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Life is an adventure but Life doesn't come with user manuals for everything. School subjects do little to prepare us. Its no wonder we all need helpful advice sometimes. Blessings to you!
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It was recently suggested to me to do pairs ice skating ((I usually do singles and briefly did ice dance)) and I think it's beautiful so I'd love to try it, but I'm worried about my height and weight. I am 14 years old (almost 15), 5'5" and 116 pounds. What do you think?
Not familiar with regulations for ice skaters. Is there a certain height and weight you must be within to be able to skate?
Just logic applied to the question, it would seem to me it has more to do with the guys compatibility as far as how he moves with you, how you sense each others intentions and his strength to lift you for any fancier moves. 116 is not alot to lift for a strong young guy. think cheerleaders and the guys who life them, and I am sure cheerleaders come in all sorts of sizes. It's more about one's skill I think
My bf wants to finger me? I'm ready but idk what to do while he is? And where should we? And how do I keep my vagina from smelling? Help!
I am wondering if you are concerned about your own natural musky scent. that is not a bad smell and is actually much liked by males.
Now if you have a raunchy fishy smell, or like rotting garbage, then you may have an infection and need to get on antibiotics from your Dr.
Caution: Do NOT use douches or soaps or perfumed sprays labeled for "feminine hygiene". Its just a marketing ploy and is actually bad for you. Plain water is enough for cleansing. Anything more will not only strip away bad bacteria but all your good ones that keep the bad bacteria under control. Females who douche have greater risk of getting vaginitis and needing to see a Dr.
If he cleans his hands well and has any rough spots on his hands, fingers files and nails trimmed, there should be no problem.
Don't worry if you don't have much success the first few times, it actually takes a lot of practice for each person to getting the right kind of speed and motion to arouse their partners. Even older adults have the same learning curves with any new sex partner. So just relax and enjoy.
Hi, so I'm in highschool and I have noticed this guy looking at me often. Like, very often. I talked to my sister about this and she said that he is a nice guy and we are acquaintanced. I catch his eyes literally following me everywhere and I am not sure if he finds me pretty or not. We were in class and I caught him staring at me and once I looked up to stare back he quickly averted his eyes. Another time, this week, he was paying for his lunch and he looked back as if searching for someone and he looked at me. That's not the first time he's done that. we talked while getting food. This week, he'd look at me frequently again. I was in the line to get food and he was in the line to pay and he looked as if he was searching for someone and he was looking directly at me and I'm not sure if he was searching for someone else or if it was actually me. I like him and I'm not sure if this could mean something. If I added all the details it would take forever to read this. If you want more information and can try to contact me, if I can answer after the quesiton.
If you have that many details that have your female intuition picking up on possibility of his being attracted, then likely that is so. Staring lots and smiling and attempting to talk to, are signs in interest in a person. People do not go out of their way consistantly to pay attention to a person they are not visually attracted to. What about yourself, do you stare often at a guy you find unattractive to your personal tastes? I bet you don't. No one does. There are rare occasions that people are attracted to a personality and don't care at all what the person looks like but that's really rare.
So he's attracted by your looks. That does not equal him 'liking' you yet though. Think about it. How could you know if you liked crab if you had never eaten it before it your life. Just looking at crab meat would not help you determine if that artfully crafted meal by an expert chef that was visually appealing is going to be something you like to eat too.
The only way for him to go from attraction to knowing whether he likes you or not is to spend some time around you, quality time where you really get to talk in depth and get to know each other.
And the reason that young teen men do not often approach the girl to attempt to get to know her better to determine if they even want to ask her to be his girlfriend is that too often girls want to skip the exploring whether you like the other person stage altogether and they don't want to make a commitment to be someones boyfriend. This is the reason why so many get together with someone and end up breaking up because they discover that they had little in common or not a strong enough attraction.
So take it a step at a time, talk to him more and if you have an interest in getting to know him better, suggest hanging out together, maybe with a group of friends and him along so it doesn't feel like a date. Trade cell #s with him, find out his schedule and the best times to call and chat, but try to spend equal times in person where you get to read body language, see facial expressions. Good luck.
I actually like 2 of classmates. Now, I think have a crush on one of them more but I think also a crush on the other guy because he said he like me jokingly but I treated it seriously. Both of the guys are awesome. What should I do?
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Become friends with both and let each know that you are befriending the other and will be friends with both of them. IF either has a problem with that, let him go, it means he is insecure and will likely be jealous and perhaps controlling as time goes on.
