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This might be quite lengthy, so brief yourself.
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for almost three years. I was his first actual girlfriend, that he apparently "really loved." We had a complicated relationship for a while. I guess you can say, we were "friends with benefits" but we actually had feelings for each other after we broke up. He kind of had a hard time balancing things out with school and a relationship because he would get distracted.
Last month in December, he told me that he wanted to end the complicated relationship that we had. He said that he wanted to start 2013 fresh and he wanted to do better in his life. And of course, I thought it was predictable from his side because he always said that whenever he failed a class. And this was when I didn't see him as often during that semester.
I, personally, was hurt but I wasn't sure if he was being truthful about it or not because he has said it multiple times before and he kept coming back to me. I remember I went through 7 months of depression because I wanted him back but he was treating me very badly. He just kept pushing me away and he was saying rude things to me. So, it was like a cycle because he came back again after he saw that I was trying to move onto someone else and I don't want to always find someone else to have him realize that he still loves me and wants to be with me.
He told me he wanted to have sex with me one last time before 2013 started. His reason? He said he didn't know what was the reason. He said it was tiresome being in a relationship with me, I was "boring" because he knew everything about me already, and he couldn't see me in his future. He didn't have an explanation for any of those reasonings because I don't recall ever having him to do anything for me and I knew we were comfortable with each other, but boring?
Here's the difference in this situation: After New Years Day, I didn't see him. I sensed that he was tempted to see me but he said that he really wanted to move on. And during these two weeks, I've noticed that he's been getting drunk to the fact where he throws up and passes out with these new friends that he had recently met. Two weeks later, he was interested in a girl that he met in December. She came into town to see her friends but she lives in a completely different state. He texted me out of nowhere a few days later and said, "I hope you're happy. Everything came out the way you expected. She told me she couldn't date me."
I was not happy. I was upset that he even brought it up to her in the first place. He said that he didn't and that she did... They didn't do anything, they just Skyped and talked a lot. And he said he doesn't want to move on from her because she said that she thinks it's better to give it time. It was upsetting me because he couldn't even give me time and attention when we were dating, when we were living in the same city. But he thinks that he could make a long distance relationship work, with a girl that he just met.
He kept saying that he's moved on from me, his grades from school in 2012, and from everything that happened. But even when he said that, he's still talking to me. He's still answering. It may be harsh words, but he's still talking and answering. And multiple times when we were arguing, he said, "forget this. I'm moving on." And I replied, "I thought you already moved on." Last night, I asked him to be completely honest with me, if he really did completely get over me and he said he doesn't want to talk about it and that he was going to sleep and stopped texting me from there.
I'm not sure if it's because he really wants to move on, he's using her to project his feelings for me onto her. I don't really know how to take everything that has been going on. I have been really depressed and I have been crying for the past few days. What should I do? What could possibly be going on with him?
You're not going to like my answer but from what you have written it is what I see.
Your young, you may have been his first real girlfriend though he may not have been your first real boyfriend. To put it bluntly he is a flake blaming you for his failures. He really doesn't know what he wants which is typical of someone his age and maturity.
You don't say how old he is though if you are within a year of each other. At your age you are at least 2 years older than him in maturity. You are already starting to look at planning your life out. For him, if I may be so blunt, he is looking for when he is going to have sex again and with who and whats for dinner. His priorities are different.
IF my mother was writing this she would tell you not to get depressed over him for he is not worth your tears. There are plenty more fish in the sea and there is one out there who is right for you. This one is not, so throw him back. In fact that is what I'm telling you.
I believe you know what you want from life. If that includes college and a career, then go after it. If college is in your career you will meet many more boys at school. Childhood sweethearts are just that childhood romances.
Don't wast your tears on him he is not worth it. Experience life as it is meant to be. Your too young to tie yourself down right know. Go on to college and experience college life without the excess baggage of a boyfriend back home, especially this one.
how to stop being over protective when they do not want it..i am a female in the 20's
An example of what and how you are overprotective and possible of who or what would help.
Being over protective is a learned skill. Meaning you are probably a product of an over protective or abusive family. I can't say as you have not given any real information.
If your overprotectiveness stems from an abusive upbringing and is a defense mechanis. Then I would suggest counseling with a qualified therapist to work out the issues you are protecting.
