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Does he fancy this lass?
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Just to assure why is this flirtatious man extremely confident if his female friend likes him? Do men mostly say you fancy me just to get the reaction from her to see what's on her head so that he could get a positive reply (therefore he'd know she likes him) or does he really fancy her? An honest and helpful answers please. Thanks in advance
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Yes, guys have issues with fear and uncertainty when it comes to relationships. Its not exclusive to females only. Its not just guys who might fish with things they say to get a response that gives them a clue if the other person likes them. Females do this too. Unfortunately so many young people due to inexperience have no clue whats happening. Its pretty simple. Note that he tells you that you fancy him. He is not stating that he fancies you.
So if the guy really does fancy you, why would he not say so? Same reason females won't say so, because they are afraid that if they are wrong and this person doesnt like them equally in return, that it would make it too awkward now to remain friends for the person who doesn't return these feelings. The only other logical possibility is that the guy doesn't fancy the girl at all and that is why he isn't telling her how he feels.
Again, its the same in many ways for girls as for guys, can you really see yourself going out of your way to go to a guy you don't like at all, are not attracted to and constantly telling him that he fancies you? I highly doubt it. Because most of people would be afraid of doing anything that might even slightly encourage a person to think of pursuing you romantically if you only like them as a friend but not romantically. Either he's liked you all along or somewhere along the way of being your friend, he grew to have feelings for you. This is a good possibility as some love comes slower and isn't the big flash of passion and desire at fist sight. If the female has never answered yes or no when he states you fancy him, he still doesn't know. If its laughed off and subject changed, he won't know. The thing to determine is if the female likes the male friend enough to be willing to try being more than friends to see where it will take them. It may work and it may not. But nothing ventured, nothing gained. So if she is open to the idea, then she needs to encourage him in some way. "So you think I fancy you, right? Well, you are correct. So either you are picking up on vibes or making an good educated guess. However I am at a disadvantage here as I don't know how you feel about me? As I see it there are 2 choices, if you feel the same and fancy me, then we need to explore the possibility of how a romantic relationship might work for us. The other choice would be to acknowledge that not both feel the same way and decide to just remain friends and not explore any romantic relationship.
If she says nothing, nothing will happen. He is too scared or unsure to come out and tell her how he feels for fear of rejection. Tell her to get brave and say something to let him know one way or the other. If she only likes him as a friend, then all she needs to say is I fancy you as a friend but I don't want you to get any wrong ideas because I don't fancy you romantically. If he still decided to be a friend to her even if he knows theres no romantic future is up to him.
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Men are nervous and worried to impress woman too. Its a way of thinking out loud so that it does not stay all bottled up in their head, so thy do not freak out. Its not intentionally done to sound cocky, or rude. Its a way of him feeling confidence, talking to himself, convincing himself he has a good self esteem.
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