So, like, I'm this guy. And like, I do stuff...
Chemist, musician, artist, programmer, coach, husband, dad, uncle, etc.
So yeah.
Advice-wise? There are no stupid questions, just stupid people.
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so, how do i know when a teacher is hitting on me? i'm 15 year old girl, and i have known this teacher since middle school. when i'm in classes with him, or run into him, he makes comments about how pretty or smart i am, or laughs at really stupid jokes i make. if it was just that, i wouldn't be so bothered by it, but sometimes he touches my knees or sholders and some times stares at me. how ever it could be really innocent and i'm just interperating it the wrong way. he acts like the other guys (all in highschool) who like me. but i've seen him act like this to other people, but they don't feel like i do. another thing is that he's married to another teacher and has several kids. i like his wife, and i would so horrible if some thing happened to thier marriage, so i can't say something and have it turn out to be nothing. i'm very uncomfortable in this situation. (link)
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He should not be behaving in that manner. At this stage, I would say you are best ignoring him and making a point to distance yourself from him.
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heyy mfs! you might be my friend for the next four months because im in chemistry now and it sucks like a slut! because one, im only a sophomore and 2 we have to learn it REALLY fast because we need to learn a whole years worth of chemistry in 4 months! sooo i might be asking u tons of questions...hope thats okk!! ahhh i hate it!! its so hard and the fact that im in a low math class doesnt help either! (link)
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ask away... you might want to send things you need answered quickly to my yahoo mail account: sporkopolis2001@yahoo.com
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i have been trying to do crunches for about 3 weeks and my stomach didnt really get any smaller. does any one know how many crunches to do in a day or does any one know what other techniques that will work to get a flatter stomach (link)
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No exercise is going to magically make your stomach flatter. Part of it is likely going to be anatomy - you can't overcome certain things. Another is doing only one exercise is weak - that pretty much gains you nothing. You need a real exercise routine to get any real effect. Also, your posture might have a lot to do with how flat your stomach looks - try examining how you hold yourself when you sit, stand, and walk.
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okay... well me and a few of my friends are starting a band, and allison wants to play guitar but she has no friggin clue what shes doing!(iv'e been playing guitar for a few years and she just started like last week) and she was going to be a singer in the first place, but i have no clue how to tell her that she doesn't know how to play guitar, and NO i can't just go up to her and say "you can't play guitar" or "you suck" because i'm not the kind of person that can do something like that. help please! (link)
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there's no reason why you can't have more than one guitarist, and there's no reason why someone singing can't play guitar at the same time. I play guitar and bass, and amazingly, I can sing at the same time. Have one person play lead guitar, the other play rhythm.
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OK, I have been on Weight Watchers and I got down to 125 pounds. Well, on Sunday I splurged a bit because I went to the city and I had chinese food and today I went over my points a bit and had a grilled cheese sandwich..alright, well...now I'm 130 pounds. What's up with THIS?! how can i magically gain 5 pounds in 3 days. Is this just a trick of the scale? (link)
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A 5 pound difference could be within the margin of error for your scale. Also consider the time of day you weighed yourself... little things like water retention, how much you've eaten and currently have in your GI tract, how recently you've gone to the bathroom, etc... will all cause minor fluctuation in your weight. My weight, according to our scale, can vary by +/- 3 pounds... that's 6 pound range. And that's probably a pretty normal type of fluctuation... don't worry about it.
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i need to know stuff about having boobs. i'm 15 years old and i need to know stuff. like should i wear one at night? what kinds of bras are right? and they hurt sometimes, so what can i do? (link)
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...I highly recommend wearing your boobs at night - it is very difficult to detach them...
yes, I'm kidding...
The only reason I can see someone needing to wear their bra at night is if they are having support issues - such as having exceptionally large breasts, and/or having back problems caused by large breasts.
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I have really bad grades and until there up i have no life! i have a boyfriend who now thinks im asking him for a break when i said i need to focus more on school, my friends are getting mad at me because now i cant hang out with them and i can only have 30 min on the phone and an hour of t.v! how can i get my life back with doing better in school i get home a 4 every day and i need a schedule so i can get my life back!! (link)
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You just need to make it clear to everyone that you are in need of busting your ass to get your grades up. I can't see that friends would not understand that, so long as you make it clear to them what exactly is going on.
You need a schedule? Then make one. It really is that simple. Do you eat dinner at the same time every day? Start with that. What time do you get home from school? The time from school to dinner - give yourself a half hour to relax after school, then shift into gear to either work on homework until you have to eat, or study. Then, after dinner, get right back to work.
Feel free to allow yourself Friday nights to slack off. But in return, you have to set aside large parts of Saturday and ALL of Sunday to shift back into study-mode to crank out any school work and study any material you need to review.
I make it sound so simple, don't I? Well, it is, so long as you have the willpower and dedication to pull it off. It admittedly might take you some time and a bit of self-torture to work yourself into a good routine, but you need to have the determination and the desire to pull your grades up - even if it means the fear of failing to drive you - it has to come from you, and you have to consciously choose to stick with it.