Without more information I am only guessing though. If I can be of more help you can if you wish to keep this a private communication contact me in private using the private communication of this forum.
wat r the ways 2 controle my parent . my mom s always scolding me in bad words.
she dont have faith on me .she think that if we girls free she will fall on love . but i dont have an idea 2 do.but she dont belive me .she want me 2 b simple always .so i cant able 2 manage her. i hate being a women she itself dominating a women . o wtf is this.
Try rewriting your question using proper grammar so we can understand what it is you are making of us.
I understand you have a problem with your mother. What I don't understand is what the problem is. Most of us do not understand street talk so please rewrite this as you would something for English class and maybe we can help you.
Is it a sin to eat pussy
The question depends on the individuals beliefs. Oral sex is Sodomy. Sodomy is considered a sin by most true believers of their religions. There are also many laws against sodomy in many countries and many states. Most states and countries no longer enforce sodomy laws except in the case of rape.
So to answer your question from a biblical stand point; sodomy is considered a sin. Whether oral sex is considered sodomy by biblical standards I do not know.
This is a question you should ask your clergyman about if it bothers you. Most of us enjoy oral sex and do not worry about whether it is a sin or not.
My husband and I do not get along anymore.
We fell into our relationship very fast and we weren't careful about it. I got pregnant after 5 months together and he was pretty resentful for a while. Our daughter is 5 now and he doesn't seem to carry that resentment anymore.
That resentment led to my resenting him for his behaviour. He would party and not let me know where he was for a good year or so after I got pregnant, but he grew out of that, thankfully. Still left a me bitter though, like he was trying to hurt me disappearing for hours without a word. I still can't tell what he was up to but he would come home intoxicated.. Eventually.
Now we're in a better place than that, but I feel like he is overpowering, and I'm not the type to take that ever. For example, if I give my opinion on a subject that would turn into an arguement if my opinion was different than his. It's like he always has to be right, even when it's not about being right or wrong - it's just a discussion.
We argue over the littlest things and it turns into something huge. We basically have no patience for each other anymore and were always on the defensive. I get so irritated with him it's hard to handle. He's insecure, overbearing, arguementative, but he's also considerate(mostly),a good father, and a loving husband.
The other thing is that I had an emotional affair with a coworker, and I don't think he will ever get over it. It started out as the two of us just talking because we were having the same problems with our significant others, and turned into us havin feeling for each other. It was actually nice to talk to someone who I tought cared what I thought and listened to me rather than talk over me or not talk to me at all (I swear video games are a ruination for good men - they loose themselves in games and forget they actually have people who depend I then being there).
Obviously my husband and I both have our issues, but we don't seem to be getting anywhere. Everyday seems to blend together in petty arguements and silence.
What can I do to make this better!!?? I do love him but my patience is at a breaking point and I don't know what to do!
Your marriage sounds like a good case for marriage counselling. I will warn you that there are people that believe marriage counselling is the last stop on the road to divorce court. I am not one of those people.
You got pregnant and your husband did the right thing by you and married you. That says a lot about him since many men would have said it's your problem. Your marriage is the exception and not the rule given how long you two have stayed together. Most marriages which started as yours have end within 3 years.
Your husband may have been and acted a little immature at first though as you stated he has matured into a loving husband and a good father. These are all good points. Points that to me say this marriage is worth saving.
Yes, you have both made mistakes. Mistakes that can be forgiven. An emotional affair is not the same as cheating at least to my way of thinking. When my wife and I married 41 years ago she told me; "I can look at the menu, I can even lust at the menu, but if I ever sample the menu she will cut something off I find very important."
President Jimmy Carter speaking about I believe it was Playboy magazine said; "I lust in my heart." So their is a difference between an emotional affair and actual cheating. I believe this can be forgiven if he will let himself forgive.
You need to let go of his immature ways at the beginning of you marriage. From what you have written he has changed. You have to allow yourself to forgive.
A good marriage counsellor can help you with this. A marriage counsellor is just a therapist who provides couples counselling. If for some reason you and your husband are not comfortable with the first one, find another one. For therapy to work you, in this case, both of you need to be comfortable with the counselor.
I believe your marriage can be saved. I believe you just need a disinterested third party to help you disentangle yourselves from some excess baggage from the start of your marriage.
I was in a bad car accident 15 years ago and they had to do a lot inside my stomach so I have a big scar there. A couple of years ago I had my tubes tied and they cut my bowels and they had to fix them. But anyways I have been having this really bad pain on the left side of my belly button, it feels like my stomach is tearing. I have had 2 CAT scans and they can't find anything wrong. Can anyone help me?? I feel like everyone just thinks I am making it up because they can't find anything.
