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Okay well my boyfriend is going through a really tough time right now... with things that are going on with work, baseball, and some of his friends. I am here for him all the time and we tell each other everything. But i want to make him really happy and see the smile back on his face... So you can you guys give me any ideas to make him smiling and happy again. I know he would really appreciate it. And please don't say anything sexual because we have done somethings but not sex, were not ready for that. I just want him to be happy and spend the day together him and me so he can be happy and smile... any ideas on things to do or to give him that would make him smile... I rate high thanks bunches :0)

well, i think that you need to just be there for him. thats all he really needs. but if you REALLY want to get him something then i sugest...taking him to one of his favorite places or...geting him one of the cd's hes been dieing for. tell him you just want him to be happy and you hope you two are together for awhile. telling him that will surly bright up his day.

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im really tired of being single and miss having a boyfriend, but im gonna be a Jr. and i think i should get serious about school and my future. Should i get a boyfriend or just worry about school?

THANX
-twiSted

i think you should first just worrie about school. then if you find that your interested in any boy...or girl..i guess..then go for it. take a risk and ask them out. what do you have to loose i mean really. in like....5 years will what boyfriend you had in highschool really b that important? the right guy will come to you and when your ready...go for it sista..lol. well, i hope i helped and if you want to you can leave something in my inbox if you need help.

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Okay, so I`m going out with this guy and I reallllllly like him. But the only problem is, he uses drugs and alcohol a L0T. I`m totally against this.. I have seen families torn apart and people`s lives ruined because of alcohol/drug use.. I would never do anything like this, and he knows that, and he`s okay with that.. But I don`t want him to hurt himself. And I really don`t like the fact that he does.. I know that I can`t change him.. What should I do ?

tell him how you feel. tell him that you really care about him and the last thing you want to happen is see him get hurt.if he likes you he will quit just for you. tell him that you dont want to get hurt if something bad happens to him.
i hope i helped you and if you want to feel free to ask me anything in my inbox.
leah

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sorry this is so long but i am really confused and i would love for any advise from anyone!

ok here is goes. me adn my ex boyfriend (josh) we out all last summer and he cheated on me so we broke up and havent talked since. well the other day i was on the phone with his best friend (anton) and josh was over there so me adn josh talked and we are cool now. well i like anton but anton is a huge player. he has cheated on almost every girl he has went out with. he is also not a virgin .. me i havent even tounge kissed a guy before. well anton told me that he is actually ready to get into a serious relationship with a girl. i really wanna be that girl, but im so scared for anyone to know that i likw him. im scared he is gonna cheat on me or hurt me just like josh. me adn anton dont talk alot adn we dont know each other really good. i really like him and i dont know what to do. i even dream about him at night. can anyone please give me some advise on what to do?? thanks if you do!!

ok, i have something to say. if he is ready to get into a relationship that seirous then go for it. but tell him with a firm voice that if he cheats on you then your out and hes on his own. tell him exactly how you feel. if he likes you youll understand. i hope i helped and if you have anything else you want to ask put it in my inbox.

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My X-botfriend dumped me about a few months after he asked me out. I had liked him for a whole two years, and was really excited when he did. After he dumped me I was devistated, and we decided to stay friends. I saw him at a get together with all of our friends and some of the new ones. I don't know if it is just him, but he acted like we were still together. He huged me alot, and lied on my stumache, tickled me, and chased me. My friends acted afended, and kind of stand-offish when we acted like that. My friend says that he told her that he doesn't like me anymore, but to me, he acted like he still does. So here is my quwstion: How do I find out if he still likes me or not, so that I can move on in life?
P.S.
(I already tried asking, and my friends tried asking also!)
Can you help me?

ok, this is my advice to you. if your friends cant do it then...do it yourself. go up to him(ALONE) and say "name" ive noticed youve been flirting with me alot and i wanted to know if you still liked me or somethig? he might be embaraced to tell your friends that he still likes you. well, i hope i helped and if you want more help then put it in my inbox.

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I need help breaking up with my boyfriend. I still like him and everything its just that its summer and i dont think im gonna see him that much. What should i say to him? I still wanna be friends cause he is really nice.
Thanks Alot

If it helps we have been going out for about 2 1/2 months. And the reason is becuz i wont see him much.

ok, r u SURE you want to break up with him? i mean if your gonna break up with him then do it because you dont care about him..not because you think that you wont see eachother. get together at the movies or something..dubble date with friends. hope i helped and if you need more help put it in my inbox.

