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my boyfriend of 7 months and i just broke up a couple of a days ago, and i broke up with him because he was rude, we fight all the time its just like were abusive to eachother, but i love him so much and we both want eachother back but we said we will take a break, but i am dieng without him you have no idea i miss him so much, i wanna kiss a diffrent guy (ive had him in mind for a while) but im so scared if my ex finds out and never wants to get back with me what should i do i love my ex but im lonely and want someone for now so i wanna kiss the diffrent guy should i?

Remember that you broke up with him. Remember why that happened. You don't want it to happen again, do you? I say go out with the other guy. Good luck1
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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i appologize now for this being long...but i just really need some advice!

ima 14 female freshman...
it starts off in 7th grade, me and this guy got 2 gether..we dated for a year. broke up in 8th grade..he messed with sum 7th graders. we were supposed 2 get back 2gther, but he ended up switchin schools. during the summer after 8th grade, we kept in touch..talked on the phone, chilled @ the movies and all that...and yes we were frends wit benefits!!...freshman year started we didnt talk so much, thats wen i met this guy..we dated 4 2 months, and juss a few weeks ago i broke up with him..once my ex boi found owt i was single again..we started talking...(and b4 i broke up wit my boi he told me he would b waiting 4 me!)...so it was true he was waitin 4 me!...we been talkin alot latly! im guessing we do go owt..its juss i dont know if i can trust hiM!..i know how he is..im just scared ima get hurt again!..bkuz he sorta did mess roun wit others back in 7th grade!

Talk to him about how you feel. If he tells you to trust him, then trust him, but if he hurts you again, just forget about him. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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my friend is beinng really rude & saying mean stuff about me what should i do?

Talk to her about why she's doing this. If nothing changes, stop being her friend and get new ones. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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ok, my exboyfriend was telling all his buddies that we were having sex and begging them for condoms. and then they all started thinking i was a whore or something. and somehow the rumor changed to me having sex with five other guys. and i haven't even had sex with one guy. how do i change my reputation back, or ruin his too?

You should just tell everyone that what he said was true. And tell him he's a nincompoop, lol. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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OK I like this guy, and today at an assembly he asked me out and since I liked him, I said yes. Now, I dunno what to do. I like him but I'm nervous and I really don't want to ruin our friend relationship. Basically what I am saying is, should I go out w/ him? I'm just nervous. Thanks!
PS: I kinda have this "sad" feeling when I think about it. Also, since it's near Christmas, I don't want to feel like that.

Try just going with the flow and see what happens. If you still feel like you'd rather be friends or something, just tell him, I'm sure he'll understand. Maybe talk to him over Christmas, so you don't feel sad. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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I guess the subject line says it all. I constantly flip-flop between Christianity, Atheism and Buddhism. I like a little of all, and I can't seem to choose one faith. I always change my mind. Is there something wrong with me? Am I flaky? It's just that a faith is an important choice, and I'm afraid to make the wrong one.
I like all three, but I know I have to pick one.
What should I do?

There is no wrong religion. Just go with what you believe! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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What should i get my mom and dad for xmas? i dont have any money and i cant go out and buy anything so i was wondering if any of you have any ideas on what i could give them or make them? i hope you have some ideas because i only have 2 days! i will rate for effort! ill give you a five!

There're websites you can go to that show you how to make candles. What would be a cute gift is an ornament that you make yourself, like put a pic of you in it. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok, here's what's going on... My boyfriend, we'll call him bob, has been living with me secretly for about 2 weeks now. My dad, just found out that he was here yesterday morning, and my dad was very mad. Then last night, my dad found out about it and made him leave, bob left and came back, and now my stepmom just saw him leave. So I'm really really really grounded right now. I don't know what to do or tell my parents, I can't kick Bob out because he has nowhere to go, literally. He has a pretty bad story though. Should I tell my parents his story and risk being able to be with him? Or should I lie to my parents more?

You should tell them his story. Tell them you're sorry you lied, but your heart was in the right place when you gave him a place to go. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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Last night my best friends parents got into a car accident. Her dad had to spend the night in the hospital because he broke his ribs and lost a lot of blood. Her mom is doin ok, she has internal bruises but is taking everything well. The doctors thought that her dad was going to die, but he made it through the night. Ive never been in this sort of situation before. I dont know what to say or what to do. Please help, i really need to be there for my friend!!!!!!!

There's really nothing you can do about her parents, but you can comfort her. Always be by her side and let her know that you care and she can always talk to you about it. Good luck to you and your friend!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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Well, my brother told me that if you put up blue christmas lights it meant that you were Jewish. So does anyone know if this is true or is my brother smoking something? Thanks!!

xo_sherry_ox
I rate 5's!

Haha, it's not true. We use blue lights, too, and we're Catholic.
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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I'm 14. A day or two before my period, I tend to get this dark stain on my panties...the front of my panties, not where I would get a normal period stain. It's dark and kind of brown, and sort of thick. Do I have a disease or something?