I'm not a doctor so I am only guessing at what could be wrong.
our symptoms sound a lot like what my wife suffered with. When you have multiple surgeries in the same area scar tissue builds and sometimes this causes adhesions. This is where the scar tissue attaches to other scar tissue or healthy tissue.
This was not seen on any of the imaging studies she had. Her doctor, her GYN, found it by doing exploratory surgery with a laparoscope and fixing what he found. She has been pain free ever since. This was 30 plus years ago.
I would suggest you speak with your GYN or surgeon about the possibility of adhesions causing your pain. This is something doctors tend to over look especially if you are talking to a different doctor than the one who did your surgeries.
lm sexualy involvd wth my bf and l havent got my periods for 2months now,have had 3tests and they all came negative went to a doctor had anothr test and it was also negative,l sometimes feel like vomiting and have lost my apertite lm worried but then is it posible that l cant be pregnant.need help please
hit all the tests coming back negative, providing you have not had sex since the last negative test. Taking it would be extremely rare that you would be pregnant. There are any number of reasons besides pregnancy a women will miss her period. at the top of the list is stress, which is caused by worry, followed by being very athletic.
Women Olympic athletes if you noticed are mostly underdeveloped for their age. The reason for this is they exercise so much that their body uses up all the calories keeping their bodies going there is nothing left over to support the hormones that transform their bodies. Most Olympic women do not have periods.
So if f you have not in the last two or 3 months started to exercise in excess or had unprotected sex; then something else is the problem. As I said stress is a big factor and worry is the leading cause of stress. After those two causes there are a variety of other causes all of which need a doctors' examination to diagnose.
I suggest you make an appointment with a GYN.
I want to no how to kill myself
You have come to the wrong place for that kind of help. No one here will help you kill yourself.
What we we will do is help you live. There is no problem so big that we cannot help you find a solution. There is no problem so big it is worth killing yourself over.
Write us back and tell us of your problem. You can use the open forum or select one of us to write to in a private message and we will try to help you find a solution to your problem.
You should also try one or all of the hot lines the first advisor offered you. Those people are professionals and I know they can help you. If you are actively suicidal, meaning you have a plan, time and place then please pick up the phone and dial 911. They will send help to you.
Please trust me when I say this: THERE IS NOTHING YOU COULD HAVE DONE OR COULD HAVE BEEN DONE TO YOU THAT IS WORTH DIEING OVER. Let someone help you. Call 911 if you need to or call one of the hot lines.
her older sister who is 22 went to jail for one year for fraud related charges. I overheard my younger daughter who is 18 saying that she wants to commit the same crime and try to go to the same prison as her sister because she doesn't want her to be all alone in there. What can I say to her to make her realize she is totally wrong in wanting to do this and she shouldn't follow her sisters footsteps like this? The person I called to talk about visiting said why not bring your younger daughter along for a visit and they can have her older sister and a guard show her around the place and what her daily life his like and hopefully will set her straight. Would that help, or would it just make it worse?
If the prison would do that I think it would be very beneficial. Though I am not aware of any institution that would do so for just one person. There are programs such as scared straight were a prison visit to have inmates talk to the youngsters is part of the program.
If this is something you think would help your younger daughter I would suggest calling your local police department or juvenile service office to find out what programs are available in your area. The program I am calling scared straight is known by many different names and run by different organizations.
You might also explain to your younger daughter that while what she is thinking of doing and her reason for doing so. Might be in some way considered admirable. There is no guarantee she would be put in prison. The judge could give her an alternative sentence which would give her a record that could ruin the rest of her life. If she were to go to prison the prison officials would most likely keep her and her sister separate. Last and most important, by the time she goes to trial for whatever crime she commits she will be by herself as her sister will have served her sentence and either finished it or released on parole.
I believe you wrote before asking about if you should allow your younger daughter to visit. I think you should. In this way she can hear from your older daughter just how rotten prison life can be. You of course should be with her when she visits. Hopefully between you and your older daughter you can dissuade your younger daughter from doing what she is thinking of doing.
If you are the person I think you are. Your older daughter is already 2 to 3 months into her 1 year sentence. With time off for good behavior she would be eligible for early release or parole shortly.
