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I'm a 23 year old woman. I'm graduating from college by Christmas.
In the future, I really would like to get married, and most people marry someone they met in high school or college. There's no one at my college that I've met that I can see a future with. How hard is it to find your soulmate when you're out of school?
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honestly you're better off not finding someone in school. because when they're at that age all they do is drink, smoke pot, party, and goof off. all kids between the ages of 18-23 do this constantly and those that don't (like myself) are few and far between. but once kids get out of the college lifestyle they realize that they need to work to keep alive and they need to keep a job, and the animal house life they lived needs to change. and suddenly they mature up and get better. so i think you're better off now.
but the problem is that finding someone is not easy. believe me i know. it's hard to find a person to like, and then even harder to talk to them. because often times you'll be someplace and someone will walk in, and you have maybe a 20 minute window to say something to them before they leave. and if you don't say it you'll prolly never see em again. and the problem is they're just as scared of saying something as you are (most people don't have the guts to do anything) and it goes nowhere. finding someone is tough. and sure you could meet someone anywhere. work, school, the gas station it doesn't matter people are everywhere. but meeting them is the obstacle.
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Not hard at all. Dont stress out about it, because i did and the minute i wasnt out there looking i found him. I found him where i worked, you never know where your going to meet the love of your life but dont stress yourself out. You have to make yourself happy before you get to have someone else make you happy!
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I met my husband through my brother. They became friends about 7 years ago. We dated off and on for over 3 years until we decided that we wanted to spend a lifetime together, this last year.
I didn't think it was hard at all to find him.
I think a good way to find a good man is through friends or loved ones. It also helps in the department of 'Is he a good guy or not?' because friends and loved ones will tell you if he is a bad seed.
Also, a lot of folks meet at places like night clubs, coffee shops, book stores, and at work, as Michele said, among many other places.
Were there are people hanging out, there are bound to be singles.
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Oh I think your chances are great. And actually, nationwide, most people meet their future spouses at work. Once you are working in your choosen career, you automatically have something in common with your co-workers. Your careers. And there is so much to talk about. Your college experience vs. their's. why you chose this career, etc, etc. One great way to ensure longevity in a relationship is the have many things in common. And if you are passionate about something, and find someone who is passionate about the same thing, you will both be very happy. Too many couples who married in high school, find out when they are in the 30's that the only thing they have in common is their marriage, (and maybe kids) but now they both have interests in other areas. They grow apart. I think your marriage will have a better chance of surviving. Some people don't find their "soul mate" until very late in life. YOu have everything to look forward to. So what will make you very attractive to the opposite sex is confidence. Good luck to you and congratulations on graduating from college.
Michele
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