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Ok well latly i have been living with my aunt lissa ( we'll call her that ) but me n' her never get along so i moved in with my aunt barbara.. I love'd living with her because we get along good n' shes really nice n' everything but shes always making me babysitt and i can lyk barely ever go n' do ne thing.. well i get a certain ammount of money a month ( for my aunt to raise me ) and so my aunt lissa gave that money to my aunt barbara to use it on food n' clothing for me for back 2 school- but instead i kno my aunt had to pay her house rent ( she rents a house) and i kno she used that money for it.. and shes in a really bad fincial situations n' problems, and when my aunt lissa found out that shes been " taking advantage of me n' not paying me for babysitting " she wanted me to live back here with her- i guess we get along better but i really liked living with my aunt barbara except the fact that she took the money i get n' took advantage of me babysitting.. And shes mad at me and i dont think she'll talk to me since i did tell her recently lyk a week ago b4 i had to move back to my aunt lissa's that i was happy living there.. i dont want her upset or mad at me and i wanted people's opinion's on if i did the right thing.. PleAse Help i'd appreciate it soo much n' ill rate you!
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Don't add 'I'll rate you' at the end, I hate that so much. It doesn't get you more answers, if anything it gets you less. Nothing personal.
Since living with your Aunt Lissa is the best thing for you, you have to tell your Aunt Barbara that you love her and you don't want her to be angry with you but that you think its better for you to be with your other Aunt. As a nice gesture, you might want to add that you might (if you live close to your other aunt) be able to still come by and babysit, just no all the time. Don't be afraid to say no to her babysitting requests if you don't really want to go. As for her financial problems, it really isn't your problem. That seems harsh but its true. You aren't necessarily a huge burden on her life that you need to help with her financing, thats her personal situation and not yours. You shouldn't have to worry about that. Her taking your money was wrong because that money was supposed to go specifically to you. You are pulling your own weight by babysitting.
Just tell her that you care about her but that its best that you stay with your other aunt. SHe might be hurt temporarily, but I'm sure she'll get over it soon enough.
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i met this guy dan on halloween 2002 .. and i loved him ever since i layed my eyes on him .. we did go out 6 timez but he went out wif my best friend like 20 ! and i reely love him and she even knows that .. im soo confused .. i dont know how to get him bakk .. ;) plzz helpp mee
x0xO MayA x0xx (Indeed)
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Six times? Twenty times? Holy crap. Anyways. Let the guy come to you instead of chasing him. Talk to him as a friend and perhaps it will become more... uhh again. If he isn't interested in taking you back then there isn't really much you can do but move on.
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if u ask a guy out nd he says no cuz hes gonna go back out wit his x and then they go back out and break up again and now theyre strictly just frends would it be like completely hopeless for her to say yea if u asked him out again??
*Ker~Bear (Indeed)
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Wow, that could have been worded a lot less confusingly.
There is always hope that he may have changed his mind and will go out with you. But I mean really, do you really want this guy so bad that after he turned you down you would still go out with him now? I guess so. Yea, give it a shot because you never really know until you ask. If you never ask then you will never know.
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okay first of all i dont think im fat at all and i like the way my body looks. however im very health conscious and eat healthy food most of the time. i count calories too. if i didnt eat the daily number calories i think is efficient ill go eat until its exactly the number i want it to be, because i don't want to become too thin. i think about food a lot. i never thought i was fat and i know im not and i love my body. im a cheerleader (a flyer) so i try to remain small. oh yeah and i love cooking and food overall, mostly healthy food. i mean ill choose a grilled chicken sandwich over a big mac you know? could this possibly be anorexia? (Indeed)
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Not at all. There is absolutely nothing wrong with making healthy eating choices. As long as you aren't obsessed or beat yourself up if you eat too much. You may have a problem if when you've gone over your calorie limit, that you try to make up for that on another day by eating less or by getting it out of your system. Just be sure you remind yourself that food is not the enemy!
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For everybody out there why do you support Bush? If you don't why don't you? (Indeed)
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Oh wow, such a can of worms opened here.
Others moderators may delete this because its not always a good idea, but I can't resist.
Bush is a pawn. That little, tiny, insignificant mediocre chess piece that no one really cares about when it gets removed from the chess board. The guy is living, oh no sorry, suckling off his fathers influence.
There is so much that I just don't have time to write. In short - I disagree with that mans policy on a hell of a lot.
AND he really REALLY looks like a hamster.
