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desperate for help.
okay. i am very deperate for help right now so any advice you give me i will rate you a five.
i have a very hard time admitting this. but my dad is in fact an alcoholic. he is always in denial, meaning that he doesnt think he has a problem and gets mad when you confront him in any way about his drinking. me and my mom are the only people aware of this in my imediate family. my little siblings haven't a clue. my mom has threatened divorce even though she does not mean it, just to make him stop. it is an embarrasing thing and he is very selfish. i feel like i am babysitting him all the time to make sure he isnt sneaking in the garage or the side of the house. i need help confronting him, like i need to really hit him hard this time to make him think twice about doing it again.
another thing, i recently found a few bags of marijuana that belong to him that he gets from a friend at work i am assuming.... my mom does not know about this, and i am too scared to tell her because then i definately see divorce in the future. my sister and brother would be devastated, and i probably would too i mean he is my father and i love him. what do i do about the marijuana situation?
thanks alot.
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You should probably tell your dad what you feel that he's hurting his family and he needs to stop being and addict. You should also tell your mom about the marijauna situation because you wouldn't your siblings passing it.
Hope I helped you and hope everything goes well!
Good Luck!
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You just need to say 'dad I don't care how much you get mad and I don't care id you don't reply but you have a problem. you need help. you're hurting our family." and just telling him everything. you NEED!!! to tell your mom about the marijuana because you don't want your siblings coming across it. it can harm your family and your mom or the police needs to know about...
please keep me posted and GOOD LUCK!
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desperate for help.
okay. i am very deperate for help right now so any advice you give me i will rate you a five.
i have a very hard time admitting this. but my dad is in fact an alcoholic. he is always in denial, meaning that he doesnt think he has a problem and gets mad when you confront him in any way about his drinking. me and my mom are the only people aware of this in my imediate family. my little siblings haven't a clue. my mom has threatened divorce even though she does not mean it, just to make him stop. it is an embarrasing thing and he is very selfish. i feel like i am babysitting him all the time to make sure he isnt sneaking in the garage or the side of the house. i need help confronting him, like i need to really hit him hard this time to make him think twice about doing it again.
another thing, i recently found a few bags of marijuana that belong to him that he gets from a friend at work i am assuming.... my mom does not know about this, and i am too scared to tell her because then i definately see divorce in the future. my sister and brother would be devastated, and i probably would too i mean he is my father and i love him. what do i do about the marijuana situation?
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I know divorces are hard. But you have to tell your mom. It can get out of control and he could hurt someone. Would you rateher a divorce or a fam mem get hurt or killed? Not telling is putting your family in danger! If you must contact the police! I hope I helped
Bianca
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ok i know this is hard for you because my dad was arrest for doing and selling drugs. just tell your mom. i kow that u dont want to, but its really your pnly safe choice
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well, take the marijuana and flush it down the toilet, and anytime you find anymore flush it too. that way your mom wont find out about it, and also your dad will not be able to smoke it, well atleast not the house he wont be able to.
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i mean if your desperate, call the cops on him when he gets drunk and out of control.
you could always ignore him until he realizes what hes doing is wrong. i would throw out the weed or put it down the sink. i would also empty all of the alchohol bottles. its for his own good.
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well you alone cant do anything ... he needs rehab if he s drinking and using drugs ... confront your mother and suggest it you must also tell her about the drugs ! ... its the only way to save him ... he'll be there for a while but its worth it you'll have your dad back and your mother will have her husband back ... confront him with it and tell him you thing the drugs and drinking are dangrous ... explain he could get killed from an over dose , an accedint , hurt others he may evn hurt you or your brother or sister because he wont have any idea of that he is doing . lets say your mom left him alone with your younger siblings and they swallowed something and started to choke your dad will be drunk and maybe high and not realize it , ignore it or try to do something but instead of doing the right thing does something stupid that could harm them more and may even lead to death . if he is drinking and taking drugs explain to him that behavior like that usually passes down to another family member and he is harming his own family . i also suggest in till he gets help he shouldnt be left alone with your younger siblings. rehab is the only way to get rid of the problem for good and trust me ... it will hit him hard .
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Wow. That is alot to handle. How old are you?? ANyways my dad is an alcoholic as well. He was diagnosed with sclorosis of the live when i was in eight grade. Now i am in 12th. But ya thats a tough pill to swallow. I know what your going through...although my dad was/is pretty blatant with his situation. If i were you...and my dad wouldn't admit it ..you should really hit him where it hurts. For example, since your his daughter im sure that he will respect your feelings. You need to confront him and tell him how you feel and that your friend's father was "diagnosed with sclorosis" and that disease is fatal. And that you are concerned that if he keeps doing what he is doing that it will jeopardize the family...and it might reflect on you as a person. Meaning that you might change for the worse because of the fact of the family breaking up. But don't argue with him about anything. IF you could cry in front of him and just tell him you love him...that would be sincere and i feel that he would definitely think twice before he took the next swig of boose. Fight him with love. When he gets mad at you or anything just say that your srry and that you love him. No man wants to come to the realization he might lose his daughters love...because that is something they charish most. I hope this helps...and do somewhat of the same thing with the marijuana situation...except ask him how he would feel if you started stealing his stash and giving it to friends and smoking as well. DAYUM! THATS LONG! lol anyways i hope you can use this to your advantage. GOOD LUCK! oh and visit my profile if you would like i just made this thing. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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i know its hard to deal with this. you SHOULD tell your mom about the marijuana. she should know about that.
your dad needs to get help. stage an intervention with a rehab facility if the habit gets any worse. i know that's hard as well, but it WILL help. it will make him think, and the center will make sure he gets the help he needs. if you need anyone to takl to im here.
love and hugs
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OK, nothing you say is going to change him. I know that sounds harsh, but it's true. He's the only person that can change him, and he doesn't want to change.
You need to tell your mother about the drugs, and you need to do so in private. You also need to get help from an outside source, whether you and your mom go, or you go, this is something that needs outside help. If you attend school, there should be a counselor you can go to who will be able to help you find the right help - I don't know who you go to in these situations, but they would.
If that's not an option, and you have no teachers that you can talk to at all, you may have a police non-emergency number in your town (yes, I'm reaching, and, no, don't tell them about the drugs unless you want to push that far - it would get him really pissed, but it would also serve as a major wake-up if they remove him from you guys, either for re-hab, or a prison sentance, but neither are gauranteed), or ask a doctor (they get questions like this probably, and while they aren't the right people, I would think, they will be able to, again, point you in the right direction).
If he is being physically abusive, in any way, call the police. As in, 9-1-1. Do it as soon as you can. Hesitation is your worst enemy in this case. Well, in either case.
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