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ok, I want to start wearing eyeliner to school, but my mom thinks that eyeliner is only for a date or if your goth or something. But not for regular school days. Is it normal to wear eyeliner to a public junior high? (i'm in 8th grade)
A lot of girls wear eyeliner in 8th grade. Of course, some girls pile it on pretty heavy, and that's probably what your mom is opposed to. If you're able to use it lightly, in a way your mom thinks is okay, she might not mind. Ask her to take you to the cosmetic department where they do makeovers and have someone "teach" you how to use eye makeup in a way that both you and your mom like. Even if you already know how to use it, this might make your mom more comforatable with the whole thing.
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I have a "friend” Samantha. We have a good past except sometimes over the last few years she has treated me bad. Ecample: Brenda ( a friend of ours) got mad at me and she became BFF with Brenda
The other day Samantha took me off her top 8 on myspace when she had all her other friends on her top 8. She has called me a biotch sevaral times now to the point where its not even in a lovingly or jockingly way
Well a few days ago on MySpace Samantha commented me and said "Hey Biotch "
Should I respond ? I think she knows I'm kind of upset with her. If I respond what should I say? Why do you think I should or shouldnt respond? I strongly believe that you should always keep a steady relationship with someone in case you need them in your future 1 day. But Im douting whether or not to respond nicely
Something I could say would be like "Hey" - keep it simple and short. Nothing more if I respond to her unless reccomended by Advicenators
Thanks for your help
So you're not sure if the "Hey Biotch" comment was meant in a joking way or a mean way, right? Hmmmm... if it was meant in a mean way, and you respond with something friendly, she's just gonna think you're okay with her being a jerk to you. But you don't want to say something mean, in case she was actually just kidding.
i think my response would be:
hey biotch! lol
That way, if she was joking, then you'll be joking right back. But if she was being mean, you're showing that you can come right back at her with it.
i am going to see these guys tomorrow the first time since like two/three weeks and i am soo excited! but my friend is going to be there too and whenever i am with them and she is there she judges me and i don't want her to. i just want to have fun with them and do what I want. how can i make this happen without dealing wiht my friend judgeing me?
I'm guessing you mean that your friend doesn't approve of the way you act around these guys. Apparently she's a bit more conservative than you are when it comes to guys. And when she sees you talking to them or flirting or doing whatever it is that she doesn't approve of, it feels like she's looking down on you for it. Is that what you mean?
If so... I can tell you from experience that talking to her about it probably isn't going to change the way she feels. She has certain ideas about these things, and nothing you say will change her beliefs. So you basically have two choices: you can do what you want, knowing that she's probably thinking you shouldn't be doing it; or you can be careful what you do around her, and save the other stuff for the times she's not around.
If you really value this friendship, I would just try to accept that that's the way she is, and try not to do TOO much of the stuff she doesn't like while she's there. But when you see these guys tomorrow, maybe you can suggest getting together with them another time, and without your friend.
my friends screenname has XXX at the beginning and everybody is like omg thats so bad. and always asking why she has that. why? whats so bad about it??
Well, as everyone has said, XXX is a rating for the hardest-core pornography. But a lot of people have it in their screennames, and they aren't intending to mean it like that. Since it's really hard to get the screenname you want (because they're all taken), people will add XXX or OOO or XOX before & after the name they want. (For example, the screenname ashley might be taken, but xxxashleyxxx or xoxashleyxox might be available). It's sort of like a "decoration" around the name, and it helps give you a better chance of getting the screenname you want.
At the begining of the school year last year , there was a guy in my Spanish class. Gradually we became really close friends, and the more I hung out with him, the more I relized that I really liked him. At both of my best friends pressuring, I told him that I liked him.
How I told him is that I wrote a note telling him. I know it was very childish to do so but I am happy now that I did not tell him in person.
His response to me telleing him was that 'He would never consider being more than friends with a black person.' His words exactly, then after a few days of me fuming and wanting to kill him, he says that he only said that to spare my feelings. He said that he really did not like me the way I liked him, but I think he was lying. Now I feel a little uncomfortable around him, should I tell him how I feel about him now? Or should I leave well enough alone. I'll take any advice. I am an African American female, and he is a white male.
We have currenlty (well he believes we have) settled down and are now still good friends, although I am not sure that the hurt I feel will ever go away, and I am not sure that our friendship can last. I thought he was a very nice guy, and besides what he said he has been a very good friend to me.
