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Just to assure why is this flirtatious man extremely confident if his female friend likes him? Do men mostly say you fancy me just to get the reaction from her to see what's on her head so that he could get a positive reply (therefore he'd know she likes him) or does he really fancy her? An honest and helpful answers please. Thanks in advance (link)
Men are nervous and worried to impress woman too. Its a way of thinking out loud so that it does not stay all bottled up in their head, so thy do not freak out. Its not intentionally done to sound cocky, or rude. Its a way of him feeling confidence, talking to himself, convincing himself he has a good self esteem.
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There is this guy I like and recently we both found out that we used to like eachother. But here's the thing I just told him that I used to like him because I didn't want to be rejected. I told him over text and he told me he used to like me but doesn't feel ready for a relation ship. Now I'll be soon approaching my junior year in high school and me and this guy used to talk all the time. But ever since winter break ended I just sort of stopped talking/texting him. so around the middle of April 2017 is when I told him I "used" to like him. After he told me that he used to like me I started freaking out, like 'what if he liked me and I just turned him down' or 'what if he finds it awkward now' or 'what if he thinks I'm a bother?'. I'm a girl who over thinks things way too much and that's why I stopped ignoring him. So how would I work my way to talking to him again without being awkward? I just want to have that friendly conception with him back at least. So if someone out there can give some advice that would be very helpful! (link)
I advise you and the guy finish high school together, go to the to the library as friends and study together. During the week socialize with other people, and at the library, on the weekends report any desire you both have developed for each other in the days the two of you have not been in contact. I really hop this works out as i believe it will. If you two can see other people and not miss each other, than y'all are not meant to be together. But if the opposite happens, and y'all miss each other than..I think you have just found your boyfriend, girl!And if that is the case, Y'all have to go to prom together, decide which college y'all will go to together, and take it from there.
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Background: my boyfriend is 23 and I'm 21. We're both finishing our last year of college (he is taking a fifth year because of ROTC and switching majors I will talk about this later). We have been dating for a little under a year and a half.

The problems: started in the last six months. I feel like we've fallen into a rut. I still want so much from him. His time, his attention, cute little surprises/texts, etc., you know the stuff you do in the honey moon phase. Plus our sex life has slowed down a ton even though I am pretty much wanting to have sex all the time. He's the definition of a clueless boyfriend. Part of it is the army. He's been through extensive training over the last five years, more so than a normal ROTC student. Long story. He doesn't talk about emotions well. He's been told it makes him weak. The most sentimental he gets is when we fall asleep he will whisper how much he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. But that's it. All other times he's stoic as a board.

We don't really go on dates. And we only see each other a few hours a week even though we live 50 yards from each other. But we constantly argue about how I ask too much of him. He says he's exhausted and all he wants to do is play his video games alone sometimes. And I don't blame him. I really don't.Part of the problem is he works nearly 40 hours a week, is a full time student, and is essentially completely cut off from his parents. He pays for all of his school expenses, rent, car insurance, cell phone, and so on. They gave him a loan for an accident a year ago and he's still paying them back. It's very different from me. My parents are incredibly generous and pay for all of my school, rent, phone, car, basically everything he has to work for. And I love that about him. He is so driven and independent and I admire the hell out of him. I try to be understanding. I never pressure him to take me on dates and if we do I pay for half. Or at least offer. I suggest things that don't cost money or I make sure he knows that I've already paid for it. I try to always be supportive of the fact that he gets zero sleep. (Three nights he works until 4 and then has class at 8). I do a lot of his laundry and errands to try to help him out. (I also don't work and only have class two days a week). I try so so hard to understand that work and school are his priority. But sometimes I feel really down about feeling at the bottom of his list. Sometimes I don't even want him to come see me I just want him to say that he wishes he could. He can be so cold. But god I love him so much. I could go on and on about how amazing of a person he is and how empowered and strong he makes me feel but it would make this question unreadable. I guess to sum up the main relationship problem: I constantly want more and he doesn't have it to give.

Also. He's been sad this year. All his friends graduated and I can tell he his depressed. But sometimes he takes it out on me. He can be mean and say hurtful things.Sometimes I feel like I can't do it anymore. I don't feel like I have a boyfriend. Next year we will be long distance which we have done for a summer and did great at.

