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loner or not
Sometimes i come to think that im a loner. Its summer time now and i just sit home and do nothing, or im with my boring family. Im friends with the popular group, or the "it" group in school. Whenever i ask them if they want to do something they say they cant or make up excuses. I dont know what im doing wrong. How could i get them to actually want to hang out with me?
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I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am the exact same way. You need to ask yourself if these "popular girls" are really your TRUE friends? Would a TRUE friend turn you down many times? The answer is no, so it seems that this girls arent truly your friends. "Popular Girls" at my school tend to be backstabbers so I would stay away from them. The best advice I can give you is to find some new friends. Find someone like you who feels "like a loner" You need to start over! Forget those girls who exclude you! <3
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Well it seems the popular group aren't very good friends. I mean if they're your friends, then wouldn't they WANT to hang out with you and not make up excuses? .. so I'd try to find some new friends...or I'd try confronting the popular kids about it. Next time you try to hang out with them, and they say they can't just confront them about it and ask what's going on, and if they want to seriously be your friend or not. Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
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If your talking about how to get the kids at school to hang out with you read this........Well if they dont want to be your friend dont beg them to be your friend.If someone wants to be your friend they will be your friend without use ing you.Its not worth it to beg someone to be you friend they most likly will just use you.
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well maybe this group of people arent really good friends.i tihnk u should find real friends so you can have tons of fun and be yourself around them. hope i could help
much love<3
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Hi there. Is it that important to be with them if they don't wanna be with you? If they don't wanna hang out with you, well, they're the ones missin all the fun. This really tells you who your real friends are. The time will come when you will tell them that you can't or that you have to babysit or whatever, and it'll be then when they'll realize what they did to you. If they don't wanna hang out with you, okay then. There's millions of things you can do on your own without them. Just remember, you don't need all the popularity to have all the fun. =)
I hope this helps.
Kay
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Try havning a big party and invite a ton of people. And whoever you want to come, invite a person that they like or is best friends with so it will convince them to come. And it will most likely work if the party is fun. good luck!
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If they make excuses not to hang out with you the only solution is to find a new group of friends. Good Luck!
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You need to find a new gRoup of fRiends......
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hahaha, don't worry, sometimes i feel as though i'm a loner too.
it's not necessarily a bad thing. it's all how you view it.
however, if you want to hang out with people and be a bit more social, i suggest finding a new group of friends.
obviously, your friendship is not so tight with the so-called "it-group" if they're avoiding you and making up excuses not to hang out with you. don't worry. it's nothing against you. they're just lame people!
it might be a good idea to join some type of a camp or one-week activity kind of thing. if you're into acting or music you could go online or look in the newspaper for local plays and sometimes colleges hold one-week sessions for different things such as singing and playing instruments.
if you're into sports many community colleges offer soccer, tennis, swimming, etc.. type camps. this is a great way to meet new people!
you could also try re-kindling some old frienships, or hanging out with people who you may be ok friens with, but dont normally hang out with outside of school. who knows? you could find that they are really fun to hang out with and you'll have a new friend.
if you really want to hang out with the popular kids then i suppose you could keep inviting them places. maybe if you do group outings it would be more fun for everyone rather then just one-on-one. however, if you really are finding they keep declining for some reason or another, don't push it. they will just get annoyed. i think you're best bet is to get out there and try to do something fun that you enjoy, which will also allow you to meet new people.
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well first of all you dont need friends like that. go to the local pool or make some friends in the naboir hood. go to the movies or just do something fun.
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Don't worry your not. I did the same thing last summer. I know a few girls like you...i think the thing might be that you seem to be a bother to your friends because you ask so much. My sn on aim is garrettg2006 if i can help more on there. One way that you could get them to hang out with you is, get your mind off of them. the reason you call so much is because you have nothing better to do and you just want to get out of the house. Maybe you should...find a job or something you enjoy doing by yourself. Who knows maybe you can find a friend who isn't in that group. That's all I have for now. But its human nature for people to want what they can't have. So if you play their game by NOT playing their game then youll be good. ALright here is my link also: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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