Just start off with the usual 'whats up' and start from there. A few questions you could ask would be:

So, what kind of music do you listen to?

How's school going?/Are you ready to start back up this week?

Do you play any sports?
(even if you know he does, still acknowledge)

And so yea, there's a few; if you need more, feel free to send it to my inbox.

xoxJessxox♥

Depending on your looks, it can be attractive or gross. When I see a guy your age, usually I like a little bit of a beard, and no mustache, but I guess you don't totally have to go by other girl's opinions. Do what you feel comfortable with.

Although she is only a friend, yet one of your best friends, keep the friendship between you two open and full of possibilites. Maybe she's afraid of a relationship, or just thinks of you as friend. And keep it that way. DON'T try and go changing yourself just for her; be yourself. And that's really the key to it. There's no guarantee she's just going to start liking you just like that, but keep the friendship.

Of course it's normal. BUT, as everyone else said, and I agree, although you have urges* to have sex, don't have it. When you're older, there's a big chance that you will regret it. And yes, guys will pressure you, but if you give in, what will you have to look forward to? At least wait until you're older.

xoxJess♥xox

The thing is, you can't rush it! There is nothing wrong with you, and it's not wrong that it hasn't happened yet. It's not that bad of a thing at all. When you finally get the girl, it's okay. The girlfriend that wants a real relationship won't care that you're "not experienced." And where the hell does it say you should've been to 3rd base by now? No offense to anyone you know, but guys that are hungry for sex and everything...not my thing. I understand your age, don't get me wrong, but just slow down. When it comes, it comes.

xoxJeSSxox♥

I don't know the exact answer you're looking for, but I was cheerleader for 2 years last year and I really enjoyed it. It was stressful at times, but it really became my passion. The tips I'll give would be to smile, be confident, if there's anything you have to practice, PRACTICE. And overall, just let go. One more thing: when you're making movements, be stiff. Also, you may have to get used to the girls on the squad, but by the middle of the year, you should be warming up to them. Good Luck!!

xoxJessxox♥

Find the most relaxed position for your body while inserting the tampon. Raising one of your legs on a footstool or on the rim of a toilet makes the process easier.


Steps:
1. Buy tampons that are appropriate to your menstrual flow: light, average or heavy.

2. Wash your hands with soap and hot water.

3. Remove the tampon from the wrapper.

4. Slide the applicator a few inches into the vagina (tampon side in), but not so far that you can't hold the outer of the two tubes that make up the applicator.

5. Push the inner tube into the outer tube, releasing the tampon into the vagina.

6. Slide the applicator out.

7. Make sure the tampon's string remains outside the vagina.

8. Wrap the applicator in toilet paper and throw it away. Do not flush it down the toilet.

Tips:
Buy the lowest absorbency that works for you without leaking.

Insert the tampon gently; don't jam it in.

Wear a minipad or panty liner - not a tampon - during the lightest days of your period.

Tampon packages have directions inside. Read them if you need help.

Use a small amount of petroleum jelly if the tampon does not go in easily.

You shouldn't be able to feel the tampon in your body. If you can, you may not have inserted it far enough. Remove it and try again with a new tampon. Try inserting the applicator a little further into the vagina before pushing the inner tube of the applicator into the outer tube.


Warnings:
Change your tampon every 4 to 8 hours to avoid leakage.

To avoid toxic shock syndrome, do not keep the same tampon in for more than 8 hours.

If you have any questions or concerns, contact a physician or other health care professional before engaging in any activity related to health and diet. This information is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice or treatment.

Before I type my answer, what you need to know is that you're dealing with abuse.
People who are being abused need to get help. Keeping the abuse a secret doesn't protect a person from being abused - it only makes it more likely that the abuse will continue.

If you or anyone you know is being abused, talk to someone you or your friend can trust - a family member, a friend, a trusted teacher, a doctor, or an adult who works with youth at school or in a place of worship. Many teachers and counselors, for instance, have training in how to recognize and report abuse.

Telephone directories list local child abuse and family violence hotline numbers that you can call for help. There's also Childhelp USA at (800) 4-A-CHILD ([800] 422-4453).

Sometimes people who are being abused by someone in their own home need to find a safe place to live temporarily. It is never easy to have to leave home, but it's sometimes necessary to be protected from further abuse. People who need to leave home to stay safe can find local shelters listed in the phone book or they can contact an abuse helpline. Sometimes a person can stay with a relative or friend.

People who are experiencing abuse often feel weird or alone. But they're not. No one deserves to be abused. Getting help and support is an important first step to change the situation. Many teens who have experienced abuse find that painful emotions may linger even after the abuse stops. Working with a therapist is one way for a person to sort through the complicated feelings and reactions that being abused creates, and the process can help to rebuild feelings of safety, confidence, and self-esteem.



Jess
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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
You can click and visit this link:
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/ocd.html

Since you said you were 14, I don't think that means that you are 18, so, yea, she can control what you're doing. However, I don't think it's fair of her to be reading your diary, either, but personally, I just think she's trying to to help. ( I don't think you should be having sex, but who am I to say?) So, no, to answer your question. Good luck!