Since neither has asked you out or to be their girlfriend, I don't see any issue with being close with the each, do things together as a group, all 3. You are likely young and just starting the dating and relationship process. It's a time to enjoy while you learn what you like in the opposite sex. And it's impossible to learn that unless you spend time with them. It is okay to spend time together as friends during which you get to know them both better. All the way, make sure that both know that you like them both equally as friends, however, before you decide if you are interested in either one of them as more than friends, you need to spend time with to discover which one you'd prefer to date if they even feel that way too.
I had unprotected sex before my periods after that i took ipill within 10 hours. I still don't have periods. M i pregnant
A pregnancy test will verify if you're pregnant or not. The emergency morning after pill can disrupt your cycle just as the pill does. there are women who have side effects when taking a daily pill.
If the emergency pill were just like a normal birth control pill, it probably wouldn't help much to keep one from becoming pregnant. However it is much stronger since it is a one time dosage so I can see it easily having an effect on your normal cycle. For specific questions, you might want to get your local pharmacist on the phone and tell them what product you took and ask if such a reaction is normal within the range of possible effects on a woman.
im from india i wand sex with my married cousin sister how to convance her
You are going about this wrong. It's not a matter of convincing or talking someone into it, or forcing them, it's about two people mutually developing feelings for each other and both having the right chemistry, meaning they both feel a sexual attraction for each other.
Life isn't always fair. Sometimes, one person feels the attraction and the other doesn't. Sometimes, the guy is just horny and any girl will do to have have sex with but the girl usually wants to feel loved by the guy to be able to want to have sex. For females, it's more than about sex, it's love making. If two people end up not having any chemistry in common, it is called pheremones in english, it's a body chemical each human lets off into his/her surroundings, can't see it or smell it, but the glands that pick up on scents do take it in and are either attracted to a similar pheremone or it's so different, they are repeled by it. If you want sex for sex sake, then find a woman who sells herself for sex. If you want a full blown relationship with the girl that hopefully also ends in sex, then start caring about who she really is inside, not just what she looks like on the outside. She may not feel any attraction to even want to date let alone have sex. So thats my advice for you.
and borderline psychotic to the point where he pulled a gun on me just for not agreeing with him, but it's not my parents, there divorced and I live with my mom who for this very reason I asked her to stop telling people about my business because all they do is preach fear and negativity and every time they do I end up getting worse so because I asked them NOT to do that and to just let me handle it my own way cause I need to shut down sometimes so I don't get overwhelmed instead they assumed my room was demonic and that I'm somehow possessed (this was my aunt my brother and his wife) and I have fribromyalgia so I was telling them to get off me and that they were hurting me and they kept pushing and forcing me down forcefully ripped my bracelet off my arm kept yanking at my hair because they thought I was being exorcised and on top of that I had a migraine headache and there screaming and yelling at me about the devil and crap and all I could do was lay there and cry because they were hurting so much out of what they call "love" which I find ridiculous because they've been looking for a reason to do that ever since I told them I wasn't a Christian anymore back when I was 17, telling me I'm going to hell or calling me an atheist and I'm like even if I was an atheist that wouldn't mean I'd be going to hell because a god of love and wisdom wouldn't be teaching you to fear him and stars and rock band posters (just because they don't like the music I listen to) because it's their right to believe what they want and in the end when they die if anything they would just be pleasantly surprised to know that they don't just turn to dust (I believe in karma and reincarnation but even then they have the free will to come back and forth as they please)so there's no harm in there choice to or not to believe because there loved and well off either way. My mom thinks I'm resisting God and I'm like no I'm not I'm resisting your idea of what god is because he sounds like a petty selfish person not a loving one, and yet somehow I'm the one that's wrong for choosing love over fear. I try to usually stay quiet (I'm an aquarius so idk if you know anything about us but when we get mad its hard to get us there but once you do it gets ugly) and just let it go but now there not only bringing it into my room but think they have the right to do all that. And how convenient that they just also happen to find my rare lady liberty gold dollar (a gift from a friend) and now its missing (they (my bro and his wife) have a long history of stealing things from us and me, or having their friends do it)I have to take my things down and hide them whenever they come over because apparently I don't have the right to choose what goes in my room (according to them) and I have to do things