My friend thought that by saying he does not like black people, he would hurt my feelings less than if he said he did not like me. I find this very stupid, andhe should have said he just does not like me, and like a stated before, i think he lied about that because he only said it when I said I did not want to be friends with him anymore.. Even now, long after the sutuation 'ended' I still don't feel as comfortable around him as I used to. Please help. He has been a really good friend to me, I'm just not sure if I can stay friends with him.
((I've asked this question before. I did not get many answers though.))
I'm sorry that you've been hurt this way. It's always hard to be turned down by someone you like, but sometimes the reason given can hurt more than the rejection itself.
Although the way he said it was not very tactful, I do think he was being honest with his first response. The world has come a long way, but there are still many people who aren't comfortable dating someone outside of their own race, religion, social group, etc. And it's not always because they're racists or bigots; I think most of the time it's because they're worried that their family or friends wouldn't approve of it. And while some people are courageous enough to say, "I don't care what anyone thinks, I'm going to be with whoever I want", a lot of people aren't strong enough to do that.
Part of me is thinking that maybe he *should* have just said, "Sorry, I only like you as a friend" and left out the race thing. But then again, at least he was being honest and up front with you. He probably had no idea that it would hurt you as much as it did.
As for whether or not you should continue your friendship, you have to go with your feelings. But from what you've described, it doesn't sound like he "doesn't like black people" (after all, the two of you had become close friends); it's just that for whatever reason, he's not comfortable dating a black girl. If you can accept that about him, and still be happy with what he CAN offer you (friendship), then it might be worth giving the friendship another chance.
Is it okay to feed a dog (yellow lab>8 yrs) plumbs? Can anyone give me a list of human food NOT to feed dogs...thanks sooo much!!!
Plums and other fruits are okay, if he actually likes them... but I wouldn't give him too much, because it might give him diarreah. The only things I know for sure are bad for dogs are chocolate (which can kill them), and chicken, turkey & ham bones (which can splinter in their stomachs).
I'm just wondering, does anyone else feel constantly anxious...
Example: Asking a personal question on advicenators, then feeling scared about the answers... so you don't check it for days.
Or, even reading your feedback, your heart starts thumping.
Or, commenting or messaging someone on myspace or email and being unsure whether or not you'll get a reply, so you just don't check it for as long as you can handle.
I'm also anxious that when I IM someone, they won't respond.
I don't know why, but I'm always scared.
Am I just weird or is this normal? What should I do?
No, you're not weird! We all get anxious about certain things... and some people just get a little more anxious than others.
Anxiety is just a really intense fear... and it sounds like what you're fearful of is rejection. You're afraid people will look down on you because of the questions you ask, or that they won't like the advice you give. You're worried that people wont answer your comments/messages because they don't like you, or don't think you're worthy of a response. And of course that would make you feel bad.
Now, I could sit here and tell you not to worry, that people are basically pretty decent and will most likely respond positively, even if it's out of common courtesy. And yes, that's probably true... but of course there WILL be times when someone is rude or rejects you in some way. If you can prepare yourself for that, and teach yourself not to let it bother you too much if it happens, then your anxiety about these situations might go away.
Now bare with me here. I coach gymnastics, so I deal with fear all the time. When a gymnast is fearful of a skill, it's because she's thinking of what MIGHT happen if she messes up... all the "what ifs". What if my foot misses the beam? What if I don't catch the bar? Instead of saying "Don't worry, you can do it", I teach her what to do in case those things happen... basically, how to fall properly without getting hurt. Once she knows that she can handle a "what if" and come out okay, the skill isn't so scary anymore.
You can do the same thing with your fear: practice being rejected. Well, you probably can't MAKE someone reject you, but you can imagine it happening and plan on how you will handle the situation, what you will feel and think to avoid hurting too much. For instance:
What if: you check your feedback and someone has given you a 3. You need to tell yourself that it's not YOU they're giving a 3, it's your answer. And that doesn't mean it wasn't good advice. Maybe they didn't understand you, or maybe it just wasn't the answer they wanted to hear. Just take it in stride and try not to take it personally.