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well theres this boy who goes to my church and he is so fine but im a afraid to ask him. and i think he likes me cause he looks at me and smiles and he likes to follow me sometimes and is name is adam and i need ur help

love ya :)
i rank high

i think you should go for it! just get out there and say "adam, i was wondering if you wanted to hang with me some time?" its not as hard as it sounds. if he follows you then that is a sign that he is totally interested in you.
hope i helped and if you need anymore help just put it in my inbox.

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ok, i have this boyfriend and he got mad at me last night because i told him not to cut and now im really sad. should i be?

yes, its ok to be mad. it just shows that you care that much about him. talk to him and dont get mad at him or anything. just tell him that you care and dont want him to get hurt.
hope i helped you out.
leah

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Alright lets start from the very start.. I used to have very short hair and glasses that made my eyes look bug eyed.. Well last year I got contacts (which I must say has changed my life) and My hair has grown out and is very long (blonde) and my eyes are deep green.. Well lets just say I have not had an easy time. Before I got contacts people would pick on me about my glasses and my hair. Well when I went into 8th grade My hair was long and ai had contacts so they didnt have a reason to pick on me but yet.. people still tryd. I did have bfs but i also had boy troubles.. no bf that actualy lasted long.. the longest was a month. Now I am going into highschool and I want to be noticed and i would like to not be picked on as much. I think it would also really be nice to find a guy that I could be with for atleast a while.. and I would like to get some guys attention.. Can you help me? please..

love maddie

maddie i know just wat to tell you. once you go into highschool be OUTGOING! get involved and make some NEW friends. be nice to everyone and dont give them any reason to pick on you. if you be nice to everyone no one will want to be picking on you. and the people who did, once they see you with awhole bunch of friends then they will be sorry they ever picked on you!

hope it helps you out.

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Well let's see....There's this boy that I really like....And a couple weeks ago it seemed like he liked me 2 ...well even then he had a girlfriend but everyone knew that relationship wouldn't work out.....Now he goes out with this other girl that goes to his church during the summer and some during the school year....What really got to me was that I thought he liked me and might would ask me out after him and the first girl broke up but apparently he didn't and it kinda makes me mad cause the girl he dates now is a total slut.... What do I do I mean he is just bound to get hurt by her and I mean I really like him?

alright, i dont want to be mean but ask yourself this question. do you know that he is gonna get hurt by her or do you just want him to so you can have him? well, you should think about that. confort him if you REALLY think he is in some sort of trouble. tell him that your his friend and will always be there for him. but other than that you have nothing else to do. you know wat they say...if you love them let them go...

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ok i've never had a bf ever in my life. im kind of over weight and i dont think im very ugly but im prolly not really pretty eaither. i do have some guy friends but not real boy friends. i really want a bf cuz i always see my friends with there bfs kissing and holding hands and hugging etc. i've never been kissed either so i feel so left out cuz all my friends have please give me some good advice and please help me!!

alrighty, so you want a bf? well, i think before you let someone love you you have to learn to love yourself. get active if you think your fat. play sports, go jogging, or ride your bike. and if you already feel confortable then let your inner beauty shine. once you get to know that great side of you then start flirting. just go with the flow, pretty soon that someone will come to you.

hope it helps

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my parents and i dont get along. they always try to get into my bussiness and ruin everything.. i dont tell them anything and i am not plannin to either. my problem they think i spend too much time on the computer. i cant do anything. my parents are over protective and dont let me do anything with my friends unless it is with a parent. i am really gettin tired of my parents bullshit. i dont want to go otuside and make friend with the girls out there because they are ALL snobbs. i have tryed it before. and when ever i talk to a guy my mom questions the shit out of about the guy.. i have no idea what to do anymore i leave me parents alone i do what they say but in return they wont leave me alone... i used to barely be on the computer instead be on the phone and they didnt like that either. so i would like to know what to do. can someone please help me..

ok, just about every teen goes through with this so take a deep breath. first i think that you should at least TRY to make peace with them.if that doesnt please you then just DONT listen to them. become a rebel. if they tell you that you cant talk to any boys pick up the phone and call one right in front of them. i know this sounds mean but by the look of things you dont have many choices.

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I hate my mom so much(yeah hate).Today is my b-day and she is still treating me like a pice of shit.Sometimes I think she is not even my mom because she dosent look a thing like me.She makes me so mad where it gets to the point that i start crying and my brother is the one who makes me feel better.Sometimes i wish i could just get away from her.And she is always in my busness.One time i almost tryed to kill myself cause of her.I realy couldnt handle it by then.my brother had to stop me when i was trying to kill myself.Can you plese give me advice on how to not get my temper that high just because of her?

