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I got a boyfriend....
I got a new boyfriend a couple of weeks ago...
he's really clingy and im okay with it sometimes... how do i tell him that he's too clingy...
Also I've been dating him for awhile and i don't really feel anything special...
we like a lot of the same stuff. but i feel like he doesn't understand me... i use to really like him but now i don't... i don't want to break up with him because he still really likes me... I tried talking to him and nuthing really seems to pull me closer to him.. and it really strange cause we have a lot in comon... he tells all his friends how much he likes me and everything and they say we look really cute togther... so why am i not more atrative to him?
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Attraction is a funny thing. It's something you can't control, and sometimes it's hard to figure out why you are or aren't attracted to someone. If it's just not happening for you, there's really not much you can do about it.
I was in the same situation with a guy at my school. He was every girl's dream... really good looking, smart, athletic, super nice and soooo romantic. And he was totally in love with me! Sent me flowers, wrote me poems, took me on romantic picnics, the whole nine yards. But try as I might, I just couldn't find any feelings for him other than friendship. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me, cuz it felt like I SHOULD be head over heals for him. But it just wasn't there for me! I just hated having to tell him that we couldn't be together like that... but I had to do it and he eventually understood. (Gosh, I wonder what happened to him! I hope he found a great girl who deserves him!)
Anyway... you can't force yourself to have feelings for this guy if it doesn't come naturally. So the nicest thing to do is let him know that you just don't feel the same way about him as you did in the beginning. It won't be easy, but at least he can move on, and you can too.
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It sounds as though you and this boy would be better off as friends. You both like the same things and get along, yet you don't have that 'feeling' for him.
Maybe you should just try telling him that you feel like you just don't feel that way about him, but that you do want to stay friends with him. If once you break up you feel like you miss him and may want to try it again, then feel free.
Next, you shouldn't date someone just because they care for you. If you don't really care about him the way he does you, then staying with him and him finding out later will hurt him more in the long run. I'm sure he will understand what you are feeling.
Hope I helped =]]
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If you don't like him nor feel compatible with him now just wait and see what staying with him will be like in a few months. You're opposites and he just doesn't get you nor seems willing.
Tell him that you like him but have realized you make much better friends (which is true) than you do lovers because you don't feel a romantic attraction. That's being honest and it won't hurt as much to hear. Let him know you value him as a friend.
I really can't answer why you aren't more attracted to him. It obviously has to do with his behavior for one thing and crowding you all the time. You might not be in to how he looks, his habits, just aboutanything. Only you know what you are attracted to and who interests you from a romantic/sexual standpoint.
But you are smart enough to know this guy doen't do it for you. I would stay friends but cut him loose in the manner I gave as an example.
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