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Q: okay so my dad is like in looove with his new wife. we just bought a boat and he told me that it was for him and his wife to spend time together. i mean all they do is spend time together. never with me and my brother.and she doesn't really stay home when it is time to like clean or work. and then again today we saw a little tiny boat and he said that, that was what we were going to get then i was like then we all couldn't go on and he was like it would only be me and my wife. i am just sick of it and it bothers me because before her i was daddys little girl. i miss that. what should i do.
sorry its soo long and weird.
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First, you will always be your daddy's little girl. Your dad is just excited and happy. It's like when you wish for something for so long, then you finally get it. You don't want to put it down because it makes you so happy. Your dad sounds like he has been lonely for awhile and the need for another adult was overdue. He loves you and your brother, so don't ever forget that. It sounds like you and your dad have a great relationship, try talking to him and let him know how you feel. Sometimes people (even parents) forget to pay attention to what's going on around them. Remember, he is human.
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Q: okay, well there's this guy. he's almost a year younger than i am. but we're not going out. he's been liking me for almost a year now, and i didn't notice the things he's done for me since a few weeks ago. the last time me & him hung out, was at the mall & the theaters and stuff like that. and he held my hand ALOT. and every time if i let go, he wouldn't let go of my hand. he'd just keep holding onto it. so i might be able to like him. :] but then two days ago.. i think i accidentally blew up my chance. we got into an argument, it was our first argument ever. and i saw him comment his friend. "...ok now i don't have feeling for her anymore haha" and then he was like "dam chi im fucking piss off right now seriously fucking hate it when i help somebody and all of the sudden get fucking cussed at by one of your best friends man that fuck up man that fucking retarded right there shit don't know why the hell i help her fucking ass now shit just wasted my fucking time pretty much doing jack! argh! only if you were still on dam nobody to fucking talk to and chi i hope you never become like one of them fucker" and then later they comment him back and was like "whats wrong?" and then he was like "nothing just go piss off that all" cause me & him made-up and stuff.. and i felt bad.. but like.. he said i had no emotions or expression or whatever. and called me a rock. but i didn't mind the rock part, cause he was my rock. but it was the expressions and stuff like that, that made me blow up. but me & him apologized to each other, so we're good now. so after me & him made up, like i felt bad for blowing up on him. and then he was like i didn't have to feel bad.. but i still did.. cause that was our first fight ever. and then he was like "if i say i love u will u stop?" and then that's when i read the comment about the don't have feelings for me anymore. and besides.. i don't want him to say it if he doesn't mean it.. so then i was like "its okay.. you don't need to. don't worry i'll be fine." and then i stopped talking.... and i went to go watch tv. and then he kept aiming me and was like "...i love you mary."
"i love you awhole lot hunnnie"
"=["
"like you said people have their ups and down"
"it ok"
"you don't have to be mad"
"cmon mary"
"please"
"..."
"your not ok"
"cmon hunnie everybody have the moment they just have to burst its ok"
"mary please"
and then that's when he texted me & called me..... i didn't pick up his phone call though. and his text said "its ok hunnie you dont have to feel bad about it im threw with it now be happy hunnie bunny" i didn't answer that either. then he went back to aiming me. and was like
"hunnie!"
"common"
"im ok with it now"
"please"
"i love you mary please stop blaming yourself"
"mary you make me mad at myself"
"=["
"im srry i got you mad at yourself"
"im srry for everything that didnt go out right"
then his away message was like "im sorry for everything i did wrong...i love you"
and he still calls me "hunnie" and stuff like that, but i'm not sure if he still likes me. cause now, i'm acting kinda different, like if he says "i love you" to me, i keep thinking "does he really?"
can somebody tell me if he still likes me or what? i'm very confused right now. :[[[ somebody please help me?!
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Yes, he still likes you, but how long do you think he's going to hold on. If you like him, you should tell him. He has given you several hints that he has feelings for you. If you keep holding out about your feelings, when you do decide to tell him, it may be too late. Also, him apologizing to you over and over will get old soon too. No one likes to get rejected, the heart is a delicate flower.
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Q: I will make this as short as possible, because I know I hate rading long winded questions...
I kissed this one guy at a party, I'll call him John, while I was still seeing my boyfriend(of 11 months) whom I'll call Dean.
John and I have tried to be friends before, but it just doesn't work out. We always end up bantering but that always ends in arguements, but he's really smart and sweet at times and he challeges me. The thing is he always hits on me, people say he likes me, I say I'm a conquest.
So anyway... John came to my neighborhood, where my boyfriend and I live to see me after the party where we kissed. He ran into my boyfriend and told him we kissed before I got a chance to and my boyfriend broke up with me. He said he would have been able to forgive me if it was anybody else, but he hates John.
