I am 42,male, my brother is 50 married with one son.
My brother recently(9 months ago) won £4.5 million UK pounds on the lottery. My Question is this, he sent me a copy of him receiving the cheque and that is it, I considered us to be pretty close prior to his win, but all i feel now is bitterness, not jealousy, which i can imagine people would say i am. just bitter, i always said and still maintain that i would help my family out if such a windfall should fall on me, am i wrong to feel this emotion or should i be angry, I am really struggling with this so constructive answers would, i hope help me to come to terms with this,
Its normal to feel bad when other people don't act the way that you would. You have to remember that he is different from you, although you were brought up under the same roof.
Try not to let the money come between you and your brother. Maybe if you didn't distance your self, you would feel better about what is going on. Money doesn't necessarily make you happy or keep you company. Feel good in the fact that you won't have to take care of your brother for a long while.
Do you really need to be "helped out?" I wouldn't be so quick to beg for a favor until you really needed it. Living simply is not necessarily a bad thing.
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ok i just got home, its halloween, sucks im in so early right? well ok my cheeks hurts, my friends and i went out, there were like 13 of us and we're just goofing off, having fun, being normal teens on halloween, egging... and some van pulls up and stops in the middle of the street, there were like a LOT of gangbangers in there and they started shotting.. i thought it was eggs and stuff and we didn't know they were aiming at us, i mean we dont even know who the fuck they were, and my friends are all dodging and i am to but im a lil slow, and i got hit and they run off. i touch my cheek and its HUGE ... and green, then i find out that i got hit by a paintball, so i put on soo much ice, i don't want my parents to see it cause they'll start bitching, and well i put cover up on when i got home. i dont want people starting roomers at school, and i need some explanations i could use. we came up with i popped a pimple, lol, i scratched my self, something bit me, ... and i need something better. its not too big but its noticeable. does anyone have any ideas i can use to get rid of it faster and what cover up is good? thanks a bunch!
ps ... by the way im 14 if that helps! =) thanks again. ill rate you!
The more blue it turns, the more you want something a little more yellow to cover it and make it look "normal." You need a "tattoo" cover up. Ask an actor or visit your local beauty counter.
As far as telling your parents, they can't kill you, its againat the law. I am sure they have done some equally stupid stuff, and its part of growing up. Maybe you actually learned something.
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Hi again, my friend Dj who is 23 is having
some problems but is too shy to seek help.
He has been unemployed for 4 years, and is currently on welfare. He isn't "stupid" but everytime he goes to an interview he ALWAYS gets turned down. Dj always dresses appropriately and shows up on time to the interview but this still isn't working. He's applied for everything from retail, aged care work, bar work etc etc.
Also, studying is out of the question as he cannot afford the fees. Any suggestions would be helpful .
Has he tried to get placement with a temporary company? Sometimes a temporary job can become a permanent one.
Also, he could consider volunteer work. Then if a job comes open with whomever he is working with, he could have one foot in the door already.
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this may sound reallly stupid but what does "drink him under the table mean" thanx!
"I will drink you under the table." I (the person giving the challenge) can drink more alcohol than you can. Basically, the you (the other person) will be passed out and under the table before the challenger.
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In my girlfriends church, they wanted to arrange for her to get married to another man in the US, unknowingly to her, they told her to bring her picture for something else, but they wanted to show the guy in the US. the pastor wife too is involved, cos she was the one that asked her if she was engaged with anyone and she said yes,not knowing the reason behind the question. she now found out one day that such thing was going on without her knowledge.I'm don't know what will happen now that she knows what is on ground,even the devil can use her through the pastors wife. so pls. help me, I need advice.
They can't just ship her away without her consent can they? You definitely need to talk to your girlfriend. This underhanded selling someone off to another country is wrong if the bride in question has not agreed to it. Very often they end up in bad relationships.
It sounds like you either need to show up at her church more often, or you two need to get far away from these people. Pray.
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i cant decide! i like this boy and he likes me and his brother likes me too. so anyways there is also another boy that i think im starting to like and i dont know what to say or what to do. what should i do?
Ok. As far as the brothers are concerned, I wouldn't choose them because it will cause a rift in their family. It might not, but it would probably end up being a soap opera somewhere. It just doesn't sound like a good idea.
As far as what to say, ask him about things that you like and see if he likes them too. Read the newspaper and talk about current events. All you have to do is get the ball rolling, and you will end up somewhere interesting.
