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hey ummm well i have this friend and she is kool and everything but she also has some really really really annoying things about her that i CANT STAND!! well like she wants to hang out and all next yr in school but like she is a prep and i am a punk and idk it just isnt going to work. i think that i will be better off with out her. but rite now she thinks that i am like some kind of saint or something and she is always there. i dont want to hurt her feelings but how do i break off a good friendship that has been going for 2 years without her knowing that i dont really like her ? ? ? ? ? ?
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Your punk/prep thing makes my head explode in rage and confusion. Seriously, people aren't branded and packaged into tight little groups. Its stupid and some day - YOU ARE GOING TO REALIZE.
You will regret losing this girl as your friend some day and if you hurt her - you are going to regret that even more.
There is no reason you have to be mean to her or ignore her. If you really don't want to be friends with this girl so badly then why not just ease off being good friends with her. Though I don't understand why the fuck you would. The labels make me want to rip my own hair out. You're going to lose a good friend because you think that you are SO different now. Truth is, you aren't that different.
Don't hurt this girl just because you can't get over yourself. Gradually see her less and less. Treat her nicely though. Or later you will definitely regret it.
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Well tell her that you think you guys are spreading apart and you to need to take a break because you guys are on 2 diff. paths. -trix
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hi, well i totally understand u...u dont have to break off anything...just dont b as close as u use to...just dont call her as much...dont hang out wit her...make up excuses...u kno...n wit time she will get use to it...b4 u kno it...u aint da same no more :) xoxo effy
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i was in the exact same boat.. as much as you try to avoid it, her feelings are gonna get hurt no matter what.. when she wants to hang out with you say you have something else to do or your mom won`t let you.. avoid her when you see her and when you do things with other friends, don't invite her.. her feelings are bound to get hurt no matter what but sooner or later she`ll take the hint.. good luck, i hope i helped <3 christina
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Hey, ok, those 2 reasons aren't very good ones since by saying that you're judging her and everyone can be annoying sometimes like even your best friends and, maybe, your boyfriend. But if you really do hate her and can't stand her than it's better for you to tell her because in a way you're leading her on. I hope everything works out for you and I hope I helped. ~*~KaLi~*~
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Hahaha thats Great you know if its a good friendship like you sed yourself then why do you want to break it off? if she's so annoying just minimize the time spent together!!the reason why you don't want to hurt her is b/c i think your reasons not to be frindes with her are not valid!! well Good Luck x0x0 Kay
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There's no good way to tell someone they're the most annoying thing that you know. So you gotta use a bad way. If she calls you,don't answer,tell her you have other plans,and hang out with her only if you're desperate. But be careful ya know. I mean if she's a nice person,you better have a better reason than just she can be annoying sometimes and she's a prep. In that category,that's really shitty of you to just dump her because you're in a new clique. Usually it's the preps that don't wanna hang out with the punks anymore.
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Just stop hanging out with her, keep conversations at a mininum, and don't call her.
I thought that punks normally don't care about what people think, they didn't think of it as a fashion, and they were very accepting of people as long as they had an open mind. They didn't dislike anyone who wouldn't conform to their ways. As a matter of fact, that's the opposite of what they stood for. Well, maybe that's just how punks act where I'm from.
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Well, you have two directions to look at, maybe your friends can be good for you. A prep and a punk are actually the best kind of friends there can be, one to keep things happy and upbeat, and the other to keep things more chilled off. If you do want to leave her, don't break off the friendship completely, just sort of hang out with her when you want, but don't forget, it would be unfair not to not tell her because this is a mutual friendship of two years.
Lizzy
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well you two definitly need to talk call her up or write her a note if your two shy to talk to her in person and just tell her that your not sure the friendship isz qunna work out beacause the two of you have tottally seperate personalitiesz . . . but everyone hasz their share of annoyinq quirksz i`m shuree she findsz thinqsz annoyinq about you and if she seemsz to be there for you and isz a qood friend then theresz no need to break off a two year friendship because of the music and clothinq that you wear isnt they same style as hersz.if her personality sucksz then you two souldnt be friendsz but pleease losinq a friendship over seperate stylesz is rele dumb . . . and if her annoyinq thinqsz rele do bother you talk to her about them and if she would be willinq to chanqe a bit but you have to be rede for some chanqesz to . . . rate me please
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Yep, you shouldn't label yourself. If you look at me you would suppose i was a "prep" but i'm not anything, and i listen to Rock and Punk. But you should really just sort things out with her, maybe you guys can be friends...just because youre different doesn't mean one thing. You should tell her something like "We are different and it's not working out because of the differences, i hope you understand where i'm coming from but i don't want you to hate me because of this" or something like that.
Tell her you still want to be aqaintences(sp?) ..like you'll say hi to her time to time...it wouldn't hurt to say hi would it? she'd probably be really sad if you just let it go and don't interact anymore
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People are people, not labels. You are both teens or pre-teens. Do what you want. If you think that it's a "good friendship that has been going for 2 years", I'd consider just keep going with it. If you are a good friend, you'll put up with your friend's "annoying thinks", also known as quirks. If you just can't handle it anymore, sit her down and talk to her. You NEED to tell her the truth; she has a right to know.
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Ok what are you trying to say punks cant hang out with preps ?????? I am a prep and my boyfriend is a punk and i think we are gonna be alright
you shouldnt care what they think as long as you like HER for a friend
Love Ashley
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well..if u really dont like her than jus slowly back off, dont take her calls,make excuses not 2 be around her, jus seperate urself...but dont let a group name get in the way of yalls friendship...every1 has annoying qualities so maybe u culd jus learn 2 ignore them? or wen she strts to bother u jus walk away 4 a lil bit. but u mgith wanna think if u rly wanna break off a 2 yr old friendhip jus cuz sum1 can get annoying..idk i hope i helped!
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Ok. u cant exactly break off a friendship, especially since uve been friends with her for 2 years. maybe just dont hang out as much. she might get the hint u dont wanna be her friend ne more if u stop hanging out with her. hope i helped. -candace
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