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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Also, how does one make burfi? (link)
Since you didn't mention what kind you wuold like I will send you to the info. :)

http://www.answers.com/burfi?gwp=11&ver=2.0.0.453&method=3


I've been having this horrible pain, about 5 inches to the right of my belly button. It'll come for about 30 seconds, then go away. But it`ll hurt so bad it forces me to sit down.
(its not period cramps, it hurts much worse, and its totally different, plus I had mine last week)

And now, I feel faint, really hott, and super dizzy. When I was at the movies I was nauses (sp?)
What could be wrong? Please help, I feel horrible! (link)
Let your mom know about it. It could be your appendix. Not saying it is, just don't get sick and not tell her. :)

Just to prove those with no medical knowledge wrong here are the symptoms of appendicitis.

Symptoms:

· Generalized abdominal cramps. Pain usually begins near the navel and moves down to the lower right. The pain becomes worse when the person moves or touches the area.

· Nausea or vomiting.

· Elevated temperature.

· Increased pulse rate.

· Loss of appetite.

· Constipation.

· Abdominal swelling.


In appendicitis these symptoms tend to become more severe as time passes. Not everyone with appendicitis has all the symptoms. Never should a laxative or enema be taken if you suspect appendicitis. These medications can cause the appendix to rupture.


hi ..um i probably sound really imature about it, but i am starting birth control for the first time and i was waiting for sunday to take the first one, and i thought it was today but its actually saturday ...what do i do now?.. do i keep taking them and pretend that today it sunday for the rest of the time...or do i restart a new package tomorrow. (link)
Its not a big deal. Just start them on Saturday from now on. :)


Why has my parents got baby oil next to their bed...my friends keep saying all this stuff and its just floating around in my brain. I need straight answer its not like i can ask my parents (link)
Baby oil is good for your skin and it is gentle.
Perhaps that is what she uses it for. You could just ask her...mom what do you have baby oil for.


i've been having safe sex by using a condom..and we've been checking after and they have not been broken..i usually get my period at the end of the month or the very beginning and i haven't gotten it yet..should i be worried? and if i don't get it..what should i do? (link)
You are probably all right. Stress, exercise...many things can throw your period off or just make it skip now and then. Don't worry about it yet.

If for some reason you don't get it...lets say by the end of August, go to walmart or any drug store and get a home pregnancy test. They are easy to use and easy to hide.

You can email me if you need help after that. My address is on my column. I think it will be OK. :)


the other night my bf was riding home on his 4wheeler..he only lives like 2 or 3 miles away..and he got stopped by the cops! they gave him 5 tickets! one for uninsured driver, one for unregistered, one for unlicensed..one for no head light..one for no tail light (he shut them off because he was almost home..like 3 houses away!) the 4 wheeler is a class A vehicle. im guessing in all it will cost about $500 because he got 3 major tickets! does anyone have a better guess? what if we cant get the money together by the date it says to turn the ticket in which is august 16th? is there an arrangement you make? Can you do community service instead? how can we get money together if we dont have jobs? (link)
Sounds to me like he better tell his parents because I think 500 dollars might be a pretty low estimate. I'm not sure about that but driving an off road vehicle on the street is pretty bad.

He can't make arrangements until he goes to court. Sometimes they let you and sometimes they don't. I doubt they will let him do community service for a traffic violation.

Good luck. :)


can masterbating with a back massager cause cancer? like idk pivotal or w.e it's called, thanks (link)
No.


rester avec moi a jamais. i saw that in a quote before, i know it means stay with me forever. but what language is that in? (link)
It appears to be French. :)


What does crunk mean? We thought it meant drunk but apparently it isnt. (link)
I'm going to bet this is your answer. I got this from answers.com if you want to check. :)

Crunk
Crunk music is a specific type of hip hop music, based out of the Southern United States, particularly on the eastern side of Atlanta, Georgia; and Memphis, Tennessee. Crunk is classified as a subdivision of Dirty South or Southern rap and is an outgrowth of Atlanta-based Miami Bass and perhaps more directly, New Orleans' Bounce music.