their way (which also as an aquarius just pisses me off that much more because we hate when people try to control us or tell us what to do) Then to add insult to injury they tell me to replace my "devil posters" and masks and decorative skulls (that have roses and a lion on them and a mad hatter one I hid them all and a crystal skull) with Disney posters. I was like are you effing serious do you even realize what a moron you are to take my things that have nothing to do with demons and replace it with Disney items that subliminally advertise sex in all there movies to little children and I'm 24 years old. Are you joking? But of course I'M the one that has to let it go. My mom said she didn't know they were going to do that and she wasn't even in the room most of the time and that I have every right to be mad and feel violated and she'd do her best to replace the things they took and broke and tore most of which are irreplaceable because they either don't sell them anymore, or you have to drive hours to repurchase most of them because you can't get it online. I'm just one comment away from pressing charges on them at this point because they are just taking it waaaay to far. Then they told my mom that I wrote BAAL on a peace of paper and I'm like please tell me how I did that while you who are over 275 pounds and 6 "2 and I'm 5'2 and your wife who is about the same his him and my aunt (I got the short gene) are all forcing and pinning me down when one I don't have a pen (because they lost them when they were "cleansing" my room or paper to write on? And where is this piece of paper? There wasn't one. I was trying to cover my years the whole time because they were being loud and I had a migraine headache so they were forcing my wrists and arms down where I already have a lot of pain while I'm telling them that there hurting me and just asking to be left alone and there like NO that's satan talking and I'm like if you think God is telling you to do this then you serve a brutal ignorant asshole and I don't believe in an intolerant being, being a source of love, that's ridiculous. I NEVER get mad the one time I did blow up it was because someone did something to hurt someone I cared about and it got ugly. The first time I just got irritated was when my brother was trying to twist my leg and I kept telling him he was hurting me and to let me go but he was trying to break it so I had to kick him off of me with my other leg cause he wouldn't stop and he ended up in hospital with a dent in his chest and I'M the one who gets in trouble (by my dad) for defending myself. But this time I got mad and I hate feeling powerless but 3 against one while I'm sick and can barely walk? Are you effing kidding me, I try so hard not to lose my cool I really do but they went to far and I'm ready to thro caution to the wind at this point. If I have to live like this screw that if my mom wants to take it from them that's on her but I'm not gonna sit around and do nothing forever to people who are constantly and most of the time purposefully antagonizing me.
So you live with Mom in her home. That means the Aunt and Bro and sis in law were trespassing. While your mom may have invited them into the house since they are family, your room is your private area.
I have two daughter's who are Aquarians and well aware of the personality traits of that sign. So, if you don't do something proactive about it now, even after the event, there'll come a time when things get worse in how they treat you and how you react.
My impression from what you said about your dad, just growing up with someone like that is enough to have brought about lots of your medical issues. It's enough to mess with the minds and emotions of any other siblings growing up, even if they never were on the receiving end of his wrath. I should know. My ex was verbally abusive, only directed at me not the 3 daughters but now that they are adults and on their own, I can see how it affected their ability to choose good guys and one won't date at all. Your brother may have been messed up tremendously mentally to be acting like that. It is a sad thing, but he must as an adult realize he has a problem and choose to go for counseling.
I thought of something, do you give mom any money to help, kind of like rent? What I am thinking is that is would be a nice thing to warn mom that you are going to file a report with the police. It may be her house and she may not support the idea. But you have an extra point going for you as a 'renter'. If a renter in an apt complex has a police issue, you certainly don't need the owners permission to call the police. Your mom is divorced from your Dad for a reason, threatening behavior, abuse and violence being a few. Your aunt ,bro and sis in law are doing exactly the same things. Since they laid hands on you as they did, you can file a restraining order against them but there must be a police report to do that.
The report is VITAL to taking care of any future issues with the 3. Here's why. If they repeat this type of treatment with you...and they will...you can count on it until they hear words of repentance from your lips and see you doing as they say and attending church 2 or 3 times a week, they will assume it their responsibility to beat the devil out of you in their misguided ways.
When it happens again, you will need to have a previous report on file with the police in order for the police to take stronger action with them. At that point, they will have a police record for assault and battery, destruction of someones personal property and what ever else the police see that applies.