What if: you comment or IM someone and they don't respond. You can tell yourself: Well, that happens to everyone sometimes. Maybe the person hasn't been on in a while... or maybe they had a lot of comments and just overlooked yours... or maybe they were really involved in a conversation with someone else and just forgot about your comment? If it happens repeatedly, though, then yeah.. maybe they don't want to talk to you. Does that make you feel bad? Well, yes. But does that make you a bad person? No!! It's their loss, and you can just put them behind you and keep going on.
The fact is, everyone gets turned down, misjudged, hurt or rejected from time to time. But it usually has more to do with the person doing the rejecting, not the person being rejected. So just keep reminding yourself of all your good qualities and try not to let someone else's actions affect the way you feel about yourself.
Hope this helps! =]
School is starting august 22nd but i ahte social studie,scince,history, so i dont pay any attention so i get d's what are some ways to get me to pay attetion?
One of the best ways to pay attention is to sit in the front row, or as close as you can get to where the teacher stands & lectures. When you're right there under the teacher's nose, it's not as easy to chat with friends, doodle, or zone out into a daydream! You have no choice but to pay attention!
Another idea: if there's a class that you really have a hard time with, let the teacher know. Write him/her a note on the first day and say something like, "Dear Mr/Mrs whatever, I just want to let you know that science (or whatever) is not my strongest subject. I've always had a hard time with it, but I really want to try hard to do well this year. I know you have a lot of students to take care of, but if there's anything you can do to help me do better in this subject, I would really appreciate it." That would really impress the teacher and she would probably go out of her way to make sure you're staying on task.
well my boy friend and i have been goin out like 5months, i like him a lot! and well sometimes idk he can kind of frustrate me and always ask if im ok and be sort of protective over me like my dad and i dont know what to say and i wouldnt wanna hurt him cause he likes me a lot and hes like the first b/f i've made-out with...what to do??
16/f
Wow, it sounds like this guy really cares about you! And how sweet that he looks out for you like that... he's like a knight in shining armor! But yeah, I can see how that might get annoying sometimes, because I know someone just like that. In my case, it's my mom. She's a huge worrier... always checking if I'm ok, warning me about things that might be dangerous, afraid something will happen to me. It used to drive me crazy!! But I finally realized that that's just her basic personality, and nothing I can do will change that. So now I just sort of shrug it off. If you really like this guy, and everything else about your relationship is going well, then you might have to do the same thing... just accept that part of his personality and try not to let it bug you. When he asks if you're ok, or seems worried about you, just say, "Yeah, I'm fine! But thanks for being concerned about me!"... and then try to change the subject.
when you give a guy head, how would you prevent his penis from rubbing against your teeth? and if it did, but wouldnt have pressure put on it, would it hurt him? haha sorry for such an awkward question! and thanks
Try practicing with a popcicle. You know how it feels kinda weird when your teeth touch the cold popcicle (at least it does for me, haha)? So using a popcicle can help you figure out how to do with without letting your teeth touch it.
Ok so my crushes brother is about to tell me he likes me, and he doesn't know that I already know since he's so bad at keeping shut with a secret now I really don't want him to like me more than a friend because then my crush will obviously find out and then will respect his brothers feelings and stop flirting, talking, etc with me how do I turn him down nicely without sounding mean and still keep our friendship?
Oooh, sticky situation! It's hard enough to find out the girl you like has feelings for someone else... but when it's your own brother she likes, it can feel even worse! It's almost certain to cause some hard feelings between the brothers.
Let me ask you this: does your crush know you like him, and do you know whether or not he likes you back?
If you're pretty confident that you and your crush are going to end up together soon, then you will need to tell his brother about your feelings. Sure, it will be uncomfortable, but he's going to find out anyway, so it's best to be up front about it. Or, you could just tell him that you like someone else, but don't say who... and let your crush be the one to break it to him.
However... if you're not sure yet whether your crush actually likes you, then I think it'd be best NOT to tell the brother who you like. Just tell him that you really like him as a friend, but that's all. Then, if you and your crush don't end up together, at least you'll have spared the guy the feeling of being outdone by his brother. And if you and your crush do end up together, then the two of you can discuss how to handle the situation.
I'm dieingggg to get a horse. I've wanted one for just about my whole life. I know about all the responsibilities. I'm looking at a place to board that is 275 dollars a month, which includes
morning grain, daily turnout to hay and water (weather permitting),daily mucking of stall, evening turn to grain/hay and water, arena access, and trail access. Usually, does that include that barn buying the grain and all bedding materials? or is that an extra expense usually?
