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My mother is abusive. She hits me and calls me stupid and worthless. My father never stops her. I've moved away from my home twice. My grandma, one of the only people to ever make me feel appreciated is dead. My little sister is dead. I have suffered through attempted rape three times. My grandfather is an alcoholic who disowned my family and I haven't seen him or my grandma in years. I was ridiculed and called a slut my entire childhood even though I've never even had sex. A boy broke my heart after making me open up and be myself for the first time in years. I am completely broken. No one cares about me. I haven't felt anything in years. I am emotionless to avoid being broken again. My question is: Where do I even begin to go from here? Can I love again if I try really hard?
I've been through some hard times myself so i know what you're going through. Don't ever let bad people make you bitter. There are still good people out there. You can't choose your family unfortunately but you can make the best of any situation. I know it's hard, but be strong because i believe one day you're gonna find the perfect man & you'll know it.
So don't sweat these little boys that come & go. Pain sucks, problems suck but one day you're gonna look back & know how strong you are. Your struggles have given you wisedom that surpass the experiences of most & one day you will be thankful for them because you can't appreciate a bright day unless you've had some dark nights. You are strong & you are a beautiful person. You will overcome this & you will be able to love again. Its never to late. You have your whole life ahead of you....trust me. I wish you luck & i will keep you in my thoughts. I wish i could help you get out of that situation. All i can say is i hope things get better for you. I hate that you have to go through all that. It breaks my heart even though i don't know you... No mother should ever be that way to her child. With that being said please take care! Stay strong, stay beautiful & remember that you are worthy of love.
It's okay that you took a while to respond(: & yeah. I completely understand what you're saying. But the thing is he can't say no to anyone ever. Like he just can't. So he wouldn't be able to tell his bestfriend to stop playing with it. Cuz they used to do this stuff all the time. So I'm thinking that his bestfriend just does it when he's horny or is bored. Like he doesn't suck the dick til it cums..Just does it when he's horny. & he has told me any guy likes his dick getting played with. You think that's true? & I've tried talking to him about this already & he doesn't find anything wrong with it. I don't see why. Like he said he wouldn't care if my bestfriend did stuff like that with me. But I'm pretty sure he would. I just wish he'd stop. Like he said he's not attracted to his bestfriend. He said he only loves me. I believe him too. He told me not to worry about this & that it won't happen when we're married. How should I explain this to him? Like what should I tell him? What would you do if your husband was doing this stuff? & do you consider it cheating?
Its extremely disrespectful... Kick him 2 the curb sweetie. Trust me theres a guy out there for you but he is not it. Thats not love. If he loved you he wouldn't disrespect you like that. If he loved you he wouldn't want anyone else touching you like that BUT him & he wouldn't want anyone touching him but YOU. Yes ma'am thats cheating.
I'm not new to relationships, I've been through six; They were ALL deeply serious but ALL collapsed because it was deeply LIMITED as well. By "Limited" I mean it had limits like she's not allowed to talk much to boys, or have many boy contacts or or or...endless limits and jealousy of mine I know I had them living like she's in a PRISON cell..which is probably why they ended up.
Now, I'm in my seventh relationship. It is the TOTAL OPPOSITE of what I'm used to! It's VERY difficult for me, you simply can't imagine how hard is my consciousness torturing me! She's allowed to go out with all of her friends no exceptions, she's allowed to do whatever...because I'm convincing myself for once that "since she loves and wants me and I'm sure about that then no need to be jealous and set limits and useless stuff that will ruin the relationship" I'm really finding it hard to do so. But nothing is really bothering me much besides ONE thing. Her PHONE. Not only am I used to seeing my girlfriend's messages and calls, but I'm used to even taking her phone away for an entire day! Now I'm not allowed to even TOUCH her phone. Surprisingly, the only thing that can't get out of my head is me getting myself a hold of that phone. I want to see what she always hides on it. Ugh now I'm talking like a creepy jealous freak that I always was...
I'm seriously lost and need advice if I should trust her or not, take into consideration ONLY the phone. Do you think she's hiding crap on it so I shouldn't get my hopes and trust too high in her? Or no just trust her and be careless about the phone?