MY BIGGEST WORRY: I will stay with him and long distance will be fine because most of my current frustrations are that I feel like he doesn't make time for me. But if we stay together what if these problems are still there in 2-5 years? After we live in the same city or his deployment is over. I know there are so many factors that will be different than this year of college. But I haven't been my happiest these past few weeks. I don't want to throw it all away because the future is just so unclear. But what if I invest all of this time only to find out we won't work? But then I think about how much I love him and how much we have already been thought. And I guess I just don't know how to bring this all up with him. Please help. (link)
Well first off, Dating someone affiliated in the armed forces can be tough. They see, witness a lot that depresses and upsets them psychologically. Try to go out and dance, or shopping, try to take selfies. Show your boyfriend how happy you make him being home, and alive. Get a hobby if you get bored, become a homemaker, start making candy apples, or fruit baskets, or greeting cards. Open your own small business. I hope this helps.
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Do I live my boyfriend for my best friend, I actually love both and do not want to loose any (link)
If o sit down with both your boyfriend and your best friend and establish TRUST, specific time for Boyfriend, and specific time for Boyfriend..There should not be any confusion.


Im seeing my ex boyfriend for the last time tomorrow and i want to give hIm the best sex of his life,the best his ever had in his whole entire life..i want him to daydream,fantazise bout me nd the sex and have him come back begging for more..any tips,ideas,anything? (link)
If you want to get back with him, make him commit,If you just want to sleep with him give him a blowjob (suck,spit, stroke, suction).
I hope that answers your question.


Is xasten good for a nursing mother? (link)
I think xasten isnt good for nursing mothers, its used to treat arthritis, and one of the side effects includes weight gain:. therefore i think its a disadvantage and can cause complications while nursing. I hope this answers your question.


I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why? (link)
No one really knows why people feel the way they feel, most common belief is that at some point males wheather black or white were imprissoned and exposed to hmosexuality which spread throughout the world years after years.


but in my opinion white cisgenders always find some reason to get over or make someone else feel less. i hope that answers your questions.


I'm a 13 year old girl and I usually have a pretty normal period cycle, but I haven't gotten my period for the last two months. Instead, I ALWAYS have clear discharge. I heard that it could have to do with weight gain/loss, but there has been no change there and I am not sexually active. I know that most of you guys probably aren't doctors, but any ideas on what this might be? Thanks in advance!!!! (link)
A late menstrual period can be source of great concern for a woman, whether or not she is sexually active. The medical term for a delayed or missed period is amenorrhea. Amenorrhea can be caused by a number of factors. Although in most cases the reasons for a late period are relatively benign, you should contact a doctor if you miss your period for more than three consecutive months.

A sudden weight loss or weight gain can cause your period to be late. Obesity can change your menstrual cycle because the overabundance of fat cells can stop ovulation. Losing a lot of weight or being too thin can also make you stop ovulating, which is your body's response to malnutrition or the loss of body fat needed to carry a pregnancy.


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what variables in this experiment would have to be controlled for accuracy of result
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CONTROL VARIABLE, With this its very importanat that you pay close attention to it. (scientific method).

scientific control is an experiment or observation designed to minimize the effects of variables other than the single independent variable. This increases the reliability of the results, often through a comparison between control measurements and the other measurements. Scientific controls are a part of the scientific method.

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Hi! So I'm 18 & my boyfriend is 19, we've been dating for about 9 months now & we've started talking about having sex! I'm a little nervous because we are both virgins, but I really want to expierience this with him. He has a genetic disease called cystic fibrosis & because of this he is infertile. Even though I know this, I'm still scared about getting pregnant. We talked about it & he suggested that he just pulls out before...you know. But I'm still unsure... Any advice? (link)
Nothing's every wrong with waiting.I know the two of you are pretty much mature individuals with a strong bond/ relationship.

At the same time, if you feel the two of you are ready to experiment(REALLY SURE--),Then Please use protection.

I hope my advice was useful, give me a rating!
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Who sings the rap version of the song "don't stop believing" ? (link)
To answer your question, Darius Goes West.

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How do you tell a best friend something you know will hurt them? (link)
You take them out the house, go shopping do something fun, tell them how much you love them and let them have it.
If the two of you are friends it won't hurt them as bad.
If you do this, you should still have a best friend.(ITS NOT ABOUT HOW LONG YOUVE KNOWN EA., OTHER-ITS ABOUT WHO YOU CAN TRUST).

