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I went out with my boyfriend for 6 months during the school year and for lots of different mutual reasons we broke up for the summer. I didn't really get to see him too much over the summer party because I was busy with lots of things and we live a little ways apart, and second b/c I had been going out with somebody else and that relationship did not end well. But anyway...when we got back to school we had mentioned how we still loved each other and out feelings fr one another had never gone away. After a couple of months we started going out again. Throughout this second time that we were together we ended up talking more about our summer and such. He had mentioned that he was no longer a virgin. The first time I had gone out with him he was. That means that he had lost his virginity to some girl that he did not go out with over the summer. Now, I love this guy with all my heart, but I have to admit that it kinda of breaks my heart that he was actually intimate with some random girl when we weren't together. A lot of people will say that I had gone out with somebody else so it's all the same thing but, I NEVER would have had sex with the guy I had gone out with. My boyfriend and I have now been together for almost 8 more months and I still love him to death. He's the only guy I have ever done ANYTHING other than kiss but we have not have sex. He NEVER pressures me to have sex and I would really like too, but I do not believe in sex before marraige. Personally, I think that there are too many consequences to having sex at my age (16) and I am also a Christian. However, I know that he is a guy and that guys need certain things. I would never break my belief system or my morals for sex...but at the same time I know that there are other girls who like him and I get jelous because I know that they're willing to give him the thing that I can't. I hate that I'm jelous of that but I am. I'd hate to think that in some ways he's just as attracted to them as he is to me just because they'll have sex with him. I don't exactly know what I'm looking for here in terms of advice. Maybe reassurance or just any thoughts. So whatever you got let me know.
ps. I have talked to him about this before but he said it's stupid and not to worry because he loves me. I guess I'm just worried that I might lose him one day because I waited too long. (link)
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Hang on to those beliefs. Don't worry about what he may or may not do in the future. Leave the past back there where it belongs.
He told you about his not being a virgin anymore. That means he trusts you and your relationship enough to know you wouldn't hold it against him. He isn't pressuring you, a lot of guys would be. He respects you and what you believe in.
He sounds like a good guy. I don't think he is going to cheat or anything. So, when he says not to worry because he loves you, believe him. Don't let worry ruin what you have. Just let him past indiscretion go. He came back to you knowing what your beliefs were. He is willing to wait.
What a great guy! :)
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I'm not really sure if this is the right category..
What are the signs of crabs? How do you get them? How do you prevent them, and how do you get rid of them?
Thanks so much. (link)
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The signs: Itching
The rest: http://www.stdservices.on.net/std/crabs/
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I've been friends with a married man for about 3 years and we have never crossed the line. I knew him and his wife before they moved last year. I thought of him as one of my closest friends- he was someone I could always talk to. Well yesterday we got into a big fight on MSN messenger. I told him that I missed him (because I harldy get to see him since he moved) and then he made a comment "I'm a married man". Then I said "I know- just friends". I was upset and told him I didnt think we should talk anymore. He wanted to know why. I told him that his comment " I'm a married man" made it sound like I wanted an affair with him. I assured him I was not like that. I said I would never cheat with a married man because it happend with my mom and dad. I also said I hoped we could still be friends. Well I thought he would have respected me for saying that but instead he coldly responded with "good bye". He gave me no explanation either. I thought this man was my friend- surely a true friend would understand. Now he has completely shut me out. He won't answer my phone calls and I sent two emails saying that he was the best friend I ever had and I hoped we could still be friends. He is not responding. This man has been an important friend in my life for the last 3 years- this just doesnt make sense. Why do think he's being this way? Do you think he really did want an affair with me and now is miffed that he knows he won't be getting any? (link)
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I would like to give another scenario all together.
Maybe you took the comment way to seriously. He may have been joking around because your comment about missing him made him uncomfortable. Then by
going on about being just friends etc. He may have taken that as you protesting to much.
The thing about messengers and text messages is they can be taken the wrong way very easily. You don't HEAR the way things are being said and it sometimes leads to misunderstandings.
Has he always considered you to be HIS best friend as well, or has it always been just you considering him a best friend? Is it possible that he wasn't aware of your feelings? It may just be a role he doesn't want to play in your life.
He really doesn't sound miffed because he isn't going to be getting any. Quite the opposite.
