Please give me a lot of suggestions for wedding songs! thank you!!
i am a true romantic. so here are a few suggestions. look them up and listen. and have a wanderful wedding.
gaurdian angel-red jumpsuit apperatus
when you say nothing at all- alison crouse
your an angel- leona lewis
hero-mariah carey
songs in my pocket-bethony joy lens
your still the one-shania twain
daughters- john mayer
gravity-john mayer
thats all i have for now. good luck.
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Is it normal to be depressed about not knowing your purpose in life? Depressed like it randomly puts you in a not so great mood and you walk around feeling sad.. not suicidal or anything. Also, any suggestions how to come out of this mood of constant unhappiness?
no one knows their perpose in life right away. it takes a lot of failer and a lot of let-downs untill we find what we are looking for. but it is very common to get depressed over this. and of course if you are feeling this way, why would you be happy? but let me tell you a little secret. even know you don't know your purpose yet, you still have a purpose in life. everyone has a calling. you will find yours in time, i promise you. and to get out of the mood you are in, just remember that everything and everyone has something worth living for. so when you find your purpose in life, and take note i said when, you will feel complete and content. look forward to this. and that should give you a cure to your unhappiness.
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I've always been "controlling" and bossy towards my sisters and family, but at the same time kind and generous. Then, in school with my friends im totally different. Im always laughing and having fun. Lately, i've noticed somethings wrong with me but i have no idea of what it could be!!
I just finished freshman year which is a relief
summer is here
i have a boyfriend
everything seems to be fine...i just can't figure out why i get sad. So many people (in my family) always tell me to smile and let loose.
somethings wrong with me, and i need help... =/
...thank you
well, it could be a few things. it could be that there is something missing in your life, and is waiting for you to find out what it is. it could be anything. try to dig deep into your sual and put you first. second, it could be simply that you are afraid of something. weather its failer, or even afraid of losing someone, this is very common. most people with this act contoling, and get very sad. or lastly, you might have some kind of form of depression. that is ok. everyone does. life gets stressful. sometimes we just need a break but can't afford one. life just flies by to fast and we can't catch are breath. so just try to take everyday one step at a time.
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I'm not entirely sure if this is in the right category or not, but whatever. Is it normal to have an obsession with suicide? Not as in "I'm gunna do it, or I'm thinking about doing it." But like getting inside the head of those who do want to. Cuz it just seems so tragic to me and I kind of want to learn more about it. Understand a mind that's going through that thought process. Is that at all normal?
well, it is definitly not a bad thing your going through. the mind is an amazing mystery waiting to be descovered. those who want to descover it have the calling to be either a counciler, or a doctor of some sorts. you have a gift of knowlage and understanding to those who are suffering. use your gift and become someone who helps people who are thinking of committing suicide. you can start by getting involved in the suicide hotline. but just remember that there is no correct definition for normal. well, good luck, and always keep on smiling.
nina marie
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I find your rating interesting, across the board you are all over the place. I am not insulted by your response, I expected it. There is only one person who really answered your question, (me), yet you rate people who say the same thing to you, over and over again, both high and low. You must have read my response to you with out thinking about it, or was it too long for you? I am Gilbert Mar, my daughter is Cassiopia, she wrote the second response. I am sorry you can't see past your desire to kill yourself and to be frank, what I know precludes me from trying to talk you out of it. You accused me of being religious and having a Belief, you could not possibly understand. Belief denotes doubt, I do not believe, I know. My spirit is an ancient and I have spent my life learning what it knows. If you kill yourself, your spirit will only return to start again, but it will effect many other lives. You have a duty to your spirit and many others here in this life, you have no idea how many lives you will touch in your life time yet to come.
Again, be well my friend and read my post again, your meaning is within it. Gilbert Mar
i'm utterly confused by this letter.
nina :)
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yea.
so ive had this health teacher and i thought he was the coolest person ever. and then he said today:
"...males are only on earth to reproduce.."
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this statement. it...it makes me want to kill myself. im a 15 year old boy and i thought about that sentence DEEPLY for a LONG TIME, and i think i should kill myself. my life is a lie. they say eat healthy and stay in shape yet everyone dies anyway, and thanks to that statement i rly am questioning whehter or not i should go on in life.
idk. any statements?
i'm sorry your teacher said that. he was making a cruel, false, statement. he is bitter and egotistal not to mention full of ingrence. don't let people like him try and discourage you. you are put on here for a purpose and it isn't just to reproduce. its to acheive your dreams and goals. don't be effended anymore. show him that his insults mean nothing to you, asnd he'll quit. i garentee it.
