Giving advice is what i do best and it comes naturally. If not, by experiences. I will do my best to help you with any questions you have. You can ask me anything from RELATIONAL, PERSONAL CONFLICTS, OFFICE POLITICS to any other things that comes into mind.
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Age: 23
Member Since: April 16, 2006
Answers: 59
Last Update: April 29, 2006
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My brother has a friend named Mark and I went out with 2 days ago. Problem: my brother doesn't know. But I like love his friend. Am I being bad? (link)
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Question: Does Mark know that you like him? And does he feel the same way?
Honestly, i don't see a problem in going out with anyone you choose. Unless of course, your brother knows he is "bad news" or something major like that. Otherwise, there is nothing wrong with it.
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So I've liked this guy Joseph since 5th grade. He confessed his feelings and asked me out in 7th grade, but I rejected him, i dont know why. Last year i talked to him a lot and everyone said he liked me. This year, i barely talk to him anymore so i donno if he still likes me. Im now going into 11th grade, and i STILL like him, but im afraid to tell him because im afraid of what my friends will think and that he doesnt like me anymore. how do i find out if he likes me, and hint to him that i like him, before the school year ends? (link)
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The best way to find out is to personally ask him.
And what do you mean by, "but im afraid to tell him because im afraid of what my friends will think"
If you really like the guy, is the above really an issue at all. Who's the one going out with him anyway?
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all of my best friends have boyfriends and theyre always so busy with them that i get left out of everything. theyve stopped being such good friends we dont really talk much and when i do they dont listen. its really stressful and i dunno im not jealous of them im happy they have someone but shouldnt they still care about me? they dont know what its like to be in my situation and when i try to explain it to them they just shut me out. what do i do? (link)
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You are going through a change. You have to understand that there is a certain limitation to what a person can do. Right now, their relationships could be their priority. But that does not mean you are not one of their priority.
It is normal to feel left out. It does not just happen when your best friends have boyfriends. It can happen when they have a common interest and you don't.
As a friend, you might want to try to understand that your other friends are more "occupied" and have a certain amount of priority for their relationships.
Of course they still care about you. They might not be able to spend as much time as they used to. But they still care for you.
As for your friends, shutting you out isn't a very nice thing to do. Could it be the way you approach the issue when it is brought up? Perhaps you were being whiny about it? Or maybe you put it in such a way, it sounded like you were complaining? (Not trying to pin point here, ok. Anything is possible).
If that is not the case, then i suggest you reconsider to what extend you want to hold your friendship with your bestfriends. I'm not saying that you should stop being friends with them. I'm just saying that people change all the time and normally things change together with priorities.
Hypothetically, if in any time, your best friends breakup with their boyfriends, and suddenly decides to come back to you, i am sure you will know what to think.
Good luck!
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so,lately i have noticed brown stuff on my undies.(no its not poop)put there is barely any. and i no it is coming out of my middle whole. and is it my period?
i have never had it before (link)
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it depends on how old you are. If it is your first time, it could be your first step into womanhood.
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i gotta cutting problem im 15 and a gurl and a few of my friends are getting mad at me for it. ITs so hard not to cut though like when im cuttin i dont even care cuz im so mad and its gotton really bad. Like im afraid that one of these times im gonna get so madd im gonna end up killing myself cuz its like i just dont care but the next day i really regret doin it. I'v tried everything i could think of to stop but nothing works. SO my question is does anybody know ways to stop cutting (link)
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Your friends are right. WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT??!!! You are lucky you have a bunch of friends who care that much about you.
You cutting yourself is due to anger, right? Then there's your answer. Anger management!! Learn to control your anger. Easiest way is POSITIVE THINKING. Something bad happens, there is ALWAYS a good side to it. Make it a point to look for the good side.
If anger is not the root of your problem. You could be suffering from a psychological problem. I am not sure the exact name. But it's where people hurt themselves. Like cutting themselves when they get angry, depressed or sad. You'll need professional help for this.
If you still can't manage it, please seek professional help. Don't be too embarassed to do so. You've already taken the first step by acknowledging the problem. Take another step and help yourself. They will help you, that's what they are there for.
Everytime before you pick up something to cut yourself, think of why you are doing it. "Because i am angry?" Then ask youself if its worth it endangering yourself and possibly losing a life worth it over that matter.