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Hello you lovely wonderful people! :) Can you help me figure out how to sign up for the auditions for this show? Please also tell me how to overcome nerves because I choke when I sing for others. :( (link)
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I am a 44 year old woman. I have been married for 3 years. During the marriage I have been happy, but my husband hasn´t been. He has cheated on me 3 times, left me twice, and has currently asked me for a divorce. My problem is: I fight tooth and nail for a reconciliation. I have used logic, patience, understanding, and giving in to my husband´s every whim to get him to see how worthwhile it is to have a good life together. I feel all it takes is maturity and respect to make things work. To me, divorce is the last resort. I would feel like a total failure with divorce. When I didn´t agree to divorce, my husband became infuriated. He started throwing things, breaking things, and yelling F*** YOU, I HATE YOU. I cant let him go! I have an addiction to this man that I cant shake. What do I do? (link)
First off, know one is perfect but Jesus.
Therefore, If u have tried all you can you're just in love with someone who doesn't love you. Many times that happens, but you can't earn real love.

I advise you since you were a dedicated, giving, and loving wife to him for 3 years; let him file for divorce, get you a lawyer, and make him give you back every thing you gave him. (cooking, cleaning, having sex- with him whether or not he was enjoying it- or appreciated it).

Everything has a price. Sue for marriage to him for 3 years, and get a restraining order against him in-case once the divorce is final, and he feels you aren't sober/ over him he can arouse you, and you'll just have sex with him. NO. NO. NO.

Go along with the divorce, get whats owed to you, and go on vacation, and find somebody to love you.

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Hi I'm a 13 year old girl, and I kinda have an imaginary friend... Is this ok? I don't really have any real friends, so I made up an imaginary friend when I was about eleven. It's not like I 'talk' to her in public, just when I'm at home, but is it wrong to have an imaginary friend when you're 13? Am I crazy or something? Please help me. :/ (link)
Your not crazy unless someone else thinks that your crazy and you begin to believe them.
As far as an imaginary friend,at the age of 13.
hmm. Its up to you, i know you asked for advice but i wanna make sure you are ready to ad hear this-
Talk to your self. who better to know you than yourself.Then, if someone thinks that your crazy, their just being irrational, because your taking time to think thin gs over with yourself.
That's it!

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I know I am young, but I want to start early planning for my old age. How do I figure out what I am actually going to need 40+ years from now? (link)
You may just have to follow your heart, and not your mind. The mind will tell you what you're felling that moment, or that hour, nut your heart will tell you what ur feeling then, and now...

if you feel its time 40years or more, than its time. if not, than just work another decade.

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Hello, I work with guy at college and he's super cool. I had a friend crush, if you will, on him so I got his number from his roommate who is my best friend and we've been talking. We text each other quite a bit and it's 50/50 who texts each other first. Sometimes when I'm working, he'll sit with me and keep me company. He has the same class before me and he usually texts me after and tells me last minute things to know for the exam. We text about a bunch of different stuff, things happening in school and sometimes it's random, like if my roommate and I wanna go to applebees with him and his roommate. One week, I texted him and asked if he wanted to go to applebees with my friends and I, he said he had a lot of homework so he was gonna stay in. My friends and I went that night and saw him there with some friends. He was trying to get my attention, waving his hands around but my friends told me not to pay attention. A few minutes later, he texted me promising that he didn't want to go, his friends just wouldn't leave him alone until he said yes and finished by saying "it's nothing against you, honest." Today we were talking about his best friend and my roommate trying to get them together, he's been having an off day so he was being a little sassy with me and I told him that. He said back "yea, well, I've been told that I'm sexy when I get like this" and I told him that I beg to differ. He didn't text me back and a few hours later, I saw him at dinner, he didn't say anything to me. I smiled at him and he just looked at me and nodded like I genuinely hurt his feelings. I do genuinely like him, he's a cool guy with great morals and always makes me laugh.

My friends thinks he likes me because he texted me that night apologizing about applebees. I even made sure to have my roommate and his roommate check their phones to see if he texted them and he didn't. I just don't know what the whole "I've been told I'm sexy like this" thing was about. I don't know if he was trying to be pompous like oh, you should like me like this or like cute, ya know.

It isn't much but what do you think about the situation and him and what should I do?

Thanks.
19/f (link)
Maybe you should text the cute boy, you like back, and ask him if the two of you would like to meet up at a diffrent venue. Maybe a Chili's or a Olive Gadrden???
Give it sometime, stay in touch,don't end the relationship before the friendship begins!
since he appologized that shows he cared about u, i know that u were waiting by the phone for him to txt u back. That's okay. Just let him know a little more about yourself, and tell him to do the same.
okay?
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hey guys, what type of help is offered for eating disorders? (link)
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