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if a guy older than you who you like is pressuring you to have sex or oral sex and you are not going out and are only friends is he only in it for sex? btw im 13 hes 16
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If he's pressuring you, he doesn't care about you, therefore all he wants is sex.
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Oh yes, he is definitely only interested in the sex.
You're only 13 years old and although this is no comment on your maturity as a person, at that age you just aren't ready for sex of any kind and if he had any sort of respect for you or any other kinds of feelings, he would NEVER be putting you under this sort of pressure.
Please remember that there are a LOT of guys out there like this and as time goes on, more and more of them will appear, who will have their own subtle ways of trying to convince you into bed with them. Things like telling you they love you when you've only been going out for 2 weeks and telling you if you cares about them you'd do it.
Whatever way they spin it, any guy who has respect and real feelings for you would wait for you to be ready and would certainly not push you into sex while you are underage!!! You're barely a teenager at the moment and you should make the most of being so young while you can because it goes fast. Don't let him make you feel you should be growing up faster than you are and if he's putting this pressure on you, you need to get rid of him as a friend and fast. He's clearly NOT your friend.
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Of course. It sounds like he's using you for one thing and that would be, sex. ♥
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If he hasn't expressed any interest in having a relationship with you yes, he probably just wants sex. If he has shown interest in having a relationship with you, he may have other intentions. Since he's your friend it may have been hard for you to see the signs he was giving you that he liked you. He may feel like he's trapped in the "friend zone" and doing something sexual with you is the only way he can get out of it. It's the easiest way to "trick" you into thinking of him as more than a friend and possibly date you. DON'T do it, but try to read more into his intentions. Look at his relationship history. Was he into those relationships just for sex? He may, in fact, want something more than just sex, but there's no way to tell from your question. If he does want something more, he's just going about it the wrong way right now. Give him a chance to redeem himself, but don't give in to his offers for sex. Good luck!
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Yes thats very obvious..
he isn`t no friend he`s tryin to get what he wants then most likely he`ll be done with you..
♥Dez
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Duhh. Of course! That's so typical. Whatever you do, though, DON'T HAVE SEX. The only way you're going to know that your boyfriend is true, is that he won't pressure you at all. Please...just give this guy up and let him go.
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yes, he probably only wants sex from you because he knows that you like him and thinks you would do anything im guessing, but yah hes only in for sex if he keeps on bothering you about it
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yeah, he's probably in it for the sex. so i wouldnt do it no matter what he says to try to get you too. and even if he's not just in it for the sex, which i doubt this, but it could be that he's just ready for a lot more than you since he's older. either way, i wouldn't do it if i were you dont let him talk you into something that you are definitley not ready for.
xoxo helpachick
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YES!!! don't do it! The age thing is not such a big deal but sex of any sort should be for two people who are in love...
*hope I helped*
-Pheobe-
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Obviously. =/
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Oh dear, apart from the fact that it would be illegal for you to go ahead on this one and he could be in serious trouble, it doesn't sound as though he respects you does it? If he did, he would realise that you are too young and if he
is serious about you, he would be happy to wait. Also, if he is like this now and you did get together, what is he going to be like in other areas? Sounds as though he enjoys getting his own way all the time and having control over someone else. That is no basis for a healthy relationship. So, yes, he is definitely just after sex. There are going to be plenty of guys out there more worthy of you than him, so wait a while.
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Yes. And if you do what he wants you will only get used and hurt over it. So please don't. If he really cared about you he'd become your boyfriend and wait as long as it took until you were ready. Often older boys do only want younger girls for sex because younger girls enjoy the attention of older guys and are vulnerable and easily confused about what they really want. Find yourself a proper, loving boyfriend before you do anything.
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sweetie, listen to me. You like this guy. Thats a good thing. But trust you me on this one. He is lusting after your body to satisfy his sexual needs. You are only thirteen. Please dont cave in. Stand strong. You deserve better than having someone using you to fulfill their sexual desires. Hang out with your girlfriends. Enjoy life but please dont fall into this potential disaster. You take care okay.
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Simple, just say, "NO!!"
It is obvious he is just using you. He is probably taking advantage of the fact that you like him and he knows it.
And even if you guys were going out. There should be no pressure to these kind of matters. It comes with consent and mutual respect.
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Yes he probly is. He might just be trying to use you. Don't cave in to in don't have sex with him.
♥ jackie
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