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okayy so me and my ex are hanging out this tuesday. and remember how i mentioned after prom night how i was kinda flirty with a friend since he pretty much ditched me and then he got really pissed at me for it? well i want to ask him why he got pissed...cause i mean, why would he get pissed if he didn't still love me? (btw i called him and pretty much cried to him telling him i was sorry..which secretly i don't really know what i'm sorry for? cause we aren't even dating so its not like i cheated on him) i think he's confused and just hitting that rough stage in the relationship..but i still want him back =/

Hey,yep I remember :)
hm okay if I were you I wouldnt bring this up in my opinion theres no need.
its over and done with,and you apologised which you didnt have to but it was big of you even though you didnt do much wrong it seems like your really caring and considerate of his feelings,more so then your own you need to think of yourself too and dont always put him first because he was the one who ditched you that not so therefore it should have been the other way around.
but it was a while ago and its done,and in the past so bringing it back up is only going to cause more problems and arguments and reasons that will get in the way of you getting back and you don't want that.
the answer is right in front of you so you donl't to ask him I think its clear he got pissed because seeing you flirt with that other guy brought up feelings of jealousy which prooves his feelings for you are still there. whether he realises it yet or not,like I said before guys are so slow at figuring all this stuff out its meant to be,itl be =) dont push him too much.
just keep doing what we talked about before hanging out and the vacation and stuff.
good luck :) hope I helped

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Haha, alright. I never thought I'd be asking this question here, but recently it has come to my attention that I have a crush on one of my best friends. I've known him for a very long time but I've never really considered pursuing him until just a few days ago. But I guess I've always had feelings for him to an extent, because I love him as a person and he is attractive.
Just to give some background, he is 19 and I am 18. We live down the road from each other and spend literally almost every day together, along with a few other mutual friends. I was in a relationship for just over four years, and when we broke up (around two months ago) it was my friend, who I'll call J, that I went to. He has always been really good to me. We have a lot of the same interests and the same religious views.
Anyways, I have been planning for most of the year to attend prom with my now-ex-boyfriend. When we broke up, J agreed to go with me instead. I honestly wasn't even thinking of it from the perspective of being a date, as we went as a foursome with two other friends.
Anyways, with most of my male friends I have pretty physical relationships, but that isn't true with J. I've never really touched him outside of like, accidental contact. I don't mean physical relationships in a sexual way, but just lots of hugging and cuddling and stuff. It's how I show affection. But J and I, although comfortable with eachother, have never had the kind of relationship where we touch a lot. So anyways, since he was my prom date, a lot of pictures were taken of the two of us, and to pose for the photographs he would put his arms around my waist and things like that. It took me by suprise because I kind of assumed we'd both just stand together. But anyways, having never really touched him before, I was even more taken by suprise by the fact that I liked it. It made my stomach flip, heart race- the whole thing. I found myself leaning in to him a lot and finding excuses to take more pictures than necessary, haha.
But anyways, since then I've been mulling it over. I haven't felt a strong physical attraction to ANYONE in a really long time, so I feel like it was significant even though it's such a small thing. And I've concluded that we would be very compatible if he were interested as well.
But obviously, there's no way to know if he's interested other than asking. I honestly have no idea if he likes me, but it almost seems like he must. Not that he has done anything to really clearly show that, but.. It just seems that with all the time we've spent together, I dunno. We have a really intimate emotional and intellectual relationship- there are things that I discuss with him that I would never talk to anyone else about. I have a lot of close friends, but sometimes I feel like we don't understand eachother or that I can't articulate my thoughts to them. However, J and I understand eachother exceptionally well, and whenever we have a discussion we seem to be coming from the same place. My time spent with him is often the best part of my day. I care about him and his wellbeing a great deal and I know he feels similarly.
But I'm pretty hesitant to pursue him in any way. It's not as though I would no longer want to be friends with him if he rejected me, because I feel pretty confident in saying that I will always want him as a friend. But I can imagine how awkward our friendship would be if he said no or it didn't work out. And it would make me sad if he wasn't interested.
Another reservation I have is that although my feelings aren't new, my desire to act on them is. I guess I'm just afraid that this might be something transient.
But above all of that, I'm more afraid of sacrificing what is basically a perfect friendship for a relationship that might not be perfect. Obviously it would complicate things and I'm afraid that if we change our relationship we will actually LOSE some of the closeness we have. I've never been so shy around him then I was that night taking pictures, and I don't want to feel like I suddenly have to be gaurded around him.
Anyways, the question is obvious. Do you think I should wait a while and see if my feelings wear off? Should I talk to him about it? Should I just take a leap of faith and tell him that I want to change our relationship? Or should I do nothing? Sometimes it feels like the potential consequences of acting on my feelings outweigh the potential benefits, but at the same time, by not expressing my thoughts to him I have already changed our relationship. I've never had thoughts that I couldn't express to him before :P
Anyways, I'd appreciate any opinions, especially from people who might have had similar experiences. Thanks in advance

