush/bf. They are 12 and shouldn't be doing anything crazy anyways, but maybe talk to her about it. Let her know that if she wants to hang with her bf/crush or whoever he is to her don't involve u because things can go wrong and you can get in trouble for just being there and being involved.
My sister always has those types of friends and i tell her that it's their first bf and they are new to these things and probably don't know how to react to having guys around them and having a bf. Now don't misinterupt what im saying. Don't have her talking rude to you but let her have her "in love with my first bf" moment and just be her friend and let her know that your there for her if anything. But also let her know that you won't always be cast aside for a guy she likes 24/7.
It's okay hunn it happens to everyone at any age. People get a bf or gf and other people feel left out. I always do but i let my friends know and i reason with them and things work out well.! :)
Good Luck.! <3
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I can't quite follow what the issue is here. You said 'so went over there and friend #1 said that this boy was over there' So at the friends house that you went to for watching a movie, you were told that a boy was present, that he was also there to watch the movie. Either you saw him or you didn't but you didn't clarify that.
Perhaps you meant you were told the movie watching was at #1's house but once there, you're told it is actually at number #2's house where supposedly there is a boy hanging out.
Perhaps the two girlfriend have rules their parents gave them of not hanging out with guys unless a parent is home. Sounds like perhaps they were trying to get away with something. Unless you heard the rules straight from the lips of the adults whose home you were in, you don't really know for sure if any friends at all were allowed to be there. More often than not, parents aren't entirely comfortable with their child inviting over friends that the parents aren't very familiar with and know they can trust. No strange kids were allowed in my home when I wasn't there but if it was a long time friend and I knew the kids and her parents well, then I was okay with it. At one birthday sleepover, just girls, my daughter invited those i knew and some girls i'd never met. Of the ones I didn't know, one got really wild and started throwing couch pillow, the kind you sit on...around the living room while I was in my room giving them their space and I had no idea this was going on. In the morning, I was disappointed to find several precious memento's of mine broken. I told the daughter, that one girl was never allowed back in our home. Parents want kids that they can trust in their home.
Give this girl some time to prove herself of what quality person she is. If she is the kind who likes to bend and break the rules and be wild, and thats not you, then tell her thanks for the invite but you have other things you'd rather do. If she ever tries to talk you into doing something you feel uncomfortable with or you know is against the rules for you, then tell her you are not comfortable with that and to stop asking you to do those kinds of things. I don't understand how you feel like a 3rd wheel unless you meant the parent had no knowledge of your presence. If you felt guilty about that and knew they were bending the rules, then these would not be the very best choice of friends. You can do better.
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This boy might not be the best. I believe friend #1 is lying and that she is leaving you out. It is okay, this friend might of met someone new and she might want to move on from you. I'm twelve too and I understand. It has happen to me. They were ready to move on from me. If that's the case, I thinks it's time for you to move on. But she might be telling the truth, maybe she hadn't told her mom that you were coming till last minute. Ask her if she was lying, and tell her that she has to tell you the truth. It's hard if you are close friends, but as I said,
Move on.
It'll be okay, ;)
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