My husband and I are divorcing over the fact that I wasn't a virgin when we got married, 5 years ago. Back when we were dating, I'd cheated on him and fooled around with another guy. I hated myself for it so I couldn't bring myself to tell him. Now one of my friends told him and he got so mad. I'd tried to explain why I didn't want to bring it up, but he was too hurt to care. We've tried to talk about it several times, but it only made both of us hurt worse. So now we're getting a divorce and we've agreed not to see or speak to each other anymore, which sucks because we know we're still in love with each other. It's just too painful... As if that's not bad enough, I just found out I'm pregnant. What the hell do I do? I don't know if I could contact him even if I wanted too. I'm scared. Please give me words of wisdom! (link)
Write him. Tell him everything you have always wanted to tell him. It is much easier than talking. He won't interrupt your train of thought, he won't get you off the subject with an argument. Its just you and the paper, computer, whatever you want to write on.

Tell him you want to get together and talk about it after he has read it. Maybe he needs to write you as well.

Then, when you get together to talk about it really talk. He will know what you want for the future and will have had time to think about it.
Hopefully to the point where no arguing will be necessary.

Then, AFTER you have discussed the other issues that have you separated and hopefully a decision is made to try again, tell him about the baby. If he does come back, you want to know it is for you. The baby will be a bonus. If you tell of the baby first then you will never know if he would have come back otherwise and it will bother you in the future.

Good luck. I hope it works out the way you want it to. :)


ok... im 16 and a girl, and i really haven't done alot w/ guys, actually ive done very very little.. but my boyfriend has (with girls that is).. i think if he would have had an std he would have told me... espically since he says he loves me.. well recently i was at his house... we didnt have sex (we never have had).. but he wanted to.. so we ended up just touching eachother... well he fingered me more than he normaly does and i did thouch him but we never touched ours together (just hands)down below... since i havent gone swimming in a while i havent shaved my bikini line... well i shaved it a couple days ago.. and it got really irratated.. ive had razor burn before and this is the worst ive had... im worried that he may have given me herpes... im not so sure thats possible.. i feel like i may have some of the sypmtoms but i also could just be sick...... is it possible that i could have gotten them? please help me out (link)
I don't think you have herpes. It is just irritation from the shaving and the hot weather
probably isn't helping it. You have to have had sexual contact ( other than just hands) to contract herpes. Use some powder to help with the irritation and excess moisture from sweating and you will be OK in a couple of days.

If not then you may need to go to the doctor, but I don't think it will be necessary. :)


I just got a speeding ticket a little while ago but the cop was just the biggest jerk ever. He pulled me over after I entered the highway, telling me that I was speeding on the ramp. Wtf is that? I was accelerating so I could catch up with the drivers on the highway, WHAT YOURE SUPPOSED TO DO!


The speed limit on the highway was 70mph but everyone was going like 85 (crazy Houston drivers)so going up the ramp I was going 77 (what he told me) and he pulled me over! I didn't argue with him too much because I didn't want to get in trouble but should I try to fight it? I mean, yeah I was over 70 but only to keep up with the traffic. So fight it or just pay up? (link)
Just pay it. You were speeding regardless of the reason so the cop will win.

A hint for the future...just take the ticket quietly. If you want to fight it later the cop is less likely to remember you. Makes fighting one easier. :)


Okay my friend keeps bugging me and asking me this question , " Do my pimples make me look ugly??" and "When will it go away??" and i don`t know how to answer this questions , she`s beautiful and the acnee doesn`t make her ugly , but when you have acnee does it make guys less attracted to you can you answer all those 3 questions for me asap? thanks so much YG! (link)
I don't think acne bothers boys to much. Most of them are fighting it too!

Tell her (and you too) to try and wash her face with just hot water. No soap. That's what I did and I never had a bad acne problem. Its sure worth a try.

They also make facial sauna things that mist hot water on your face and open your pores up. Those are good to use if your face feels extra yukky. If you are careful and can't afford one of those, you can boil some water and put a towel over your head and catch the steam off the hot water. Put your face with the towel hanging over your head over the water. It can burn you if you get to close so use caution.

