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my best friends are complete weirdness right now
14/f. jonathon, my best guy friend, has been acting like a jerk to me the past few weeks. i got mad about it, and we kind of stayed away from each other for a few days. he and i were really close before then and told each other everything. as soon as jonathon and i quit talking for awhile, sarah, my other best friend, started hanging around him and he apparently "replaced" me with her in the sense that he began to tell her everything and stuff (his "depressing" life story and the big part that i played in it). so last night jonathon and i resolved our issues, and he told me that there's no excuse for the way he's been treating me, but the only reason that he's been weird is that he has a major crush on me and kind of doesn't know how to act around me right now because he likes me but doesn't want to scare me off (we had talked about not dating anybody until high school, so even if we like each other we kind of vowed to just stay friends). so now things are kind of how they used to be (after we were "cool" again, he asked me to this big banquet for next year as friends and i said okay). now i'm hoping that things are going to be just the way they were before. but, i'm worried that he's replaced me with sarah as somebody to talk to. do y'all think that i'm overreacting? by the way, i don't like him in that way, he's just my best friend. do you think that maybe he started hanging around sarah more to make me jealous or something?
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I think he doesnt know how to act around you so he tells sarah more stuff because he likes you. and maybe the stuff he asks her is how to be better friends with you. I dont think your overreacting but you shouldnt get mad at him for talking to your best friend. espicially if you dont like him like that. cause then it wouldnt matter right?
hope i helped
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I think that he isn't trying to make you jealous it's just that he might feel weird liking you if you two were such good friends.When a guy & girl are such good friends it kind of is weird to like each other.To me it doesn`t at all seem like Sarah is replacing you.I think everything will turn out the way it was before.
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Well he proboly felt that sarah was someone that he could talk to and not feel wierd around, because he doesnt like her so shes just the talking part. However he hasnt replaced you dont worry, guys wont just randomly change their feelings about their friends, especially since he said he didnt have a good reason for being wierd. He proboly still likes you, and wont be changing his feelings any time soon, but dont worry because friends that like eachother, or friends like you guys, where only one likes the other, can stay friends even under the circumstances! ive been through the same thing, we're still fiends and i love him like a brother now, an he knew i liked him but we stayed friends, and even got closer because of it! dont worry, your not replaced, and itll all be ok!
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guys they like to be odd. dont worry as a friend he has not replaced u. he probly is not tring to make u jealous. just wait it out it will all work out
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I think that things between you and this guy really won't be the same again because of the tension that is going on right now. Having feelings for someone while the other person doesn't have feelings can change a lot of things in a relationship.
In a way, I can see why he's confiding in another person because maybe you are part of his secrets or part of what he's always talking about. Like when you confide in a best friend about a guy you really like, you would never confide in the guy you liked because it's secret. Sometimes it's just too hard to keep balances in male and female friendships because half of the time, someone will start to like the other person. And once that person knows, everything changes.
I think what you should do is give everything more time. When he decides to come to you about a problem or just someone to talk to, let him open up and don't use the fact that he's been turning to someone else against him. He may come out of his shell later, and the only way to keep a friendship going is to wait for things to change again.
-TheTeenGirl
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He probably just needed sarah at that time becuase he didnt have you to talk to. Im sure it will be all fine again now that your friens. You could just ask him what was up wiht that and if it wil go back to the way it use to be.
-xoxJess
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well i know how it is..i had a crush on my best friend.. if your best friends it feels awkward to be around and talk to your crush. and hes probably hanging out with sarah because u werent there?
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A delicate situation.
I think i know how he feels. I had a crush on my best friend and there are just some things that i want to tell him but i can't anymore. Why? Because once those things are said, it might affect how our friendship. As in, he might pull away from me. And he feels the same way you do. He doesn't like me that way.
Take it easy, Jonathon could be just considering your feelings and thinking about the friendship rather than making you jealous.
And probably the only reason why he began talking to Sarah is because his best friend wasn't there to talk to him and he desperately needed someone to talk to?
By the way, you'll never know. By highschool, you might grow fond of him.
Whatever the situation, maintain the friendship.
Good luck!!!
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hey, alk to him about it. let him know that you dont like him in that way. hes probably just looking for soemone to talk to because hes afraid to talk to you. the reason why hes afraid is cause hes now intimidated by you because he likes you. cait♥
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Well I guess I can say i've been through this. I would defintly talk to him about it no matter how hard it'd be and if that doesnt work write him a letter. Guys are sometimes clueless but you need to let him know if he's acting wierd like this. I can also see how he'd be slightly emberassed but the older you grow the more fonder you may become of him. I would just try to avoid talking about boyfriends, couples, marriage, and anything that way you are not puttin him in akward position.
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