My parents invited John and his family over the next day for dinner, which was a Saturday. I found out and I pretended to be sick to get out of dinner so maybe I wouldn't have to see John, but my mother sent him up to my room with medicine and water. He figured out I wasn't really sick and we got into this fight because he said I was avoiding him and I yelled at him for telling my boyfriend, ex now, about the kiss, even though I practically begged him not to.
Then somehow, don't ask me how, fighting turned into a make-out session and we almost had sex. We probably would have if my mother hadn't sent up my brother to check on us. My brother walked in on us and yelled at John, he went back downstairs and an hour later his family left.
My boyfriend called me that night, said he forgave me, and we got back together. Then the next day at school John said he wanted to talk to me, he told me he loved me and that I was never a conquest to him. He said he wanted to be my boyfriend and that he was sorry for everything he'd ever done to me and said. I told him I got back together with my boyfriend and that I loved Dean. That was a lie, I don't love him. He said some really hurtful things to me. Mostly about me being scared and running away from my feelings and only staying with Dean because he is "safe"...
I am so confused, I should be happy. I'm back together with my boyfriend, but things aren't the same. I can't keep my mind off John, or the things we've done. I haven't slept with my boyfriend yet...but I almost did with John and I'm alright with that. Now my boyfriend is pushing for sex...and I just can't. And even though I didn't sleep with John, what we did it was amazing, and I don't regret it. Even though I know I should. It seems the spark is just gone from our relationship now. (Mine and my boyfriends)
What should I do? Should I just put my feelings aside and try to work out my relationship with Dean, or am I just staying with him because he's "safe" and someone I can trust? Do you think I am honestly just staying with him because If I take a chance with John then there's a chance I'll get hurt?
Wow...that wasn't short at all. Kudos to whoever reads through it and trys to help.
Signed,
Some other devoted columnist on this site
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Sounds like you already know the answer but trying to talk yourself out it. You and John have been playing this cat and mouse game for awhile so it seems, now everything is out in the open. Life is too short for you not to be true to yourself. What about Dean, is it fair to stay in a relationship with him when your heart is somewhere else? Ask yourself this question, "Will I be okay with everything when I look back on the situation years from now?" In life there are no guarantees. You only live once, so make every moment count.
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Q: what are some good songs.. (preferablly hip hop/r&b/rap) that describes how your with someone and you love the feeling but you don't want to be with them because you're scared of getting hurt. and it confuses you so much inside. thanks guys
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Neo, Fatashia, or Toni Braxton and some good places to start. Their songs and lyrics are on a more personal level like the older singers such as Brian McNight, Sharda, Luther Vandross, and Anita Baker. Try any of these artist or the "quiet storm" collect your can purchase online.
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Q: I live in a residential home and I have 10 days to find a job.I had 21 but those days are gone.I keep filling out apps. but no one calls me back.Theres nothing wrong with me.I have my HSD.I'm over 18 but under 21.I am drug free,no felonys, and I can work any time day or night.Most places my problem is I don't have my DL or a car but other places that is not required.Does anyone know any places in St.Louis MO is hiring? And why they may not be hiring me?
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Monster.com is one of the leading employment websites online. Sign up, it's free. You can increase the number of employers viewing you and apply for numerous job at the same time. The site is very helpful and easy to walk thru. There are also work at home opportunities available thru this site which don't require a driver's license nor a car.
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Q: My younger sister is pregnant,and I am so excited! Upon finding out this great news, I started to plan a baby shower, as I feel it is my place to give the shower plus I want too. At some point my cousin called me to let me know she was giving the shower and I could help her. My sister and cousin are not close. They have spoke twice upon learning of the pregnancy. Once at my daughters graduation, the other at a funeral. I called my cousin and told her it means alot to me to give my sister and new niece this baby shower. With alot of attitude she agreed that I could plan it, and requested that I plan it around her volleyball schedule and her brothers birthday. I think she is being rude, and I am soooo annoyed. Am I overreacting?
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No, you are not overreacting, however there seems to be some underlining issues going on with your cousin. Normally when people lash out because of small things, there's something bigger underneath the surface. As we get older, our quality of life takes on new meanings. Your daughters graduation and the funeral may have been an "eye opener" to your cousin and this shower was her way of connecting back with her family. You should throw your sister a shower, but maybe a joint effort will work in your favor. After all, you all are family and this will allow your sister to have a bigger baby shower. Have fun and enjoying the celebration of your niece new birth, isn't that what it's about. Enjoy it and help your sister do the same without drama.
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Q: what are some good ways to get a shy guy to come out of his shell?
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Most people appear shy until you get to know them. First, develope a confort zone between you and him by making yourself approachable and easy to talk to. You may have to lead the conversations in the beginning. Ask questions, this shows you are interested in what is going on with him. He may start out with only one word responses. Don't give up. If he is answering, there is hope. Ask about things that are going on in his life and follow up on them on future meetings. This will bill up his confidence and make it easier for him to "come out of his shell" when it comes to you.
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Member Since: August 2, 2007 Answers: 7 Last Update: August 5, 2007 Visitors: 1163
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