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my problem with love
I'm 16 years old. I've never had a girlfriend, I've never been kissed, I've never even held hands. Is something wrong with me? I feel like I'm missing out on one of the best parts of my teenage years. Is it wrong that it hasn't happened yet? Is it a bad thing? And what about when I finally do get a girl. Is she not going to want to be with me because I'm not experienced enough to make her happy? I guess the advice I need is how do I stop worrying so much. The only reason it bothers me so much is because of my age. I'm 16, I should have at least gotten to 3rd base by now, and I damn sure should have fallen in love. Please help! I appreciate it.
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It's nothing abnormal. You know what, consider yourself lucky you haven't fallen in love yet, because once you break up, it hurts.. bad. If you are worried about a girl not liking you cuz your not experienced, then don't tell her. Maybe she will be surprised and you'll be better than you think. It's a good thing you haven't yet. High school is all about fun, so go out and have fun! Just look around local places like the mall or movies and talk to girls. Hope I helped..
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Lots of people your age haven't had their first ANYTHING yet, either. Don't think you're the only one, because you aren't. Everyone takes time for something like this to happen. Some get it when they're 12, others when they're 16 and some even only have their first time when they're 18-30. It just depends on the person and if they're ready or not. It doesn't really matter if you didn't have your first kiss/loose your virginity and such, yet. You're only 16, hun. You have tons of time! When your first kiss comes/first time you have sex with someone, it should be with someone special that you care about and you want to do this with. You always remember your first time. So, don't get pressured into it. Make sure you're 100% comfortable with the person you're with. Give it time, though. It will come and it'll be that much more special when it does, because you waited until you were ready. ♥
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The thing is, you can't rush it! There is nothing wrong with you, and it's not wrong that it hasn't happened yet. It's not that bad of a thing at all. When you finally get the girl, it's okay. The girlfriend that wants a real relationship won't care that you're "not experienced." And where the hell does it say you should've been to 3rd base by now? No offense to anyone you know, but guys that are hungry for sex and everything...not my thing. I understand your age, don't get me wrong, but just slow down. When it comes, it comes.
xoxJeSSxox♥
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Don't worry too much about it, everyone finds these things at different times. I know many of my friends are eighteen and haven't had much experience. And I doubt many ppl actually honestly fall in love at your age. If you want to have a girlfriend, find a girl you like and start flirting with her and ask her out. I know that's a hard thing to do, but you gotta try if you really want to experience something and get a girlfriend.
But don't worry, most people say they've got a lot of experience, but they don't really. And no, I don't think a girl would be turned off by the fact that you don't have experience. Personally, I find it refreshing when a guy hasn't been with many girls. =)
good luck, and don't worry too much about it. These things happen naturally.
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