What I am going to tell you is of my years of first choosing to attend church as a teen, parents didn't go. In looking back at all the years of being involved in church I can now say that Christians, are the most misguided, two faced, haunted-as in seeing ghosts and experiencing spirit phenomena, the most fearful not just of hell but having lots of crazy unjustified fears, quick to anger, narrow minded, neurotic, blindly believing, not thinking for oneself, type of people out there. Since meeting the so-called unchurched the christians speak of, half of them are actually very spiritual and the reason they don't attend a church is that they see how false and unstable the beliefs are. I have found not just in those who call themselves, spiritual, but earth based religions such as Druids and wiccans, are so loving, accepting of everyone, not matter what you believe, more willing to lend a helping hand and actually treat strangers as the sisters and brothers of the same creator that they are. They have more success in prayers, or as some call their focused intents, or even spell work. They do not believe in Satan or hell and do not live in fear. Many more so called Pagans are operating in their gifts, which God gave us all, psychic gifts like claire-voyance, claire-audience, clair-sentience than among christians because they believe it of the devil. I was told not to go to an acupuncturist because they were of the devil! I was flabbergasted by that and many other things I was told to do to fall into line. I pretended but didnt go along with and eventually, the Holy Spirit who had been personally working with me one on one to gain implicit trust in Her, began to steer me out of the church. Yes, I said Her, Holy Spirit as far as I am concerned is the Goddess, or female representation of God as in Lord and Lady, God and Goddess, or according to the Urantia book, Jesus and his partner, the Creative Spirit which is refered to as Female. Where Jesus might be like the Architect who came up with the plans, the actual creation of everything fell to the Creative, or Holy Spirit, Goddess. It is a more solid belief than any I've come to before. If we are made in God's image, then mortal females are the representation of the Goddess while males are the representation of God. It is a team, teamwork, males do not dominate as they tend to do in any Christians churches yet and in the world. Good to see you are on the right path spiritually. Now, love yourself enough to do what you must to protect yourself in the future. As I said, it will not stop. the only way to stop them is by the law. What they did is wrong. Even if Mom doesnt want a scene, you have to explain why you are doing it and just do it. Ask your guides to show you confirmation of what you should do. If there are others in your area who believe as you do besides the twin, get a group of such people praying for protection and placing protective energy fields around you and your room.
Blessings.
I like this guy, it's a stupid little schoolgirl crush, I just think he is the cutest thing so he tweeted something earlier today and I waited a little to favorite it so I didn't look crazy. When I did favorite, I kept scrolling to to favorite others and when I scrolled back up to his, my favorite wasn't there, so I favorite it again. My question is, did he get two notifications that I did that? Why did it even get unfavorited in the first place because I know I didn't go that? Help, please! I don't want him to think I'm a weirdo that I liked it, then didn't or whatever and liked it again because I know, for a fact, that I didn't unfavorite it.
Also, please don't tell me to just not worry that if he's cool, he'll understand. Because he is cool, like, super cool, goalie of the university hockey team cool and I just want to be friends with him and I can't do that if he thinks I'm a weirdo after that. Hahaha.
You mentioned University. Then are you in Univ. too or H.S. If H.S. and you are not 18 yet, then a college guy if he's smart is not going to pay attention to a H.S. girl, in which case I'd agree this is a schoolgirl crush.
However, once you turn 18, it is time to seriously begin to take count of things you find you like and are attracted to in guys beyond just surface level things like his looks, his smile and laugh. It is important to pay close attention and formulate a list of what you like and don't like and some of the don't are going to be the not so good or bad relationship experiences but even those are important to help you begin to discover what you are eventually going to be looking for in a long term partner or for a husband someday. there's no rush to find him yet but if You're in college too, it is time to start paying attention, and keeping a list to remind yourself of what your preferences are. So even if you never get together with him, there will be things you can add to your list. So don't take the attitude of stupid schoolgirl crush. We human's are made to take attention of the opposite sex for a reason, however not all of us figure out how deeply we need to be gathering facts.
I am 22 years old.I met this guy who is my best friends good friend. We both chatted on the phone and fell for each other.the thing is he is in Europe for further studies and we are one month into a
Our long distance relationship. Things were going on pretty well..we were talking last night and hr said hes scared about us as the future is uncertain.I told him that I got into this relationship primarily because he was confident about us. But later he said he's over thinking things and wants me to be in His life and if we really want each other we would make it work.I dunno what I should assume from this behavior of his.he used to confident about this a week back.do everyone in LDRs go through this? Im super worried!!
If you never had any time to get to know each other over time before he left, then an LDR will be a struggle. It sounds like you've never met in person but if you did, about all you can know having met in person is whether the two of you have a physcial chemistry together...you either felt the sexual attraction or didn't no matter if you did anything about it or not. The other things lack of confidence that you both might be perfect is due to not really knowing enough about each other, you can not develop trust long distance, that is something that works only in face to face relationships where you see each other often enough to discover who consistant each other is, they don't just say they are this or do that, but you get to witness it. With the witnessing and experiencing comes trust. those who have never met, can fall in love on line. I did. Got together with the guy in real life. He ended up after divorce going back to his wife. then after I recovered that and found my 2nd husband, I heard the guy left his wife for good and got married to someone else he met.
