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I'm a new young mom who has a lot of things to say to whomever is willing to listen :). I promise not to judge you no matter how crazy you may think your questions are and I will give the best answer I possibly can!
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Sometimes i come to think that im a loner. Its summer time now and i just sit home and do nothing, or im with my boring family. Im friends with the popular group, or the "it" group in school. Whenever i ask them if they want to do something they say they cant or make up excuses. I dont know what im doing wrong. How could i get them to actually want to hang out with me?
well first of all you dont need friends like that. go to the local pool or make some friends in the naboir hood. go to the movies or just do something fun.
is it such a turn off when girls are sorta shy but really pretty...or do guys like confidence and don't care about looks....or do u have to be confidente and pretty....I think i am pretty but the confidence idk....i am courious...what do guys like?
alrighty, in my opinion you SHOULDNT change just for a guy...but if you want to then ok here is my advice. guys DO like a girl with confindence. just think to yourself i can do this all the time and dont think about anything else.
well i met my best friend cici this year and we were like unseperatable and we always had the best times together. but there was this girl who doesnt like me and never really did and she was my cicis friend. her name was emily. everytime i went to talk to cici emily would like roll her eyes. and if she was talking to cici at that time and i went up she would leave or say something and interupt. emily was always trying to be best friends with cici and now they are best friends! and cici like whenever we are together she tells me that we should hang out more cause she misses me and its all emilys fault that we never hang out cause she always wants to do sometime with cici. and cici is like tired of her cause she is constently trying to get her attention. what do i do. do i tell cici that i miss her and im tired of emily always trying to take her away or what?
im sorry this is long but i need help i really do.
this happends all the time. i think that you should go up to emily and try to talk to her. tell her that you two should try to at least get along becuase you both like cici. tell her that cici is your best friend and you dont want to loose her. then if she is still like that, talk to cici. tell her that you want to still hang out with her but you dont think that emily ever lets you. dont get all mad at her though, because then she wont listen.
hope this works out for you,
leah
Ok, I was just wondering- how do you know if a guy likes you when the only time your getting to talk to him is online. Because it's summer and you can't really see him. How would you say would be ways to figure it out?
there really is no REAL way to tell but my opion is if he will talk to you...like talk to you on line without you having to do it first, then that is a SIGN that he likes you.
good luck on that
leah
Well I need some more advice, since I dont really know about the one before. Well it all stared with a boy named "D" ill say. He i-med me and asked me out i said yes then no. Then we didnt talk for a while and he i-med me again and we started talking. I really liked this kid, he was different from anyone else. So we then decided to meet in school. We saw eachother in the halls but never said hello. Once we met everything just evolved and we have been going out ever since. Movies, the mall, I have never met anyone like him, and no one has ever made me feel this way. Im only 13 but i feel really in love. We are kinda growing apart i feel, cause im out of school for the summer and we havent talked in about 5 days which too me is like hell. Im only 13 but whenever i call him i feel uncomfortable, and he never comes online anymore. Im not sure what to do. We havent even kissed yet, but hugged alot and held hands a couple times. If i talk to him, it seems like he likes me, but he isnt calling me at all or making an effort to see me. And i cant stop thinking about him, thats whats driving me crazy.
What should I do? :-(
well, maybe your boyfriend is nervous about how he feels about you...or i dont know. but i think that you should call him and ask him to meet you somewhere and just hang. im your afraid to call him then while you are doing it, hug a pillow to give you comfort. it helped me so maybe it will help you....
love,
leah
hey i have trouble with planes. they bother me like, im so nervous i dont have any fun! in about a week i have to ride on a plane BY MYSELF along with my sis but still ive never done this before plus i cant stand planes. can anyone give me tips on how to actually sorta enjoy a plane ride? im just like AHHHH!
please help! i rate 5's for great advice!
alright here it is.
before you get on the plane take a HUUUGE breath and think about something else(crush, fav band, ect.). then once you get on the plane sing a song to yourself to calm your nerves. once that looses your intrest, then make conversation with your sister. talk about how much fun its gonna b once you get off the plane. or take a nap on the plane, because it makes the trip alot shorter.
hope it helps
leah
okay. i am very deperate for help right now so any advice you give me i will rate you a five.
i have a very hard time admitting this. but my dad is in fact an alcoholic. he is always in denial, meaning that he doesnt think he has a problem and gets mad when you confront him in any way about his drinking. me and my mom are the only people aware of this in my imediate family. my little siblings haven't a clue. my mom has threatened divorce even though she does not mean it, just to make him stop. it is an embarrasing thing and he is very selfish. i feel like i am babysitting him all the time to make sure he isnt sneaking in the garage or the side of the house. i need help confronting him, like i need to really hit him hard this time to make him think twice about doing it again.
another thing, i recently found a few bags of marijuana that belong to him that he gets from a friend at work i am assuming.... my mom does not know about this, and i am too scared to tell her because then i definately see divorce in the future. my sister and brother would be devastated, and i probably would too i mean he is my father and i love him. what do i do about the marijuana situation?
thanks alot.
ok i know this is hard for you because my dad was arrest for doing and selling drugs. just tell your mom. i kow that u dont want to, but its really your pnly safe choice
my mom doesn't let me have a life. i only saw my boyfriend in the morning for like 4 minutes in school. now that its summer, i really want to do something with him. how could i make my mom.......easier? i dunno. help.