Also, what other expences a month can i expect and for what?
thanks so much!=]
Sorry I don't have the answers... but I bet if you call the stable you're looking at, they would be happy to answer all your questions. Or maybe they could give you the name of a helpful, friendly person who boards there, who would be able to give you some advice?
i know i know this may be the craziest weirdest question on this site..... lol.... bare with me.... i really need an answer:
ok i am not sure what ethnic group i am resemble when it comes to my looks. i should be dark because i am from the middle east but i am not. i am rather fair (not very like Scandinavians!) but i have a straight defined nose with a high rounded nose ( just a bittttt piggish) when you look at my profile but its rounded at the front (kind of like how a a toddler's nose would look like) from the front... i don't know how to explain it... but shape-width-size its a cross between a african-korean-latin nose if that makes any sense.... my face is between oval and rectangular . my eyes are almond-shaped (black) not too big not to0 small (though they lean towards small a bit... which makes people ask me if i have asian blood... i don't :S).
i've got a long neck... and last but most noticeable, i have extremely curly hair (when short looks like a cool afro) which gets people all confused about my background. when i say am middle eastern or Mediterranean they ask if my mum or dad is something else (i am supposed to be a stereotype dark pointy nosed arabian beauty or something... or a t least dark with dark straight hair) or the ask if my ancestors are of different races (nope, all of them are arabs my dad has a great grandparent from iraq and the rest are from this area in the west of what is now saudi arabia) my ancestors then moved to the shores of the med.sea (spain) and now i am here all confused.... so you see why blood, heritage, and place of birth don't matter??? :(
i really want to at least know who i resemble most. i mean it's really hard trying to find things that suits your looks when everything has to do with complexion figure features...etc
for the most part i just say i am half Korean half African... :S
any clue to what ethnic group i may resemble?
thanx a mil!
--jasmin
Wow, I'd love to see a picture of you... you sound very pretty and unique!
Anyway... without actually seeing you, it's really hard to say what ethnicity you LOOK like. But since you are certain that your heritage is middle-eastern, why not just tell people that when they ask? Sure, they may be surprised, since you don't have the typical middle-eastern look... but if that's what you are, then that's what you look like! Being honest about your heritage may help people to realize that not everyone of the same ethnicity looks exactly the same.
If you could take a look at all the people from your ancestral homeland, you'd probably find at least some others who look like you. And if you could trace your ancestry waaaayy back, you'd probably find that some of your ancestors arrived in Saudi Arabia from different places... possibly some from Africa, some from Asia, even some from Europe. All these genes got passed down in differnt combinations through the generations, and you wound up with a very unique combination!
Here's a website that you might find interesting. It's the National Geographic's Genographic project:
https://www3.nationalgeographic.com/genographic/index.html
Up at the top, click on Atlas of the Human Journey. It's really fascinating!
My younger sister is pregnant,and I am so excited! Upon finding out this great news, I started to plan a baby shower, as I feel it is my place to give the shower plus I want too. At some point my cousin called me to let me know she was giving the shower and I could help her. My sister and cousin are not close. They have spoke twice upon learning of the pregnancy. Once at my daughters graduation, the other at a funeral. I called my cousin and told her it means alot to me to give my sister and new niece this baby shower. With alot of attitude she agreed that I could plan it, and requested that I plan it around her volleyball schedule and her brothers birthday. I think she is being rude, and I am soooo annoyed. Am I overreacting?
Well, regardless of who SHOULD throw the shower, the fact is that both of you WANTED to do it. And you were each a little upset when you learned that the other one planned on doing it. The good thing is, your cousin agreed to let you go ahead and do it. Her being a bit rude about it was just her way of expressing her disappointment.
I'm sure that you would much prefer the shower to go off without any hard feelings involved. Now, I don't know what your relationship with your cousin is like, or what you'd LIKE it to be in the future... but if you want to smooth things over, perhaps you can plan the shower together?
You could say something like, "I've been giving it some thought. It was so nice of you to want to throw my sister's shower, and I know you have some great ideas, so how would you feel about doing it together?" If there's some part of the shower that you really want to handle, or some ideas that you already have, tell her right then, so there won't be any problems as you're planning together. Just say, "I'd really like to do [whatever], but do you have any ideas for [other stuff]?"