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well im goin out with this guy my mom hates and i mean she really hates him.... and she wants me to stop seeing him but i told her no and i got into this big fight with my mom but i really like this guy but my mom thinks hes not right for me.......what should i do??? ive already tired telling her how i feel about this guy but she wont listen (link)
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Try to sit down and talk rationally with your mom about this - find out exactly what it is that she doesn't like. Tell her exactly what it is that you do like. See if she's willing to at least hear you out, so long as you'd be willing to hear what she has to say. You might find out that he's not the issue at all, and that the issue is really between you and your mom - as in, she might be more worried about you growing up than she is about him.
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Right I have a christian friend who is like really serious about it, and I some times feel like she is constantly trying to convert me when I've told her that I'm not like her i'm not like a church go-er and it's just i've been bruoght up in a different way to her. I don't want to offend her but can any one suggest ways of making it clear that i don't believe half of what she's saying. (Thanks alot, i rate high!) (link)
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To add to what's been said so far, remind your friend that people have differing views on religion and spirituality - and your view is different that hers. Don't be afraid to "compliment" her on her strength of faith - that's a perfectly objective thing to do. Likewise, remind her that what you believe needs to develop on its own, and while her intentions are good, it isn't welcome at this time in your life, and while you appreciate her friendship, you really need her to lay off the religious overtones.
And the best way to say all that is as calmly as you possibly can. ;)
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here's the deal. i'm 16 living in PA. i am meetng with someone friday to discuss being emancipated. yea that sounds horibble but i'm living in an abusive house..to say the least and i cant take it anymore. i have a friend who's mother and father are willing to take me in, so i'd have a house,$,food, all the esentials in life. however all i know about it is that after it's done you're considered an adult,i heard it put as "divorcing your parents", so basically what i'm asking is if anyone knows anything about the laws of PA for it or has any good websites(maybe that i havent found)..i'll be discussing this all with my lawyer but i can't wait til friday..just would like to have some idea of what he is going to tell me before i go in..thank you all so much ..Devin,PA (link)
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If you've not done so yet, talk to a lawyer. Ask around, even call up different law firms that deal in family law. You should be able to at least find someone who is willing to give you some advice to get you moving in the right direction. As it really is essentially "divorcing your parents", it is a legal proceeding - and for that, you'll need legal representation. Make sure you get sound legal advice before you find out that you've gone so far, only to have to go back due to some sort of complication you didn't forsee.
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ok so a tv show i saw a cook have chicken with chocolate sauce onthe plate, i thought would this be weird? How do u think this would taste? Would it be ok if i cooked it for my family one night? the other part of it is that it was a pile of chicken in the middle of the plate and the chocolate sauce was around it with roasted peppers on it, was the chocolate for the peppers or the chicken?
Thanx sooo much! MWAAAAHZ I rate high
~^*^NAOMI^*^~ (link)
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If you are unfamiliar with the mexican concoction know as "mole", you should check it out. It is made with meat and chocolate to form a sauce - it is very good.
Chicken with chocolate sauce is going to depend very much on what kind of seasoning was used. I can see some herbs and spices going quite well with chicken (such as those found in mole), but others would totally taste like ass (not litterally, of course, as that would be exceedingly disgusting).
Chocolate and peppers is quite good, as that is part of mole. Some mole is made with chocolate and poblano peppers. Many peppers get sweeter in flavor (while still retaining some kick) when you smoke or roast them. In fact, chipotle peppers are smoked jalepenos. Anyway...
Chocolate is pretty versatile despite most people thinking of it as simply a source of candy or ice cream topping. I'd say give the recipe a shot - I'm going to guess that you'll be pleasantly surprised.
I dug these links up for you: http://www.cooks.com/rec/search/0,1-0,chocolate_mole_sauce,FF.html
http://www.mexgrocer.com/catagories-salsas-mole.html
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hey, Sometimes i dont eat for up to two days to try to look better. When i dont eat , it makes me look much skinnier, but i feel really weak. Is it safe to be doing this. Its not like im throwing up every thing i eat or anything. What should i do?? (link)
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That is absolutely NOT safe. You are starving yourself. Of course you feel weak when you do that, your body is craving nutrients to survive and for energy and you're not giving it to yourself. You're heading for disaster and constant illness if you keep that practice up.
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If I were going to get a cat or dog, I'd go to an animal shelter or pound or something else like that. But I'm not getting a cat or dog I want to get a guinea pig. Does anyone know of a place where I could get one that NEEDS a home (other than an ordinary pet store?)
JLH (link)
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Your best bet here is to know people who already have Guinea Pigs and have breeded them - thus, they have lots of Guinea Pig babies and need to find homes for them.
How do you find those people? Word of mouth. In all honesty - go to a small, local pet store (non-chain) and ask the manager - often, they have contacts with all sorts of pet owners and breeders and can help hook you up. In fact, often, the babies they have in the store for you to buy came from someone who bred the guinea pigs in their home.
