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Getting Married.
I'm 15, going to be a sophmore in high school. I'm already engaged to an 18 year old man who's in the army right now. We planned on getting married when I was 17, the beginning of my senior year. If my parent's don't sign me over however we're going to elope on my 18th birthday. I'm going to move to Colorado and attend college there and live with him. He's also going to pay for me to go to college. My question I guess is basically just looking for an opinion on if you guys think this is an ok thing to do. I know I love him and I know I'm young but this is what I want. Everyone keeps telling me I'm stupid though.
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i definitly do not think you are stupid. there is nothing stupid about being inlove. and you are never to young to fall inlove. however, you shouldn't rush anything. marraige is a big thing. and all though you two are head over heels for eachother right now, you both have a lot of learning and changing to do. you guys can still be together, and be inlove, but you don't have to get married to do it. take your time. "love is patient, love is kind. follow your heart, but respect your mind." is an old saying. it means that if you two are meant to be, then my advice to you is not to get married until you have your life together. finish highschool, go to collage, do what you would have done before you met him. and don't move out of state for him just yet, wait till you start your own life, and let him start his. let him go to colorado for school, and if you two can work it through the distance, then you will have a better idea if this is right for you. but if things end up not working out, just remember, that at least you didn't get married, and someone else is out there meant to be with you as well. so follow your heart, but respect your mind, and never do something that will break your parent's heart, becuase they more important. but always trust yourself, and remember to keep on smiling.
nina :)
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First piece of advice...stick to the age you are on here and be honest. You have said you were a number of varied ages, so how old are you really? We don't know you, so it does not matter, but you will get better advice when we know your true age. I don't suggest you get married until you are at least graduated from college. You are going to miss out big time if you go right from daddy's little girl to soldier-hubbie's little girl. Enjoy what is left of your youth and don't get married or knocked-up for your own sake! If this very YOUNG man loves you, he will WAIT for you to grow up into a woman who can make the best choices for herself for the long run. I have no doubt you two are "in love," but life-long commitment is an adult decision...one that requires more than the legal age to be successful. You don't want to end up divorced or hating life before you graduate highschool, do you? There should not be any rush to do the right thing. People only get into a hurry or pressure you when they want you to do something stupid, before you change your mind. Be wise and give this time.
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If you're 18 when you elope... why don't you just get married with your family around you... you'd be of age then anyway.
15 is too young to be planning your marriage. you're just beginning high school... finishing freshman year isn't a milestone. it's nice to dream about and plan but why get married so young? if you married at 17, you wouldn't be old enough to even drink at your wedding. you have your whole life ahead of you to plan your dream wedding and have everyone support it. Go to college... meet more people and find yourself. most people don't know who they really are until their 20s or 30s. there's so much more you have to experience before you're supposed to get married. It's a nice fantasy...but i don't think it's such a good idea. that's just my opinion... i don't know your backround to see if this is actually a good idea for your specific case or anything but i wouldn't advise it. <3
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Personally, I wouldn't do it. I feel for me it would be too young. At 17, you really have your whole life ahead of you, and it feels like it would be cutting your youth short. However, that is just my opinon. If you are 100% sure you are in love and KNOW you want to marry this man for a fact, then do what you want.
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15 is quite young to be thinking of marriage but it seems to me that you have thought everything through. You might regret not having your parents blessing for the marriage and although eloping might sound romantic, won't you miss out on your big day with all the family around you? You are giving yourselves a couple of years before settling down to marriage, so your parents may well give you their blessing eventually. Hope it all goes well.
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