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okayy .. so my boyfriend and me have never been EXTREMELY close .. and that bothers me .. but lately he's drifting away from me even more. he would get all into it and be like i love you so much babe i miss you, and on and on. but now he never calls and he says love u. like he barely even means it.
i know i know .. i need to talk to him. well the thing is ive tried. ive asked what was wrong .. if somethings goin on that i should know about .. and hes like no nothings wrong. just tired.
sunday night i went to a friends house and monday we talked and hes like ya i called your house sunday to see if you wanted to hang out. ( i didnt go to chelseys till 9 30) so he could have called. but i dont think he did. he said he did but i was WAITING for him to call .. and his number never showed up .. theres a possibliity he called but i was busy so the answerin machine picked up .. but i dont know ..
like he changes his mind daily and i just have to be quick enough to keep up with him. i really do love him .. and he says he loves me to .. but sometimes the way he acts .. just makes me go crazy.
my friend always bad mouths him sayin hes lieing when he says he loves me and she knows that hes just gonna blow me off .. so his un predicatbility and then the way she does that .. i just dont knwo what to think ..
please help .. im sorry its so long .. but i dont know what i should do. guys imput?
i know i didnt build a good case for myself, but like when me and him have good times there amazing. i feel so great just after talkin to him. but hes changin .. and im scare whats gonna be his decision ..
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no, no, no this is terrible. maybe you dont wanna hear this but tell him your true feelings because l think hes kind of losing interests and hes showing the signs so take it from somebody whos been there
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If you've confronted your boyfriend about this problem that you are noticing, let him know that this is really making you question his true feelings in the relationship. Sometimes guys will have a problem and when a girl confronts the issue, he won't even think it over and just say that nothing is wrong. So, what you have to do is let him know that you are really hurting for answers.
I think that you should try telling your friend to stay out of your relationship because it doesn't help to have your friend put your guy down and fight your battles. He isn't going to listen to her when she says how you feel, it has to come from you.
Just let him know that this is really bothering you, and it's making you truly question this relationship. And if he's still not getting the idea, then you'll have to break up with him or do something that will make him realize that you are serious about this.
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Let him know how you feel. You two are in a relationship - it's about trust and about getting to know each other. Ask whatever comes to mind. If he doesn't want to talk about it, give him some time. Maybe he'll tell you on his own at a later point in life. Don't pressure him, but be as open with him as possible. If you want to know something, don't be shy. You like this person and want to get to know him, and hopefully he wants to get to know you more (than what he's already doing).
Try to get him in a calm situation. For example, sitting at home, maybe at the end of a movie, while eating dinner, etc.
Start with a question about him or his family.
If you feel you're going to intrude too much, too soon, go with your gut instinct and do what you think is best.
Make sure the both of you are comfortable.
Start by just talking.
After asking him the question, let him completely answer it, dont cut him off or anything.
Try to give some input after he answers, tell him what you think.
You're dating, so don't be shy!
There may be a good reason why he doesn't want to open up to you, something terrible could have affected him as a child, and he may think that it's his fault, or he could be embarrassed. He may also think that you will judge him, especially if that's all anyone has ever shown him, let him know that you will love him regardless, and you're there to help and to listen.
Just come out and say it, he will tell you if he doesn't want to answer it.
Tread gently with questions that are so profound that it might cause your boyfriend extreme discomfort or sadness.
I hope this is what you were looking for. If it isn't, let me know, and I'll re-answer the question.
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OMG!!..thats so scary because thats exactly what happened to me. My boyfriend always blew me off and my friends always told me to break up with him and all of that stuff and i finally yelled at my friends and told them that i didn't want to hear their opinion.He always told me he misses me so much and he loves me but then when he is with his friends it was all different. We winded up breaking up and stuff. You need to talk to him about this. You should explain exactly how you are feeling and what is bothering you. That always helped me with like different situations with all different boyfriends, usually it works with those kinds of things.
Good Luck =)
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Don't conclude anything just from what your friend says. You should find out for sure if he's lieing to you before you make any decisions. Maybe he's just in a phase, and he's trying to figure out what he wants. Give him a little time. If this keeps up and he doesn't come around, you might need to find yourself someone else..
good luck!
♥ Evy
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