Sometimes when you are beginning a relationship, you just have to go on the first impulse and build from there.
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hey!
Im in theater class and i have to do a monoluge containing a conflict in it. I really want to awake feelings in people and by uniuqe...one that no one will have. most of the ideas i came up with are already taken such as playing a teenager with a defect and his issues, or about to love someone or forget someone. im really kinda clueless right now, and i need as much as i can get. If you're going to answer this, please make sure u dont give me some relevent ideas, but something that u think if is acted well, could awake strong feeling in the crowd. thank u very much!! have a good day =D
I don't know if you are having to write a monologue or not. If you need ideas, spend a few hours at the library. The most interesting plays I have found are usually done by either minorities or the Humana Festival.
If you have to write it from scratch, think about some of the issues in the newspaper: abortion, stem cell research, iraq, homeless people. Dealing with a disability isn't a bad idea. Then you need to think of what kind of characters you want to deal with it. Cranky, happy, troubled, and mix them up so that you have one side of an issue or problem and how one particular person thinks it should go, and then the "devil's advocate."
I hope this helps.
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I am going to a whole bunch of places this year and i need to save a lot of money but i'm really bad at saving money because i always go shopping with my friends and stuff. What should i do?? I'll rate.
If you have a job, you can direct deposit your check into an account in which you spend money out of, and you can have them set aside money into savings.
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I know his family, he's not living with his SO
He obviously doesn't want to commit right now.
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Hey Guys, I need your help in overcoming one of the problem residing in me. You may call it as conservativeness or inferiority complex.
Rihgt from my childhood I speak less. I remember people used to ask me to talk atleast a sentence. I never bothered anybody. I never thought of this problem seriously before. But now I feel that I am missing something. I observed, before talking, I always think what others will say, what they will think. Is it a problem or complex? If yes, please give some remedy to overcome it. Thanks.
If you are overanalyzing what people will say after you talk, then it might be a problem. I think there should be more listeners in this world. The cool thing about not being verbose is that when you do make a statement other people actually listen to what you do have to say.
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March 04 - through a friend of a friend we are both spending an evening at a mutual friend's place taking the mickey out of eachother
April 04 - I found an excuse to email him (lives on the other side of the world)
email contact for 6 weeks progresses to him saying "so why don't you have a boyfriend, you're lovely"
July 04 - he calls me, 3 hrs on the phone trying to get him to realise that yes, I fancied him
one week later - he wants to see me again and suggests I take a trip, I suggest that if he want to see me that much, he'll take the trip to see me"...he agrees and we find a time that suits my work schedule
between july and September we spend 2-3 hours on the phone each mornign & evening - mostly him calling me, countless emails, texts, msn messenger etc...
September 04 - we spend two weeks together, it's amazing in every way.
Before he returns home we talk about what we do from here, I suggest trying to get my work posted to where he is , he agrees saying that would give us theopportunity to test living together
October 04 - I have a more fantastic offer from my boss than the one I proposed (sebatical allows me time off with job guaranteed at the end, holiday pay paid out up front, plus my boss will set up a job over there for me) I'm elated...call the man
He gives me reason after reason why moving to his country is a bad idea right now (weather, flatmate doesn't want additional person in the house, flat lease requires 2 months notice to leave, no girl has made an effort for him before, I love my career and he's worried that my boss allowing a 9 month sebatical will result in my not getting my job back at the end of it)
I give him space, don't contact him
He tells me I don't call anymore
I ask what's happening, I need to give my boss an answer, he advises, I'll call you after work babe...
I wait about a week (he's overseas with work)
He calls but hasn't spoken to flatmate properly yet
I get drunk at a party in the weekend, call him, get emotional, cry (ok, cry a fair bit)
When he finally phones a few days later it's to give me that cheesy "I don't know how to say this but I think we should just be friends" line
He gave me these reasons:
there are reasons (nope, I have no idea what these illusive 'other reasons' are)
if would be different if we lived in the same country, met and dated, then lived together.....but me putting everything on hold and us living together after 12 days and one evening makes him feel pressured
Over the week previous to our last conversation I too decided that living together was a bit of a big step and would mean I would rely on him too much, so arranged alternative accommodation with family, hence removing that pressure from us both. Unfortunately he had already made up his mind when he gave me the friends speech, so I didn't get the chance to let him know.
I think this guy is fantastic, he is everything I never thought I would find. He has said the same without my prompting.