Planning a shower can be a lot of work, so it might be nice to have some help!
i'm a very sexual person and it seems like my boyfriend hasn't been able to keep up lately. i'm alrite with it. i understand that he is older than me and that he works alot. i have no problem handling it myself. the problem is, he has a problem with me masturbating. we've discussed it and he seems pretty stubborn about it. i don't know what i should do. should i tell him that it's normal and i'm going to do it regardless, should i just do it and not tell him, or should i try to tough it out and deal with a dwindling sex life?
Well, some people are just uncomfortable talking about that, or imagining their gf/bf doing it. There's probably nothing you can say to change his feelings about it. I'd just keep doing it but don't talk to him about it. While it's good to be open about things in a relationship, there are some things that can remain private without harming the relationship.
An example: my friend's boyfriend gets really grossed out if she mentions anything to do with her period. He freaks out if he sees a tampon in her purse, and he doesn't even want to hear about her having cramps or anything. At first that really bothered her... she felt that she should be able to talk to him about anything. But she realized that that was just a quirk of his that she wouldn't be able to change, and she didn't want to risk upsetting him over something that really didn't matter that much. So now she's just careful about not talking about that stuff around him.
I'm writing a story...don't want to say too much!
Ask these few questions with detail and THANKS!
1. Do you think your spoiled and why?
2. Do you think if you got everything you wanted, you will be happy?
3. How would you explain the word TANTRUM?
Thanks! If you have any ideas for my story, I would appreciate everything! Plus, I this book won't publish but if it is...i promise to give cred to the people at Advicenators.com
THANKS EVERYONE!
well, it's hard to answer the first question about myself, but i'll use three of my friends as examples:
allie - she has everything she could want. more than she could want, actually. but she doesn't ask for it. her parents just buy her stuff all the time. her mom goes out shopping and comes back with bags and bags of clothes, jewelry, etc. if allie even mentions that she likes something, the next day she has two of them! but i don't think of her as spoiled. she literally never asks her parents for anything. even when they ask her what she wants for her bday or christmas, she just says she doesn't know. when she got a coach purse (which she didn't even ask for), she was kind of embarrassed to use it because she didn't want to seem like she was showing it off or something. she really appreciates what she has. so even though she has everything, i don't consider her spoiled.
amanda - she's a lot like allie, because her parents are rich and buy her everything she wants. and she doesn't really act like a brat or anything, but she is really careless with her stuff. like she's broken or lost her cell phone about 10 times and her parents just keep buying her a new one. she loses or breaks stuff all the time and she doesn't even care, because she knows she'll just get a new one. so even though she doesn't throw tantrums or anything, i do think she's spoiled in a way because she has no respect for what things cost.
emily - is a spoiled brat! and the funny thing is, her family doesn't even have much money. but somehow she always gets what she wants. she is constantly begging her parents for stuff. they usually start off by saying no, and then she throws a fit and whines and cries until she gets it. and she's that way with everything. if her parents say "no sleepover tonight", or "no dessert this time", or "no we're not stopping at starbucks"... she'll throw a tantrum, and they almost always give in. that is spoiled in my opinion: always getting your own way no matter what.
so yeah, i think there's different kinds of spoiled.
no, having everything you want doesn't make you happy!
tantrum: well, that could be throwing yourself on the ground and kicking and screaming... or it could be stomping your feet and pouting... or whining and crying and begging.
I need a name for my main character.
The character is a spoiled brat that gets everything she wants. She throws tantrums and is spoiled to death!
What kind of name describes this?
Thanks and hope it isn't a difficult question.
There's a book called the Baby Name Survey Book. Go to the book store and take a look through it. The author surveyed a bunch of people on what sort of impression they had of certain names. Like for example most people think of Ann as a plain, serious person... and Alexis as someone bossy and self-centered. You can look through the book and find a name that most people associate with the type of person you're writing about.
I got a new boyfriend a couple of weeks ago...
he's really clingy and im okay with it sometimes... how do i tell him that he's too clingy...
Also I've been dating him for awhile and i don't really feel anything special...
we like a lot of the same stuff. but i feel like he doesn't understand me... i use to really like him but now i don't... i don't want to break up with him because he still really likes me... I tried talking to him and nuthing really seems to pull me closer to him.. and it really strange cause we have a lot in comon... he tells all his friends how much he likes me and everything and they say we look really cute togther... so why am i not more atrative to him?
