Absolutely. Xanax is habit-forming, meaning that you can gain a dependence upon it to fall asleep. That's why doctors will usually try to wean you off of it, giving you incrementally smaller amounts over a course of weeks.

You're probably just agitated and sleepless. It doesn't mean you're going crazy. This is something you should discuss with your doctor, though. They may have a better option for a sleep aid for you.

In a house that I rented with some guys, we split it up by dollar amount. The price was split 5 ways, and the guy with the biggest bedroom paid 50 a month more than the rest of us. We drew names to figure out who got it.

If your friend claims the special room just because he found it, don't expect the other guy to hang around for another year! It's worth it to play fair and square.

I think you need to check for a gas leak in your general area. Apparently everyone in your life is crying uncontrollably. This is what, the fifteenth question you've asked about people sobbing in your presence?

Sometimes people cry. You'll just make things worse if you don't let them get it out of their systems. Let them know you'll be there if they need you, then leave them to calm themselves down. You can't force it.

I know some people who are on it. They swear by it, but that's probably because they're shelling out the big bucks for it.

Here's how it works: you take some hormone drops (or injections) that are super expensive and don't do anything for you. At the same time, you go on their diet, which is a severely calorie restricted regimen. You'll be eating about 500 calories a day or less. Then you lose crazy amounts of weight, because you're starving your body. And when you go off, you're going to gain a lot of weight back because your metabolism is shot.

As always, the best way to lose is to eat less, exercise moderately and cut out the junk.

Hey, give him some credit for being honest. You don't mention how old you are, but I'm going to guess somewhere under 20 based on the site demographic.

Most guys aren't ready to deal with the consequences of pregnancy, but since it almost never comes up in conversation they just skim over that. Then when the girl gets pregnant, they bolt.

You've been together 2 months. If you were to get pregnant, that would mean spending a lifetime together in some way, whether the relationship continues or you're just seeing him when you drop off the kid. That's a pretty big commitment to give when you haven't been together that long.

So keep waiting until his answer is "Yes, I would stand by you." That way, you know that if you get in a fix you wouldn't be in it alone.

The nerve of them... expecting you to do what they tell you to just because they're paying you money.

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You're not going to like my advice.

Suck it up, buttercup. We all have to work eventually, and sometimes that means doing things you don't want to do. I don't like every part of my job, but I do all of it because I am an adult and I need the money. Ask your parents: I bet they don't like a good chunk of what they do at work. You're learning an essential skill right now. You're learning how to deal with doing something you don't enjoy because it's what you have to do. That's called being responsible. Your parents are absolutely right in making you keep your job.

Find ways to make it fun. Set goals for yourself. Make friends. Try to make people smile. It goes a long way.

Is your period on its way? Because this sounds a whole lot like PMS symptoms. Bloating, fatigue, eating... that's what I deal with starting about 2 weeks to a week before mine.

If you haven't had sex, then there's really no way you can be pregnant. I wouldn't bother with a pregnancy test. If it keeps up, or if the symptoms really start to worry you, go to see a doctor.

Unless you lie very. very still, chances are it'll end in a very wet ending. Make sure you don't tilt too much to either side.

Rowboats are a much, much easier way to go, if you have access to one.

You're being short-sighted, but not necessarily snobby.

Yes, working at McDonald's isn't exactly the most fun, fulfilling thing in the world. You're not going to take the world by storm with your fry-cooking skills. You will gain a lot from experience with them, though. And some money, which is never a bad thing.

You gain what I call "resume experience". It will show that you can work for someone for a period of time. Basically, this shows future employers (even for your dream career) that you have a decent work ethic, that you can show up on time and stick to your shifts. Basic stuff, but it gets that question out of the way.

Also, McDonald's can be a fantastic place for a student to work. They're flexible with school schedules (so you can work a few shifts a week during school) and they have scholarships for their employees to apply for.

Ask any successful adult: chances are, they've worked a lousy minimum wage job to get where they are now.

Wow. Please, please do not go to a payday loan place! They charge insane interest rates (from 200% to 1000% or more... for reference, a typical credit card charges up to 30%) You can get into really nasty credit spirals by borrowing against future earnings. You borrow the money for the ticket. Next paycheck, you pay it back plus interest. But then you're $150 behind for next month, so you need to borrow against the next month's paycheck. See where I'm going? It's not a reasonable option.

It's the beginning of the summer. There are lots of jobs for a young person to do around this time of year, and it wouldn't take long to save up $100. Babysitting rates are usually about $5-$10 per hour. You can start a lawn mowing business, or a poop-scooping business, or walk dogs or wash cars. If you were to post flyers advertising that you're willing to do outdoor chores for a fee, I bet you'd have lots of takers... spring chores are tough, and nobody wants to do it. All it would take is 10-20 jobs at $5 or $10 a piece, and you'd be on your way!

Is this lately as in the last few days? It may be related to your cycle. Personally, at different times in my cycle, these things change, especially right around my period.

As the other Advicenator suggested, there's always lube to help out.

If you're going to take a home pregnancy test, the best time is within 5 days before your next period. I know it feels like forever to wait, but that's how it is.

I would suggest that you go see a doctor. I went in with exactly the same symptoms PLUS a late period, and it turns out I was having a gallbladder attack because of a greasy meal I'd eaten a couple days before. A doctor will be able to rule out anything other than pregnancy at this point in time.

You're a 16 year old guy. EVERYTHING will make you horny at this point.

You're at an age where your hormones are going insane. Once things calm down a little (your late teens, early 20s) you'll find that you won't be as easily worked up.

It's normal to have a turn-on that isn't directly related to erogenous zones. Don't worry.

Both can get you arrested, expelled or suspended, at the very least.