Hey there,
I think you have potientially described my exact relationship with my best friend honestly I can relate to Almost everything you said about the friendship and closeness between you too.
expect it was my guy friend who had the feelings and not me.
Im not here to put you off it or give you negative thoughts about the situation its the complete opposite,i think you have a very very strong relationship from what you have described like mine and my friends,therefore in my opinion if you act on your feelings and tell him and give it a go (which I do think you should because feelings never just go away do they?and like you said you dont want to be gaurded)
but he doesnt feel the same,I dont think it will have a big impact on your friendship.
thats speaking from personal expierience though after my friend confessed his feelings i explained how i loved him to death but not in that way and her friendship survived it and is still the same as it ever was,i know this isnt always the case but with really strong close friendships i believe it is.
because the fear of even loosing the friendship is too much to want to let go.
so I guess what im saying is I Think you should take the risk and act on it people who have known each other so long and understand each other are bound to be great as a couple. you just have to hope the other feels the same and put yourself out there dont hold back because of fear you wont get anywhere in life then.
sure if things dont work out how you want them too and he says hes more interested in being friends youl be sad and it will take some time to bounce back and get over those feelings but it is do-able.
anyways I hope I made some sense and helped in anyway, good luck =)
let me know what you decide!
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Recently after I eat food, mainly my dinner or chocolate or something, I get bad pains in my tummy and find myself going to the bathroom alot more than normal. The pains almost feel like period pains, but I don't get them any more since I've been on the pill (been on the pill for 3 months). I've been getting more headaches and the pains in my tummy I only really get after I eat meat or chocolate. I've recently gone on a diet so I'm not eating so much chocolate, but I had abit on friday which nearly made me throw up, which was when the pains reduced me tears (quite embarrassing in front of my boyfriend!)
I'm not sure if it's the change in my diet or what, but surely I wouldn't get pains this bad or going to the toilet frequently if it was just my diet?

Hey there,
I can't really help you,or tell you what exactly this is seeing as im not a doctor,this could be anything it could be something small or something serious.
which is why i strongly advice you to get checked out by a doctor because this definately shouldnt be happening I dont think its down to your diet either,if the pain is reducing you to tears its not healthy and you need to consult your doctor.
it might just be your illergic to something in your diet maybe thats iritating your bowl causing the pains,I cant be sure.
but definately get it seen to before it gets worse
good luck
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My boyfriend and I always use protection unless I'm on my period. Is it possible for me to get pregnant if I keep doing this?

hey there,
YES very possible you can get pregnant without protection at ANY time,except for when you are already pregnant.
Just because you have your period it doesnt mean you wont still get pregnant because your sitll ovulating,a new egg has been released already,
I personally wouldnt have sex if i was on my period,but if its something you and your boyfriend do and are fine with,theres no harm just use protection because chances are you could get pregnant,they can be low depending on each individual but still there so I wouldnt take the risk if you dont want to get pregnant,because
the truth is that there is no predictable time during the month when the risk of pregnancy can be said to be absent. so like you cant guess if that makes sense =)
anyway hope I cleared this up for you,
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Have you ever wanted to tell someone something but didn't? if so why does it happen? it feels like that when i want to tell my friend about me something is stopping me from telling them thats why i cant....why does it feel that way?

