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how long should a 15 year old penis be unerect (link)
when mine is down it'll be like maybe 2 inches and just kinda hanging there. it's not supposed to be anything special when it's down. it's just kinda there. when it gets up there's an explosion in size but until then just live with the little dude.


okay my first question...
Why are the moderators on this webite so rude?
and
My next question...
How was more helpfully to the world?
Princess Diana or Mother Thersea (sp?)?
Also which ones death was more tragic???
Thanks

Cody* (link)
because theyre all a bunch of jaks!

now to the serious question. im british, and so im going to say that diana's death was a lot more tragic over here. i think her death also had more impact, because if you go straight to the roots, then you will be confused with the amount of questions that pop up. would you blame the driver? the paparazzi? or cammila...:@ im not a big fan of hers. driver was drunk, sort of. the motorcyclists paparazzi were following her, and the if they wernt, they wouldnt have needed to speed. now we talk about cammila, or how ever you spell her name. she forced the couple to break up (charles and diana) and then she took her place as charles' companion. now if she never interfeared, then diana would have been with charles, and not in france with dodi-her lover. because she loved charles at the time, so i guess thats what i think-diana's death had more impact.

mother teresa's death also had an impact, but she was getting old and her health was deteriorating, and some were predicting she would die soon. i think that if someone old dies, and they died of a heart attack or something, its not so tragic. people understand that they were getting old and there time was coming up soon. diana on the other hand was at the peak of her life, and was killed in an accident. so i hope i helped. by the way im 15 :D clever eh?


when my boyfriend and i have sex, he doesnt want to finish in my vagina because i'm not on birth control and he's afraid of me getting pregnant.

what are other ways that he can finish. like i dont like the taste of semen so the mouth isnt an option.

do guys finish in a girl during anal?

what else can he do? (link)
i had a girl once who liked me to finish all over her face. that was fun.

but i digress. fact is you can have him finish anywhere. anally works, on your stomach works, on your boobs, on your back, on your butt, it's really not too hard either way. just ask him about it and you'll figure something out.


i dont want this to sound bad of me, but my boyfriend doesnt want to have sex with me. we used to have great sex all of the time, but he won't now.

recently, he got ill but doesn't know what caused it, and it's lasted for over 2 weeks now. since then, he just hasn't been interested in sex.

why is this? like, could he be sick and not want it or can it be possible that he isn't interested in me anymore? we have been together for 2 1/2 years. (link)
go buy a dildo and wait it out honey. he'll come back around. but i know when i'm sick i can't get it up at all. your body feels too drained to do anything more than just lay there or sit there. especially if it's a serious disease or one that gets you slapped in the hospital. all you can do is wait it out. and i bet he'll bounce back with more vim and vigor than ever. or who knows he might be gay now. but it's doubtful that'd happen. you'll get some weiner soon.


I'm a 23 year old woman. I'm graduating from college by Christmas.

In the future, I really would like to get married, and most people marry someone they met in high school or college. There's no one at my college that I've met that I can see a future with. How hard is it to find your soulmate when you're out of school? (link)
honestly you're better off not finding someone in school. because when they're at that age all they do is drink, smoke pot, party, and goof off. all kids between the ages of 18-23 do this constantly and those that don't (like myself) are few and far between. but once kids get out of the college lifestyle they realize that they need to work to keep alive and they need to keep a job, and the animal house life they lived needs to change. and suddenly they mature up and get better. so i think you're better off now.

but the problem is that finding someone is not easy. believe me i know. it's hard to find a person to like, and then even harder to talk to them. because often times you'll be someplace and someone will walk in, and you have maybe a 20 minute window to say something to them before they leave. and if you don't say it you'll prolly never see em again. and the problem is they're just as scared of saying something as you are (most people don't have the guts to do anything) and it goes nowhere. finding someone is tough. and sure you could meet someone anywhere. work, school, the gas station it doesn't matter people are everywhere. but meeting them is the obstacle.