Schools these days have a "no tolerance" policy. That means that any assault is going to be punished, no matter how mild.

Grabbing her butt would qualify as sexual assault, and if she decides to press charges, you could be charged as a sex offender. I know it sounds crazy, but it's true.

Tell your friend you'll do something that won't risk your academic career.

I would strongly suggest trying to volunteer or work at a veterinary clinic before making a decision. I worked at one for a few years back in high school, and it was an eye-opener.

One of the vets once asked me "Why do you want to be a vet?", followed shortly by "If it's because you love animals, don't do it."

Why is this?

You don't get to play with fluffy puppies and kitties all day. The puppies and kitties think you're evil incarnate. They hate you. You're the one probing them, sticking them with needles and doing other unpleasant things. They're going to scratch, bite, growl, hiss and run away from you.
You're going to end up with any number of bodily fluids on you. When the above vet was asking the question, it was immediately after a dog had expressed its anal glands... in her face and hair. It's a dirty, tiring, emotionally draining and often unrewarding job. And it doesn't pay that phenomenally. You go to university, then post-grad, then you make about 60 grand a year. Not bad, but not the very best. Sometimes you have to put down animals who don't really need it. You have to be able to deal with surgery, with crying owners, with people who don't take care of their pets. There's a lot involved.

An exotic animal vet may make more, but there's a limit as to where you can work and how many openings there are. There aren't a whole lot of tigers kicking around the cities of Europe or North America. You'd probably end up working at a zoo, so you'd be around an urban center.

If you want time at home, you can open your own veterinary practice, but that takes a lot of start-up capital. Otherwise, you're going to have to deal with whatever hours the clinic you work for sets.

If you're planning on being a livestock vet, be prepared for some late night calls (birthing happens whether it's business hours or not), some gross jobs, some risk and a lot of hard, dirty work.

I'm not trying to discourage you by any means. It's just easy to get caught up in this image of veterinary work as a glamorous, animal loving job. If you just want to enjoy animals, you're likely best off just owning them and having a big fur family. If you are truly fascinated by the inner workings of their bodies, go for it!

Not at all. You can skip a period because you haven't quite regulated yet (if you're in the first 10 years of your period, this is pretty common), you can skip it because of medical conditions, you can skip it because you're sick, because you're stressed, because you're worried you might be pregnant, because the wind's blowing the wrong way (okay, maybe that's exaggerating a little).

Basically, menstruation is a fickle thing. You can go for 12 years being perfectly regular then all of a sudden skip one and fall right back in line after. However, you may want to check in with your doctor/gynecologist to make sure there isn't an underlying condition.

You're both being unreasonable.

He's being unreasonable because he gets mad at you for being upset that he puts himself in front of you consistently.

You're being unreasonable because you've basically told him over and over that it's okay for him to do that, then expecting him to behave differently.

Stop treating him like he's made of sugar. He won't melt or crumble. Stop playing therapist and stop playing mommy. Neither role is healthy when you're his girlfriend. Last I checked, having ADHD doesn't mean that you are medically required to get your own way all the time.

I know it's hard to step back and let a loved one fall a little bit. My fiance had to live with me through a terrible mental health crisis. But you know what? I only started to get better once he stopped rescuing me. Stop planning things for him. Stop organizing him. If he misses a shift, or an event or whatever, it's his fault and he'll learn to deal with it.

You have every right to be frustrated and upset. You didn't sign on in this relationship to be his mother. He should be treating you like his girlfriend, not his datebook. So start getting mad at him when he's a jerk. Start with this weekend. Let him know that things have got to change and set consequences if they don't. Yes, you may have to leave him. He has to learn that his behaviours have consequences. You haven't given him any yet. Start treating him like the adult he is, and I guarantee you he'll man up.

If it's science based, it probably has lab hours.

I've taken physics, chemistry, biology, electronics and computer classes with lab components.

Nobody is going to advise you to commit suicide. We're all here to help you in the best way possible: that doesn't include advice on ending your life.

It's awful that your family doesn't like you, but you can't let it rule your life. My mother once told me that you do things because of people or in spite of people. So you can let your bad relationship with your family make you miserable and want to end your life, or you can live a fabulous, long, healthy, happy life even though they didn't do anything to help you. Life is what you make it.

I'm not just some self-righteous advice-giver. I don't sit from my high horse and dole out well-meant bullshit. I've been there. I've tried to kill myself a few times. I deal with a lot of shit, even today. I'm the last person who will tell you that life is easy and full of sunshine and puppies. But it is worth living.

You've got to get this under control. If you can't think of even one thing to live for, start thinking harder. Or make something. Get a pet. They love unconditionally. Start volunteering, or take a class. Make connections. Reach out to someone. Check out 1000awesomethings.com for some inspiration. There are millions of things worth living for in this world.

Seek counselling if you can. Someone who can help you to work through your problems. You may find that you need antidepressants to get you out of the pit you're in. There are ways to deal with anything that you encounter in your life. It's just a matter of having the right coping skills.

You should love the one who deserves it.

The one who treats you well, is smart and funny and kind and makes you happy. The one who loves you back. The one who makes you giddy and happy.

It doesn't matter so much how they look, or what sports they do. All that can change. What matters is who they are on the inside.

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In my last 8 years with Advicenators, I've gone from honours student to failing out of university (and getting back on top again!), from single to married, from tenant to homeowner.

Until lately, I have been struggling with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and OCD, which had basically ruined my life and taken just about everything from me. I'm thankful every day for every experience I've had because of this ordeal, because it's helped to make me who I am today. Things like that really make you appreciate what you do have. Now that I'm back in work and school and starting to become myself again, I couldn't be happier. I credit Advicenators with saving my life back when I was a teenager, which is a big part of why I'm still here.

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