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ok ill get rite to the point. i have a problem with being open. i dont like telling ppl anything. my mom and dad always try to get things out of me but most of the time it doesnt work. ive been trying to lighten up and tell ppl things but its hard. does anyone know how i can tell ppl more about me and how i feel? i always think that they are y feelings that i keep to my self. i mean why should anyone else care about how i am feeling? is this right? please help...i rate~
signed
to many feelins inside (Indeed)
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Despite the fact that you may think no one else should care about how your feeling, a lot of people do care about how you're feeling. I don't tell people anything, well, theres certain people I tell exactly how I feel and others that I dont bother telling. This prevents me from getting close to people because if people know what upsets you and what makes you happy etc, then they know you on a different level then someone who doesn't know these things. Try and look at it this way, people do care about how you're feeling. Especially your parents. Not telling your parents how you're feeling can result in them mistrusting you.
Find someone you can open up to and feel comfortable talking to if you can't be open with multiple people. You need to have some outlet of emotion. People do care about how you are feeling. There isn't really a quick fix for this problem, which I know all too well. Its something you have to constantly work on. But when emotions are going through your head and someone you care about is there, just go ahead and tell them. You'll feel better about it after.
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idk if i should have sex yet i think about it alot i want to try but then when i wit the guy my body is tellin me a whole different story if u know what u me i just dont know what 2 do
16/f (Indeed)
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If you're asking then you aren't ready. If your body is telling you no then listen to your body and say no.
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I have gone through a 14 hour babysitting course at Baylor Hospital, I am certified at the heimlech maneuver and CPR. I think that I am fully qualified to babysit, and my parents say thatt i can. The problem is, I have only had one real job! No one asks me because I am short for my age, therefore I look young but I am very mature. How do I get babysitting jobs?
Signed,
Helpless (Indeed)
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Well, people aren't going to walk up to you randomly on the street and ask if you can take care of their children. You need to network. Tell your parents to let people that they know, know that you are interested in watching kids. People will generally only let people they actually know, or whose family they know watch their children. So ask your parents to put a good word in for you to people they know who might be looking for a sitter.
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Hi, this is MFS again.
If you come into the chat and people like myself, Jen, Fern, or Storage are in there, and we don't reply right away, it is likely because we aren't really there. We log in but are away. It happens. Often, I'll set my name to say something like "MFS|notHere" or "MFS|work". If you see that, then likely I'm just logged in and lurking.
The reason I say this is to demonstrate what happens when really stupid and immature people come into the chat:
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[19:22] hi,can sum1 gimme advice?????
[19:23] PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ?
[19:23] hello????
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[19:23] hey people
[19:23] can u plzzzzzzzzzzz help?
[19:24] does anyone know how to make your advicenators available on AIM?
[19:24] HELLO???????????????????
[19:24] God you guys suck ass
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[19:25] she/hes right!!!!!!!!!!! ppl cum in here to get advice and ur just like ...................................
[19:26] i bet both of yall are doing sumthin that i dont even wanna kno about
[19:26] fuck you!!!!!!!!!!!
[19:26] fuck you fuck you fuck you
[19:26] Yuck Fou! Fuck You!!!!
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Keep in mind, I can and will ban you from the chat for stupidity like that. We're not here to serve your every whim. We're here to help IF WE CAN. And hey, get this... some of us have LIVES.
Amazing.
Anyway, hardly anyone comes into the chat room - a few have, and we've had great conversations with them and even started to discuss a few issues. This chatroom is for the people of this site, particularly the frequent columnists, to talk to each other, get to know each other, and make this site a better place for everyone.
People who use it as way to act like asshats are not helping anyone, especially not themselves. (Indeed)
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I'm over it Jen. WAY OVER IT. Pssscht.
I'll kick, ban you if you call me a bitch, ANYONE.
Just have a little internet breather when you get in there, relax and wait. If no one comes and you don't want to wait any longer, then just leave. It doesn't make us want to help you if you call us names and curse the site.
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my front yard n part of my baq yard is full of weeds like in every place there isnt grass. therez no waii we can get sum1 to pull weedz real soon n itz so much work id go crazy!! i did sum todaii but it wuz onli a little n u can reallii tell that much that the weedz i pulled were gone. well i dont wunna use all my tyme pulling weedz i have tonz of other stuff to do. id like to find a good way to get it done. (Indeed)
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The problem with weeds is that if you don't pull them out, they just continue to multiply and multiply and multiply. Also, when you are pulling a weed out, make sure you get all of the roots, which means you need to pull the weed out slowly and make sure you don't just rip it out of the ground. If you leave the roots the weed will just grow back. Make sure you get a garbage bag ready to put all of the pulled weeds into, don't leave them on your lawn.