Hey there,
this always happens to me!
and proabably almost everyone out there as felt this way before so your not alone =)
it depends on what your trying to tell someone,
mostly its out of fear.
if you want to tell someone you like them but you can't the fear of rejection and not being liked back stops you.
if its about you being upset with a friend becauses they have done something wrong and you want to tell her/him and confront them but you can't again because they are your friends and you dont want to cause a fight even though you know it has to be said.
I can't explain why we sometimes feel this way its just something stopping us maybe our concinse telling us its something we should keep to ourselves,if its a secret you want to tell.
like I said it really depends on what you want to tell.
sorry I cant be of more help!
if you want to drop me an inbox question about the sort of things that your stopping yourself from telling others (you dont have to go in to detail) then I could try help you get over it and be able to open up more if thats the case? =)
anyway hope I helped clear it up a bit!
sorry if im completely wrong,thats my interperation of it though
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i met this guy like a month ago n i really like him alot.now me n him are only friends..im not sure whether he feels the same way so my question is how do i tell him that i like him??? im afraid that he might turn me down!!! anyway my name is suraya n im 17 years old..im from malaysia..female

Hey there :)
awh everyone almost always feels like this from time to time.
the feeling of rejection is scary,but if we never put ourselves out there we wont ever get anywhere!
if you dont tell him your feelings you will be stuck always wondering did he feel the same?
you could be missing out on something great.
talk to him and get to know him more,be yourself and see if he shows any signs of feeling the same =)
if he doesnt,sure it will hurt but you will get over it and move on and learn from it.
we have to face being turned down and its never easy and it hurts,but youl never get over the fear of it otherwise but its not the worst thing in the world remind yourself there is more guys out there just waiting for a great girl like you :) and its his loss.
chances are this wont even happen but you cant sit around worrying about it,youl never get anywhere in life that way so go for it
anyway hope I helped good luck and dont be afraid!
hope it works out
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I been writing and drawing for 9 years. Anyways to my problem.
I finished 9 books and sometimes It never feels right.
So my problem is I can't get reconizeed!
I tried using sites like for my stories or comics but they flop.
Noone will give my work a chance!
What should I do?
-Zockery Q. Endland

hey there,
theres not much I can tell you only keep trying and dont ever give up.
some of the most famous writers got to where they are now by never quiting and they kept going through the hard times and struggles to get recognised.
nearly every writer goes through it don't loose faith in yourself chances are your stories and drawings are great and someone will see that someday and aprciate it,your day will come im sure =)
listen to music go for walks things like that,that help stimulate and relax your mind also might spark a new great idea,sometimes its when your not trying so hard to find it that it hits you in the face relax for a while and focus on writing because you love to do it not out of desperation to get recognised this might be part of the problem.
if your doubting your stories and style etc then try writing something completely different to what you usually do,think outside the box and dont play safe to what your comfortable doing and used to doing =)
Sorry I couldnt be of more help please don't give up the world needs people like you in my opinion heh ;)
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I feel like I'm gaining weight and I was wondering if you know of any good exercises or diets other then not eating at all. thanks a lot!

Hey there, :)
chances are your probably not putting on weight,i always convince myself I am dont do anything too drastic to try and loose weight its NOT healthy and don't think about not eating at all.
anyway theres nothing wrong with wanting to be healthy and have a good diet and exercise regime as long as you only want to do it to stay in shape and dont become obseesed with "calorie counting" and trying to loose weight constantly.
anyway all you need to do is eat plenty of fruit and veg drink plenty of water,the usual.
also include fish in your diet for healthy skin and hair.
its all about getting the balance right i dont believe in all theese crash diets where you litteraly only eat a tiny piece of salad.
use the food pyramid as a guide cut back fizzy drinks and all the bad stuff.
as for exercise if you want you can join a gym but theres easier ways like just going for a walk or jog,doing situps at home each day or even getting one of those work out videos.
yoga is also very good for your muscles and keeping your tummy toned.
if you have the wii you should get the wii fit its actually great exercise and fun too =)
anyway hope i helped =)
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okay so i've liked this boy since december. and still do. he likes me, or so his best friends. and my best friends say. we're a tight knit little group of friends. so yeah i've been attempting to make the first move since.. april. wow really long time. i dont know what to do.

