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last night me n my best friend of 7 yrs got into this huge fight .. she said everything that bothered her but i had no problem with that. i was glad she did bcuz it hurtsz to keep it inside. but she didn't even want to give me a chance to fix it. i told her everything and we had great times hanging out. i don't want to lose her forever. i can't. shes the only one who's been there since i moved here. it hurts like fck to see all this crap in her away msgs about how she doesn't care anymore. i just want her back. i can't take her being mad. it kills me. i don't know what to do anymore :/ help me please
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Well this sounds like a similar thing that has happaned between me and kaleigh but i was your best friend and kaleigh was you.. kaleigh just constantly IMed me and emailed me and told me how much she needed me in her life to help her get through it all and how much we have been through and she sent me quotes and poems and everything. She called and always said sorry and b4 she hung up she still love ya (we are like sisters) and i said ok or alright bye.. then it finally got to the point where i would talk to her cuz i just cant leave her on a thread.. so what i am trying to say is that your friend will cave in if you really pay attention to her.. its not that i feel bad but she (kaleigh) did make a point that we were togher thru the bad and the good (mostly the bad i tell ya) and kaleigh said the same things you always did-trix
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well, 1st of all, i think your a really great friend for takin her thoughts and feelins to heart. i hav friends that would just laugh at me, tell me im over emotional, and then they'd act like my feelings are a big joke. second of just wait for her to cool down. wen she isnt overly heated, tell her your sre and you dont want that fight to ruin your relationship. let her hav her say and dont interupt her. wen you start to explain things and back yourself up, dont be sarcastic and try not to sound angry but simpethetic. tell her u dont want to lose her cuz she has always been there for u more than anyone else and so you want to help her with her problems.
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This happened to me too.. well kinda...:-/ ok well you need to talk to her in person and tell her how much you cherish her friendship and don't want to lose her tell her that she has always been there for you and you love her((not lyke that :O )) and tell her that you are willing to change to stay friends w/ her. If she doesnt want to give you a chance then to tell you the truth shes probably not a very good friend, but give it time and if she doesnt forgive you then still be nice to her and say bless-you when she sneezes and get her gifts on her b-day.. worked for me and now were friends again!
hope i helped
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Give her some time to breathe first. But not too much time. Don't leave her alone forever. Once shes had some time to herself and to think about everything, talk to her, send her an email, do something. Make sure you let her know everything you said in your question and how important she is to you. Tell her there are problems, but that you don't think you should just give up because of them. Let this girl know that you aren't prepared to drop your friendship and that you'll work hard to fix the things that are bothering her so much.
If she doesnt respond to this, then I'm afraid there is little you can do. All you can do is make sure she knows you do care and don't want to give up on the friendship. Whether she is willing to accept that and work with you to fix things is left up to her.
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I wish I knew the whole situation, I'll give it my best shot anyway. Right now, I think she needs time alone to collect her thoughts and decide what to do. Everytime someone gets everything out in the open, they need time to think about what it means to do so. Try to hold off from trying to get forgiveness for now. It's almost impossible to tell when the right time will be to talk to her. In truth, she may never forgive you. I've seen instances where best friends separate for good, over one incident. It's even painful to watch, let alone actually going through it. I think if she were to ever forgive you, she'd come to you in time. If you tried your best to talk to her, then that's all you can do. She'll know how much you care through this, and if she is ever going to come around she'll probably do it herself.
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