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sick of being judged
i am going to see these guys tomorrow the first time since like two/three weeks and i am soo excited! but my friend is going to be there too and whenever i am with them and she is there she judges me and i don't want her to. i just want to have fun with them and do what I want. how can i make this happen without dealing wiht my friend judgeing me?
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Your friend does not seem like a friend t ome good friends don't judge people like that. You might want to talk to her and tell her that you don't really like being juged like that and if you don't like the way i am i am sorry i am not going to change it for you. I don't think you shoulld change who you are for that sake of someone else i will only make matters worse because if you chane one thing then they will want more things change. You could also try and not go everywhere with that friend that does that to you. I don't feel that, that is a very good friendship. They should not treat you this way.
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Well, i take it you have a fake friend. If she judges you infront of these guys shes most likely jealous of you. And if she cant accept the way you are, then she doesnt diserve to be your friend. Dont let her put you down for the person you are. Her judgeing you is only saying what kind of person she is.This probally sounds bad, but judge her right back, im sure she wont like it to much. Make good decisions about who you pick as your friends.
hope everything works outt.
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I'm guessing you mean that your friend doesn't approve of the way you act around these guys. Apparently she's a bit more conservative than you are when it comes to guys. And when she sees you talking to them or flirting or doing whatever it is that she doesn't approve of, it feels like she's looking down on you for it. Is that what you mean?
If so... I can tell you from experience that talking to her about it probably isn't going to change the way she feels. She has certain ideas about these things, and nothing you say will change her beliefs. So you basically have two choices: you can do what you want, knowing that she's probably thinking you shouldn't be doing it; or you can be careful what you do around her, and save the other stuff for the times she's not around.
If you really value this friendship, I would just try to accept that that's the way she is, and try not to do TOO much of the stuff she doesn't like while she's there. But when you see these guys tomorrow, maybe you can suggest getting together with them another time, and without your friend.
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i have the same problem with my best friend! i know how you feel
try talking to your friend, if that doesnt work then whenever she says something dont take it personally just let it go in one ear and out the other dont even dwell on thinking about it. If she says something to them thats rude about you just laugh and make a joke out of it i found that works
goodluck whatever you do dont let her bring you down!
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The same thing happends to me, i swear. I just ignore her, and if she says somthing rude, then say thats not true, or, be quiet! lol, i hope this helps!
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