I know it's possible to fall in love, not having met, luckily we had chemistry when we met or we wouldn't have given it a try. But LDR's are all theater of the mind, you have to imagine what it feels like to be held by and kissed by him, what he's like 24/7 when sad, happy, angry, sick and how he handles himself around you. Does he support you in your talents and pursuits, is he patient, slow to anger, encouraging, always ready to talk and discuss things openly, stuff like this and more is hard to know on line...so don;t get your hopes up too much. Enjoy whats going on now but keep in the back of your mind that nothing may come of it when his studies are done and he's back. You are worried over just a weeks time worth, hows it going to be after months or a year or two or whatever time he has to put in for further studies. From people I know and my own experience, my opinion is that the majority of LDRs do not turn out to become full fledged in person relationships and marriages. Only a meager few do.
it's gotten so bad that they took it upon themselves to "cleans" my room taking anything they thought seemed demonic, like a spiral of glow n the dark stars on my wall because we live n a spiral galaxy which to them is apparently demonic, they took my posters down lost all of my medication and threw it out & that's not even the most annoying part. I had a headache and just wanted to be left alone and they came in my room & pinned me down trying to perform an exorcism on me! I had bruises all over they were forcing me down so hard &I was just like dude just leave me alone I have a headache and you guys are screaming and yelling and crap, they ripped off my that I've had since 2010 of my favorite rock band that my friend bought for me & on top of all that they refuse to replace my medication that THEY lost because I have a sprained sacroiliac and bad back spasms and arthritis and an ulcer and my dr. can't replace my medication (Percocet) until the 5th. At first my dr. wouldn't prescribe me anything stronger than tramadol but my pain got to the point where I couldn't even walk by myself &I had really low blood pressure & anemia plus c-dif, but I have nothing to take for it because they through it all out. I have to literally hide the things in my room they took my mardi gras masks that I got for donating food to the homeless shelter and threw them out. Am I wrong for being totally pissed off at them at this point for trying to force me to go back to Christianity? I'm not an atheist or an agnostic I'm a spiritualist and my beliefs are based in love, peace, and harmony, I'm a vegetarian, I believe in aliens and I believe in spirit guides and God but not a jealous, fearsome judgemental one trying to convince us that we're all sinners. Fear is the opposite of love so why would a source made of love demand to be feared. I've respected their beliefs and constantly have to ask them to do the same but this time they took it too damn far. I shouldn't have to hide things in my room when my family comes over because they'll take it out it's my room and I have the right to have whatever I want in it, They even ripped my blinds down (which are black because I get really bad migraines ever since I was a baby) and broke them off the wall TWICE and I had to use push pins to put them back up cause I'm really light sensitive. And now they're doing the same thing to my twin sisters stuff (who has the same beliefs as I do) and I'm just getting sick of it at this point. They even consider me being a vegetarian a sin but apparently it's okay to torture and kill animals for food. How fucked up is that. I'm 24 and female.
I'm spiritual and believe as you described for yourself. However I made this change as an adult after my parents died. However from teen years on till about 12 years ago, I was attending the type of churches where you see this kind of stuff going on. Yes, there are people specially skilled in working with actual cases of demonic oppression but what I have experienced in life, these are so few that most churches will never have to deal with it. However, I do have seen people I knew in church act fearful all the time, think more about the devil and hell than God and heaven, fearing hell, fearing they aren't good enough, and seen Pastors of the church along with elders believing someone had demon possession and attempting to rid them of something not there. People who are fed this fear based crap will react out of fear. And so, your parents are way off the edge, a product of the churches they chose to go to, the beliefs they chose to blindly believe, and just because they are your parents or adults doesnt mean they are right.
Adviceman is right. You are in a terrible spot. If any other person came into your home and pinned you down, whether for exorcism or not, and damaged or threw away your belonging, you could call the police on them for the reason Adviceman gave. The hard part in your mind is going to be having to do the same to your parents. If you do not, this will continue to escalate. If you do not turn them in to police with a heart full of anger and revenge, but simply for the reason of needing to protect yourself. throwing out all your medications is serious because in some people, without meds, they could die. So God would know your heart and that you reported them for right reasons. this may put them in their place and get them to leave your twin alone.
Whenever you feel you need support and understanding from someone old enough to be your mom, just write me on the column. I will send healing energy to you right now to help with pain and hopefully more. Thats another thing I believe in that churches would think was of the Devil. And yet I've seen more Wiccan's able to pray for someones healing and get immediate results compared to Christians who believe that the pain, and physical problems are God's will for a person. That's why Christians often can't be a source of healing energy to flow through. Well, good luck and blessings to you dear.
Well, I look at my life and I have being making some progress but I have hit a few road blocks. I am a adult trying to grow but I keep running into a wall. I am currently a student at a community college and my biggest concern right now as far as my career goes is getting a job and attending the right college. I was so optimistic I would get a job until I received 3 rejection. I was so optimistic that I would go to a particular university but my expectations were met. So now I am disappointed and lost. I feel like now what, I thought I was at the turning point in my left but it looks like I made the wrong turn. I was not prepared to get 3 rejections from a job and I was not prepared to be disappointed with the school I want to attend. How can I move forward because right now I am stuck. I thought I knew things were gonna change for me.