Ok so, i have heard constantly that being gay is a sin, but i couldnt find it in the bible, plus i dont even understand WHY its a sin in the first place! Can somebody please help me understand?
Different times, different knowledge and very different science. If what we know today was known when the bible was written I believe many things the bible tells us would be different.
Among them would be the stance on homosexuality. We have only recently come to the conclusion, scientifically that homosexuality is not an illness or a choice. It is how they are born. Just because people of the same sex cannot procreate does not make it a sin to be together.
When it comes to procreation. The bible says sex is a sin unless it is purpose of procreating.
So go figure. Being straight is okay but sex is only to reproduce. Being gay is wrong mainly as I see it because gay people can't reproduce. The logic escapes me.
I am 22 years old and have never had sex or have I ever managed to successfully insert a tampon. I have never masturbated by sticking anything up there... and I fear that through not using it, my vagina has closed up. How possible/prevalent is that?
I am only having serious problems with it now because my boyfriend and I have tried to have sex a few times - the first time his penis would just not go in. Whenever he was fingering me it hurt a lot... and recently whenever I have been trying to put in a tampon (I have been using pads since my first period at age 16), it just cannot go in (I don't even know if I am putting it in the right place).
This whole thing is really upsetting me. My boyfriend says he understands and that we will try again but I think he just thinks I am scared - really I am just scared that it will hurt, or that he just cannot get it in...
I am prepared to go see a doctor and see if they can do anything to help me? CAN THEY HELP ME? Or is it too late after so many years of never stimulating/using that area...
I have also tried masturbating recently but I just find it uncomfortable and again nothing seems to fit in my vagina.
So desperate.
Relax, your normal. There is nothing wrong with you or your vagina. The problem is nerves and fear which is also normal.
Yes I know that you want to have sex but you also fear having sex. One is a conscious thought the other is a subconscious thought. For a women the fear of having sex for the first time is a real fear whether it is a conscious thought or subconscious thought it is still very real.
There is the pain of your vagina stretching to accommodate a penis, the tearing of your Hymen if still intact and the bleeding associated with it.
Having sex the first time for the women is not always a pleasant experience, especially if the man is not patient and tender in taking of her virginity.
There are somethings you can do. I would suggest that for a few times you make love but do not attempt penetration. Just get use to being comfortable in bed with each other, getting use to the feel of each other.
Make sure you find a place that is comfortable, secure from intrusion or discovery. Someplace where you can set a relaxing mood. Then just get comfortable with each other. Tell each other what feels good.
Your boyfriend needs to stimulate you to the point that you are very wet so that you have lubricated enough for him to make penetration easier. This is the object of of what I'm suggesting; extensive foreplay. You may be one of the women who are more clitoral in her excitement than vaginal so make sure to guide your boyfriend to your clit and have him stimulate your clit during foreplay. You will know almost immediately if this is what turns you on.
Once you have spent sometime just doing and getting each other off with just foreplay and you're ready to complete the act. Have your boyfriend use a lubricated condom and use some KY jelly as extra lubricant to ensure proper lubrication.
Then make sure you spend a good deal of time on foreplay as you did in the previous time. When your ready for your climaxes is when you naturally move in for the completion. Hopefully they will make it less painful for you and more fun as well.
The other fear all women have is the fear of pregnancy. While the male should always use a condom the female should also be on birth control. You remove the fear of pregnancy and you remove one of the biggest fears women have.
I hope I have helped
Okay, so ive had this Vagina smell for a while. Im not sexually activ, but every time when i use the bathroom, it seems that my underwear are always WET and my Vagina has a weird smell. to me it stinks! i shower EVERY morning, because if i dont it will get smellier. is it my underwear, soap.. What is it.. What can i do.. Can You help me??? is it my "cum" coming out?
I'm not a doctor and none of are. Even if we were we would need to examine you to make a diagnoses.
From what you are describing it sounds like you may have a yeast infection. This is normal now that you are older and more womanly. It is also possible you have a bladder infection. If you do you might feel a burning when urinating. This would need to be treated by a doctor.
With most yeast infections you would or will start to itch as well as have the offensive odor you write about. There are many over the counter products available for this condition if caught in the early stages.
This is something you need to ask mom about. This is not something to be embarrassed about for as I said this is something that is some what normal and has absolutely nothing to do with sex or if you are a virgin or not.