well, i think that you should do just this. convince your mom that you can be resposable and trust worthy. i know your not gonna wanna do this but, clean up the house without being told, or do the dishes when its not your turn. it will show her that you can take care of yourself and you can be trusted to do things with your boyfriend.
then when the time is right, ask her if you can do something with him. make sure you tell her what time you will be home to seem responsable.
cookierat123
my sister has been going out with this guy mike for longer thn a year and my whole family has loved him like a son/brother ect. but my stupid sister broke up with him for this druggie that our whole family despises. I know mike still loves her. I really don't want this Chris guy over at my house everyday. i was happy with mike. what should i do? i'll rate 5's for anyone who doesn't say it's your sisters life and let her do whatever she wants cuz i kno this guy is so wrong for her or anybody else. please help.
well, ok, i understand that your upset about your sisters opinion on this drugy. i think you should sit your sister down and tell her that your afriad for her and want her to be careful. tell her you dont feel confertable being about that guy. tell her that you think she made a bad mistake for breaking up with mike.make sure you tell her that you dont want her to take it the wrong way or anything.
hope i helped,
cookierat123
my parents keep asking me why im so sad. the funny thing is im as happy as i normally am i just feel kinda sick, and when i tell them that they think im trying to get out of going places with them. it is so stupid. they keep asking me if i was in a break up or if i got in a fight with my friends and it is so stupid. can someone please tell me how to convince them im not depressed? i rate thanx
many teens have the exact same problem as you(encluding me). just tell them next time they ask you if you got in a fight wtih your friends or somethig that you love your friends and are not in a fight with them and your not mad at all. tell them that you love them but your growing up and need all the space you need.
i hope it works out for you,
cookierat123
Ok this will be sorta long but I rate high. There is this guy that I have always liked, at certain points in the year I would like him a lot and others it would be like good friends. But now I'm really starting to like him a lot, but its summer now. I will see him next year at school though. How do I get his attention and maybe get him to ask me out. ( He liked me a little during the year but not enough to go out)
well, i think that you should keep in touch with him over this summer, because your friends and because you like him. then see how things between you two are like. if its more like friend stuff, then just lay low for awile. but if its boyfriend/girlfriend stuff then keep flirting up a storm. not so much that you look despret though. well, another thing too, if he has a best friend that is your friend too, ask him what he thinks about you. sometimes that can help alot to know what he is thinking without asking him yourself.
hope it helps,
leah
so i have a friend lets call her J. she used to be my best friend but now we r growing apart. she dose swimming and i was being a good friend and going to her swim meets. and the last swim meet that i went to she thought that my friend,V, was mad at her. so i asked V if she was and she wasnt so V went and told J that she wasnt mad at her. but J just kept on talking to her other friend and ignoring V when j kept on saying how much V was ignoring her and wen V left she was like oh my gosh did you see how much she ignored me just then??. and she alway shows off and cusses and makes fun of people, only around boys just to be like them. since she was being mean, i decided to hang around some other friends, like A. one day wen A is not there J comes up and says:
"dont tell me you are actually starting to like her?!"
me: "who, A of corse i have always liked her!!"
J: "watev"
and A thought that J liked her!! so wat do i do about both problems??
well, j seems to be having some social problems at the moment. so i think you and a should just let her cool off for awhile. dont tell A that J does not like her though...because that jsut causes more problems. if you want your friend back then just ask if you two can talk alone. dont yell at her or tell her she's being mean. just say that you really like A, but you still like her. tell her that you want to be friends with both of them without causeing any problems. i really hope it works.
cookierat123
im about 132 lbs. 13 yrs old and around 5'1". when i wake up every morning i look really thin and good. like in a healthy way. but by the end of the day i look really fat. this happens every single day. i wake up looking good and then i go to bed looking like i gained 10 lbs. i feel like if i try to starve myself ill either stay thin or lose a lot of weight but when ever i try to i just eat like a pig no matter how much i remind myself of the things people have said to me about my being fat. help please. im desperate. thanks
signed
~sKiNnY fAt GiRl~
alright, dont sweat it, because im gonna give you a fact. well, when you(and everyone else in the world) wake up in the morning they weigh less then they do at night because everyone has to eat and it makes them gain alittle weight. its perfectly normal. my advice to you is DONT STARVE YOUR SELF! you should eat some healthy snacks and do some fun sports during the day like rollerblading or ridding your bike.
well, i hope it works,
cookierat123
My sister is almost 16 and going through this stage where she thinks shes better than everyone, especially me. She's always pushing me around.. and everything she says to me is some sort of comment to bring me down. She mocks me and tells me to shut the f*** up and all this other inappropriate stuff for NO reason. I just ignore her, because its stupid to even bother arguing with someone as immature as her. But sometimes i get so mad, I just want to punch her in the face and put her in her place. I've talked to my parents and they know that she THINKS she's so hot. I cant ignore her any longer, im sick of her thinking she has the right to walk over me. (And my brothers and sisters.) How do I stand up? And dont tell me to sit down and talk to her. You dont understand - this girl will NOT listen that way.
ok first take a deep breath and take a chill pill. ok, r u done with that....good. ok, now, i think that if it bothers you so much then keep ignoring her but in a diffrent way. like sing a song(i know a song that gets on everybodys nerves) to let her know that she is annoying but to give her the idea that she cant get in your head. well, i hope it helped.
cookierat123