Also, every single time in my period, I have a normal flow for maybe three days, then it stops for one or two days, then it starts again for only about half a day. Is this abnormal?

Don't worry, you're ok. Everything's normal! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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I keep getting these nasty bloody noses, 5 times a day! What should i do?!

I would go to the doctor and they can prescribe you something. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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tomorrow me, my best friend, her boyfriend, and my fwb are going to spend the nite at a hotel as sorta a fun thing to do. im telling my parents that im sleeping over at my friends house but im scared shes actually gonna call my friends mom and find out we aren't there-she has a history of calling my friend's houses-is there anything i can tell her, or do to make sure she doesn't call??? do you think she'll even call guh need advice help fast

Tell her to call your cell! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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I have long dark brown hair (like almost down to the middle of my back) and it's kind of tapered.. and it's KIND OF got long layers (the lady was supposed to give me long layers but she did a bad job so it doesn't really look like I have any layers). It's straight (I blow dry it straight) but can get a LITTLE frizzy/wavy (on the ends) when it rains. What are some cute haircuts I could get (keeping my hair long) that wouldn't require much maintanance (blow dry, no straightening)

You can cut your hair shorter and just get short layers. If the ends still get wavy, you can just straighten the ends. You can use frizz serum to get rid of the frizz. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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Hey Ever1,
Our school will be having a sweethearts dance in Feb. And the girls ask out the guys. Well, there's this guy I like...and we had our troubled times, but I think he's starting to like me again! So, do any of you know how I should ask him to the dance? I wanna do something sweet for him since he's a sweet guy. Any tips?
~Missc~

Maybe you can get him a box of chocolates and give it to him when you ask him to the dance! That would be sooo cute! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I think I might have paranoia. I have a wonderful gf. I love her todeath, but she talks to the one guy, who constantly flirts with her and it pisses me off. She says dont worry about it and that she loves me, but I still get worried. What if she will start to like him? I know nothing will happen. Were perfect for each other but I feel like bad things will always happen. Can anyone give me sties to read up on it or tell me what I can do to not be paranoid? I dont want to lose her over my problems. I want to be normal.

I think you'd only have paranoia if you were running in circles screaming your head off. Don't worry, I think you're fine, you're just jealous. When she said not to worry and she loves you, she meant it. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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(im a 14 female) I have this guy friend, and he is giving me mixed signals. He tells my friends he likes me and then he makes a huge deal of telling me that we are just friends. I really like this guy a lot. now he's telling my friends that he doesnt like me. I'm so confused! every other day he changes his mind weather he likes me or not! I WANT HIM TO LIKE ME SO BAD! Like sometimes he's really sweet and flirty and other times he's sort of mean to me though which adds even MORE mixed signals. And one time i told him i liked him liked him and he told my friend that he didn't like me that way. BUT like a month later he was acting all flirty and he was like "if i asked you out what would you say?"

Do u think he likes me? Is there anyway i could make him like me even more than he already does? Is there anyway that would help him ask me out if he does like me? HELP!

Tell him what you know. Tell him how you know what's he's telling your friends and that you're confused! Just talk to him about it and find the answers. If you don't want to be that direct, and you just want to know if he likes you, say something like, "My one friend thinks we'd be so cute together, what do you think?" If he says no, just leave it at that, but if he says yes, then there ya go. If you want him to like you more, just be yourself, you sound like a great person! And if nothing works out (I hope they do!), don't worry, you'll find that someone! Good luck! Anymore questions, leave em'! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I have some weird red acne on my...rump. Is there ANY WAY to get rid of it? I shower every day, and i dont know why its there, its gross! PLEASE HELP!

Try using Bengay or Proactive, I heard they work really well! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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what should i get my bf for xmas he is 14 and he liks sports but he is not like crazy of them. and he doesnt play video games that much and he doesnt watch movies that much. and i dont want to get his colonge cuz that is not very orignal so what should i get him?

A really cute gift would be a cute pic of the 2 of you in a frame. And write a little note on it, like "I love you!" on it. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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My friend is going out with a guy that's a year younger than us (whom i like too.)He's like my best guy friend and i feel a little protective of him because a lot of people just want to go out with him for his looks and it's so annoying to me because they don't even know him the way i do. He flirts with me online and we can besically talk about anything. His girlfriend now won't even talk to him and she wants to break up with him, although i don't think she will. Please help! What should i do! i can't talk to him alone anymore because of her and i really just want to be with him! Should i ask her how she feels about him and and how she feels the relationship is going, in a friendly way? I'm not sure what i should do. I need another person's oppinion. Just to let you know, i'm 14, he's 13.

Yes, talk to her about it, and see what her opinion of the relationship is. If they break up, you need to be there for him, and you'll get even closer that way, so then later on, ask him out! Lol. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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