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about the concert
I am going to a concert that falls on my birthday (Nov. 12th, I'll be 24). My boyfriend and I got tickets with his brother and his brother's g'friend who is also my best friend of 10 years. Now, I've written a little about this before, I may write about it again too, the whole relationship deal going on, some of you may recognize. My best friend and I have had an intimate past. I am still very attracted to her. We are both bi-sexual and if we were to choose a chic for each other we would be together. But we are not, we are with two boys that are brothers. So, yeah, we're going to this concert, we're supposed to go altogether. But seeing as how her b'friend is extremely jealous of us hanging out, which he tries not to show, but makes it obvious in my eyes, I was talking to him the other day and he's like, "So, where are you guys parking for the concert? We're meeting you there, right? We want to take our car." (He speaks for my friend a lot, I've noticed). And I said, "Well, we have to drop the baby off in your town anyways, then why don't me and (my b'friend) drive up with you?" He's like, "I don't care." He said it low tone, I could tell he DOES care. So I dropped the subject with him and decided to take it up with my friend. I haven't done that yet. I know she will agree with me, but I also know he is going to influence her to side with him on trying to get out of it (being with us). Now my side of this is that the concert falls on my birthday. I want to be with friends. Also, I'm going to be on a break from my child for the first time since he was born. I want to hang out with friends, not just split up and go home after the show with my boyfriend which is where we spend all of our time when we have the baby. I want to be able to hang with them and have a couple of drinks with them (especially my chic friend that he never lets me have enough time with. It's not like we're going to do anything, I just want to be able to hang out at least halfway like the way we used to without being monitored by the boys. Now, he's not really the type of person you can just talk to, he'll always stick to his thoughts. Any suggestions? Should I just try to force the night the way I know it should go even if it entails a bad mood on her b'friend?
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So if this situation is so uncomfortable, why do you keep putting yourself in it? Trying to hang on to two lovers is pretty darn hard.
Forcing the night to go a certain way will not work. You can try to influence it, but every time I have tried to even think of how it should go, it doesn't turn out that way. Just go and enjoy yourself and be grateful for those few hours without your child.
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This guy obviously has a major jealousy problem but it's his problem not yours. It's your birthday and you should spend it the way you want to. Enjoy yourself and ignore any evil eyes he gives you.
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tell them how u feel. u need to talk to them and work it out bc if u feel to monitored by them then u should tell them. u need to comunicate w/ them. i hope i helped ~steph~
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i can't really help you, but god bless you...
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