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New relationship
13/m
So last Friday was a dance at my school and I went with a girl i like. She and all of her freinds know i like her and her freinds told me if i was to ask her out, shed say yes. So i took the chance and asked her out and she said yes. So now we are dating and this has been my first relationship in well over a year so im a little rusty. This being said im a little reluctantbto saying that i love her or calling her "babe" because i dont want to rush things if you know what i mean. So I was wondering when it would be a good time to start with this and ill take any other relationship tips that you can give me. Thank you for your help and have a nice day.
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well for one thing you are to young to be saying babe or honey etc.. That's not a word for any 13 year old. I have a 14 year old daughter and she doesn't say those words.. I would call her by her name..Don't rush into things..When the right time comes you will know when to call her those names.. and don't let your friends get into your relationship with this girl.. If you really like her and she really likes you it will happen one day.. That's if GOD wants it to happen.. So enjoy your young life and don't rush into things..
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Awwes well congrats on your first relationship. And it's good to take things slow. But don't be afraid to take things up a speed. Call her babe see how she reacts to it. If she don't like that then don't call her that, but since you guys are dating i doubt she will mind that at all. Gurls hate it when guys are slow with everything it bored the relationship. Be creative and make her smile everyday and spice things up. NOW DONT DO NOTHING CRAZYY but hold her hand. give her a kiss on the cheek and walk her to class. Take it slow and see if she appreciates and likes these things and if she does then keep doing that and grow from there.! :)
Good Luck you will be fine.! <3
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This advice works for people of any ages regarding when to say I love you as I learned directly from relationship experts.
Saying "I love you" too soon can scare a girl or guy away, works both ways.
They suggest saying other things and using compliments such as "I really enjoy spending time with you." "I have so much fun when I'm with you." or "I really like how you make me laugh" or more like a personal compliment, "I like how self confident you are. Once you do have feelings, It is best to say "I'm am beginning to have deep feelings for you" or "I am beginning to fall in love with you", If it is stated as a process just starting, the other won't feel compelled or pressured to say 'I love you' in return if you say it when they are not ready tgs and using compliments such as "I really en mo acknowledge it yet.
On to other tips: Communication-- females are generally good communicators, they just feel unsure about when saying something is TMI for a guy, and they don't tend to ask questions when they don't understand, they run to others asking if they can figure out what you meant when you said......
So watch her face for clues, and from time to time ask for feedback, does she understand what you meant, would she like you to reword that? This is one of the most often seen thing from teen girls in this advice column.
The other has to do with communication too by its technology based, venues on computer, texting and calling. Girls tend to get tunnel vision and make their boyfriend their only priority whereas guys can handle several priorities all at the same time, like school, sports, and girlfriend. So your attention is taken up by other things, the girls have their entire focus on the guy with nothing else to occupy them so if they don't hear from you often enough. So if its not a good time, don't give short answers or just not text back, tell them you can't talk now and tell them when they can expect a call if its going to be in 2 hrs. and then hold to that promise. Girls write in pissed about guys who seem to drop off in the middle of a texting conversation. I highly suggest you carve out time for a phone call and give your undivided attention if you can't be with her in person. Texting does not help build social skills and communication skills and girls don't like to be left hanging with a half done conversation.
All humans need someone who believes in them and recognizes their strengths and talents and compliments them. Females especially need it from the guy they are dating or married to.
Teens are still somewhat unsure of themselves and teen girls are overly concerned about whether they as a whole person are attractive to the opposite sex. They focus more on their looks and such than simply having self confidence. If your girl doesnt wear makeup, tell her she has a natural beauty and you're glad she doesnt cover it with makeup. If she has a talent for being good with animals, let her know you notice that and share articles regarding people who have special bonds with animals with her...I'm sure you get the picture. If she's really good at math and you have some trouble, don't be all weird about not having the same skill, she won't think less of you. In fact if you compliment her ability and ask her to help you, that will mean a lot to her, so put the pride aside. In healthy relationships for adults, one will have strengths where the other has weaknesses and both will cover for each other in a wonderful give and take relationship. So good communication and building her up with compliments are the biggest things right now these days affecting teen girls and that would help alot to pay attention to it in dating. GOOD LUCK
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