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help me please! idk what to do!
14/f
Im going out with a boy named Mike (hes my first bf), and hes a couple months younger than me (he kinda acts younger, b/c of his younger siblings). and we've been going out for 10 months, we started going out on October 25, 2006. and anyway we've only held hands once or twice, like when we were at a school dance, and we hug sometimes after school, and everyonce and a while we kiss (only a little peck on the lips... n2m) well i dont have enough courage to go up to him and hold his hand, or hug him, or kiss him. I love him, but i dont have to courage to show him! and dont tell me to tell him i want to, cuz i cant do that either....
well while on the phone last night, he said we should hold hands more. but idk if hes going to go up to me and hold my hand, or what!?!?
so please just help me!
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just remember dont rush into if you are not ready!!! although you've been going out for 10 months, you might be ready but he might not be. when you two are walking next to eachother just bump you hand into his and grab his hand and just hold it. when you are hugging him, hold him for a few more seconds longer and tell him you love him then let go. after you give a kiss go in for another one, once you start kissing lightly, just hold the kiss and after a while you'll be making out.
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I'm very proud of you and Mike & I think more teenagers should take after this "taking it slow and not too far" approach. thank you for restoring hope in this generation.
anyway, i know it can be frustrating but since he did bring it up, i think he will start holding your hand more. get to know him more and get more comfortable so you can talk about these things. surprise him sometime and hold his hand first. don't be all over him all the time but what you don't do/talk about now, will be something you will regret not doing in the future... you'll think "ugghh i could have done that! why was i so shy!" enjoy your relationship. he obviously likes you a lot so don't be afraid to show that you do too. if you need anything else, let me know. i've been there before. <3
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He'll probably star holding your hand more.
However, that doesn't mean you should sit back and let him take all the leads. He'll grow tired of always making the moves. Yes, it may be scary to be the one to grab his hand or initiate the hug or kiss, but remember- he likes you. He'll be happy when you do so. And also he you feel his hand in yours, it'll be worth it =D.
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Honestly- I applaud you. Seriously- a relationship that doesn't pass first base or even start holding hands or anything within the first month are probably the best relationships to be in. Even at 10 months- I must say that I am REALLY proud and honored to hear that at least one 14 year old girl isn't asking how to have sex. Thank you for this.
Anyway- take a chance- you're boyfriend and girlfriend. If you feel embarrassed- I can assure you that he feels just the same. If he doesn't grab your hand next time you see each other- maybe you should just grab for his. You may seem embarrassed at first- but you will actually be really proud of yourself.
Let me just advise one thing: don't get your relationship to be too routine. That's part of the reason my last one ended. Make sure to change it up every once in awhile. Make it interesting. =D.
I think if he said you two should hold hands more- he probably will be the one to do it. But maybe he thinks that you are going to do it. So just take that chance I talked about =D. You'll be glad you did.
--Jack
(15/m)
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Well you could either wait until he makes another move, who knows how long that could be. Or next time you or he brings up the subject just agree a little say something like "Okay" or "sure!" but nothing to big.
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