Your GYN will explain the how and the why of it much better than I can. The simple fact of the matter is that this is the first of probably many times over your lifetime that you will experience this. If there is a way to prevent them your doctor will tell you.
So my advice is talk to mom. Don't be embarrassed as this is not sexual in nature. Mom will know if you need to see a GYN or if trying over the counter product is what to try first.
Hi I have no idea if I have my period and I'm 14 but I'm quite small and am a late bloomer but its kinda dull yellowish brownish and then light brown in the middle it's not sticky or anything more liquidy but not sure and kind of scared to tell my mum
Time or a little grandfatherly advice. Since I am of the age I will offer some.
First it is quite possible you are about to get your first period.
Now about being embarrassed to tell mom. Please understand that your period is a normal bodily function for you as a women. Your period has nothing to do with sex other than your womb is cleaning itself to prepare for a fertilized egg should you make one by having sex. If not the cycle continues. Hence the term menstrual cycle. This is normal.
You would not be embarrassed to go to your mom with a sore throat would you? There is no reason not to go to mom with questions or any problem relating to any part of you. This is part of what being a parent is all about.
I'm sure mom is just waiting for you to come to her so she can help you and guide you through some of the more awkward parts of becoming a women. It is a lot easier for a boy to become a man then it is for a girl to become a women. More changes happen to a girl. Some of which are painful and can be confusing as well.
This is were mom can make things easier for you. Believe it or not but mom was once 14 and has gone through everything you have and will. She knows what is right and what needs a doctors attention. She also knows how to help you care for yourself with your period and can offer you properly advice. She has also learned how to make this time of the month a little more comfortable and can pass this information on to you.
Parents are a great resource for their children. Unfortunately most of us never realize this until we are much older. Never be fearful or embarrassed to go to mom or dad with a problem. You would also be surprised what us dads have learned over the years of living with your moms about how their bodies function. There are few if any questions we can't answer for you.
For the best answers as to how your body functions; your best resources are your parents or your doctor(s). This would include questions concerning sex as well. IF you have that type of relationship with your parents there is no reason why you can't discuss sex questions you may have with them and get a proper answer.
so I went to my OBGYN and got a regular pap smear and i got my results ending up being abnormal and now i have to go back and see if i need to get a biopsy im scared im angry im confused i dont understand i'm only 20 i got HPV shots when i was 13 14 years old i guess its not full proof protection, but also i dont whore around.. which i know still doesnt mean anything. :( i just need to know the girls who also had to go through this what is it like what were your results... My family doesnt have a history of this so what are my odds.. please ease my mind im stressing out
The problem in trying to put you at ease is not knowing exactly what the doctor said. We all stop hearing the doctor after hearing words such as abnormal,biopsy and other frightening medical terms. It very normal for any of us to react this way. That is why it is always important to take someone with you that you trust to keep your medical confidence when visiting your doctor.
So to this problem. Abnormal does not always mean what you heard. There are many reasons for a test to be rated abnormal. The specimen could have been contaminated. The lab may not have been able to work with the specimen they had. The specimen may not have been with in range of normal but not really abnormal either. The lab is suggesting either a retest or that the doctor reexamine you and do another type of test for a more conclusive test. There are a whole range of possibilities.
Unfortunately those of us that work in any field, especially the medical field sometimes forget that a term that we use that is relatively meaningless to us could scare the daylights out of the recipient of the words.
My doctors have their non medical staff call with lab results. If all is normal they say so. If something is abnormal they will say the test results were abnormal and doctor wants to see you or doctor is sending a prescription to the pharmacy. They have become jaded to the word abnormal it is meaning less to them. If you ask what is abnormal they don't know and you have to wait until after office hours for the doctor to call to explain. Most every time it has been something routine non serious just my doctor being overly cautious.
My advice is to try and relax until you can talk with the doctor and find out the facts. Take someone with you who will listen to the doctor with you. Hopefully your doctor is just being cautious. If it is the worst case you are young and it sounds like you take the best care of yourself. You are catching whatever this is early and that gives you the best chance at a successful outcome.
The time to worry is not know but possibly later after you know the facts.
Keeping good thoughts for you.
i did sex with my girlfriend but didnt cum inside her. i ejaculated my sperm outside. she missed one of his periods ...kindly let me know is she pregnant and if yes how can we opt for abortion. her last day of menstrual was 23.11.12
There is no way for us to tell if your girlfriend is pregnant. There are many reasons for a woman to miss her period one of which is stress. Her worry over being pregnant could cause her to miss her period.