19/f, guy's 21/m.
Okay, so we dated for awhile last year, and then we broke up, but we stayed "together"...complicated. Anyway, so for like a year, this guy has been frustrating me, upsetting me, making me cry more often than smile (and I'm not a crier), and recently I feel like he and I have reconnected. We've both gone through some life changes recently, me moreso than him (a near death experience will do that to ya), and all of a sudden I feel like the guy I'm hanging out with and having fun with and flirting with is a completely different person than the guy who made me cry on and off for like a year straight.
Is it me that's changed and seeing his softer side, or do you think it's him that's changed?
There's like, visible chemistry between us again - it died down for awhile, but now everyone is asking me (I don't know about him) when we're getting back together.
I don't believe in second chances. I feel like we're still on our first. We had a slight hiatus where I was kind of dating someone else, but my heart wasn't in it. This guy that I'm talking about never fell out of love with me, I don't think. He used to have this really distinctive look right before he'd say "I love you", and I've been seeing it in his eyes a lot lately - he just hasn't said those three words...
He's been doing all this stuff for me that he's said he doesn't do, like paying for girls (granted, I'm broke and he's not a complete a$$hole), and chasing girls...I've tried to kind of "escape" him a couple of times, and he's never let me go.
I'm looking for opinions on this, I left it very open ended. Lemme know what you think. (link)
i think the person before me is right. the near death experience changed your perspective. but at the same time, no matter how changed your perspective might be the fact is he still doesn't treat you all that right. and it sounds to me like he's trying to make up for it and keep you around. doesn't sound to me like he wants you, heck he wont even say he loves you. sounds to me more like he just wants to keep you around out of a fear of being alone. and you want to keep him around even though he isn't that great because you learned a fear of death and of your mortality. and that; when someone learns of their mortality is often an experience that changes their whole life and makes them rethink everything.


how expensive is it to get a paint job for your car? (link)
depends on whether the job is a factory paint or custom job. custom jobs will get very very expensive. and to put it into perspective some of the more expensive paint (for mercedes and things like that) cost around 20 bucks an ounce for paint. the fact is that paint isn't cheap, and even if you find a place that'll paint it for the cost of paint only you'll still be paying out the ass.


Hi... i'm 15 and my penis size is 5 inches is that normal? (link)
well 6 is like the average
so you just a little below of the average
but not by muchhh


16/f

Sometimes I narrate what I'm doing in my head. For example, when I got an instant message the other night, while trying to sleep, in my head I was saying "All of the sudden she hears an IM pulling her from her distant slumber and curiously gets out of bed to walk over to her computer to find out who that mysterious being is and why they beckon her at such an odd hour. As she is sluggishly making her way to the blinking box, she is almost tripped by a cold, black rod and thinks to herself 'Strange, I don't remember putting that there.' and continues on her journey...etc."

I do it ALL the time, not just at night. Is this normal, do I have an over-active imagination, or should I seek medical attention? (link)
dude i do this too. i've been known to stand there at like a store or something and narrate the whole trip to the store and list of groceries to myself. and when narration gets intense i even begin to speak it as i walk or whatever. i don't think it's wrong or bad, just well weird. but eh everyone has their little qualms.


my dad calls me fat sometimes.. it makes me so mad! because really im not that fat.. i've gained a few pounds but im a growing girl who hasnt really played in sports for like a couple months, which is my parents fault for not registering me. i dont like running.. and i do it like once a week.. but i have to do things lik soccer or volleyball where i dont really pay attention to the fact that im running and such, making it easier. but when he calls me fat it really pisses me off because there are people waaay bigger than me. we dont have a scale.. but honestly im not that fat. i even eat healthy foods.. sometimes i eat candy and chocolate but what kid doesnt? i eat whats in the house which is usually like african food my mom and aunt make.. so... yeah.

and the "fat" comment really annoyed me too, cause that day i hardly ate anything at all. cause i had PMS and whenever i have PMS for some reason the cramps make me not wanna eat. (explanation?) cause my dad said i eat too much, and im like "how do yo know what i eat all the time? i barely even ate anything today!" im not going anorexic or anything but i felt like i wanted to do that or just eat alot to make him mad for saying that comment. he never apologized, which happens alot for alot of things.. they just forget about it the next day and not really apologize.. him AND my mom do that alot. but i dont forget. i dont like people calling me that. i should be able to choose how i feel about my body. obviously i DO know that im not in the best shape right now and i'll solve it.. but it pisses me off that he had to say that to me! i was like "i dont fucking care!" when i did.. and he like smacked me cause i said a cuss word.. and i like never do in front of my parents.. they dont even like the word "piss", though they call poop "shit" and say "damn" sometimes too.


ughhhhhhhhhhh please help me. 13/f. (link)
First of all don't listen to your parent's NEGATIVITY they're being jerks and are trying to make you feel bad. You know you aren't fat so you need to ignore it. Try talking to one of your parents [one who will have more chance of listening to you] and tell them how you feel.