AND TRUST ME, THERE IS NOTHING WORTH KILLING YOURSELF FOR.
Everything in life happens for a reason, and emotions that you experience should be controlled. Remember, you have the support and care of your family and friends. Consider how they would feel seeing you like this.
I know being a teen is not easy. But hang in there. You have a life ahead of you. Treasure it... Good luck
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I just turned 16.
I am probably one of the most inexperienced people you know...
THe farthest i have gone is holding hands... with a FRIEND
I recently got my first boyfriend and we were "together" for 3 days... haha
but i really want to meet someone for REAL...
I see my best guy friend and how happy his girlfriend is and i just wish that i could feel that for once...
Im not desperate or anything i just wish that I could feel love from someone...
Ive lived almost 16 years as a single girl and i just wish for once I could have a reason to go to school other than my friends.
I am like one of the only people in my group that is single... and it hurts...
it makes me feel like im not worth loving.
My question is... do you have any advice on what guys like in a girl or a reason to give up or go on? Thanks so much
*madd* (link)
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You're only 16. You've got so much to learn, so much to do, so much to experience.
Don't worry about getting someone in your life. The only reason why you've not found someone you really want to be with is probably you're not ready.
Yes, you might say, "but i'm 16!!". Wisdom does come with age however, you'll probably want to build up emotionally. Getting into a relationship does a lot with emotions.
To tell you the truth, not every happy couple you see is really happy. (not refering to you best friend though). There are a lot of things other people wouldn't know about a relationship. It is after all between the both of them. They might have a lot of problems but are still happy together.
Don't and NEVER feel like you're worth nothing. Your self worth is set by yourself. You may be single but you are good in other things. If you feel you don't have any now, search for it. Trust me, its there. Take those giving advice on this site for example, we are good at it. And we can help others. That's part of our self worth.
Fact is, you still have a long way to go in life. Take your time and take it one step at a time.
Good luck!!
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14/f. jonathon, my best guy friend, has been acting like a jerk to me the past few weeks. i got mad about it, and we kind of stayed away from each other for a few days. he and i were really close before then and told each other everything. as soon as jonathon and i quit talking for awhile, sarah, my other best friend, started hanging around him and he apparently "replaced" me with her in the sense that he began to tell her everything and stuff (his "depressing" life story and the big part that i played in it). so last night jonathon and i resolved our issues, and he told me that there's no excuse for the way he's been treating me, but the only reason that he's been weird is that he has a major crush on me and kind of doesn't know how to act around me right now because he likes me but doesn't want to scare me off (we had talked about not dating anybody until high school, so even if we like each other we kind of vowed to just stay friends). so now things are kind of how they used to be (after we were "cool" again, he asked me to this big banquet for next year as friends and i said okay). now i'm hoping that things are going to be just the way they were before. but, i'm worried that he's replaced me with sarah as somebody to talk to. do y'all think that i'm overreacting? by the way, i don't like him in that way, he's just my best friend. do you think that maybe he started hanging around sarah more to make me jealous or something? (link)
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A delicate situation.
I think i know how he feels. I had a crush on my best friend and there are just some things that i want to tell him but i can't anymore. Why? Because once those things are said, it might affect how our friendship. As in, he might pull away from me. And he feels the same way you do. He doesn't like me that way.
Take it easy, Jonathon could be just considering your feelings and thinking about the friendship rather than making you jealous.
And probably the only reason why he began talking to Sarah is because his best friend wasn't there to talk to him and he desperately needed someone to talk to?
By the way, you'll never know. By highschool, you might grow fond of him.
Whatever the situation, maintain the friendship.
Good luck!!!
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Ok so I have a great bf and weve been going out for about 7 months I'm straight and most of my friends are bi or les. But there one of my friends and keeps kinda getting a lil too far with me like today on the bus she was in top of me and and her head was like on my breast i dont really tell her anything cuz the bad thing is that sometimes I kinda feel like going along with it and sometimes I really want to but I dont know those this mean that I'm bi too????
plz HELP ME!!! (link)
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In the first place, it is good that you do not discriminate. But they as friends must also understand and respect your wishes as well.
Can't blame them though. Maybe it is because you've never told them how you feel about the "closeness".