Have her take a home pregnancy test. If it is positive have her see a doctor. If she is over 14 the doctor will explain your options for an abortion.
Note: The pull out method, which is what you did, is not the best birth control method. During intercourse the male lets out some precum which acts as a lubricant. This precum is not felt by you and has more than enough sperm in it to cause a woman to get pregnant.
In the future if your girlfriend is not pregnant use a condom.
i did sex with my girlfriend but didnt cum inside her. i ejaculated my sperm outside. she missed one of his periods ...kindly let me know is she pregnant and if yes how can we opt for abortion. her last day of menstrual was 23.11.12
There is no way for us to tell if your girlfriend is pregnant. There are many reasons for a woman to miss her period one of which is stress. Her worry over being pregnant could cause her to miss her period.
Have her take a home pregnancy test. If it is positive have her see a doctor. If she is over 14 the doctor will explain your options for an abortion.
Note: The pull out method, which is what you did, is not the best birth control method. During intercourse the male lets out some precum which acts as a lubricant. This precum is not felt by you and has more than enough sperm in it to cause a woman to get pregnant.
In the future if your girlfriend is not pregnant use a condom.
14/f
So I posted a question awhile back asking if what my uncle was doing was weird or not normal. Here's a link to the question so I don't have to repeat stuff:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=606498
Anyways, since then, I've visited them 2 more times for thanksgiving and for new years. My uncle has been bugging me if I have a boyfriend too. He takes me phone and looks at all my contacts and the people I text. Personally, I think he's just trying to bug me, but I don't want to leave anything out.
2 more things happened during those trips besides what I talked about in my previous question. First, I was at a different cousin's birthday party and he stuck some trash in my back pocket. And so I was in this mind set that he was just being a normal uncle messing around, so I put it back in his pocket. He chased me around to try to give it back to me and shoved it down the front of my shirt. Of course, both times he touched my butt and my boobs, but I tried to ignore it. The last night I was there, I went down to the basement of the house I was staying in so I could spend some time with my cousins. They were down there with all my uncles watching a movie and the only open spot was by that uncle. I sat down and tried to relax. Later, most of my cousins left and eventually it ended up being that uncle's sons and my brother playing and my uncle on the couch by me. He slipped his arm around my waist while we were sitting there. and as I tried to move away a little, his hand ended up in the back of my sweatshirt. He just left it there, as my aunt came down and sat on his other side and kissed him. And he even told her that he hadn't been drinking. And the next thing I know, his hand was in my underwear. He didn't touch any where near down there, but he kind of just left his hand on my butt cheek. I felt really weird, and he tried asking me something about being curious (I don't really remember). I felt so violated that I got up and left. He followed me upstairs but I ran and hid in a bedroom for the rest of the night and avoided him.
I've been trying to rationalize how this isn't weird, but I know it was enough to make me feel uncomfortable. I was shaking for the rest of the night and I get these moments where I remember it and I feel like crap. It just made me feel so low and disgusting. I just don't know what's going on. I hope I'm not making something out of nothing, but this really bothered me and it still does. I'm not a very emotionally stable person. I used to have problems with depression and an eating disorder and I got over it by myself. But now I'm starting to slip back into a depressive state when I remember that night. I want to talk to somebody about it, but I can't bring myself to tell my parents what happened. It's just not fair to anybody. I'm just torn.
I answered you the last time you wrote. With this information I am ready to say you Uncle has an unreasonable fascination with you that is in effect criminal as he has sexually assaulted you. He put his hands where they don't belong; he has made you feel sexually uncomfortable. This is the definition of criminal sexual assault.
You need to put a stop to his behavior when he is around you. You have several options.
1. You should tell your parents. You don't say why you cannot. I will assume it is because it is one parents brother. In which case I would suggest you speak to the opposite parent alone.
2. You can talk to a trusted teacher at school or your school principal. There are rules and laws in place that they must follow when informed of matters such as this to see to your safety.
3. You are at 14, old enough to report this matter to the police without parental assistance. This is a criminal matter. As I and Rashi have said your Uncle has criminally assaulted you. Yes, I know this is not what you wanted to hear but it is the truth.
4. Last time I offered the phone number of an organization called RAINN that you could call for further advise if you chose to. This time I am heavily suggesting you call RAINN for help.