*plese help me*

ok, i understand completely...o and happy birthday! my first advice is to NOT kill your self! dont put your brother through that. just sing a song in your head and totaly block her out when she is talking to you. or scream in your pillow. and punch your pillow if thats not enough. after that gets boring then write on a papper what you would want to say to your mom and then rip it up to control your anger.
i hope it helps.

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hey is it really bad for your body when u start to eat less? im about 5'5 and i think im like 110-113 lbs and i want to start eating healthier foods and just eating a little less. Its not like im doing a crash diet or anything or turning anerexic. im j/w can that do any damage to my body? oh and also im taking medicine for lyme disease, that wont make it any worse will it?
thanks!!
~*jaimee*~

i dont think the medicine will do anything but im conserned about the eating less thing. i know that you say its not a crash diet or anything but in some cases one thing leads to the next. so dont eat less just healthier foods. and do something fun like swim alot or ride your bike more offten.

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i seem to have bad taste in guys.. i always end up meeting guys that doesnt work out right but im seriously unpatient and i dont know what to do.. i dont know if its i get too jealous easily or i get attached but everytime i seem to like a guy too fast i get heartbroken.. how do i fix this?

i think you should take some time and be single for awile. and once you think you are ready for a boyfriend then go for it. but dont think you have to be in some sort of comitment or something. if you see your man talking with someother girl or something then just think to yourself, hey i talk to other guys! so that way you dont have to feel like it means that he likes her.
hope things work out.

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My boyfriend's birthday is coming soon and I have no clue what to get him. Any suggestions?

a cd of his fav band.
a t-shirt with something funny on it.
or just a card that has a funny saying on it and some money in it. or just a gift card so he can get whatever he wants.

hope he likes it.
cookierat123

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ok my friend amber asked me to go on a cruise with her..so at first i was thinking "omg! this is so great!!! i wanna go soooo bad!" so i told her i would. now that the cruise is getting closer and closer...i'm having some serious second thoughts. i always get homesick - i can bairly get through a single sleepover without crying myself to sleep. i seriously need my own bed..and now that my dad is sick i really dont want to leave (he needs surgery but it stubbern and refuses to get it!)! now im having these thoughts more and more and im totally freaking out..its for 4 days and i need advice like i need oxygen! PLEASE HELP!

alright take a deep breath..your gonna get through this. i really think that if you dont wanna go then dont. just tell your friend that your dad is sick and you really want to be there for him. tell her that you wanna come but you dont think you would be any fun bc you would keep thinking of your dad.
i hope your friend understands.
cookierat123

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ok i really like this guy and we talk online and stuff and we used 2 talk all the time in school and stuff but since schools over i never see him! my friend told him that i like him and he started flirting more and stuff but i dont know if he thought my friend was joking or something. i know i should tell him myself, but whats a good way of telling him without him like freaking out haha. please help cause i need to tell him soon cause i really want him to hear it from me! thanx!

before you tell him i think that you should take a deep breath to calm your nerves. and if you do it on the phone then hug a pillow while you tell him. but if you do it in person then still take a deep breath. then say this...ok, you might not know this but....i realy like you and i want to know how you feel about me. i know it sounds corny but that is how things get done in the weird wild world.

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ok i am i guess still dating this guy named david that lives in the uk but i live in the states way way far away and i kinda cheated on him with this girl that lives here should i dump him or not and if i dump him he haz wasted alot of time and EFFORT on me he even told hiz friends there that he was gay just sooo he could be with me i would appreciate it if u give me good answers and i also rate high for them soooo thank you lots P.S. and if u couldent tell i am a bi guy that lives in okla that

you really should dump him. i mean how r you two gonna see eachother? you need to talk to him or send him a letter or something. tell him that its not gonna work out between you to bc that is a really far away relationship to carry on.
i really hop it helps you out.
leah

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i need help in my spirtul life with god. im a christian an all that but i wan to grow mor with god!
how can i get closer to god?

you know whats funny... i was asking that exact question to my family the other day. they couldnt help me so i went to my friend and she told me strait up what i should do. she told me that god loves to hear from me, and he loves to hear from you too. he wants you to do the right things. first, do the right thing all the time and when you dont know what the right thing is, then think wwjd(what would jesus do?). next pray about constant things, like thank you prayers and prayers asking for help.

i hope it works.
leah

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