Hey there =)
it seems like you both do like each other,so my advice is to just go for it youve wasted so much time already just thinking about what to do and how to go about it when you should really just relax and go with the flow =)
be yourself talk to him more,ask him to hang out just the two of you and get to know him personally more start texting him if you already dont form a deeper and closer relationship and kinda let your feelings grow,then tell him you like him
if your at this stage you have to simply tell him,youve got nothing to loose and alot to gain =)
no use waiting for him to make the first move otherwise you could be waiting forever as he would be waiting for you etc and nothing might ever happen because your both to afraid,this is why alot of theese situations just never seem to happen because of both sides not willing to make the first move be brave :)
you can do it,
good luck! Hope I helped and that it works out
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Hey umm i have this problem...im not a bad looking guy not that that matters and im very well equipped sexualy..but for the whole of my life every time i have been in the position to have sex i always back out..i start thinking too much and questioning whither or not i love the girl and i just back out, im the only 18 year old i know that hasent had sex...my question to you is: What do you think i should do and why am i so afraid to go all the way?

"Awaiting your answer"=Mr.Fantastic=

Hey there,
okay the fact that your feeling afraid and questioning it means that your not ready simple.
theres nothing wrong with doing that,infact if more guys were like you itd be a god send!
itd mean less of us girls being used for sex,and endding up pregnant etc,anywaay
you want to make sure your in love,and really care for the girl before you go all the way and thats seriously a good thing.
forget about the fact that your the "only 18 year old who hasnt"
big deal!? do it when YOU want and when YOU feel ready not because everyone else is doing it just for the thrill and because you feel like you have to or you should you dont.
chances are half of those people who know who are having sex are just doing it for all the wrong reasons its totally meangingless and they wont remember their first time as anything special
please think about what im saying even if it might seem a little gay or whatever lol but its the truth and dont just give in girls will have so much more respect for you trust me.
Anyway hope I helped =)
Good luck
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Im a 16 year old girl and the guy I like is 17. We've known eachother since I was 7, but he moved away when i was 10. He always used to ask me out and then he got a girlfriend and didnt talk to me for a few years... then i went to see his cousins and he was there with his gf and he wouldnt even look at me. The next time i went he was drunk and hed broken up with her and he was asking me to go out with him, but i didnt know if he meant it since he was drunk, so i turned him down but i said i still wanted to be friends. After that i didnt talk to him for awhile, and the only time he would talk to me was on msn when he was drunk. This really upset me, and then i just got mad and i told his cousin that i didnt like him anymore. I didnt really mean it but she TOLD him and now when i saw him again he wouldnt even look at me and he definately doesnt talk to me anymore. I just want him to talk to me again, but i dont know if i should apologize, just ignore him until hes ready or try to make him jealous or what?
Sorry this is soo long!
and Thanks!

Hey there,
okay in my opinion I could be totally wrong but im going to tell you what I think,remember though this is up to you.
anyway,basicly it looks to me like this guy only talks to you when it is conviniant for him.
he totally blanked you whe he had a girlfriend,soon as shes gone whos he come crawling to?you.
same thing aswell about him only talking to when drunk.conviniant for him.
don't let yourself be that girl. trust me Ive been there it sucks and its so hard to break away from,dont let him have that like "hold" il call it,I was in a similar situation to this before but some what worse. i realised to late and wasted so much time liking him.
you deserve better honestly.
you had a right to be mad you were upset! at any cost it should be HIM apologising it shows how much you means by him talking to you when drunk.
you havt nothing to be sorry for,sure you said you didn't like him but you were mad.
I really don't think this guy is worth it,but this is only what im interpertating from reading this from my own point of view it could be a completely different story in which case,apologise to him and say you were upset and didnt mean it if he doesnt accept?his loss. he needs to grow up and let go and just accept a persons apology, never do the whole jealousy thing it almost always backfires and makes it worse.
anyway hope I helped,and that this works out =]
good luck
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Oh my gosh, theres this guy that likes me, we have a lot in common, but he comes on to strong, isnt very cute, and he just wont leave me alone! How do I tell him I dont want to talk or see him anymore without totally crushing him and making myself feel bad for doing it?

Hey there,
this might not be what you want to hear but you say youve got alot in common,are you sure you cant overlook the fact that hes not that cute,and maybe try to get to know him more just ask him to stop coming on too strong? even just as a friend at least
Just explain to him how you dont like him in that way and you would prefer to just be his friend that way he will hopefully take the hint and be too ego-bruised to maybe even talk to you that way your sparing his feelings in a nice way and not doing it in a nasty way to make yourself feel bad.
if he is someone you really really can't stand
who is very annoying and just not nice to be around just tell him nicely you would prefer not to talk to him. I dont think this seems to be the case though so just ease him down gently and he should take the hint and back off a bit and give you space.
good luck =]
hope I helped,
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i just told my boyfriend that I've been with for a year and three months that i made out with my ex who he hates and he broke up with me he took me back but still doesn't know how he can ever trust me again what should i do?
i was with him yesterday and we were having a great time and then he just got all down
i the fact that i cheated on him and i know he would never do it to me
i don't know why i did it
i don't have any feelings for my ex anymore i lost those feelings when i broke up with him
please help me?