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Trust me: it's normal. I felt the same way when I happened to walk in on my parents. (I was probably about 11). Trust your parents, I mean, come on! They're married! I know it sounds wierd, and in a way it may be, (I mean, ever since then I've beeen grossed out in that way) but again, they're married, and they have that privilege. When you're married, eventually you will have sex with your mate, so just let it be. (Try to occupy your time well if it bothers you that much)

Take care and good luck
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Let him know how you feel. You two are in a relationship - it's about trust and about getting to know each other. Ask whatever comes to mind. If he doesn't want to talk about it, give him some time. Maybe he'll tell you on his own at a later point in life. Don't pressure him, but be as open with him as possible. If you want to know something, don't be shy. You like this person and want to get to know him, and hopefully he wants to get to know you more (than what he's already doing).

Try to get him in a calm situation. For example, sitting at home, maybe at the end of a movie, while eating dinner, etc.
Start with a question about him or his family.
If you feel you're going to intrude too much, too soon, go with your gut instinct and do what you think is best.
Make sure the both of you are comfortable.
Start by just talking.
After asking him the question, let him completely answer it, dont cut him off or anything.
Try to give some input after he answers, tell him what you think.

You're dating, so don't be shy!
There may be a good reason why he doesn't want to open up to you, something terrible could have affected him as a child, and he may think that it's his fault, or he could be embarrassed. He may also think that you will judge him, especially if that's all anyone has ever shown him, let him know that you will love him regardless, and you're there to help and to listen.
Just come out and say it, he will tell you if he doesn't want to answer it.

Tread gently with questions that are so profound that it might cause your boyfriend extreme discomfort or sadness.


I hope this is what you were looking for. If it isn't, let me know, and I'll re-answer the question.

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Heyy. You could try these two stores: (Seventeen has realllyyy pretty shoes :)


http://www.bakersshoes.com/

http://www3.jcpenney.com/jcp/SearchDepartment.aspx?SearchString=seventeen+shoes&mscssid=&JSEnabled=true&cmResetCat=true

I hope this is what you needed. Enjoy!


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Right, the next size up, Regulars, aren't much bigger. Pretty much, according to the box, they are kind of just at a higher absorbency level. I use the Regulars too. I wouldn't worry about it.

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Good Luck

If you like travel, hard work, long days and keeping in shape, modeling might be for you.


Steps:
1. Consider your physical characteristics: Are you 5-foot-7 or taller? You should wear a size 4 to 6, and you should have a 32- to 35-inch bust, a 22- to 25-inch waist, and 33- to 36-inch hips.

2. Determine whether you have any distinctive features.

3. Work on having clear skin, healthy hair and straight teeth.

4. Consider your mental attitude: You should be ambitious, confident, organized, willing to travel or move to foreign cities, able to spend and invest wisely, and able to take rejection.

5. Visit local modeling agencies to find an agent willing to help you build a portfolio.

6. Go to castings and "go-sees" with your portfolio in hand to win potential clients and get modeling jobs.

7. Be prompt and professional. Exhibit the confidence that you will use to sell products.


Tips:
Catalog models don't always have to be 5-foot-7 or taller, but they do have to be thin. Runway models are required to be at least 5-foot-9.

Teen or junior models must be 5-foot-6 and at least 12 years old, with youthful looks.


Warnings:
Modeling is not always glamorous. Long days of castings and go-sees, long trips on the road, rejection and stiff competition can be stressful.

Speak with a reputable professional before deciding whether modeling is for you.



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(I hope this is what you're looking for.)

Tomatoes are a fruit. :)

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Duhh. Of course! That's so typical. Whatever you do, though, DON'T HAVE SEX. The only way you're going to know that your boyfriend is true, is that he won't pressure you at all. Please...just give this guy up and let him go.

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I think for your situation, it's kind of normal, but after you 'recover', I think it would be more of a bad thing.

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Jess xox

Choose clothes that flatter you: they should fit, and be neat and clean with a crisp appearance.
Choose what you like. If you enjoy dressing preppy, a polo or two are a must. Enjoy what you wear, clothing should be fun.
Keep up with the latest trends, only to know what's in style.
Add a couple of accessories - for example, a watch, ribbon or belt.
Know that shoes are a must. Wear something that matches your personal style as well as the outfit you are wearing.
Don't go over the top (ex. Don't wear all leopard print...well, dont wear leopard print at all!)- unless you know what you are doing
Try not to look fake...don't wear something if it's not you.



Tips
Try to go shopping at least once a month, it will be easier to keep up with the latest trends. Do whatever your budget will allow.
Read the fashion section of of a variety of magazines, such as Cosmopolitan and Glamour for the gals, and GQ for the guys. Collect tips.



Warnings
May result in extreme jealousy from all your friends!
Be true to yourself or you won't feel comfortable.

Take Tylenol or Motrin, put a hot heat compress on the irritable area, or 3 days before you expect your period, take Ibuprofen.

♥
xox
GL

Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:

I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

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