Sillyrob has a good point. Many have had to face many more rejections than 3. You probably come from a generation that has come to assume that everything is going to be handed to them on a silver platter, meaning very easy...you don't hardly have to work for it. What a nice fairy tale. I don't know what kind of job you're going for, but in some fields, the competition is Extremely high, with hundreds applying for just one job position. this is why many people who have earned degrees are working labor jobs, janitorial, clerical, or fast food places, and sometimes more than one of those jobs, just to pay off their school loans because they couldn't get a high paying job in the field they wanted where the pay could have easily paid off school loans. THAT, is the real adult world of today. Learn to develop a tough skin and don't let it bother you or take it personally if you don't get a job until you have applied 50 or 100 times or more. I am an unpublished writeer and most the best of them like Steven King, our first attempts are never fruitful. I believe it was his 5th or 6th book that finally sold and then he became an instant sensation selling his previous ones and more. The guy who wrote Chicken soup for the soul got hundreds upon hundreds of rejections. He now has many more similar chicken soup books in many languages. But imagine if either of those authors gave up after 3 or even a dozen rejections, how deprived our world would be without their great literary contributions to the world.
I dont understand whats going on, i'm 15 years old and i'm a girl this looks pretty bad on me.Everytime i sit or i dont even have to do anything but i feel as something humidity is coming from my butt.I need help please i dont know what do and i dont like the way i'm living i just want to be me.Everyone gives me looks and my friend said i dont stink but i dont understand. I wasn't always like this.
If you had leaky bowels where you lost fecal liquids or more, you'd know it. So I am thinking that sillyrob has a point, it may be some kind of cyst. It's nothing to be alarmed about. Easy for Drs to clean, fix, repair but if not taken care of will continue to trouble you and might get worse. I would mention your concern to Mom and have her set you up to see family Dr.
I'm 15/f. Last night for Halloween I went to a small party with my friends and s bunch of guys and even people I didnt know. I don't remember a lot but I had my friend who was sober tell me what happened. I binge drank the whole freaking night and got drunk within the first hour of the party because I never paced myself. I kept wanting more alcohol but people hid it from me. At one point during the party I tripped on something and fell backwards into a wooden chair and almost knocked myself out. After that I completely broke and had a mental breakdown and anxiety attack. I have anxiety and I self harm along with many disorders. So some more sober people took me away from the group and I kept saying 'give me a knife, I need to cut'. And so those people know about that now and I'm so mad at myself. Also, I got up on a trampoline and did 2 backflips perfectly and landed them. Um she also told me that this guy who've I've been texting for so long and we flirt and I'm not really sure how I feel about him but we were attached all night. Like we were dancing really close and then he took care of me when I had to pee or something. But he was still high from weed and so we would sit on a comfy bench and I put my legs on his knees and we had our arms completely just around each other. I know this because my friend took photos as proof. I think I might've kissed him on the cheek at this point but I don't know. Also we decided to move the party into this barn thing because it was so cold and I had to be carried in because I could barely walk. Um then that guy and I were almost passed out on top of this picnic table and he sat up and pulled me into his lap and I was pretty much out but I tried to stay awake. My friend said that his hands were all up my backside and my shirt and he kept leaning down to whisper things to me and In the photos it looks like he's kissing my neck and then it looks like he just kissed me on the mouth. I kinda like this guy before I got drunk and since this happened I'm not sure where to go from here.. Will my memory come back fully of what happened because I don't remember things. Also, what do I do about this guy? And what is someone's intake on all of this ?
What alcohol does is slow down your brain to a point it is no longer able to do certain things. A hangover is the action of your brain speeding up to normal speed of function once the alcohol begins wearing off and it's different for everyone how much alcohol gets them to slow down and whether they have, big, little or no hangovers.
Your brain, though you were awake, wasn't able to record memory, or help run motor functions like leg for walking, or arms, hands very well. So no, you're not going to have any memory of it. Alcoholics have no recollection of their actions once drunk,that's been proven many times over. they may only see evidence of the results of what they did while drunk.