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Okay so im 20 yrs old. Im bisexual and i have a girlfriend that ive been with for a year and a half now. I love her to death. she is a great person. when were good were great and im very happy. but when we fight its absolutely horrible. weve gotten in physical fights before where ive walked away with a black eye and fat lip. (shes alot bigger than I am). it hasnt been physical lately but some of the things she says are just horrible. for example, my mom is an alcoholic and when we fight shell call me an alcoholic (when i dont drink often and she drinks just as often as i do). shell tell me ill be alone the rest of my life. she calls me a hick and a redneck (which im not.. no offense to those who are) just bc shes from nyc and shes hispanic and im from pa and im white. shes lived in pa for the past 10 yrs tho. when i tell her these things upset me she says that just how she is and to get over it. sometimes i just dont know if i can take another day with her. and we live together which makes it harder. dont get me wrong i love her to death. i would do anything for her. but i just feel almost like i have nothing left to give. i work and she doesnt so i pay for EVERYTHINGGGG. and its like she appreciates nothing. sometimes i dont have the money to do the things she wants and she gets mad at me then. i just dont know. i dont kno what to do. like i said when we were good its amazing and i feel like i could absolutely spend the rest of my life with her. but when we fight i feel like im killing myself on the inside. Is she right?? Are all relationships like this and i just need to get over it?? I get so lost. Please give me your opinion. Thanks soo much
relationships are difficult at times, but when abuse is involved, such as physical and emotional, which is the case in this matter, then it is time to leave. leaving the one you love and letting them go is just as hard as them doing it to you. but what you are going through is very unhealthy, and you deserve better. so, make it as peacefull as possible, but quick to. everything will work out for the best, but she is not the best for you. i hope that wasn't to harsh, but its true.
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I'm a worthless human being. I've been a worthless human being for a pretty long time, but I've just now come to accept it.
I've decided I want to die. However, I'm too much of a coward to go through with it. Perhaps it's the thought of pain, maybe it's the risk of failing at failing.
In any case, whatever some (Relatively) painless and (Relatively) reliable suicide methods, preferabley accessable to the common 20-something who doesn't work in a hospital?
"i'm a worthless human being." that is a statement that is false. no one in this world is worthless. we were all put on this earth for a purpose. a reason. you won't believe me, but it is true. you might think you want to die, but if you only knew how blessed you are to be alive, you wouldn't be saying that. there are people out there who are waiting to die, not by choice, but by destiny. they would give anything to have the choice to mend. you must remember that without suffering, there would be no compassion. and i have compassion for you. i know that life can be a bit hellish, but if you could just focuss on the better tomarrow that is out there, you would see the light, and not want to fade away. just be strong. no one is going to help you commit suicide, so try to focuss on living. there isa always something out there worth living for. find it.
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Hi ,
How can I be more woman like ?
How can I be more femenine ,I don't know how to behave when I am around someone I like.
Grew up with a bunch off guys ....
I don't want to look very shy but on the other hand I don't want to look innocent (I am ,I really don't know much about guys)
Help
Have a date soon !!
well, first, focuss on your appearance. how do you dress? how do you do your hair? what shoes are you wearing? try to look through magazines and see what they are wearing. remember, that you are beautiful, but the way you look reflects on your personality. if you dress like a tom boy, they will think your one of the gus. but if you dress like a lady, they will respect you. now, lets focuss on your verbal skills. do you cuss? its ok, everyone does. but try to keep it at a minimum. and ah, the manners. i'm sure you have manners, but just remember, because i'm bad for it. don't wipe your mouth with your shirt. hehe. jk. anyway, being women like as you put it is simple, just be yourself but with a feminine tough. also, remember to smile. smiling good, frowning, bad.