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I understand you being jealous but i think you're taking it a little too far. Either shes not worthy of trust or you have a problem. I think it's a little of both. I never cared if my boyfriend seen my phone unless i had something i didn't want him to see. I would delete my messages & call history. I also didn't txt around him. I don't think you should freak out about not seeing her phone because things can be deleted so i don't see how that could give you much closure. There must be a good reason you don't trust her & you shouldn't be with someone you feel like you can't trust. With that being said i think you need to be less paranoid. I have trust issues too (really bad) but being too jealous/paranoid isn't going to help. I think you're scared of being hurt & losing someone but if you keep going on like this well then you've already lost her. I do think its strange she won't let you see her phone though....i'd talk to her about that. Theres gotta be a compromise somewhere. Don' t be a prison guard but don't completely ignore cheating signs if you see them. Don't be that controlling guy please...i've been on the other side of that equation and i know how it feels. I've been completely faithful 2 a man who was always being mean & was always upset because he thought i was cheating for whatever STUPID irrational reason. Just don't be like that because that will get you NO where but alone. If you love someone you should trust them otherwise there is no reason to be with them. Yes, trust has to be earned but ya gotta meet your partner half way. I'm an ex cheater so i know cheaters can be very manipulative but i also know the signs are always there & i know you should be able to easily recognize them just don't jump to conclusions either. Stay strong.
I have a really hard time talking with other people in class, and normally I'm excluded from most of the groups because the kids think I'm weird. I'm in 6th grade and I spend most of my time in the counselor's office rather than in class. I would really like some help.
You're not weird.....weird has a derogatory connotation. you are simply unique. There is nothing wrong with that. Just look for people that you share common ground with. Stay true to yourself. Never try to be anything else but you. Its hard when you're young but one day you're gonna find people that accept you just as you are and appreciate your indifference. My boyfriend was considered strange, quiet, scary in high school & still to this day some people still think that. I think he is quite unique yet still he got me. Just know there are plenty of people out there for you, you just gotta find them. Theres also a girl out there for you who is gonna accept & appreciate your unique qualities(when you're older). In the real world your high school status does not matter whatsoever! stay strong, if you need anyone to talk to i'm happy to help.
Plz help me i think my girlfrnd is cheatng on me
Why do you think that?
Sorry to ask here but I have been through a lot recently and am having a hard time keeping going. :( Do you have any quotes that have inspired you to keep on going when it seems like there really isn't much of a point to trying anymore?
If you can make it through the night theres a brighter day
-Tupac
If you need someone to talk to i'm here!
Hii 15F... I am single. I have 2 bestfriends and both of them have loving bf's... So every break at school they kiss and cuddle and I just stand there. I really like tgis bpy but I'm to ugly(I get told) a guy told me I was fat yesterday and it broke "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ heart... Yea I know I'm a bit over weight vut I'm not that fat!! Please help me :( what should I do?
Baby girl, you have a lot more to offer a guy than your body or your face. Beauty is far from being skin deep. With that being said i'm sure you're very pretty. The thing about being so young is most of the time you sell yourself short & become unaware of how valuable you really are. People used to talk smack about me in High School.... It's what young girls do to distract other people from there flaws. Its a defense mechanism. I guarantee you whoever is talking negatively about you is secretly jealous of you. They see some quality, some talent in you that they wish they had. One thing ugly hearted people have a knack for is making beautiful people feel ugly. So what you don't have a boyfriend...i bet you your friends won't for long either. At 15 boyfriends usually come and go. You have your whole life to find that special someone & believe me one day when you're really ready you'll meet a guy that exceeds all your expectations. Don't settle for less than someone who can truly recognize how valuable you are. For now, just figure yourself out. Talk to guys, see how things go but mostly just enjoy being 15 because once you're older & you have bills & responsibilities these are the day you'll look back on. Your friends might have boyfriends now but whose to say the tables won't turn & maybe in about 10 years you'll have a happy relationship/marriage & they'll be lonely. Just don't feel pressured to get a boyfriend just because your friends have one. Stay strong, stay beautiful.