Secondly if your father keeps smacking you and stuff, that is child abuse. You can't really do much about that unless there are a lot of visible bruises.

ADDED: I don't know how hard he smacks you or whatever. I just said that because I don't like it when parent's do that and it bothers me. [long story] I just don't think it's right.

I know you probably don't want to but if he smacks you for cussing then don't cuss around them even if they do cuss. All parents are hypocrites you need to know that. Ignore them. Don't listen to the hurtful things they say because you don't deserve to have those things said to you. Your parents are wrong and if they can't respect you, you obviously don't need to listen to the cruel things they say.



when my boyfriend and i have sex, he doesnt want to finish in my vagina because i'm not on birth control and he's afraid of me getting pregnant.

what are other ways that he can finish. like i dont like the taste of semen so the mouth isnt an option.

do guys finish in a girl during anal?

what else can he do? (link)
some guys can finish in anal, however use A LOT of lubricant. chances are you guys with have to practice a while before he can go faster to the point that it doesn't hurt you. i know he's afraid of getting you pregnant but you guys can try spermicidal condoms [you can only use one every 24 hours or it may irritate the vagina]. the spermicide should kill hi sperm in case the condom breaks. you can give him a hand job.

there's other things, but some are just too strange to mention.


i recently had a sleep over and i asked my friend b4 bed if she was gunna take her bra off and she said no, she wears it to bed, and its bad not too. then my other friend said you shouldnt wear one to bed cuz its bad for you or something. should you? will it change anything if you dont?
thanks xx (link)
It won't change anything. It could loose circulation but it's no big deal. Girls wear there bra to bed because they feel unsecere about their size. I use to until I figured out to love my size (34A). If you wear a underwire bra, they are the most uncomfortable bras to sleep in. One bra that is fine to sleep in is a slip in bra (whatever they call them).

GOod luck!


okay so i wear a 32C now and i can barely find that size anywhere.
besides victoria secret, where can i find a 32C (preferably push up) bra that is reasonably priced ($25 at most).
don't say target or walmart. i'v looked :]

thank you :] (link)
Why don't you try fit yourself again. It's more likley woman are 34C than a 32C. Try a 34C and see if it's too big. If it is, go down a size. It's difficult to find your size, I know. Try Kohl's. JCPenny? Dillards?


My breasts hurt alot when i run without a bra on. Is this normal? (link)
Of course! My breasts do and I only wear a 34A! Anyways, no matter what size, they'll hurt when you run. Wear sport bras while you run. Try something that snuggles them so they don't jiggle much> My hurt during my periods.


I wear a bra size 30A and I wear it on the very first hook and it makes marks right under my breasts, does this mean that I need a bigger size bra? Or is that normal..? If I don't need a bigger size, when do I know I need a bigger size? Please and thanks for answering these questions. (link)
There are two ways to solve this.

1. It's obvious! You said you use the very first hook and it makes under your bra? Well use the hook next to it. There are 3 hooks! Try that.

2. Get a 32A. It might feel more comfortable and no more marks under your breast?!

Try both and you see how it feels. Buy a 32A bra and use the other hooks. What feels comfortale wins!


hi. umm i am 13f and i havent started my period yet.. which is fine. but umm i am completely am totally flat. im not one of those girls with small boobs who just says shes flat. i really am quite literally FLAT. and i hate it. all of my friends (again, not exagerating) have boobs. how come i dont? will they ever come? because i do see adults sometimes that are flat. i really dont want to be like that. i have never had a boyfriend. my friends have. guys like girls with boobs. and dont say its not true. sorry huns, but uuh it is. guys used to like me in 5th grade and below because i am pretty, and then, nobody had boobs. but now that they do, im just a "little girl" compared to all of my friends. i really hate being flat. i dont know what i can do. obviously i cant magically make them appear.. but aah i hate it. i dont want to wear a padded bra because if someone bumps into me it will be obvious. what is a water bra? and wtf do i do????????
i rate 5. just pleease give me some good advice. (link)
You probably hear everyone grows at different ages and blah blah blah. I know how you feel when other people have these boobs and you don't! I can say that your a late bloomer. You will grow sooner or later. And when they grow, they grow! The first two years are the years when they grow. No woman is flat. They have a little and they normally wear no bra. If you want, you can wear a 32AA or a 32A. You won't fully fill in it but it gives you a little something. Even though you will have little boobs for a little while, it will grow. Being a "little girl" at the age of 13 is hard. It's going to be difficult to cope with this but you will go through this...one day after the another. I hope I didn't scare you!