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help me with ths guy problem - Today, 02:55 AM
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ok so i've had a crush on this guy for 7 years and i just told him recently how i feel . we talk all the time at least once a day. but the prob. is his best friend whom i have no interest in what so ever has a huge crush on me its to the point of obsession and the guy i like used to date my little sister. he is the same age as me though, he just think it be weird to be with me after dating my sister and i also believe he dont wanna hurt his friend's feelings. up till three days ago i thought we were just friends thats it but then he started say he wanted to " Sleep with me" i accidently sent the message to his friend, who says he is just messing with me. but he confroted his frend(my crush) online last nite and i was talking to my crush at the time and he(my crush) said that his friend was asking why he(my crush) was hitting on me . my crush im'd me saying that he could get himself out of trouble with his friend. he told me what he told his friend he said that he was using reverse psychology on me then laugh about it with me. i said twice well he(my crushes friend) dont have anything to worry about its not like u have feelings for me right? and he never responded. WHAT SHOULD I DO ? DOES HE LIKE ME OR IS HE JUST MESSING WITH ME? PLZ HELP
well, it sounds to me that it might not be a good idea to go out with your sister's ex boyfriend anyway. even if she says she is fine with it, it is the whole moral issue. second, i can't tell you weather he likes you or he is playing with your mind, because i don't know enough about the situation. but i should tell you that the best thing to do, no matter what is motive for saying that thing about sleeping with you was all about, you shouldn't let him talk to you like that. third of all, just give it time and see for yourself if he likes you, just go with the flow. don't rush anything. i hope i helped, feel free to ask me anything. always keep smiling.
nina :)
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I can't handle this. My boyfriend of 7 months and I broke up a few weeks ago. Since the day we called it quits, I haven't been able to sleep normally or function in school. I'm constantly thinking about him or getting jealous over every girl he hugs. Its not that I even have feelings for him, its that I hate that he's happy and I'm not. I get headaches so much and I'm constantly battling with myself to stop thinking about him. I try to do things to fake happy to rub in his face, or to make him jealous, and nothing works. How do I get my life back and just forget about him?
well, the first step is to face the truth about your feelings for him. if it is bothering you so much and you get jelious and he is always on your mind, then the truth is that you do still have feelings for him. confront those feelings. be aware of what those feelings are. once you have done that, decide if you still want him back or not. if you do, then talk to him about it. try to get through it. if you decide you don't want him back, but you don't want anyone else to have him either, then my advice to you is to try and put him past you. if you still have feelings for him, it'll be hard not to think about him. the best way to stop thinking about him, is don't talk about him, don't talk to him, and try to move on. don't try to pretend you are happy if you are really not, because you won't be able to find happiness by pretending. and don't try to make him jelious, because that is just playing games, and it will end up heurting you in the end. so, just confront your feelings, talk to him about it if you think it'll help, and then just let the healing process begin. i hope i helped. remember to keep smiling.
nina :)
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Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them? I really really think I love my boyfriend, but I don't know that I'm in love with him. Does that make sense? And if you do fall in love with someone, they say you will know pretty early on, right? Or can it happen later in a relationship? Thanks
yes, i do believe there is a distance between loving a person, and being in love with them. being inlove with a person means you can't emagine your life without them. you want to spend the rest of your life with them no matter what. when your in love you become blind, and the only thing in your vision is that one person who steals your heart, captures your mornings, and ends your days, while remaining in your mind, and living in your soul. if something tragic was to happen to them, it would destroy every reason you have for living. but when you love someone, and your not in love with them, it means that you care for them strongly, don't ever wanna see them hurt, they hold a very strong place in your heart that no one can touch, but as for being with them for the rest of your life, you are a bit unsure. which is perfectly normal, because that is a very serious desicion to make, not something you wanna do based on any physical connection you have with the person. if you love them, you think about them often, and you miss them if they're gone for a long time, and you love to spend time with them, but even when your in love, it is nice to have that time to yourself also. it takes a strong connection to love someone, but an even stronger connection to fall in love with them. but when falling in love, it doest always happen instantly like the fairytales say, it takes a long time,it could take a while, and sometimes, when it happens, it could go away, but it doesn't mean it wasn't there, it just means it wasn't meant to be. so, i hope i helped you figure out the difference, and remember to keep on smiling.