I was dating this guy R for almost two years and almost a year back we had our first serious break up. I started seeing this guy J after that for a week after which I got back with R. Now, a few months back R and I broke up again and I repeated the mistake of going back to J. We had a "fairytale" relationship but after a week or so R came back to me and we started dating again. I told J everything and he stopped talking to me. Things turned a little nasty between me and J. MY boyfriend R treats me horribly still I chose to be with him because I love him a lot. So I have finally decided to end it for good with R. I miss J terribly right now and no I dont mean it in a rebound way. I miss him because he was my best friend and no one ever treated me the way he did. The last time J and I spoke, I hurled a lot of abuses at him (even though it was my fault). I want to apologize to him and get back with him but I'm scared because his friends wont let him talk to me (I think). Plz help!!
I think you should never ever be with someone who treats you horribly. Baby girl you are worth so much more than that. It doesn't matter if you love a man that treats you horribly he obviously doesn't think to much of you if he isn't treating you like he should. With that being said, i seriously doubt that J is the person for you. I think he's just your safe place...you always go back to him but at the same time you still look to trade up. My advice is dump the bad boyfriend. Apologize to J say something like "hey i messed up & i know sorry can't
Make it better but i'm confused right now & i don't know how i feel but i need a friend more than a boyfriend right now". If he truly cares about you he'll understand. Ya never know, maybe love will grow. I've seen that happen before. If it doesn't don't pursue anything with J. Thats not fair to you or him. Just know this; R & J are not the only guys on the planet theres plenty more where that came from & i just know theres gonna
Be a guy to come along one day & exceed all your expectations. It might take a day or it might longer than a year, but i'll happen. Don't settle for less than you deserve. Don't ever feel like you're obligated to be with someone just because they treat you right, you are worthy of happiness. Stay strong, stay beautiful & most of all stay true to yourself & things will fall into place. Wish you the best of luck!
I am a 44 year old woman. I have been married for 3 years. During the marriage I have been happy, but my husband hasn´t been. He has cheated on me 3 times, left me twice, and has currently asked me for a divorce. My problem is: I fight tooth and nail for a reconciliation. I have used logic, patience, understanding, and giving in to my husband´s every whim to get him to see how worthwhile it is to have a good life together. I feel all it takes is maturity and respect to make things work. To me, divorce is the last resort. I would feel like a total failure with divorce. When I didn´t agree to divorce, my husband became infuriated. He started throwing things, breaking things, and yelling F*** YOU, I HATE YOU. I cant let him go! I have an addiction to this man that I cant shake. What do I do?
I think you need to talk to a therapist or something but listen here baby girl this man obviously has no respect for you if he'd treat you like that. That's okay because it's his loss & i know there is some man out there who will treat you right & appreciate you for all the right reasons. You need to realize you deserve more then what he is giving you. I know how it is... Sometimes you're with someone so long that there all you know & you don't wanna end that routine or break that cycle but later you'll be so glad you did. It's not too late to find love. Theres no age limit on love. Its gonna hurt but you have to let him go because he obviously has already let you go.You don't need a man to be happy. just stay true to yourself & everything else will fall into place, you'll see. Best of luck to you, stay strong & stay beautiful.
I got really angry because i dropped something and it got ruined. I do believe I overreacted, but I just got so angry that I slapped myself in the face. I felt as if someone needed to, so why not be me? I feel like I'm crazy or something because I did it... Am I?
You're not crazy... Crazy people never consider the fact that they might be crazy. It happens to the best of us. Sometimes we get really mad & flip out. That doesn't make you crazy so don't worry.
i am scared whether im pregnant or not..i gave my bf a blowjob and then he fingered me.. i dont remember whether he washed his hands or not..but he is very sure that hes hands were dry. that time i was scared whether im pregnant or not! i gave him a blowjob on 24th dec.. my periods were supposed to come on 28th dec but they came on 1st jan as i was taking pills to delay my periods cause i had a function to visit. i got my next periods on 6th of feb.. i dont have any pregnancy symptoms the only thing is that i have pain in upper stomach and i get a quick pain during passing stools..i have this pain while eating anything.. or it comes suddenly. im having this from past few days. it started with a problem in passing stools. what could be the reason. i cant take a pregnancy test.. i am very scared! please help me. i want a sure answer.. because im scared to death.. im 17! and if im pregnant then give me some solutions. i did google on this topic and they said that it is possible to be pregnant without missing periods or even without having any symptoms of pregnancy.. please help and reply.. i need help
Baby girl, i def don't think you're preggers. I'm not really sure but i'm not even sure that you can get preggers from what you just described. I don't think you're pregnant. The mind is a powerful thing though and because you're worried you may start to feel similar symptoms. Thats not uncommon... I'm sure you're fine! Good luck & be careful!
can anyone sugest a good killer name i need one for my story
Alex
Michael
brandon
Xavier
Vicent
Edgar
Blade
Aiden
Victor
Damon
There ya go!
