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telling the counsler
ok so i am 20 f and i recently mustered the courage to go to a counselor and tell her i am having personal issues with my family and roommate and stuff. thing is i don't think it has to do with "my constant change in environment" "trauma" or "confinement". granted they may have a role in playing crucial issues in why i am going mad... but after two sessions she thinks i don't need counseling anymore! i mean i told her i hear the voices when i am alone and i told her about my mood swings and my extra sensitivity to what people say.... she gave me a self help book and boom... i know i can seem very collected and very mature but thats because i hate other people knowing that there is something wrong with me. its a habit now and i fear if i say anything they'll think i made it up to get attention or something... anyway so i want to tell her that i am sure i get anxiety attacks at night and that the only way to calm myself is getting out in the am and walking in the city! i do that some times when it gets really bad but i can't do that all the time there is a rapist on the lose you know!! 3 bodies and a hospitalized girl were found near by :s i want to tell her what i am feeling but i don't want it to seem like this girl who has it good is craving for attention you know? the drama queen... i think i may need prescription or something it's getting out of hand.... help! what should i say?
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when talking to your counciler, try to be as honest as you can on how you feel. i know you wanna hold back, but don't. she isn't gonna think your seeking attention. if you are having anxiety attacks, then you should tell her as soon as possible because even tho they are common in most people they can lead to other mental/emotional problems. i promice you are not crazy, don't think that. life gets really stressful, sometimes unbearable, but try to be open and honest when talking about it. if you beat around the bush, and don't tell your counciler what is truely inside your head, then she will suspect an attention getter. but she is there to diagnose you and help you figure out your problems, not to judge you. it might be you need medicine, it might be you need to seek another counciler, or might just be you need someone to help you through your problems without medicine. but be completely honest and i hope this helps. good luck and keep smiling!
nina :)
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The person below gave VERY good advice. Do that.
But here's my two cents: These counsillors see people like you everyday. They're not dumb (...usually) and can see the different between an attention seeker and someone who's being geniune. They're trained to. They'll probably ask questions about it, and it's the answers and details that set apart the attention seekers from the people with real problems. You need to tell her the truth in order to get better sooner.
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Okay, a few things you need to know.
1.) You aren't going mad. Promise. Yes, you are probably in a bad way right, but you are FAR from insane.
Walking is a very valid, very effective tool for fighting axienty. What you've discovered is that it might not be the best idea for where you live, which is cool. Find something else that works the same way: Dance like a nut in your own room. Get a membership to an allnight gym. Find someone who will walk with you. You're gonna have to be a bit creative.
2.) Remember who you are talking to. A university counselor is very good at helping you deal with academic issues, but they aren't there for the long haul. In the long term you must see family doctors, certified therapists (which not all academic counselors are) and possibly other mental health professionals.
A university or college counselor is a great resource when you are in CRISIS. They aren't so good if you think you are struggling with long term mental illness. That just isn't what they are there for.
3.) You need to be honest about your problems and suffering. The desire to hide it, minize it, the fear of being seen as needy or attention seeking… All of those are ways mental illness KEEP you sick.
Think of any other virus: All it wants is to stay alive inside of you and make more of itself. Mental illness is very similar. You will always be able to think of a million reasons why you shouldn't fight it.
Be honest with your counselor, put it all out there and listen seriously to their opinion on the matter. Ask them for references to other resources. If they are no help, go to a doctor, any general practitioner will do, and do the exact same thing.
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