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How the heck am i supposed to get credit if I don't have any??? In this world we live in, you can't get credit unless you already have some. I have been turned down every time I have applied, and I don't know what to do! ANY SUGGESTIONS please
JLH (link)
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They often have high-interest rate credit cards for people starting out. Apply for one of those with a very low credit limit (like, $500 max). Demonstrate that you can pay off your bill every month. Get a job with a steady income, then you can ditch that credit card and apply for a better one elsewhere.
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My favorite pants have a hole in the crotch and the fabric is worn thin around the seam. How can i fix the hole without sewing. I have tried duct tape and safety pins already. Do you have any ideas? (link)
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Look... using tape is crap. Either learn to sew and fix the pants correctly, or throw them out. If these are your favorite pants, why wouldn't you want to try to fix them properly instead of some horrible hack-job with tape?
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My family believes very strongly about lots of things. One of those things is legal marajuana. They think if somebody in the USA wants to smoke pot, let them. Pretty much everybody in my family smokes pot except for me. I'm 15 years old. I think they're wrong. I don't think pot should be legal because it makes people do stupid things. But so does beer and other alchaholic drinks. But they're legal. So I think maybe they should not allow alchahol or pot. I'd like to point this out to my family but I don't want lectures. What should I do?
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The US tried banning alcohol during the period known as Prohibition. It was when the mob ran speak-easies, selling alcohol illegally, until the very stupid constitutional amendment that banned alcohol was repealed.
Yes, there are substances that can cause people to do stupid things.
The answer is NOT to ban those things, but to get people to be smart enough and responsible enough not to take so much of those things that they become stupid. People who drink casually, like at a dinner, don't do it to get plastered. Why punish them all becuase some dumbass wants to get shitfaced and puke a whole lot while falling over? Likewise, why punish the person who can smoke pot responibly?
Mind you, not only do I not smoke pot (for one, it REEKS like all hell), but I also don't drink - but that is my choice. I don't go around trying to force my choice on others - especially not when people who choose to partake in those things can do so in a responible manner.
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which day on a women's cycle is she LEAST likely to get pregnant, and which day is she MOST likely to get pregnant. thanks so much. (link)
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Not all women ovulate at the same time during the course of their cycle. To know these things, one must make a list of observations, incluing vaginal temeratures and amount of mucous being produced. Because of this, no one can tell you the "answer" as it differs from woman to woman. A woman is "most likely" to get pregnant on or near her ovulation - sperm can live as long as 4 days inside a womam, so if she ovulates 3 days after unprotected sex, there's a pretty good chance that she can get pregnant. Also, the egg lasts so many days after ovulation, so any sex during or before that time can lead to pregnancy.
Hopefully, from what I've skimmed over here, you can see that it is essentially complicated to figure out, and no two women will be the same.
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i know it's still possible to get pregnant when you have your period, but say someone has sex during her period, preferably near the END (and still wears a condom) will that lessen her chance of conceiving? or is there a certain day where you are highly likely to get pregnant? (link)
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If a condom was used, and used properly, and it doesn't break, and there were no leaks, what's the question here? What does someone having their period have to do with it at that point? If you're using protection properly, the menstrual cycle is irrelevant.
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when the slop of a line is 12/0 (12 over 0) is is 0 or undefined? when the zeros on the top is it 0 or undefined? (link)
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anything divided by zero is undefined - it is considered "impossible" by conventional mathematics.
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Ok i'm 15/f in 9th grade.
I'm in both of the advanced levels of classes here at my school and when it comes to friends vs. homework, i chose friends...
How can i stop myself from doing this? b/c my parents say i can go, so what do i do? i go
I need help b/c idont want to fail! (link)
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Well, it sounds like you are lacking willpower. In all honesty, until you straighten out your own head and realize that choosing freinds is killing your grades, there's little anyone else can do, other than tell you to learn how to say NO to your friends and put some time in studying.
Perhaps it would be wise of you to sit down with your parents and tell them this. Let your parents know that you are concerned about your study habits, and likewise your grades. Let them know that while you like being with your friends, you feel that you are slipping academically. Show your parents that you are concerned, that you are doing the mature thing by talking to them about it openly, and that you'd like some assistance from them.
Also, try working on a nightly routine - set aside time for your friends, and set aside some time for study. When it comes time for study, you must remain on target and go do it - no slacking it off, else you're not doing yourself any favors. Choose a way to study, too. If listening to music while you study helps you, then do that. If silence if your thing, then go with that. Find out what atmophere you need to study best. Use that to your advantage. Personally, I found listening to instrumental music, or music that I was really, really familiar with helped me, because to remember the material I was studying, I'd just think of the song and it'd all come rushing to the fore when I needed the information.
It is all about discipline - self discipline and self control. You need to develop it now and you need to take it seriously. And if your friends don't understand, they'll know in a few years when they are floundering about and you're succeeding.
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