Everyone wants to be on birth control but I want to be pregnant! Are there pills you can take to make you more fertile so you get pregnant easier?
Yes Ma'am there's lot of things 2 help with fertility. Ovulation tests help too. You are most fertile when ovulating.
I took a sleeping pill and when I woke up it was 15 hours after I put my tampon in! Do I need to go to the doctor? Am I going to die from TSS? Please somebody tell me what to do!
I would go 2 the doctor just 2 safe TSS can usually be cured when it's caught early! Don't worry, just get a dr appointment & everything should be fine. Lots of people leave there tampons in too long. Its not like TSS is the plague. Good luck! I'm sure you're fine.
My friend is scared of her dad
Speak up & tell someone. She's probably too scared but shes gonna keep being scared if she doesn't make an effort to get out of that situation. No child/teen should have to be afraid of there parent they should be focussed on figuring out who they are & enjoying being young. I encourage you to please tell someone(an adult) & convince her to speak up & get out of that situation. Be strong & be careful.
There's this kid who picks on little girls, (mostly physical), tried to kiss my friend, tells off teachers, annoys kids in my grade by pushing, biting ,punching (he punched my friend in the stomach for not letting him touch a button in a book), and was sent to the princable's office countless times. Why don't they just expel him? When he's mad he shakes. I find it weird. Why is he like this?????? It's crazy.
I don't know how old you or this kid is but i'll answer this to the best of my ability. Sounds like he's got no respect for women. Maybe he's been hurt by a woman or women in general and has a bad taste in his mouth. Maybe he has a bad home life & is abused or maybe he's spoiled rotten & thinks he should always get his way. Deep inside he's really a coward. Stand your ground & if he messes with you tell your parents/teachers tell everyone & get other kids to tell too. Don't let anyone push you around. Also defend those who can't defend themselves & speak up. Speak till someone listens. It will work. Stay strong & be careful. Doing the right thing doesn't always mean doing the easy thing.
I have a crush on a boy but it turns out 2 of my friends have the same crush. They keep saying that they told him. I really want to talk to him but I do not know when I should. What should I do?
All is fair in love and war. They don't own him. Take a chance if you want to... Theres nothing wrong with that!
hey guys, what type of help is offered for eating disorders?
Talking, you need to talk to someone & they can get you help.
You can very rarely deal with this on your own but you can help. Look in the mirror & tell yourself you're beautiful because you are. You're weight does not define your self worth. Your self respect empowers you. Beauty is not a number on a scale, true beauty is based on the content of your character. Be strong.
Ok I hv realised that I dont want to date anyone in my country.I want an online guy..is it possible or imi crazy..I'm pretty and kind. I hv been told so..I'm 15
When i was 15 i was "dating" a guy online from england. He seemed so sweet at first & we really clicked but in time her torchured me & made my life a living hell. Not all people online are gonna be like but the thing about talking to someone online is you just don't know what you're getting yourself into.....I encourage you to try & find someone you can be with in person. Honestly, it's a million times better to have someone you get to see & hug & all that good stuff. Messing with guys from other countries really isn't as glamorous as it seems i promise. Either way please be careful. Pay attention to the signs.
What do you do if you are messing around with a boy, and finding out that he has another girlfriend, and may have a baby by one of his ex-girlfriends. What should I do I mean I don't claim him so what should I do?
Well i'm not judging you but if i were you i would end things. I mean i'm not sure if you actually have feelings for him but if you do then thats even more reason to end it. If he's not being faithful to her then what makes you think he will be to you? Plus the kid thing..... Nah thats just way too much drama. Trust me baby girl there are tons of good guys still out there waiting on you. No need to waste your time on someone who would lie & keep things from you!