I don't understand why he has cut me off, please help I'm devastated.
He was enjoying the ability to have a relationship with the distance. His flatmate is probably his Significant Other. When you actually went to the trouble to get things arranged to be together and he hands you a bunch of lame excuses, there is a huge red flag telling you that this is not going to happnen. Be glad you didn't waste too much of your time and move on.
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I am going to a concert that falls on my birthday (Nov. 12th, I'll be 24). My boyfriend and I got tickets with his brother and his brother's g'friend who is also my best friend of 10 years. Now, I've written a little about this before, I may write about it again too, the whole relationship deal going on, some of you may recognize. My best friend and I have had an intimate past. I am still very attracted to her. We are both bi-sexual and if we were to choose a chic for each other we would be together. But we are not, we are with two boys that are brothers. So, yeah, we're going to this concert, we're supposed to go altogether. But seeing as how her b'friend is extremely jealous of us hanging out, which he tries not to show, but makes it obvious in my eyes, I was talking to him the other day and he's like, "So, where are you guys parking for the concert? We're meeting you there, right? We want to take our car." (He speaks for my friend a lot, I've noticed). And I said, "Well, we have to drop the baby off in your town anyways, then why don't me and (my b'friend) drive up with you?" He's like, "I don't care." He said it low tone, I could tell he DOES care. So I dropped the subject with him and decided to take it up with my friend. I haven't done that yet. I know she will agree with me, but I also know he is going to influence her to side with him on trying to get out of it (being with us). Now my side of this is that the concert falls on my birthday. I want to be with friends. Also, I'm going to be on a break from my child for the first time since he was born. I want to hang out with friends, not just split up and go home after the show with my boyfriend which is where we spend all of our time when we have the baby. I want to be able to hang with them and have a couple of drinks with them (especially my chic friend that he never lets me have enough time with. It's not like we're going to do anything, I just want to be able to hang out at least halfway like the way we used to without being monitored by the boys. Now, he's not really the type of person you can just talk to, he'll always stick to his thoughts. Any suggestions? Should I just try to force the night the way I know it should go even if it entails a bad mood on her b'friend?
So if this situation is so uncomfortable, why do you keep putting yourself in it? Trying to hang on to two lovers is pretty darn hard.
Forcing the night to go a certain way will not work. You can try to influence it, but every time I have tried to even think of how it should go, it doesn't turn out that way. Just go and enjoy yourself and be grateful for those few hours without your child.
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i had this dog i loved and still do love, but some time ago it was killed by two really big and mean dogs my twin and i got this dog for a birthday gift from are parents because are really old dog died the thing is i really miss her and i just moved from Tx to Mass its not like my first move or anything its just i need to talk to someone about this and i cant talk to my family because they all miss hervery much too
If everyone in your family misses the dog, why don't you ask for another dog or pet? Apparently there is a huge gulf left by the absence of this beloved pet. It's hard, but you only have to bring it up once. Families are there to lean on.**********Well that would have been nice to know before I answered your question. Maybe you just need some grief conseling.
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Hey, I Just wanna say hi, you are the BEST advice giver out there, you don't give any of that "well, sit downa nd tlak to him" crap that other people seem to LOVE giving, You're on my Fav. list!
You are making me blush. Thanks.
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Hello, everybody. I'm sorry if this is a bit long. Just for info, I'm 24 and female, so I'm not a slut or anything for having sex. Anyway, my husband recently told me he used to pay prostitutes to have sex with him a few years back (he's five years older then me.) I was disgusted. Mu husband, who has pleasured me with oral sex and beyong NUMEROUS times, has had sex with several women who he barely knew. I need some advice on how to handle this. Is he going to still be fertile? Because I DO want to have kids. - Marcia
I would forgive him for one. He just needed to get it off his chest. He is with you now and forever. You have to trust him or you don't have a relationship.
I would have both of you have test for STDS. You may have already done this knowing what we know now. As far as fertile, as long as he didn't catch anything that hurt him, he's probably just fine. Sometimes you just have to start trying.
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ok my boyfriend will leave me messages and at the end of them hell tell me he loves me...and then when i call him back or watever or in person he wont say it....like i wrote i love u on his hand one day cuz we wer messin around and he just smiled....im so confused why wont he say it to me in person or on the fone but hell say it in messages?
Hang tight. He is working his way up to saying it. Don't panic. It will come.