Acne just has to run its course. Some will last a couple of days and other blemishes last a week.

About all you can do is tell her she looks great and stop worrying. Stress can cause acne! Have yourselves a weekly beauty day or something and don't worry about the acne. :)


Hi, I asked a question about itching 'down there,' it's off and on and once I go to the bathroom and scratch it, it's okay. Do you think it was caused by masturbating? .. I don't think it's a yeast infection because there's no burning .. I did shave there once a while ago, but I don't think it's from that. (link)
Ah ha! If hair is growing back...that itches something fierce! Try putting some powder on until it grows back in. That's one awful side effect of shaving there and why I don't recommend it. I would bet that's the reason.

Masturbating won't give you a rash. Don't worry about that.

Just for future information though and just in case. A yeast infection won't cause burning when
you urinate. That's a urinary tract infection that causes that. I will give you the website for yeast infection. You can check your symptoms with what it says and go from there. This is a wonderful website that all teen girls need to read though because it is loaded with great information.

If it is from shaving it shouldn't last much longer. Just hang in there. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/yeast.htm


me and my gf broke up like 3 weeks ago but we still hang out sometimes. we were watching a movie and when it was over we started makin out and so i stopped real quick and was like, "we're still friends, okay?" and she didnt say anything so i kept kissin her but she wasnt kissing me back and she started crying so i kinda just left. we've talked since then but why was she crying??? did i do the right thing??? what should i have done if i didnt??? what do i do now??? (link)
Well she probably still has stronger feelings for you. You saying your still friends just reminded her...picked the wrong time to say that for sure!

You probably did right by leaving. Sounds like she is still hurting from the break up and you don't want to make it worse.

Just keep it friendly. no kissing or anything. :)


I don't understand where the hymen is in the body. How does it not pop everytime you put in a tampon, like how is that different from a guy putting his penis in you? Is the hymen in your uterus? I'm so confused, can someone give me a link to a diagram or something? Thanks, 13/Female. (link)
Here is a site that explains complete with diagram. http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/hymen.html


I recently got onto advicenators today, and my account is not showing up under "SEARCH COLUMNISTS" and then "NEWEST". Because of this, I only answered one question to a person who put it on a public forum type thing like this. I really want to help. My column is AskGenevieve.

Thanks! (link)
You need to go to "advice topics" or "view questions" and answer questions. Very rarely will you have questions in your inbox if you are new to the site. Most of the questions you get there will be from someone wanting to follow up on advice you gave them when you answered their question.

So don't wait around. Start answering questions! :)


I'm kind of "addicted" to Gatorade. Everytime we go to the store, I buy it. And, instead of buying cokes to keep around the house like I use to, I now buy Gatorade.. and drink atleast 1 a day. Ok, my question is.. Is Gatorade bad for you? And is drinking this much harmful? Should I cut down on any/all/how much? (link)
According to their website it is perfectly alright to drink it anytime you want to. It is not bad for you at all. Here's the site if you'd like to check it out for yourself. :)

http://www.gatorade.com/frequently_asked_questions/


I was wondering, what are some of the reasons why I am itchy 'down there'. It started being itchy about a week or so ago, and I don't know why. It's off and on and I should be getting my period sometime this/next week. Don't suggest going to the doctors or to my mom because those aren't options for me, I want to know what it could be. Thanks. (link)
It could be many things. All of them needing medical attention. If you don't, it won;t get better and could become infected if you continue scratching. I know you don't want to say anything to your mom, but you honestly need to. :)

Here is a website for you to look at.

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003159.htm


hey,
I am just going to start taking birth control and I am sexually active, i know that i have to go to the gyno and I recall hearing my doctor say something about what week of the month it would be best to go..it was somtime like after my period, but i just don't remember...do you know?
thanks for your time.
timbit_22

p.s. I'm 16...if that matters (link)
I don't think it really matters. You will have to get a pelvic exam and the doctor won't want you to be on your period when you do. That's all.
If you want to be positive about it you can call the office and ask his nurse. She will be more than happy to talk to you. :)




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