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Does she have feelings for me?
I am 18/m, there is a girl who i really like and want to get closer to her. I met her through high school but we are now at different unis although i still stay in contact with her online and I have her mobile number. To me she is a really nice person, she used to help me out like with studies and give me advice when im down, basically i feel like we are having some sort of connections. However i just realise that im not the only boy she is nice to, there are others -_-.
A week ago she invited me to watch a movie with her at a theatre and i asked who was going and she told me that about 2 more others are coming but on that day there were like 11 people and most of them are guys. What worst is that she didn;t really talk to me much on that day and i kinda feel left out. However she did offer me a ride to the cinema and then drove me home after but she also offer to drive another guy home too even though he doesn;t live near her, i was like wtf.
A few days later when i was online chatting to her, she told me that she gonna go study with 2 guys at a library sometime during this week and 1 of the guy was the same guy that went to the cinema with us.(im not invited to go study with them)
So is this girl just flirting with me? im confused because it looks like she is just a good friend and nothing more. I don't want to ask her anything about this yet because she might feel uncomfortable answering it and start avoiding me and i hate it when people start avoiding me. She may sound like a sl*t because everytime i see her she is with a bunch of guys but she is too nice to be one lol
Plz i need expert advice because im too new to all this crap, should i just get over her and move on? because this is not helping me with my studies
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she sounds like a man girl 1 who chooses what she wants, if you want her just be your self and ask her , be honest tell her how you feel , if she likes you you will knowe then , if she doesn't move on see someone else go party
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The way I see it, she sounds like she doesn't have any more feelings for you than friendship.
If you want to get closer to her, try inviting her to a movie alone instead of her inviting you and all of her other friends. Don't bail on movie plans if she invites you again, but let her know that you aren't crazy about the idea of going with 11 other people, and you'd rather go with about 3 or 4 other people. And I understand that, because unless there is a birthday party going on, that's just insane to have that many people go. Especially if you only know 1 person out of that 11.
I don't have the idea that she's a slut and nobody else should just because she has a lot of friends who happen to be generally males. If she's flirting with all of them, which is pretty normal, then I wouldn't go for her until she settles down a little bit. Maybe you should still hang out with her, but how about you do the planning, and sometimes invite your friends for her to meet.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hey, if a female is seen being with a bunch of guys everytime is consider a sl*t, then i can tell you there are many more sl*ts in this world you won't be able to breathe. Try your best to not take things so literally.
I don't have the exact answer to your question. The only person who can give you the answer is her. But there are several ways to look at this situation.
But to address your question you have to determine if you really like this girl for who she is or just plainly because she was nice to you. From what you've described, she is just one of those nice person around.
And another thing, does she know how you feel? She could be treating you like a really close friend, just a friend or she really likes you.
My reasoning:
If she takes you as just a friend, there could be a possibility that she didn't realise she was neglecting you at that time because all she wants to do it to have a good time at the movies with a bunch of friends. Regardless whether they were girls or guys. And sending her friends home is not such a big deal to her. It was just a friendly gesture. If the only reason you are stressing over it just so because it was a guy she is giving a lift to, then what are you? A girl? Maybe it is just something you expected her to do for you and not others, especially not to another guy.
If she takes you as a close friend, she could be just wanting to share things with you. Things that are going on with her life (friends, asking you to hang out (movie), everyday things, etc) Since you guys are keeping in contact with each other and all. Conversations like this becomes a regular thing and its normal (I refer to telling you about studying in the library).
If she really likes you, all that you've described will be an act of reverse psychology. She may be doing it to get you to notice her. Hoping you would do something about it.
For whatever the reasons, the best to do it to talk to her. And definitely not through the net. If you don't want to ask her outright, try having casual talks with her. Ask her about the guys whom you've met. Casually ask her if she was looking at having a relationship with anyone of them. Do this face to face, so that you can read her expressions.
You really have nothing to lose. She is already your friend. If you're lucky, you guys will move on to the next level.
All of this is just analysis. Good luck and i hope things work out for the both of you.
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hey!! ok basically the way i see it there are 2 things that could be going on:
1) she could just like you as a friend, and invite you places because she sees you as a friend. or
2) she likes you but it waiting for you to make the first move. by inviting you places and bringing other guys and paying attention to them, she could be trying to make you jealous. she is also doing the same thing when she tells you that she is going to do things like study with other guys, and doesn't invite you to come along.
basically the only way to find out is by asking her to go out with just you. ask her to go to a movie or to go eat or something like that! one on one... just you and her! if she agrees, then you could be on to something, and you can start working towards building a relationship with her. if she says no, then she just wants to be friends, and you can move on and find another girl that will give you as much attention as you're willing to give her!! :) good luck!
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Maybe she just is a flirt and proberly gets on with guy mates better, I know that kind of sounds stupid but my mates just like that. But if you want to find out what she thinks of the other guys you speak of ask her not like in a direct way but by going "so who is X then?" "I saw you flirting with him do you fancy him?" just half tease her or go "so who you fancy at the moment then?" Just do it half as a joke so it won't create an uncomfortable moment as you can turn it into a joke or a "I was only messing with your head". Best of luck. xxxx
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Personally, this girl sounds like a tease. It is probably best to avoid getting too involved as it just might lead to heartache. You should find someone who is interested in you, not someone who invites you out and ignores you and dangles other men in front of you.
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