I'm sure they would respect you as a friend and compromise. You have after all been their friend and still am.
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I ordered a soda dispenser off the internet and I typed my credit card number and address and everything correctly, but after i confirmed the order i noticed i made a type in my email address! is the incorrect email address going to affect my order in any way, or is it no important? (link)
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Easy. I am sure there is a number you can call to contact the company. Call them and change it.
Don't worry too much.
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i have a problem reading school materials, i cannot read when i want to (there is a specific time i can read effectively like in the morning) and i cannot read for a long time. 1 or 2 things happen when i read, i either get distract and cannot continue to read due to the lack of concentration or when i read it for a long time nothing seems to come into my head and basically i read nothing even though i did.
So how do i get myself to read effectively and for a very long time? especially with biology and chemistry i know there are a lot of readings to do but then i cannot continue to read after 1 hour or 2. I need help bad because im falling behind and need to catch up with all this reading (link)
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You'd be suprised to know that many people are like that. In order to help you in this, you'll have to help yourself.
You need to be experimental
1. Seek out the time whereby you are able to absorb most.
2. Short time span could be due to the distractions. So, once you know the right timing, get yourself to a quiet place and read there. (or at least a place away from distractions)
3. Don't worry about the time. Everyone is different.
I have a study group. And all 5 of us have different ways of studying and understanding the materials.
Myself, i read and i highlight key points. Then make my own notes (NOT COPYING DIRECTLY FROM THE BOOK). I write down what i can understand from the book. This way, it is less complicating and you'll understand it. The way books are written can sometimes look like some foreign language to me. Mine is a long process but it works for ME. After getting so used to the idea, i can manage 3 chapters of Chemistry in 1 1/2 hours. Frankly, it was because of this, my writing speed increased. Great when it comes to exams.
One of them have a really short span of concentration. Only a mere 30 minutes. So, whatever he can absorb within time goes in. And he never forgets it. This is very exceptional though.
Another one dictates during class. She listens, writes and absorbs at the same time. Then she will review her notes and compared it with the book. She'll then add in things she missed out. Her method gives her the advantage to know what is in the book before she reads it. But she has a habit of reviewing her notes the same day she wrote them.
The other two help each other out. They study together and shoot questions at each other. And look for answers together. Something like a tutor-mentor thing.
There are lots of other studying methods. Remember to get away from distractions. Give it your best and good luck!!
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what are some exersises(sp) to do that will get rid of flabby thighs?? (like on the inside)?? i used to be really fat and i lost most of the wieght but now my only problem is flabby thighs and flabby arms.
i need some exersises for those both please help i'll rate high for good answers
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You'll need do some leg adduction and leg abduction exercises. There are variations to both the exercises, look it up and choose the one that fits you most.
Flabby arms... i think you are refering to your triceps. Here's something you can look at.
http://www.musclesurf.com/tricworforwo.html
http://www.leehayward.com/arms.htm
Remember, do it with weights that you are comfortable with. Don't rush... Have a good workout!!
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Okay so I am 14/f and will be graduating from 8th grade this year. The only thing is i do not want to go to my graduation because i dont want to have to walk infront of all the people, this is because I have Cerebral Palsy. It is a disorder that cause tight hamstings and makes me walk ver different from others. I am very self consious of this. I want to be a part of graduation but walking on stage and down an aisile(sp?) really acres me. I know that other should not judge me but. I just really dont know what to do any advice would help.I also have a big problem with stage fright and public things such as this ..if that means anything. (link)
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It's your graduation!!! Be proud!! Stand strong!!
You should be happy & excited rather than worrying about this.
If you are still not comfortable with the idea, try talking it out with your parents and teacher. Maybe you can arrange for one or both of your parents to walk with you. They will be there for you and you will definitely be more confident.
Try it.... Good luck & CONGRATULATIONS!!!
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Im really upset, i said id go out with my bestfriends cousin, he seemed like a really nice guy n ova msn we got really close, we talked thru my bestfriend alot n even had cyber n sent exposing fotos...he then said a few things that upset me, like "i love you becuase i want to have sex with you" and refused to call me, he is now in europe for a coulple of weeks n in that time i became friends with this other guy that im meeting up with him tommorrow, we hav planned to get a bit friendly...*hint hint* n he wants to be with me, the other guy im with is a tool, bt he has his sweet moments, bt im cheating on him with another guy, cheating isnt my style, should i ruin his holiday and tell him now, or should i cheat on him and tell him when he gets back? need sum serius help her guys! (link)
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You're 15.... Why are you giving yourself up to a complete stranger??!!