nina :)
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ok so i am 20 f and i recently mustered the courage to go to a counselor and tell her i am having personal issues with my family and roommate and stuff. thing is i don't think it has to do with "my constant change in environment" "trauma" or "confinement". granted they may have a role in playing crucial issues in why i am going mad... but after two sessions she thinks i don't need counseling anymore! i mean i told her i hear the voices when i am alone and i told her about my mood swings and my extra sensitivity to what people say.... she gave me a self help book and boom... i know i can seem very collected and very mature but thats because i hate other people knowing that there is something wrong with me. its a habit now and i fear if i say anything they'll think i made it up to get attention or something... anyway so i want to tell her that i am sure i get anxiety attacks at night and that the only way to calm myself is getting out in the am and walking in the city! i do that some times when it gets really bad but i can't do that all the time there is a rapist on the lose you know!! 3 bodies and a hospitalized girl were found near by :s i want to tell her what i am feeling but i don't want it to seem like this girl who has it good is craving for attention you know? the drama queen... i think i may need prescription or something it's getting out of hand.... help! what should i say?
when talking to your counciler, try to be as honest as you can on how you feel. i know you wanna hold back, but don't. she isn't gonna think your seeking attention. if you are having anxiety attacks, then you should tell her as soon as possible because even tho they are common in most people they can lead to other mental/emotional problems. i promice you are not crazy, don't think that. life gets really stressful, sometimes unbearable, but try to be open and honest when talking about it. if you beat around the bush, and don't tell your counciler what is truely inside your head, then she will suspect an attention getter. but she is there to diagnose you and help you figure out your problems, not to judge you. it might be you need medicine, it might be you need to seek another counciler, or might just be you need someone to help you through your problems without medicine. but be completely honest and i hope this helps. good luck and keep smiling!
nina :)
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Can anyone give me a list (or a website that has a list) of orphanages or shelters for young children, eaither in New York City or around that area (I live in Westchester).
Thanks so much!!
i'm not sure if this will help you any, but it is all i could find. for whatever reason you are asking, i wish you lots of success and i really hope this helps you out. take care and keep smiling!
nina :)
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http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~orphanshome/orphansoffice/notepad/nycites.htm
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Im 16/f and my cousin has cancer. He is 8 years old and has only 10% chance of living. The cancer started in his legs and now is in his back. He has tumors in his legs and one by his heart. His back bones are disinagrating(spelling) and today we found out that the cancer ate his leg bone away and now his leg is broke.
This is so hard for me. But im a cheerleader and was thinking about having a carwash for him, giving his parents all the money, even if its only 100$. Do you think thats a good idea? And does anyone have any ideas to raise money. We are doing a poker run and a golf thing. And almost all the money for those thigns are going to him. Any ideas that I can do? Please help. thank you!
you are all ready doing a wanderful job, and i'm sure he is very greatful. just try to keep his spirits up. get the town to pray for him, and to let him know that they are praying and thinking of him. when you are terminaly ill, the most hardest thing to face isn't death, it is the fear of dying alone and leaving the people you love behind. he can all ready see that you love him very much, so just tell him everyday, and if you wanna raise more money for his family, keep doing what your doing. get it in the news paper if you haven't all ready. set up donation slots all over towns for people to donate, and just remember that when he is gone, he is gonna know how much compassion he left in the word, and it all started because of you, and he will know his family is in good hands, and so is he. i will pray for him and for you and your family, and i wish you the best in raising money, and if you could possibly post on here or my coloumn any places i could donate and if there is any way i could help you riase money, let me know. i will be happy to. Good luck, and God bless. and remember to keep on smiling!
nina :)
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So earlier today i spent the day with my boyfriend and we messed around a bit and we took a shower together.we were in there for about 10 mins maybe? and I started to get light headed and started seeing lights and couldn't hear well.So I told him I needed to sit down.I felt like throwing up So I sat down by the toilet.It was really weird.Before I passed out while my sisters friend was cutting my hair.It was weird.I eventually threw up.Can anyone tell me why this happened.I'm so concerned now.Any ideas on what could have caused this?
i would definitly go see a doctor. it could be a number of things. it could just be the heat, or it could be the excersion from sex, it could be your blood pressure is too high, or is too low. or your dehydrated. it could be anemic dissorder, or some kind of other dissorder. i'm not a doctor, but i looked it up and these are some of the possibilities i found that are linked to passing out. your best bet is to start drinking more water and kinda taking an easy, until you go to the doctors, and make sure you do. i hope everything is fine, and comes back normal. Good luck, and keep smiling.
nina :)
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ok like me and my bff share a boyfriend, and we dont know how to work a few things out. like, who should get to wear his jersey each week, and how can he walk us to all of our classes without him being late. and what are some fun threesome dates. oh and for homecoming, how are we gonna dance with him?