Hey there,
you made a big mistake and im not here to judge you,but youve realised that admitted it and owned up and apologised that takes alot of courage and alot of girls dont do that.
would you blame him for not feeling like he can trust you?
how would you feel if the roles were reversed?
he seems like a very forgiving person for taking you back,but just understand that its gonna take some time for him to come to terms with it and move on and feel like hes able to trust you.
theres not much you can do only keep reminding him how sorry you are,proove your trust to him.
if hes chosen to take you back then hes trying very hard and willing to get over this.
tell him how greatful you are for it,and let him know that you do aprciate him espically when he gets down.
make him feel like you value him and respect him because he is probably starting to doubt all this.
thats really All the advice I can give you,
your lucky to have your boyfriend I do hope you realise that not alot of theese situations end up like this, but atleast youve learned from it and know not to do it again,
Good luck,dont beat yourself up too much already youve suffered the guilt and regret now its time for you to try move on from this too. whats done is done.
Hope I helped =)
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ok so i apologize if this ends up being extremely long, but i just have so much ANGERR. theres this girl and we used to be really close friends. tell eachother everything, you know the whole deal. except we fight 24/7. like atleast once or twice a week. but about a month ago we got into a HUGEE fight, and havent been talking. we both decided to just end the friendship, but she came running back to me like she does after every fight last night. me being the nice and dumbass person that i am, accepted the apology. this morning i got a text from her and it made me pissed, so we started fighting once again. when things are good between us, they are amazing. but they seem to be bad more then they are good (not sure if that made any sense..) basically what im asking you if i should end this forever and never speak to her again, or if i should keep doing this on and off fighting. i mean ending it once and for all would hurt alot, but not ending it means crying every night and that hurts even more. hellppp!

oh and also, shes my neighbor and her sister is one of my best friends, so it makes things ten times more awkward.

loveee yaaaa.

Hey there,=)
sorry your in this situation il do my best to try help.
in the last sentance you mentiond abbout if you end it now it will hurt alot but its better then the constant hurt and make up sinaro,very true
but are you sure you want this?,and that you two cant try a little harder to get past it or is it something that you are absolutely sick and tired of?and feel like you cant put up with it anymore and its time to move on,if thats the case do just that but make sure abandoning the
friendhsip is completely what you want to do.

Okay heres what I would do if it were me.
instead of the idea of ending the friendhsip all together why dont you too just try to be civil?
For the sake of her sister since your good friends with her also
sit down and talk with her tell her how you hate fighting with her (I dont know what theese fights involve but surely they are over small enough things)
and that if the friendship is gonna have any chance of working it has to stop otherwise say you just can't do it anymore.
I would say give it one last attempt at sorting things out and really doing your best to fight if one occurs just both agree to disagree and move on before it escalates.
also try giving each other space from time to time too you dont have to spend all your time together (im not saying you do just sugesting this could be the reason for the fights that your becoming iritable and annoying to each other)
If things don't change then Id say yes its not worth the effort.
Hope I helped in anyway, good luck
hope it works out =)
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Hi!! 13 1/2f


I just CAN'T find one!! My ex boy friend..is very confusing. See.. I still had feelings for him so I told him that I still liked him,( at that time he liked this other girl Reagon) he told me that he liked me to. I asked him..if he REALLY liked me and he told me he was dating Reagon, and he likes me as a friend.So..I asked him the other day what was up with him, and he said " yo whats up with you?? YOU GONE CRAZY. He's the one who's crazy..he takes me to the movies..so I thought he liked me..than he takes her. Whats up with that?? So, now I'm just trying to find the right guy..and im on summer break..and I'm not doing anything really.. my parents are always working.. the thing I mostly do is go to the park with my friend..and when I do guys check me out..lol..like it happens all the time, but I don't have the courage to go up and meet those guys.. I'm a shy . Ug..my friend says "Why are you acting like it's a BAD thing that you are single? The right guy will find you when the time is right." I think she's right but..it still makes me feel like there's something wrong with me if I don't have a boyfriend..I just feel left out. :/

Thanks for listening!!