And do you think that your bestfriend's cousin will take notice of this?
If he did, don't you think that he will more probably want to be closer and persist on having sex with you? Seeing that you are so open to the concept and all.
My dear, why pull yourself down to such a level just to get the even with someone who probably doesn't even care.
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okay well, there is this kid i kno who liked me first and then i started liking him, and he is so sweet. But, he has a g/f. My friend asked him if he liked me and he said yes and she said well don't you have a g/f. He responded "yeah but we are planing on breaking up but i want her to break up wit me becuase her dad is the coach of the football team, and I don't want him to hate me". So my friend said "yeah but i know how you are too(meaning that he is a very sextual person)and renee isn't like that she won't let you have it that easily." which im not im not reeally that sextual toward a guy .. Anyway so he said"yeah but i can be pretty persuasive." so you see my questions are as follows
-do you think i should back off and totally
ignore him till i get over him(which would be
really hard becuase i like him sooo much i never
liked a guy like this before)so i don't get hurt?
-do you think he only wants me for _ _ _?
-should i keep liking him or would that be wrong?
-and if you think i keep liking him if i will get hurt?
Thank you so much if you can help im so confused i can't consentrate in school cuz i like him so much i can't sleep cuz i think bout him all night. I don't know what to do PLEASE HELP. by the way im a 15 year old female in high school
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My dear girl, you have a life ahead of you. There is no rush. There will be other guys out there. Better ones.
And YES!! You should get over him. If those were his exact words, he is going to do whatever he is planning to do. And i need not spell it out for you.
I think that pretty much says it all. And yes, if you persist, you might end up having your heart broken.
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what do you call the dip in the middle of your back? like how the back slightly caves in vertically at the bottom (link)
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Er... I'm not sure if it has a name. But that "dip" comes from the shape of your backdone.
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HELP!!!! i have horrible sunburn what do i do to make me feel beter i can't move i have been crying all day cause it hurts so bad i can't put clouths on unless i scream help me plez thanx (link)
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Whatever you do, do not apply ice. Or bathe in cold water.It will only make it worst. Luke warm water will be most appropriate.
Aloe Vera is widely used to ease sunburn. If you can't find any, just get a skin lotion with Aloe Vera & Vit E (Johnson & Johnson Baby Lotion). The Aloe Vera content will help cool down your burns and the Vit E it will help regenerate your skin.
Don't worry, the pain will go off in a couple of days. If your sunburn is REALLY unbearable, you might want to consider consulting a doctor.
Remember to put on extra sun block lotion the next time you go under the sun. Which reminds me, stay away from direct sunlight. Cover up if you have to.
You'll be fine. Get well soon.
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ok well i get made fun of almost everyday. . mostly because i am really white. is there anyway i can make them to stop? ive tried standing up for myself and being nice to them and i dont want to tell a teacher because ive done that and they didnt do anything. . so wats a good way for them to stop?
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There is nothing wrong with being really white. I can assure you.
Frankly, being laughed at when you are different is a very common thing. Especially in highschool. And sometimes even in society where adults rule. So don't worry about it.
There could be several reasons why people make fun of others:
1. They are just too naive to know the difference/ understand why some people are just different.
2. To cover up the fact that they are different too. Look, to them, you look different. But hey, to you, they look different too. It's just that they are considered "normal" because there is a majority of the same kind around.
3. They haven't learn the valueable lesson of respect.
Don't worry too much about it. It is something that will wear out in time.
What you can do:
1. Ignore them
2. If talking to your teacher doesn't help. Talk to your parents and ask them for their opinion. I am sure they understand your plight and will guide you through.
3. Meanwhile, you can forget about fitting and being on of them. In actual fact, EVERYONE is different!! No two people are exactly the same. Therefore every individual is UNIQUE.
4. Look for qualities that are in you. You may be good at a lot of things. Encourage yourself to achieve something through your interests. You could be a great athlete, run your heart out. Indulge in something that you can achieve in.
Good luck!!!
