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My younger sister is pregnant,and I am so excited! Upon finding out this great news, I started to plan a baby shower, as I feel it is my place to give the shower plus I want too. At some point my cousin called me to let me know she was giving the shower and I could help her. My sister and cousin are not close. They have spoke twice upon learning of the pregnancy. Once at my daughters graduation, the other at a funeral. I called my cousin and told her it means alot to me to give my sister and new niece this baby shower. With alot of attitude she agreed that I could plan it, and requested that I plan it around her volleyball schedule and her brothers birthday. I think she is being rude, and I am soooo annoyed. Am I overreacting?
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no, you are not overreacting at all. it sounds like she just wants to be the center of attention and perhaps is even trying to live vicariously through your sister. either way, you have the right idea: you should plan it. you know her a lot better and so your shower will probably be better because you know what she likes! try not to worry too much about your cousin's opinion of you, it sounds like she has enough of a high opinion of herself for everyone. i may be wrong but i have a hunch i'm right. just do what you are doing: think what your sister would like and dont try to please anyone else. this is YOUR immediate family.
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No, you are not overreacting, however there seems to be some underlining issues going on with your cousin. Normally when people lash out because of small things, there's something bigger underneath the surface. As we get older, our quality of life takes on new meanings. Your daughters graduation and the funeral may have been an "eye opener" to your cousin and this shower was her way of connecting back with her family. You should throw your sister a shower, but maybe a joint effort will work in your favor. After all, you all are family and this will allow your sister to have a bigger baby shower. Have fun and enjoying the celebration of your niece new birth, isn't that what it's about. Enjoy it and help your sister do the same without drama.
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Well, regardless of who SHOULD throw the shower, the fact is that both of you WANTED to do it. And you were each a little upset when you learned that the other one planned on doing it. The good thing is, your cousin agreed to let you go ahead and do it. Her being a bit rude about it was just her way of expressing her disappointment.
I'm sure that you would much prefer the shower to go off without any hard feelings involved. Now, I don't know what your relationship with your cousin is like, or what you'd LIKE it to be in the future... but if you want to smooth things over, perhaps you can plan the shower together?
You could say something like, "I've been giving it some thought. It was so nice of you to want to throw my sister's shower, and I know you have some great ideas, so how would you feel about doing it together?" If there's some part of the shower that you really want to handle, or some ideas that you already have, tell her right then, so there won't be any problems as you're planning together. Just say, "I'd really like to do [whatever], but do you have any ideas for [other stuff]?"
Planning a shower can be a lot of work, so it might be nice to have some help!
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You are not reacting at all she might want to throw the showing in a way to get closer with your sister and is upset because you intruded on that. It is totally your place to give your sister a shower. Even if your cousin is upset she will get over it. And if she doesn't than oh well you still get your way :] I mean if you were pregnate you would want your sister to throw it and not your cousin right??
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Definitely not, you just want to through the party and make it a good one. Don't let this bother you just do your thing I know it will me a lot to your sister.
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