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lonley & confused
Hii 15F... I am single. I have 2 bestfriends and both of them have loving bf's... So every break at school they kiss and cuddle and I just stand there. I really like tgis bpy but I'm to ugly(I get told) a guy told me I was fat yesterday and it broke "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ heart... Yea I know I'm a bit over weight vut I'm not that fat!! Please help me :( what should I do?
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Baby girl, you have a lot more to offer a guy than your body or your face. Beauty is far from being skin deep. With that being said i'm sure you're very pretty. The thing about being so young is most of the time you sell yourself short & become unaware of how valuable you really are. People used to talk smack about me in High School.... It's what young girls do to distract other people from there flaws. Its a defense mechanism. I guarantee you whoever is talking negatively about you is secretly jealous of you. They see some quality, some talent in you that they wish they had. One thing ugly hearted people have a knack for is making beautiful people feel ugly. So what you don't have a boyfriend...i bet you your friends won't for long either. At 15 boyfriends usually come and go. You have your whole life to find that special someone & believe me one day when you're really ready you'll meet a guy that exceeds all your expectations. Don't settle for less than someone who can truly recognize how valuable you are. For now, just figure yourself out. Talk to guys, see how things go but mostly just enjoy being 15 because once you're older & you have bills & responsibilities these are the day you'll look back on. Your friends might have boyfriends now but whose to say the tables won't turn & maybe in about 10 years you'll have a happy relationship/marriage & they'll be lonely. Just don't feel pressured to get a boyfriend just because your friends have one. Stay strong, stay beautiful.
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Boys are jerks. Don't listen to them. I'm a bit over the wright im supposed to weigh too. I'm heavy and it sucks at times because alot of guys like those thin model 2 packs gurls and i remember when i was in hs i would always cry cause guys i liked didn't like me and they would call me names. Now in college guys look at me and regret things they said. Guys like me and even talk to me more.
The key is confidence hunn. I wasn't confident in h.s. but now im like hell yeaa screw them. I stopped trying to dress in things that don't fit my body type. Let me tell you something okay don't try and be those thin looking gurls with no meat on their body's okay.? Be your beautiful self because God made you to be the way you are so a special person can come and grab you up. Dress to impress yourself. Buy clothes nothing expensive(i go to rainbow and buy clothes for like 24$) and nothing too revealing but buy something you like and nothing showing to much don't wanna be called a slut too u know.?
But it's not about just the nice clothes and shoes you get it's about how you wear and work yourself. SHOW CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF. REAL GUYS like that. When a girl can wear something that isn't all that sexy but wears it with so much confidence that it doesn't even matter with anything else. Go to school smiling and proud of your body and don't let NOONE PUT YOU DOWN FOR ANYTHING.! What matters is how you carry yourself and what's on the inside and once you do that rite i promise you the rite guy will be asking you to prom and to be your bf too.! ;) <3
Hope this helped.!
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Awww gurlllll, don't feel sad...you're still young and you shouldn't worry about not having a boyfriend. To be honest, relationships in high school are so superficial and it's just puppy love. Don't ever let people's harsh words affect you...just worry about yourself because honestly, it's only your opinion that matters. You aren't ugly. When you grow up, there will be a special someone waiting to walk in to your life and love you.
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The boys you've met so far have zero social skills, and zero tact. If you approached a guy and he just didn't find you his type based on looks, thats his personal choice but to point it out as you having the problem is uncool.
Unfortunately, teens bodies fully mature before the frontal part of the brain responsible for being able to make better decisions and make better call's socially. The pre-frontal cortex doesnt finish growing until our mid 20's, so he has at least 10 years to go before he is capable of being a gentleman.
There are females without extra weight who have the same problems you do of finding a guy. So if looks has nothing to do with it, what does?
Check out this link of tips for larger women who want to find a date.
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Adult male dating coaches all say they will choose a female with confidence over a female with model looks every day because confidence and attitude is much more sexy. Thats point number 2 in the article.
Until guys maturely mentally, a greater portion of teen boys will be more interested in the looks department. But that doesnt mean the right boys aren't out there now..yGuys don't care about name brand clothings and the hairstyle or nail art that is in. A guy worth dating, is one who finds you attractive but his sole reason for going after you is not sex, he wants a whole relationship. A guy who wants just sex will go after what the body looks like, he doesnt make out with u ou just have to know what you are looking for. Don't fall for guys telling you they want to date you or they have feelings for you, just to get in your pants. They will assume that all overweight girls will be lonely and have a low self image and no confidence and be willing to give the guy sex to get a little attention.
Let's put things in perspective. First I am a straight female. Hubby and I are nudists. At a nudist camp I was able to meet and observe two females who were very obese, not just overweight. I was fascinated to see that even I as a female found that one of those two females appeared to me as an attractive beautiful person while the other not so. It wasn't until shortly after I read something about how beautiful and sexy confidence in women was over their looks, that I finally got it. SO work on your confidence. Thats the best asset you can have dear. Good luck
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