Just something to ponder. :)
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See i have this little problem i'm 14/f and i sorta had a moment and well my grandparents are always telling me that i should never waste my self and stuff like that.... so u see my problem is that i might be pregnant but i am afraid to tell them cause they told me that that would praticaly disown me if i ever did so what should i do? my boyfriend wants help me and is afraid to tell his mum.... so umm yeah what should we do? (link)
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If you are pregnant you will have to tell them. They aren't going to disown you. They have to say something to try and persuade you not to do things. Even if it didn't work!
First though, you need to get a pregnancy test at walmart or a drugstore. Read the directions and do what they say. IF you get a positive result that says you are pregnant, then you tell parents and grandparents.
At 14 you may just have missed a period. :)
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*not sure of topic category*
I want to make some crafts, like DIY stuff, but I don't want to go out and buy a lot of stuff and supplies.
Does anyone know any simple, easy crafts that don't require a lot of work and can be done in a small amount of time?
PS - Sites, links to pics, ect. would be very helpful. Thanks!
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Better homes and Gardens quick easy crafts
http://www.bhg.com/bhg/category.jhtml?categoryid=/templatedata/bhg/category/data/sc_1938.xml
Family fun Crafts
http://familyfun.go.com/arts-and-crafts/quick-and-easy/
Here is a big one with tons of things
http://www.epinions.com/kifm-ArtsCrafts_Ideas
Happy crafting! :)
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whenever i go to play an "online game" on gamehouse, the game goes through the loading process but then once it's loaded there's just a blank box with a little red X in the corner. i know that means i don't have the right program to play the game but i can't find anywhere that tells me which program i need. help? (link)
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To play gamehouse games you need a realplayer.
http://www.realplayerlive.com/co/real/01/realplayerlive.asp?sid=M2AG0001oGS
If you already have realplayer on your computer, you may need to update it. If you find it already on your computer, it should have an update link right there with it. :)
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What are the band members names for my chemical romance? (link)
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Lead singer:Gerard Way
Drummer:Matt Pelissier
Guitarist:Ray Toto
Guitarist:Frank Iero
Bassist:Mikey Way
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What are the lyrics to Elvis Presley's song Long Black Limousine? (link)
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Long Black Limousine Lyrics
There's a long line of mourners
Driving down our little street
Their fancy cars are such a sight to see, oh yea
They're all rich friends who knew you in the city
And now they've finally brought you
Brought you home to me
When you left you know you told me
That some day you'd be returnin'
In a fancy car, all the town to see, oh yea,
Well now everyone is watching you
You finally had your dream, yea
You're ridin' in a long black limousine
You know the papers told of how you lost your life, oh yea
The party, the party and the fatal crash that night
Well the race along the highway, oh the curve you didn't see
When you're riding in that long black limousine
Through tear filled eyes I watch as you pass by oh yea
A chauffeur, a chauffeur at the wheel dressed up so fine
Well I never, I never, never, never
Oh my heart, all my dreams yea, they're with you
In that long black limousine
Yea, yea, they're with you in that long black limousine
Yea, yea, they're with you in that long black limousine
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Don't worry. You are the one who fills out the name on the birth certificate. Whatever last name you want your baby to have....he will have it. :)
are you positive though- theyre not gonna tell me i cant because we're not married? weve been worried about this for a long time. i just want my child to have his last name. my father disowned me, and i dont want to put a child into this world with his last name. i want nothing to do with him. (link)
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I'm very sure! A child can be given the fathers name married or not!
They won't tell you you can't. After the babe is born sometime...probably the day after, they bring you a paper to fill out. You fill in your name, fathers name and babies name.
The choice is all yours, they won't even question it.
Best of luck! :)
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me and my boyfriend are expecting a baby in february. we are obviously not married- but im wondering if when it comes, will it obtain my last name or his?- i was thnking itd have to be mine- since hes not really my spouse- but is there any way can request that it has his last name if needed? (link)
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Don't worry. You are the one who fills out the name on the birth certificate. Whatever last name you want your baby to have....he will have it. :)
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I'm tired of this account. Am I allowed to delete this account and make a new one? Or will I get banned? (link)
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If you have a problem with your account contact
DN. Let him know the reason you want to change it. If it is a good enough reason he might just
do it for you.