You are asking for someone to talk to. They are the ones who can speak with you and offer not only advice but assistance in doing what is right for you in this situation. There number is 1-800-656-HOPE. Please call them.
Hi, I'm a 14/male in high school (UK). Now, I don't think I really fit in, I have friends but they aren't good friends at ALL. To be honest, I wouldn't even class them as my friends. I want to get home schooled and really don't want to go back. My parents have finally (kind of) come round to the idea but they want me to go back on Tuesday and I really don't want to so I said I'm not going. I don't want to cause trouble for him but I just can't cope at school I don't know why. Don't fit in and stuff I guess, I want time to sort my appearance out and try to boost my confidence which is really low right now. Should I go ahead? The way I think of it is:
Option A) Go to school, stay with no confidence, stay with bad friends, no social life but get a few more GCSEs.
Option B) Home educated, try build confidence, away from 'friends' but a few less GCSEs and no social life.
I really am willing to try and sort my life out, but I just can't go on there. What would you do?
How about C none of the above. I can understand how you feel and why homeschooling seems like a good answers. There is nothing wrong with homeschooling but I do not see it as the answer to your problem.
I see a deeper problem here. The main one being low self esteem. Homeschooling will not resolve this in and of its own. To resolve this issue requires professional guidance that public school and your parents aren't capable of providing. Public schools simply because they are underfunded and your parents because they are too close to the problem.
Now there are private schools with smaller classes where the teachers do have the time and the funding to help you in this area. You get a proper education. You learn why you have low self esteem and how to raise your self esteem. All of this in one package if your parents can afford it. This would be option A and the better option.
Now if your parent scan not afford a private school then option B is. To be home schooled and to have you seen by a therapist to work on the low self esteem issue. The reason this is not the best option is homeschooling lacks the personnel inter-relationships that a public or private school provide that is needed to go with working on you low self esteem. That and the fact that I am not sure how the public health service works and if you could receive help for this issue under public health.
Talk to your parents about option A. I'm faily certain you can find a good private school that can help you.
I owe $11,246.34 on a 2010 Chevrolet HHR LT with 47500 miles on it. I'm looking to get rid of it and get something cheaper, so I posted an ad on Craigslist. A man contacted me saying that he'd like to set something up where he takes over the payments. He specifically said that he didn't want to do it through the dealership because he didn't want ownership to be transferred right away. Said something about how he just financed a new Corvette. He did mention documents and getting things notarized and everything, but I'm still a little suspicious of why he would go through all that. Where should I go from here?
THIS IS A SCAM, DON'T DO IT. CALL THE POLICE Doing it his way you may as well just hand him the keys for he is in essence stealing your car.
When you sell a car with someone taking over the payments the bank assigns the financing to him only after he takes ownership of the vehicle. If he doesn't have title to the vehicle he does not have ownership and all the notarized documents in the world won't help you. He has your car he can send it out of the country and your stuck with paying off the remaining balance.
okay i'm currently 16 I turn 17 in july
I really love my bf and he telling alot of people thagt he believes
i'm the perfect girl he is too 16 almost 17.he tells me that he is ready to settle down and that he wants to get married and have a kid.I really love him alot and yes he does smoke weed and cigarette and yes my parents know he does.he is a really good guy but something is holding me back he is a bit controlling like he gets mad if I talk about other guys and if I go a full two days J seeing him he threatens to take his own life and then he says that we need to runaway and get married idk I love him and always will it's just thode two things that's hurting me
The question should not be "am I ready for this relationship?" The answer to that question is no, not at this time. The real question I see in your writing is SHOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS BOY?
What is causing you to feel doubt, what you say is hurting you, is actually a warning signal and a good one that this boy is not right for you. Learn to listen to these signals as you grow and go out into the adult world.
That fact that he is controlling is not good. Imagine a life where every time you stepped out the door you would have to give an itinerary of where you were going and when you would return. Now imagine when you get home you have to account for every minute you were away from home. At the moment he is threatening to take his own life. IF you are living together he will be threatening to harm you. o the research on battered women and you will see I am correct in what I am telling you.
Smoking cigarettes is not that bad but smoking weed is illegal and might lead to something worse and or stronger. This would only add to any rage he might have as a controller and place you in more harm.
Being this way now means he will only get worse. The longer you stay with him the more he will try to control you and the more danger you will be in. My advise is to find someone else for a BF. There are many more boy out there who will treat you with love, affection and the respect you deserve.