Of course you know by law you are too young to drink. I'm not going to tell you not to but instead instruct as to why there is such a law. For one thing, teens don't have full maturity of the brain yet, the body yes, brain no. The pre- is a section of the brain that weighs outcomes, forms judgments and controls impulses and emotions. This section of the brain also helps people understand one another. The pre-frontal cortex section of the brain in teens is still a little immature as compared to adults; and it doesn't fully develop until your mid-20s. That's one big reason why it is best to wait to start doing social drinking. Have you heard how pregnant women are warned not to drink any alcohol? The reason is the same, it's affects the development of the child in utero, especially the brain. The growing ability of the brain to full maturity is repressed if there is a tendency to a habit of drinking often. That would mean a baby born with health issues. For a young teen, who knows how it would stunt your brains normal growth. Imagine if what you know right now at 15 is all you're capable of at 25, 40, 60? Basically, you'd be an adult with issues as far as mental capabilities. This doesn't even take into account what it does to ones liver. Teens because of incomplete ability to think things out and weigh consequences means not making good decisions and not think out.
So for the sake of your brain being able to continue to mature and the health of your liver, I hope you think twice about getting into a habit of drinking like this at parties. It is teens who drink like this at parties once they drive who never think to call someone sober to come get them, and they drive drunk and they and their passengers have a great chance of being injured or dying in a traffic accident.
Now a little lesson to explain why both you and he could behave as friendly as you did when in usual life, it's not so easy for you to do. The normal inhibitions we have when sober, the way our conscious mind feels timid, scared, unsure of self is suppressed or put to sleep when alcohol is drunk.
With the conscious mind asleep, your sub-conscious mind comes out to play. the subconscious is where all our emotions are stored so all your longings and feelings for him, and him for you, are unrestricted now and come to the surface. The subconscious I find is often like our inner child in its way of thinking and coming to conclusions. One of the jobs of our subconscious is to find ways to protect us from our fears and to get us what we secretly desire, whether what we fear or desire is based in reality or a good decision or not. That is why you both acted like that when drunk.
I found ways to get past my inhibitions while totally sober and have fun without alcohol. It can be done but too many prefer to use alcohol to get there rather than naturally. I would suggest you start to work on getting there naturally.
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Can a dike get pregnant?
If you are asking if a female is a dike, is her body still capable of becoming pregnent? Then yes, she is capable of becoming pregnent just as any female of age with a vagina and developed sexual organs and womb.
Will she get pregnent having sex with another female? No. You need one of each gender for that to happen.
So if you are in a relationship with a dike who is actually pregnant, then she either went for invitro fertilization on purpose to become pregnant, or she was having a sexual fling with a male on the side and got pregnant from him.
18/ male. After my girlfriend I dated for three years broke up with me, I've had troubles having sex with other girls. Like I want too but I can't get a boner. Basically it takes me a long time to get ready. Girls will get upset and think I dont find them attractive and that's not it, I just can't help it. It wasn't like that with my girlfriend I dated for three years but it is with everyone after her. I don't know know if it's a psychological thing or what but it's really frustrating! Please help
I haven't heard of this in younger guys but from talk with other women my age, it seems to be more common for older guys, and I am not talking about inability to get hard at all...but selective inability.
You said you had no problem with a past girlfriend of 3 years. I have found that when I was dating after a divorce later in life, Men I met, who were widowed or divorced and were used to that kind of intimacy with a past long term female in their life, found it much harder to be able to perform just at the drop of a hat. They wanted to but they didn't feel any deep connection subconsciously. Sometimes, I was the right kind of personality and they found after multiple times being with me while doing sexual things, that eventually the connection developed as you say psychologically or I choose to say subconsciously. The subconscious mind is not quick to change to something new if its not ready to yet. It it will hold you back from being able to get hard until that subconscious mind is at a point of feeling some stronger feelings than mild interest, surface level attraction as is usual in dating.
However it's safer to not wonder and just go see a doctor to rule out a medical problem. If you have the clean bill of health there, then obviously it's your subconscious mind holding you back for now.
bleeding after sex is it normal?.. or can that be a sign of being pregnanat
I wish to mention how much bleeding is realistic here. If a hymen tears, from all reports I've read, normal is just a couple spots. So, really, no more than a minor cut on your finger will bleed.
There is a rare condition though called a Septate Hymen where inside of the extra skin being around the circumferance of the vaginal opening, the extra skin is a strip down the middle actually creating two entrances to the vagina. Sex aside, just use of a tampon in a female with this situation can be painful or it can get stuck or really tear and rip the hymen away so now its a strip of flesh hanging by one end and that can bleed more, but shouldn't continue on forever. If you suspect something like this, you should go to see the Dr to have them remove the remainder of it. The locally numb the area , snip and girls who've had the minor surgery done have no pain or bleeeding afterwards from reports I've read.
I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for years, until his family moved to Alabama. I chose to stay behind to take care of my grandparents. They raised me, I feel I owe them. Now Nick's back and pushing me to choose him over family again.
How do I tell him that while I do love him, I would be unhappy living far away from my family?