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my boyfriend of one year has told me that he wants to take a "break" from me and he wants space. I didnt have a problem with it at first until he started to be mean to me and not wanting me to call him. He says we used to argue alot and he feels if we take a "break" it will make our relationship better when we get back 2 gether. i love him and miss him and i dont understand why he's being soo mean and why he expects me to act as if i dont care
HELP ME PLEASE
He is being mean to force the issue. He is frustrated and needs some time. Give it to him. If the relationship is worth anything, he will be back.
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Our 21 year old daughter had to move back home, because her roomate moved out to go to college. Our daughter couldn't afford rent on her own, so she moved in with us. She got a job working as a cocktail waitress in a real dumpy bar, now she has started dating a "regular" from the bar, and he is a 23 year old drug(meth)dealer. I have pleaded with her not to go out with this loser, to no avail. Question: Should we throw her out and risk her moving in with the boyfriend or try to put up with it, in hopes that she will see the light and dump him. She says she really likes him. As far as I know, she is not using meth, but does smoke pot. I am really scared.
Yikes. The more you push her to dump him, the worse it is going to get. Can you talk to any of her friends that would talk some sense into her? Maybe she would at least get the message if everyone including mom and dad were singing the same tune "He's dangerous. He's going nowhere, and he about to suck you down so low that you won't have a chance at a decent life anymore." Is there someone else who is an adult that she treasures there advice? That would probably be the best person to get on your side.
I wouldn't actually throw her out unless she is bringing the drugs into your house. Mainly, because going with him is probably the only other choice she thinks she has. You could try getting her another roommate or another apartment.
From her side of the fence, she isn't seeing clearly. There is something about him that makes her blind. I have recently gotten out from under a relationship that included a overbearing individual who I didn't realize was controlling my every free minute. You just don't realize what you have traded in until you are away from that situation.
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I am a 23 year old mother to an 11 month old son and I am still breastfeeding him. I am slowly introducing him to cow milk but he won't be ready for that full time for a month or 2 or 3, who knows. I love breastfeeding but am just about ready to be done with it even though I will miss being a size 36 C. The only thing I won't miss is going back to an A or B bra. I love the closeness and the bond my son and I share from it, but now it's like he's older so it's more annoying now because he is so clingy to my chest area not just to eat but for comfort. He eats 2-3 meals a day of baby jar foods and he loves little finger foods and he drinks juice but will not drink anything but that and breastmilk. He eats really well, but when he wants to be breastfed he gets so fussy and demanding and he puts on this really moody act wherever I am. I am sick of having to whip out my boob when I am with friends or family now. Not just because of how they look at me like, "you're still breastfeeding him?" but also because I am now annoyed by it, I want my freedom back. The problem is that my boyfriend works 2 jobs, he is on his feet from 6 a.m. until 1 a.m. 4 1/2 days a week and it is really important that he gets his sleep at night. Now we only have a 1 bedroom apartment so I need to keep my son quiet at night, so how do I do that? I breastfeed him all night long. It is hard to put him in his crib and keep him sleeping. I am still waking up with him at all hours of the night like he's a newborn!! Although I love to cuddle with him and wouldn't mind sleeping with him a little here and there I am sick of sleeping with him ALL of the time. I want to stretch out again and sleep for 8 hours at a time, not a 1/2 hour to 4 hours only. We are not getting a 2 bedroom apartment until April 1st, and believe me when that time comes things are so gonna change. But what do I do in the meantime? I can't afford formula, nor does my son like it. I heard something about mixing evaporated milk with organic milk until he is ready for full time cow milk. Does anyone have any suggestions? I want my son to become independent from his mommy's breast now. I'm afraid it is only going to get harder to keep him from wanting it the longer he stays attached. Urgent help, advice and suggestions are wanted A.S.A.P!! Thank you.
Ok. Please be advised that I don't have a child. But I think that you are just going to have to bite the bullet and say NO. Don't cave, don't give in because he knows he can throw a fit and get his way. Boyfriend is going to have deal with the fact that there is a baby in the house.
As far as sleeping with him, I would start now. If you just wait until he falls asleep and then go to your bed that will work for a little bit. Then start just spending a few minutes with him until you wean him away from sleeping with you too.
It's not easy being mom, but eventually everything will work out in the end.
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Why do people answer questions, just to say they don't know, or to ask somebody else?
Why do people answer questions they obviously, from their answers, don't have a clue about?
They think they are being cute.
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