Good LUck




Kayy. So this is deffinently veryy embarressing but I can't really talk to anyone about it so here it goes.
I'm 4'11 and a half, 82ish pounds, and a 32bra. I shave my legs. Basically, I'm going through puberty. A lot of my friends who have smaller boobs than me have already had their period? Am I late or are they early? [[it's more than one.]] Also, I've been getting discharge for a while now. But I get so much! I change my underware twice a day! Will I be getting my period soon? I'm sooo confused! Sorry for the nastyness. (link)
What is your age? So your worried about your period? (FYI You didn't have to include your height or bra size! You forgot your age so it's gonna be a little difficult answering. That's okay).

To make you feel good, every woman gets her period so you will too...sooner or later. If you get so much discharge that it's uncomfortable, wear panty liners. I remember when I got dicharge, my period was coming. Not real soon but within weeks or months. While at this stage, panny liners! I didn't have much as you did, but I got some...it worried me too...what the heck is this sticky stuff?! LOL

When you get your period, it's a very light thing. You won't know until it hits you. When you go to the bathroom one day when you get it, you'll see this brown stuf and a little bloody. That's all. It's very dry. Your first period is very painless (No cramps) and it's light to medium...when I had my first period was a long time ago but I'm trin' to rememebr. This is a happy period and your only! Not to scare you or anything.

If you are afraid how to tell your mom when you get it. there are many ways you can see it without saying it. Confusing? Of course! Puberty is difficult and hard. You can say I'm a woman now mom. Or you can say where are the sanitary pads? Or you can tell her straight foward, I got my period thing. I was soo afraid, I had to write my mom. No matter how you tell her, you'll feel relived after you tell her.

Good Luck!


Alright.....so I'm in the 9th grade and I'm 14. I'm friends with ALL guys.3 of them tease me about my boob size. I'm a 32B and they all say I'm small and I don't know what to do anymore. It gets really irritating and I just freeze and can't think of anything to say. Can anybody relate and give me a little advise here???
Thank You So Much!!! (link)
Men! I'm your age and your grade. Boys tend to be very annoying at this age. 32B is a good size. They are a good size to fit in tops and blouses. You don't want big boobs! They cuase bad back pains and everything. Especially they are in the way. At least you don't have big ones and a bunch of guys are around you looking at them not your face!

Boys are stupid. They don't see boobs aren't for looking. THis makes me so pissed! Guys think girls should have this big ones. THey don't even see they are a pain? I wanna see boobs on a man and make them wear this lame-o bras that are always in the way. Lets see how they feel? Tell them to shut their trap and they don't have to mess with this. No matter what size or shape, we get insulted just because of these that aren't even for guys. I hope I make sence and you understand this...LOL

I hope you feel better and stand up to those boys!


Does anyone know if Michael Jackson is really coming out with a new album? Theres a video on youtube of him & will.i.am talking about it but idk... When is the album expected to come out? (link)
Due to his problems, Michael Jackson isn't the best man on campus. Fans are more likely to be afraid from him than like him. Everyone thinks he's just a pervert so people are deciding not to purchase his music. Within these last months, Michael Jackson has been 'hibernating' so having a new album sounds unlikely. However, if he creates a new mix, the album will fail maybe. He's getting on the verge to end his music career because he's being unliked and old.
While the music is young, love his old music. That's what I do. It's difficult and wish he could make some good hits, but there's a change his new hits could be bad. :(


14/f
There is this guy thats my friends friend, and we dont know each other very well. anyway, we met once before and my friend introduced us. then, when i was leaving, i went to say bye to my friend and the guy. but when i left he asked me what my name was. no big deal i told him again. then the second time i met him i was sitting outside with my friends. he comes up and sits really close to me, a little closer than shoulder to shoulder. i turn and look at him, and he asks me my name again. i got nervous cause he was just a few inches away from me, but i answered. was he trying to flirt with me or was he just being a jerk? (link)
This is very odd behvaior! This sounds like a flirty thing. Guys normally don't come close to you and ask your name multiple times if they want to be a jerk. Jerks tend to annoy you and get you pissed off!

This sounds like flirting to me. He's nervous about what to talk about so he asks your name. It's simple question! Don't you think? If he comes up to you again and asks for your name, just ask him what is his name? You probably know already. Change the topic a little and he might sound a little more interesting.

Good luck




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