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So I only told one person. I told my best friend Beth about how I like my sister's boyfriend's brother, Jesse, and she told someone who told someone who told someone else, blah blah blah... You know how it goes.

Now the entire school knows it. All of junior high, all the freshmen, sophmores, seniors... Everyone. People I have never heard of know it. Even Jesse knows it. I'm so embarrassed, but I'm sorta glad it happened because I know that I never would have found the guts to tell him I like him.

He's a grade ahead of me. He's in 8th grade. I'm only a sevy that no one knows. But I see him all the time.

Anyway, I keep catching him looking at me now, and then he looks away when I look at him. And then once in the hallway switching classes for first period, Beth and I passed him.

I looked down at my feet sort of pretending like I had no idea he was there, but Beth saw him and she told me later that he turned around, saw me, and just froze and stared at me then walked off once we passed.

Then we got to first period, sat down and Beth said "I think he likes you!" Then I said "Yeah, more like he thinks I'm a freak."

Am I just being paranoid or do you think Beth may have been right?

She could've been right. She could've been wrong.

Now it's time for you to grow the guts to ask him! You'll never know if you don't say something. If he likes you, great! If he doesn't, you'll move on. You can possibly get your sister to find out some info if you're too scared.

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If a guy cums on your clitoris and you are a virgin, What are the chances of you being pregnant?

There's no way to tell the exact number of chances. However, it is possible. Wait until your next period and if you miss it take a pregnancy test.

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okayyy so, i already had my period this month. [august] started on the 15th, ended the 18th.. but yesterday the 31st i started again.. is something wrong here?????? i wasn't suppose to start till later in september..

help?

During the first few years you have your period, it will be irregular. Nothing is wrong, don't worry about it.

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My grandfather just passed away. Im so sad but idk what to do! he's not having a funeral and i want some sort of closure or something. does anyone have ideas? Please help! I barely knew him well and only met him once but he was family. and he's the first family member of mine to pass. He's the first human i ever knew to pass. Thank you

First off, I would like to say I am terribly sorry for your loss. If you ever need to talk you can ask me more questions or talk to me in my forum.

Is he getting creamated instead if being burried? If so you can go with family to spread the ashes whever they plan to spread them.

If he's not getting creamated, you can pull out old photo albums and sit around with family and have them tell you old stories about him. This is a good way to remember the happier times, instead of the sad.

Please, if you need to talk, don't hesitate to ask! Losing someone is hard, and I'm here to help.

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Ok i like this guy and whenever I think of him my hert beats so hard and it feels like I'm carrying weight,is this normal?

Yes, this is quite normal. It simply means you really like this guy! However, you are not nessicarily in love, as others have said. This is because love takes time.

From a medical standpoint you get this due to adrenaline. It's the rush you get when you are scared or nervous. This guy probably makes you nervous because you don't want to look stupid around him.

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you supposedly get your period every 28 days, is that 28 days after you get it, or 28 after it ends?

It's 28 days from the day you first get it. Remember- not every women's cycle is 28 days. It's generally between 24-32.

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Ok well if any one can answer this well i am really good freinds with this one guy but tonight when we were hanging out and he leans over and kisses me really nicly so idk what to do after that!?

Well, do you like him back? If yes talk to him about maybe going out. Bring up the kiss and ask if he felt anything. If he did, then ask him if the two of you could get together.

If you do not like him more than a friend, still bring up the kiss and ask if he felt anything. If he didn't then you don't have to explain. If he did then explain that would rather remain friends.

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ok well the thing is im only thirteen and im in love with this amazing guy but the fact is he's like 4 years older than me!? but last nigth he had sex with me and i don't now what to do please tell me if you have any advice!?

I highly doubt he truly likes you. All he wants is sex. I'm sorry, it is terrible. Did you use protection? Whether you did or not, wait until you miss a period and then take a pregnancy test. Furthermore, if you are with this guy, dump him.

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My best friend, lets call her... Emily is going out with one of my good guy friends.. lets call him Nigel. Well they have been going out for a few motnhs now and they are really cute. But Nigels best friend is telling him to break up with her because they live 20minutes away so they dont go to the same school. She is really upset and doesnt want him to. He says he isnt but we know that he has been thinking ab0out it. She really wants to stay with him but now hes trying to make her break up with him as well. He says shes just going to regret going out with him because of the distance. She doesnt know what to do. Any ideas? Shes sitting here beside me...

She should try her best to make it work. Ask him to hang out somewhere in between your houses, talk on the phone all the time, ect. If they're really right for each other it will work.

However, if he breaks up with her, let him. It just means he really isn't worth her time if he's not even going to try due to distance.

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This question is just to get opinions:
If someone you knew told you that they cut themselves, what would your first reaction be? Would you think they were crazy, would you try to help them, would you be scared of them, or what?

I would try to help them. I wouldn't think they were crazy because they would probably be in a serious situation that caused them to take the anger out like this.

I would probably refer them to an organization called To Write Love on Her Arms. The website is twloha.com. If you or a friend cuts, please go there.

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I cut myself.
I need help.
I can't tell my parents.
Where can I get help?

http://twloha.com/

This is a link to the website To Write Love on Her Arms (TWLOHA). It's an organization against cutting, suicide, and self-mutilation in any form.

http://twloha.com/find_help.php

Under this link, TWLOHA has a list of website you can go to to get help.

http://www.befrienders.org/

This site helps you find suicide hotlines. You can call about cutting too.