Attraction is a funny thing. It's something you can't control, and sometimes it's hard to figure out why you are or aren't attracted to someone. If it's just not happening for you, there's really not much you can do about it.
I was in the same situation with a guy at my school. He was every girl's dream... really good looking, smart, athletic, super nice and soooo romantic. And he was totally in love with me! Sent me flowers, wrote me poems, took me on romantic picnics, the whole nine yards. But try as I might, I just couldn't find any feelings for him other than friendship. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me, cuz it felt like I SHOULD be head over heals for him. But it just wasn't there for me! I just hated having to tell him that we couldn't be together like that... but I had to do it and he eventually understood. (Gosh, I wonder what happened to him! I hope he found a great girl who deserves him!)
Anyway... you can't force yourself to have feelings for this guy if it doesn't come naturally. So the nicest thing to do is let him know that you just don't feel the same way about him as you did in the beginning. It won't be easy, but at least he can move on, and you can too.
I need to get a lot of clothes in the next month, by the time I start school. Where can I get nice clothes that aren't too expensive, so I can get more of them?
Thank you!
Well, I don't know what stores are in your area, but here's a general shopping tip. It's what my best friend used to do. She would go through magazines and cut out pictures of outfits she really liked. Of course, the clothes in the magazines would be designer and really expensive. But she would go to the cheaper stores and buy things that looked really close to the stuff in the magazine, and put together a whole outfit based on the picture... including the shoes, accessories, etc. And she'd look pretty much exactly like the model! She always got voted Best Dressed at school, and she probably spent less money on clothes than anyone else!
hey. well, i'm getting ready to go into high school. and i'm sooo scared. i'm scared about all of the upperclassman, but the most thing i'm scared of is the work. i know it will be much harder. and i get soooo nervous on tests and stuff, and i'm really scared for finals. i HAVE to graduate. i can't fail. what grades do you have to get to pass classes? can it be an A,B, or C? cause i always thought that if it was D or lower, you couldn't pass your class. in middle school i always got A and B's, but i don't know how, cause i never really understood the work. and i don't remember stuff very well, so everything that i learned in school, i probably won't remember a lot of it. i really don't want to go to high school. on a scale of 1-10, how hard is the work?? i'm not smart, but i'm not dumb eathier.lol. and, i can't figure out my schedule at all. i've asked my cousin,and i'm going to ask my sister when i see her, but i've already asked a couple of my friends, and they don't know eaither. what do i do?!?! i'm freaking out right now! please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks!
Okay, take a deep breath and relaaaaxxxx!! It's going to be just fine!! I promise! High School is not that bad! Most people look back at High School as some of the best years of their life!
Don't worry about the upperclassmen. The stuff you see in the movies, about the seniors torturing the younger kids... well, that's pretty much just in the movies. In reality, the upperclassmen are too worried about their own grades and social lives to concern themselves with the freshmen. And if they actually do notice a freshman, it will probably be to take them under their wing and help show them around. Of course, if a freshman comes in all cocky and acting like they own the place, the older kids may want to knock them back into place... but you don't sound like that kind of person, so you have nothing to worry about.
As for the work... yes, it does get harder, but no worse than when you went from 6th to 7th grade, and 7th to 8th grade. Your teachers know what you've been taught in middle school, and your freshman classes are designed to go just one step beyond that. It's not a huge jump.
A couple tips for doing well in class:
Any time you have a choice of where to sit, always try to get a seat in the front row, or as close as possible to where the teacher stands. That will force you to pay attention! When you're right there in front of the teacher, it's not as easy to chat with your friends, doodle or daydream... you have no choice but to pay attention. And paying attention in class makes a HUGE difference!
Ask lots of questions and participate in class discussions as much as you can. This not only helps you learn the stuff, but it also gets you brownie points with the teacher. Keep in mind that your history teacher, for example, really loves history! That's why he/she became a history teacher in the first place. And as you know, we all tend to like people who share our interests and seem interested in the things we like. Teachers are no different. If you show a real interest in their subject (even if you have to fake it), the teacher is going to like you. And that can work to your advantage when they're grading your papers!
Now, you didn't mention that you're worried about what to wear, but in case you are, here's a tip: see if you can get ahold of last year's yearbook, and take a look at what everyone was wearing. I did that when I moved to a new school and it was really helpful.
Good luck! You're going to be fine, and you're going to love it!