There are some sprays available that kill weeds, but only your parents should use these.
Its not easy work, but if you really want to improve the appearance of your lawn, you will have to bite the bullet and just pull them all out or kill them with weed poison.
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I would like all Days of Our lives fans opinions on this-
they changed the person who plays Belle Black yesterday without warning.
I think that they should have left Kirstin Storms playing her and they could have at least given some notice.
I know this isnt an important question to many but it is to me so give me your opinion! (Indeed)
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Apparently, Kirstin Storms 'moved on' to other things - which might mean she left the show on her own for movies or another show. There is some information here:
http://www.soapcity.com/days/news_events/index.jhtml
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Theres this guy..lets call him fred. Fred and I went out a lot and his friends don't like me at all and neither did his ex g/f's so we broke up. We stayed friends and then towards the end of the school year we seemed to drift apart. Just recently we started talking on the phone again (like for 2 hours at a time!) and I'm starting to develop really strong feelings for him again. When I tell him...he doesn't take me seriously anymore and tells me he loves me even though I know he doesn't really mean it the way I do. What do I do??
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What other people think doesn't really matter. Its what you think and feel that matters.
I think you should tell him that you don't like when he says I love you and isn't serious. Say (bluntly) that it bothers you that he jokes around about loving you when you really do care for him a lot. Its his response to this that matters. If he says 'I don't mean it to be a joke' then he obviously really does care about you and you misjudged his intentions OR he might say 'I'm sorry I won't say it anymore' or 'I'm sorry I never realized that bothered you'. If he says either of the last two then, he might not be interested in you anymore and you might have to move on. Theres no reason you cant be friends and its possible that the guy is a little confused right now. If hes confused, he might need some more time talking to you before he can decide what he feels. Tell him the truth about how what he says makes you feel but keep talking to him as a friend.
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ok so heres my problem. i really like this guy.. we will call him david. ive told his friends that i like him and they say.. well thats a possibility for you. i know that david knows that i like him.. im just not sure if he likes me or not. what should i do?? HELP! (Indeed)
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Just talk to him. Gauge his reactions to you talking to him. Is he happy you're talking to him? Compliment him on something and see if he compliments you on something in return. Strike up some conversation and find out for yourself, you will be able to tell if the guy likes you.
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hey ummm well i have this friend and she is kool and everything but she also has some really really really annoying things about her that i CANT STAND!! well like she wants to hang out and all next yr in school but like she is a prep and i am a punk and idk it just isnt going to work. i think that i will be better off with out her. but rite now she thinks that i am like some kind of saint or something and she is always there. i dont want to hurt her feelings but how do i break off a good friendship that has been going for 2 years without her knowing that i dont really like her ? ? ? ? ? ? (Indeed)
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Your punk/prep thing makes my head explode in rage and confusion. Seriously, people aren't branded and packaged into tight little groups. Its stupid and some day - YOU ARE GOING TO REALIZE.
You will regret losing this girl as your friend some day and if you hurt her - you are going to regret that even more.
There is no reason you have to be mean to her or ignore her. If you really don't want to be friends with this girl so badly then why not just ease off being good friends with her. Though I don't understand why the fuck you would. The labels make me want to rip my own hair out. You're going to lose a good friend because you think that you are SO different now. Truth is, you aren't that different.
Don't hurt this girl just because you can't get over yourself. Gradually see her less and less. Treat her nicely though. Or later you will definitely regret it.
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okay, there are like 4 people on this site pretendin to be alicia, i was wonderin who was the real one, cuz i wanted to ask her a question on sum1 she knows, but i wasn't sure which one was the real alicia, and i can't sk a fake cuz they wouldn't know the person!!!
ADMINISTRATION please don't delete this, i need to kno so i can ask another question!!!!!!!!! (Indeed)
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The original Alicia is, to the best of my knowledge, BarbieGurl111111. Thats 6 ones.
If you are concerned about someone being an imposter, you should take a look at the columns and see which column has been there the longest.
This will now be deleted because there really isn't a need for 7billion more answers which won't tell you anything different.
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last night me n my best friend of 7 yrs got into this huge fight .. she said everything that bothered her but i had no problem with that. i was glad she did bcuz it hurtsz to keep it inside. but she didn't even want to give me a chance to fix it. i told her everything and we had great times hanging out. i don't want to lose her forever. i can't. shes the only one who's been there since i moved here. it hurts like fck to see all this crap in her away msgs about how she doesn't care anymore. i just want her back. i can't take her being mad. it kills me. i don't know what to do anymore :/ help me please (Indeed)
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Give her some time to breathe first. But not too much time. Don't leave her alone forever. Once shes had some time to herself and to think about everything, talk to her, send her an email, do something. Make sure you let her know everything you said in your question and how important she is to you. Tell her there are problems, but that you don't think you should just give up because of them. Let this girl know that you aren't prepared to drop your friendship and that you'll work hard to fix the things that are bothering her so much.
