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I'm starting to develop really strong feelings for him
Theres this guy..lets call him fred. Fred and I went out a lot and his friends don't like me at all and neither did his ex g/f's so we broke up. We stayed friends and then towards the end of the school year we seemed to drift apart. Just recently we started talking on the phone again (like for 2 hours at a time!) and I'm starting to develop really strong feelings for him again. When I tell him...he doesn't take me seriously anymore and tells me he loves me even though I know he doesn't really mean it the way I do. What do I do??
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Well what did you do to make all them hate you? Well try to work that out and same with fred and your friend have them work that out its silly to hate someone forever.. its understandable to be mad for awhile depending on what it was but its time to move on and get over it just talk to fred about it though when you 2 are talking about that sort of topic-trix
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Okay, well next time you and him talk on the phone. Some how bring this into the conversation and tell him that you really like him again and would like to be exclusive...if he laughs and still doesn't take it seriously then forget him n stop talking to him. If your friends can't except him..do you really think he's that good of a guy??
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What other people think doesn't really matter. Its what you think and feel that matters.
I think you should tell him that you don't like when he says I love you and isn't serious. Say (bluntly) that it bothers you that he jokes around about loving you when you really do care for him a lot. Its his response to this that matters. If he says 'I don't mean it to be a joke' then he obviously really does care about you and you misjudged his intentions OR he might say 'I'm sorry I won't say it anymore' or 'I'm sorry I never realized that bothered you'. If he says either of the last two then, he might not be interested in you anymore and you might have to move on. Theres no reason you cant be friends and its possible that the guy is a little confused right now. If hes confused, he might need some more time talking to you before he can decide what he feels. Tell him the truth about how what he says makes you feel but keep talking to him as a friend.
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it doesn't matter how his friends feel about you, or how your friends feel about him. follow your heart, i know it sounds cheesy but remember this no one can control your love life but you. there's only one real way to know if he is telling you the truth when he says that he loves you, and that's for him to look you in the eyes and be able to say with a straight face that he loves you. remember this one thing though, your friends may have your back but that doesn't mean that they are right when it comes to how you feel about a guy. your friends can't tell you who to love just be true to yourself and your heart and everything will be ok.
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