ok thanks
well, here's the thing. sharing your boyfriend with anyone, bff or no bff, is a big no no. one of you is gonna get the short end of the stick. in other words, this guy who is practicly livin it up at the moment, is gonna get attached to one of you, and let one of you go. or, what else could happen, is one of you will get tired of sharing him, and will start to play unfair. so either way it is bound to be a heartbreak. so my advice to you isn't how to "work a few things out" my advice to you is go ahead and step down. find you a guy who is happy with just one girlfriend. I think it would be less stressful and a lot less complicated. then, he can walk you to your classes and not be late. But always remember to keep on smiling.
nina :)
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So I've been dating my current boyfriend for about a month now. He says he loves me but we don't actually talk much, and I'm beginning to think it's more of a sexual relationship than anything else. I'm also getting really bored, and he lies to me a lot. Along with this, he cheated on me, but sticks to the stroy of it not being intentional.
I was with one of his good friends a while back. It ended pretty badly but we've both changed a lot. He says he has feelings for me, but I know he isn't over his ex. Maybe i like him back.
And so I'm really confused about what I should do. Things seem like they're going ok with guy #1 but it also seems like that's just a facade. Guy #2 is just trouble. And I kinda miss being on my own. I don't want to hurt 1 but I'm positive it's going to happen eventually at the rate things are going.
ok. honestly #1 and #2 both equelly suck in my opinion. i think if you miss beeing on your own, then that is a clear sign that you should be. take some time to be independent. have a little fun in your life. you don't need a man to make you happy, and it sounds to me that your two choices clearly can not be making you happy. so just go solo for a bit. and kick the two losers to the curve, you deserve a lot better then that. and always keep smiling!
nina :)
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for a while now i have been feeling very tired all the time. I am a very talkative person and i act happy around most people. however i have no interest to do a lot of things except watch TV. Everything makes me sad and like i will get really sad about absolutely nothing. i mean im happy sometimes but lately i have been even sadder. I cry at night but i dont really know why. I kind of cut my wrists but i dont actually make them bleed i just kind of irritate them with scissors because i like the feeling after, it makes the sadness kind of go away temporarily. Nothing that could hurt me though.
Am i depressed or not?
14/f btw.
ok. honestly, i believe you might have some sort of depression. my advice to you is to go to a doctor, tell them your sympthoms, and let them diagnose you. it is common for kids your age to be depressed. but it could also be something more serious, that could lead to another scicosic.( a panic attack, anxiaty dissorder.etc) so, go to the doctors, get checked, and go from there. if you need any advice on how to deal with any of those diagnosis, contact me. i will be happy to help you. remember to keep on smiling!
niner :)
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So i am 17 male(not that it matters)
At the start of grade 11 i got sick for a long time 2 years to be exact. I could not go to school or anything and it really screwed my life. It is a genetic back disorder called spondylothesis and the on set of IBS( irritable bowel syndrome) separately they would have been annoying but manageable but together they slowed my healing. during this time i got really bored. But now to the problem after 2 years i wore a brace, did physiotherapy and changed my life style and i am better( or at least the best i will get). I am now back at school kind of. But i have lost my motivation during the 2 years of not doing anything at school all my friends have graduated and i lost contact with people outside of school (not that there were many). So basically i am having trouble getting up to go in the morning and have no idea where my life is going. Sitting in pain for 2 years stuff stops mattering Money,House,Great Job that stuff is pointless. I know i am a little depressed so don't say go to a therapist because i am of clear mind and body(well i guess crazy people say that too). I don't expect a answer that will magically change everything but another point of view couldn't hurt.
Thanks for reading DJCODE6
honestly, being sick does set you back form the world. i have been sick all my life and it keeps me from being able to do alot of things. and i get really descouraged also. but the trick to help give you motivation is that all though your illness did set you back a bit, now is your chance to prove to everyone in your life that nothing holds you back from doing the things in life that matter most. don't let your illness unable you to be successful, let that be the reason why you try harder. because when you were sick, you were pretty week, and tired. but now is your chance to be strong. not just physicly, but spiritaully more so. use this problem and tell yourself that those two yrs of healing gave you more straighth to accomplish your dreams. now is the chance to find something you enjoy, and hold on to it. My advice to you, is to go out there and live your life, like nothing ever held you back in the first place. I wish you all the happiness in the world, and remember to keep on smiling!
nina :)
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