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hey, i need some tips on learning how to do a split and/or straddle. i cant go that far down yet but is there anything i can do to get quick results?
i'd like as many advice comments as possible and i will rate very high. (link)
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Unfortunately there is no fast way to achieve a split. Unless you are 5 years old or something like that.
But seriously, if you push yourself too much and force yourself to do it, you might end up with permanent muscle tear. I don't think you want that.
All you have to do is to constantly stretch out and do your splits. Try going down as low as you can and hold the position. The more you do it, the more your muscles will get accustomed to the "idea" and relaxes more and more everytime you do it. You will be doing full splits before you know it. It takes constant practice. If you are of a young age, it'll be easier for you.
Look, if i can do a full split at the age of 23 and with thighs as thick as tree trunks, so can you. Just be consistent with your practices.
Good luck!!
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I am 18/m, there is a girl who i really like and want to get closer to her. I met her through high school but we are now at different unis although i still stay in contact with her online and I have her mobile number. To me she is a really nice person, she used to help me out like with studies and give me advice when im down, basically i feel like we are having some sort of connections. However i just realise that im not the only boy she is nice to, there are others -_-.
A week ago she invited me to watch a movie with her at a theatre and i asked who was going and she told me that about 2 more others are coming but on that day there were like 11 people and most of them are guys. What worst is that she didn;t really talk to me much on that day and i kinda feel left out. However she did offer me a ride to the cinema and then drove me home after but she also offer to drive another guy home too even though he doesn;t live near her, i was like wtf.
A few days later when i was online chatting to her, she told me that she gonna go study with 2 guys at a library sometime during this week and 1 of the guy was the same guy that went to the cinema with us.(im not invited to go study with them)
So is this girl just flirting with me? im confused because it looks like she is just a good friend and nothing more. I don't want to ask her anything about this yet because she might feel uncomfortable answering it and start avoiding me and i hate it when people start avoiding me. She may sound like a sl*t because everytime i see her she is with a bunch of guys but she is too nice to be one lol
Plz i need expert advice because im too new to all this crap, should i just get over her and move on? because this is not helping me with my studies
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Hey, if a female is seen being with a bunch of guys everytime is consider a sl*t, then i can tell you there are many more sl*ts in this world you won't be able to breathe. Try your best to not take things so literally.
I don't have the exact answer to your question. The only person who can give you the answer is her. But there are several ways to look at this situation.
But to address your question you have to determine if you really like this girl for who she is or just plainly because she was nice to you. From what you've described, she is just one of those nice person around.
And another thing, does she know how you feel? She could be treating you like a really close friend, just a friend or she really likes you.
My reasoning:
If she takes you as just a friend, there could be a possibility that she didn't realise she was neglecting you at that time because all she wants to do it to have a good time at the movies with a bunch of friends. Regardless whether they were girls or guys. And sending her friends home is not such a big deal to her. It was just a friendly gesture. If the only reason you are stressing over it just so because it was a guy she is giving a lift to, then what are you? A girl? Maybe it is just something you expected her to do for you and not others, especially not to another guy.
If she takes you as a close friend, she could be just wanting to share things with you. Things that are going on with her life (friends, asking you to hang out (movie), everyday things, etc) Since you guys are keeping in contact with each other and all. Conversations like this becomes a regular thing and its normal (I refer to telling you about studying in the library).
If she really likes you, all that you've described will be an act of reverse psychology. She may be doing it to get you to notice her. Hoping you would do something about it.
For whatever the reasons, the best to do it to talk to her. And definitely not through the net. If you don't want to ask her outright, try having casual talks with her. Ask her about the guys whom you've met. Casually ask her if she was looking at having a relationship with anyone of them. Do this face to face, so that you can read her expressions.
You really have nothing to lose. She is already your friend. If you're lucky, you guys will move on to the next level.
All of this is just analysis. Good luck and i hope things work out for the both of you.
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Is it possible to extract the perfume from a perfume ad or something? I tried rubbing one on my neck and it smelled good for a while. I have a small collection now, from magazines, and could just use these for free instead of buying the real thing! (link)
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If you really like the perfume... why not just save up and buy it.
If you are just into collecting them... Yes, some people actually collect mini versions of perfumes. Those small lil ones usually costs less but are not easy to find.
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