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I'm 15, going to be a sophmore in high school. I'm already engaged to an 18 year old man who's in the army right now. We planned on getting married when I was 17, the beginning of my senior year. If my parent's don't sign me over however we're going to elope on my 18th birthday. I'm going to move to Colorado and attend college there and live with him. He's also going to pay for me to go to college. My question I guess is basically just looking for an opinion on if you guys think this is an ok thing to do. I know I love him and I know I'm young but this is what I want. Everyone keeps telling me I'm stupid though.

Personally, I wouldn't do it. I feel for me it would be too young. At 17, you really have your whole life ahead of you, and it feels like it would be cutting your youth short. However, that is just my opinon. If you are 100% sure you are in love and KNOW you want to marry this man for a fact, then do what you want.

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what are some sad songs? or songs that are about a guy using you.


A few would be nice.
Please and thanks in advance.

It's not about a guy using you, but Asleep by The Smiths is by far the saddest song I've ever heard.

Also, Cancer by My Chemical Romance. It makes me cry.

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okay so i do like guys i want to date them and make out with them and so and so, but whenever i see a picture of a hot girl on myspace or something i like it i guess.
i couldnt think of anything better to say.
but i don't like girls.
because then i would want to like kiss my friends or girls at school and i don't.
is that normal?

Yes, this is normal. You are currently going through puberty. During puberty you have hormones running around your body throwing things out of wack. You hormones are causing you to have these attractions towards girls. You'll probably grow out of it.

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the only problem is all of my friends think he's creepy and a nerd. i mean, yeah, he is a big nerd, but i do kind of like him back. i don't hang out with his friends, and he doesn't hang out with mine. i'm afraid that if we started dating that my friends wouldn't have as much respect for me. i had one friend that told me that "it would end in a trainwreck." i don't know if you'll be able to help me at all, but what should i do? i don't think he's creepy.

If you don't think he's creepy, then go out with him. If your friends are real, they aren't going to like you less due to who you go out with. If they do, they just aren't good people, and you don't deserve to have to deal with them. Besides, he'd may make a great boyfriend, but you won't know unless you give him a chance!

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i don't have access to the gym and where i live it almost rains all year round so running outside is not exactly an option... is there any thing i could do in the comfort of my room that would act as a good workout? i'm 5,4 150 lbs (i know ... sooo out of shape) the fat is focused on my midriff and butt and upper thighs. basically i'm what you'd call pear-shaped... also i need to change my eating habits. i basically eat anything that's ready in the fridge or chocolate bars on my way to class from a nearby gas station.... no one cooks and i hate the kitchen and cooking and doing dishes....

First, you need to burn off the fat. You do this by cardio. Do you have a tredmill or stationary bike in your house? If yes, start by using whichever of these you have for 15 minutes a day. Then gradually increase the time you use it by 2 mintues each day. If you do not have one of these put on some music and dance for 20 minutes a day and gradually increase.

After you start losing some fat you can tone you muscle. Visit this website:
http://www.women-workout-routines.com/
They have some good routines to tone whateer part of your body you need to.

As for what you eat, use this website:
http://www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie_calculator.htm
It will tell you how many calorie you should have in a day to loss weight.

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okay so i shop at hollister, and a lot of the shirts have been getting mysterious stains on the shoulder area. not the armpit. and its really wierd, and they dont wash out. has this ever happened to anyone? what did you do? ahh
thanks ;)

I've found random stains on clothing from Hollister too. Not only in the shoulders. The stains I find are usually just a slightly darker patch of the color of the shirt. For me it's not really noticeable.

However, yours may be a little more noticable. I'd take it back to the store and ask them what it is. There's no guarentee it will come off so it's best just to return it.

However, you may have worn it already. If you have use stain stick or stain away sprays. They should help. Don't dry it until the stain comes out because drying the clothes witll set the stain in.

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14/f
i shave my armpits but i have a lot of lines.
there not smooth at all!
i shave in the shower just with water.
any suggestions?

You need to use shaving cream when shaving. If you don't have any conditioner or just plain soap works as a good substitute. Also, apply lotion after you shave.

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does the secret really work? i mean i've tried it a couple of times and i swear five mins later the exact thing i imagined happened like a play in front of my eyes......i am confused..... lol... ridicules question i know.... but i am just curious.

It really does work. Things like this happens to me all the time. I really don't know how to explain it, but it is real.

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14/f
Im going out with a boy named Mike (hes my first bf), and hes a couple months younger than me (he kinda acts younger, b/c of his younger siblings). and we've been going out for 10 months, we started going out on October 25, 2006. and anyway we've only held hands once or twice, like when we were at a school dance, and we hug sometimes after school, and everyonce and a while we kiss (only a little peck on the lips... n2m) well i dont have enough courage to go up to him and hold his hand, or hug him, or kiss him. I love him, but i dont have to courage to show him! and dont tell me to tell him i want to, cuz i cant do that either....

well while on the phone last night, he said we should hold hands more. but idk if hes going to go up to me and hold my hand, or what!?!?
so please just help me!

He'll probably star holding your hand more.

However, that doesn't mean you should sit back and let him take all the leads. He'll grow tired of always making the moves. Yes, it may be scary to be the one to grab his hand or initiate the hug or kiss, but remember- he likes you. He'll be happy when you do so. And also he you feel his hand in yours, it'll be worth it =D.

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