Advice man has good points. I wonder if the grandparents are in good health and could just use a helping hand with certain things like when my parents got older, mowing their big lawn for one, help with cleaning gutters, putting up Christmas lights, a general spring cleaning...that sort of thing. Hanging around to be there for parents or grandparents in that case is putting your life on hold for a long time, disrupting your ability to find love and start your own life and family.
I can understand the closeness since they took the role of parenting you. But you need to look at it that way. How many children meet their partner for life and move to be with them and that means moving away from the parents. Of 3 daughters, I only have one now local. This is part of life. Just because those who parented you are older than some parents doesnt make any difference.
Now if the grandparents both have failing health and require an in home caregiver, then thats another story. If you are going to move with a relationship partner, I suggest you make the person understand that you would like to make a few trips over the year to go check on them. This might help you to feel comfortable knowing that they are doing well on their own and still have the chance to visit and love on them.
I have loved this guy for 6 years now. I dated him for the first 3 of those.
So things ended a long time ago. They ended on a good note, but with good reasons.
We said we'd be friends, but we very seldom communicate.
We have moved on since then, but we aren't over each other. We recently talked about it, why are we not together?
And its true that we aren't compatible, we drive each other crazy.
I know being apart is for the best, but it still hurts.
How do I stop missing him?
I am guessing that you have not found your true love yet. I had one or two guys I really fell for and it didn't work out, parting as friends. But I couldnt stop thinking of and really needed to keep in touch by phone calls, couldn't let go until I found the love of my life. When you find that person, they eclipse anything you've had with anyone else. Your are able to go on and the others won't be foremost on your mind. In fact I rarely think of the other guys not that I've found my 2nd husband. He'll be the one I grow old with. I haven't forgotten the others. I will have moments when something I am doing reminds me of them and I'll have a brief fond memory. So you never forget the person but its possible to let them go so it doesnt hurt and you no longer feel a need for them.
i want to have sex or be raped but i am only 11 and a girl!!
You are likely going through puberty and the flood of hormones has your sexual drive going out of control. It happens to us all at some point.
Rape or sex with peers is not a good idea at your age because your body is only beginning to develop to its full sexual maturity. It is far from it and you don't want to end up doing something that might damage you. It is better to practice masturbating and let that be what takes care of any horny feelings for now.
I have dated the same guy for over a year on and off. The last time we broke up was mainly because he came home from his brothers around 7 am completely drunk. Not only was he drunk around my kids he drove drunk to get home. Other problems was his only video games how often he was playing them as well as never doing family like things I'd go to the park alone with to the store alone with the kids. We don't have kids together he doesn't have any. We've been broke up going on 4 months we've both been on dates. He been begging for me to take him back that he's empty with out me and he loves me I give him a certain spark to me if he was sorry and has been empty with out me he would of stopped the drinking for one. He says he doesn't want to go to bars anymore or really drink anymore but he drank Saturday while at his moms says he only had like 6 beers. Well I considered seeing were it'd go not dating but talking again the night we start talking he messages me to tell me I don't want to lie to you so my friend Shannon is in trouble and needs a ride that was like 130 in the morning I message back that's nice but remember how you'd feel if I was picked up a guy at 130 in the morning he didn't message back when he did I had fallen asleep maybe 30 minutes so he started calling like 5 times when I didn't answer he came to my house knocked on my bedroom window. I told him to go home he said he's sorry he didn't think it threw etc I wasn't even mad until blowing up my phone and knocking on my window at 2 am. He just sits there and says he's changed he's sorry I just dint know what to do
Let me clarify. When you say, 'don't know what to do' is it about 1. seeing him and dating him again and giving him more chances or 2. about how to get him to stop bugging you?
For #1 I must say, after all you've said and tried staying away, you can't possibly want to consider taking him back. He is looking for someone who will take care of him. He knows he isn't a good enough adult to take care of himself. If he wanted to stop drinking and was ready to admit he is an alcoholic, then he'd admit himself to a treatment center. You are probably his last chance, cus no one else will take him on, he has already used up all chances with other. So do you want to add one more child to take care of? An adult child
#2. If you've decided you're done with him, I'd talk to your local people and ask them what you can do. Not sure if a restraining order can be put on him, if he hasn't threatened you in any way. If the police can't do a restraining order change your phone number and each time he comes by, yell out that he better leave or you'll call the police. The police can come if a person calls in a disturbance of peace...like a neighbor playing their music too loud late at night. What this guy is doing qualifies. They will haul him off to jail each time he does this. When he's repeated this too often and there's a record of how often you've called the police, there may be other steps available to you to be rid of his peskyness.