If she doesnt respond to this, then I'm afraid there is little you can do. All you can do is make sure she knows you do care and don't want to give up on the friendship. Whether she is willing to accept that and work with you to fix things is left up to her.
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alright well im still scared haha but i have a tiny little belly button and i think it will really hurt...lol i dont know how to get myself to go in there and get it done cuz i want it sooo bad but ahh THE PAIN!! (Indeed)
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Go to one of the credible places that does navel piercings, but just go to visit and not to get it done. You can talk to the people there and ask them all of your questions.
I really don't think the size of your belly button matters because no matter what its not going to be completely painless. Its a chunk of metal being shoved through skin and fat - that doesn't come without pain. If you aren't willing to accept the pain or the amount of work it takes to maintain a belly piercing (3 times a day disinfecting and cleaning for several months) then you shouldn't get your belly button pierced.
If you can't work up the courage to go then eventually you'll get over not having it pierced. Its not a huge loss.
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My toes are hairy.. what should i do about that? (im a chick) (Indeed)
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Well I don't think thats really a huge deal, because feet are ugly anyhow. But, if it really bothers you that much then you can bleach the hair or shave it off. I'd recommend bleaching rather than shaving because you'll end up having to shave your toes over and over again. And that sounds pretty strange.
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My dance teacher recently had a baby boy(hes now 5 months) She also has a 2 year old boy. I volunteered to babysit for her once the baby is older. I've babysitted before but I had some help. Actually, I just helped babysit. I entertained them and the actual babysitter fed them, changed them, etc. I've never changed a diaper but I'm pretty sure I know how to fix them something to eat. I just want some tips on what all I should do and remember. Any ideas on activities? Snacks? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks (Indeed)
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Well, since you have some time before the baby gets older, go out and take a babysitting course that might be offered where you live. I took that a couple years ago and even if you never babysit in your life its useful. They teach you artificial respiration (AR) in the event that someone stops breathing. They will also teach you the proper heimlech manuever to use on a child. These are just a few of the things that I learned.
For the safety of the kids, the most important number would be 911, which is pretty simple. But make sure you get a number to reach the parents when their out.
Even if you don't have a number to reach the parents, pretending you are calling them works to keep the kids under control if they won't listen to you.
To change a diaper (since I can't help you with that):
http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_newborn/basics/diapering.html
To entertain them you have two options - find things for them to do, or do things with them. I prefer to do things with the kids. Back in the days when I babysat a lot I used to bring a bunch of craft supplies with me and use the craft supplies in their house to occupy the kids and myself. Kids will usually want to do whatever you are doing, so if you're just sitting there - then they're probably just going to sit there too. And then bug you. Or cry. Or something else annoying.
So try to get involved with what they are doing. I used to play barbies a lot or with tonka trucks and water guns. Depending on the kids of course.
If you really dont want to participate, then try this. Make up a game on the spot. Find a random object and hide it somewhere and have the kids search for it. Make a big deal when they find it so they feel special and will want to keep playing. If the kids are really annoying then hide it somewhere really high that they can't reach and it'll keep them entertained for hours!
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i was depressed before this.. but this cut it! i jus started talken 2 this kid lets call him bob. iight well it seemd like bob was really sweet n nice. n then we kinda got in an arguement, cuz he said if we went out he wudnt call me like all tha time, boys rnt always supposdta call grls, i kno thats stupid 2 argue bout but i duno. but then i said sry.. cuz i think i really do like him. n he said sry 4 wat? n logged off tha cpu. so i duno if hes mad at me or not. or wat i should do. n to top it off hes kinda cuzins w/on of my good friends. n theres a game hes guna be at thursday.. shud i go. n wat shud i do bout tha whole situation?! plz answer ill rate. thanks alot,
confused nd depressed (Indeed)
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More then likely, him leaving like that was either a computer error, or he wasn't able to stay on the computer for some reason. Wait until tomorrow and see what happens. Make sure you talk to him and ask what happened.
People who care about each other argue all the time, its completely natural. Just because you argued (even over something you think it stupid) doesn't mean you guys don't have a chance together. It would be creepy if you never argued ever actually.
He is right though, when he said he wouldn't be obligated to phone you all the time, thats partly your job. Girls can call a guy too.
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