Contact him at dangernerd@gmail.com
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My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. I don't think I'm ready... see he's not pressuring me, but he wants me to... I can tell. It's gunna be my first time (if i do do it) could anyone give me any tips (gross i know, sorry) on what to do?
*Thank you (link)
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We can't give sex tips here or we will get banned. There are a lot of 13 year old users and it is a legal issue.
I can give you a site that will help you decide
if you are ready for sex or not. And another with just some good to know info on it. :)
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html
http://www.coolnurse.com/
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OK, what does it mean when a grown man has naked barbie dolls in his apt. with their hands & feet tied & tape over their mouths? (link)
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I would say he is a very wierd individual. Not so sure I would want to hang around with him.
At the very least he has no respect for women. :)
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i know what masturbating is, but how do you describe it. my little sister asked me what it was, and i didnt know like how you say, so i just said i dont know! (link)
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She could just look it up in the dictionary...you could tell her that!
It is sexual gratification through self-stimulation. :)
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i'm very open about sex. i mean i love it. i have had sex with a lot of guys. i'm clean i know i am i randomly get tested. but i'm in high school. senior year. i hang out with older guys that have seen girls do some crazy ass things. and i love doing crazy ass things. sex is like my life. i like trying new things and everything. but my problem is everyone that meets me or hears about me freaks calls me a slut and all that (the high school girls) i just blow it off and say there jealous bC there not brave enough to try all the new shit...but i've been thinking i talked to a close friend of mine last nighta bout this. i don't think i'm lesbian but i wanna try things with a girl just to try it and say i have. i told him that i wanted to eat a girl out just to see how it was. he says he has seen lots of girls do it..PROBLEM i'm in high school. shit like that gets around i'll be called gay. so my question is. what do you think i should do. go for it and try something with a girl or just wait till i graduate and not have to worry about roomers and bull crap?? (link)
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Here is the definition of slut.
A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous.
If you have been open about your sex life and have had a lot of partners, then that is why they are calling you that. Get real.
If you have sex with a female and then tell someone, or if you do it with someone who tells someone, it will get around. Since they already think badly of you I don't suppose it matters. It is a decision you alone will have to make. Being called gay is no better or worse than being called a slut.
Just my opinion. :)
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whats a player means? if you flirt a lot it means ur a player? cause my friends are calling me when they see me talking to the guys... (link)
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One who actively seeks out sexual partners and carries on a number of sexual affairs at the same time.
According to answers.com
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what does it means when a guy say the girl is "easy"? (link)
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It usually means she will jump into bed and have sex with anybody who asks. :)
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i think i'm in love with my boyfriend joe. he is funny smart sweet and most of all sensitive. he has all of the right qualities that i look for in a guy. and i'll i wanna do is be with him i thought i would never feel this way again but i am. do u think i'm in love? (link)
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Check this out and see where you rate.
http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa122002a.htm
There is a quiz on the site too. :)
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Okay so i tried a trial for extreme messanger i think by aim or aol its like aim accept a little more amped up i guess you could say.And now that im done my trial this thing pops up on my screen everytime i sign on and i dont know how to stop it because im trials done and i dont want it anymore it says to either register or do it later.Does anyone know anything about this?and can you tell me how to stop it and make it go away? im really stuck and i desperately need help please and thank you! (link)
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You may need to go to control panel>Add and Remove> look for the name of the messenger, and remove it from there.
Should take care of the problem. :)
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ok, well my g/f and i have been dating off and on for about a year, and we have been together for like a total of probubly 8 months (it will be about a year in september). im a freshman and she is an 8th grader and we both love each other alot. she feels like we need to take our relationship a step farther. we both feel like we r meant to be together and we both feel like we should lose our virginity to each other. im all in for the idea, except the fact that idk wut she will do if we end up braking up. i have at least 2 weeks to make up my mind. plz help me im soo confused about wut to do. (link)
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What she would do if you break up someday should really not be what you worry about.
What would you both do should she get pregnant is the question. It is a big question too.
You always need to use protection. It isn't 100%
guaranteed though. Sex is serious business for you both.
There is a good site that has a ton of info on it. Read up on everything so you know exactly what to expect and how to be as safe as you can be. Here is the link. And I think it is great that you are taking time to learn before taking that step. And that her feelings really matter to you. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/
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