Hey there =)
okay first off forget about the ex, honestly he will do you no good messing you about like that Espicially since he has a gf,hes just loving the attention dont give him it.
next to the issue of a boyfriend,
every girl feels like this from time to time so your not alone =)
i alwayss feel like it too so i can relate trust me, but your friend IS right,and after all you are only 13 you have so much time to find a guy and you shouldnt feel like you need one or must have one to be happy.
when talking to guys just be yourself and act as normal as you would around any other girl friend relax and just talk to them,flirt compliment them etc make convirsation =)
Make sure you don't come off as desperate to have a boyfriend honestly its not a good way to percieve yourself,definately dont feel like you have to have boyfriend because friends have one too.
get one when your ready,and for the right reasons and because YOU want to.
all of us get shy and nervous around guys just take a deep breath count to 3 and go right im going to talk to him if you see a guy you like =)
keep busy with your girlfriends go shopping keep going to the park do fun things go to the movies places where you might potentionally run into guys,dont go out set on finding one thats when one always seems to find you =)
Good luck,hope I helped
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My best friend just called and told me that Michael Jackson is actually dead! I totally cannot believe this! Michael Jackson was fairly young, right? This has to be some kind of joke, prank, or VERY late April Fool's gag, right?

Is Michael Jackson really dead? When did he die then? Was Michael Jackson murdered? I need the scoop, please!

Hey there,
Yes he was its really hard to believe I couldnt either but yea its true hes dead.
he had a heart attack seemingly then went into cardiac arrest,then a coma and then died its all over the news and internet google it if you want to find out more.
Its really shocking.
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Ok this guy josh talks to me all the time about how much he cares about me and wants to be with me, but he talks to so many other girls too. We fight so much oh my god its ridiculous and when ever we fight he says he's gonna mess around with other girls. Ive been going through this for over a year now we've never actually dated but its like were a married couple! oh and my biggest problem with him is when were together im his baby r his girl but in front of people all he ever calls me is his "piece". I told him how muc hit bugs me and he said it's no big deal. god he sucks, thats why I've been opening my options lately with this one other guy BUT its so hard because josh has been a very important part of my life for so long and I dont want to loose him but i dont know if I can deal with his bull shit any more....so what should I do?

Hey there,
okay i know this might not be what you want to hear but this guy seems like hes just happy to have you around exactly what he says his "piece"
to treat however he likes depending on his mood.
I know with guys like this who seem to just have some sort of hold over you where you feel like you can't possibly let go or ever break away and stop feeling that way and giving them the satisfaction of knowing your always around as a fall back,and its like all the time hes being sweet you forget about the other times..
hes obvlious to how being called that makes you feel.
trust me,I have a guy just like josh who annoyingly keeps making me fall for him even when he asks like a jerk..but
he only cares about whats convieniant to him,you deserve alot better,think about it carefully you said it your self you dont know if you can deal with his bull shit anymore?theres your answer simply dont.
trust your gut instinct,tell him out straight your sick of it and if he doesnt stop well hes gonna loose you,see how reacts to that and if you really dont want to give up on him see if hes capable of changing give him the one more chance if you feel you have to and if things stay the same move on its hard but it can be done =)
I hope I made sense and helped In anyway,and that I was able to relate in someway,sorry If i havnt, but thats the best advice I can give you from my point of view
good luck
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How can I make my boobs more round, nice, and more up.
not so saggy.
well, their not, but i w ant the really pretty kind.
lol.
and no creams, or any pills.
maybe just a work out, of some sort.
or whatever you know of.
And please don't ask me to go see a doctor about itt:)
thanks.

Hey there,
im not aware of any work outs but you could try maybe push up padded bras?
or gel bras they seem to work for alot of people who want to keep them upright and not so saggy.
you can usually find them in any lingerie shop or department store,avoid the ones with just the underwire my personal opinion is they make them droop more and they seem less attractive or feminine! anyway
chances are your boobs are fine anyway,so dont worry too much
sorry I couldnt be of more help
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I'm pretty sure that my best friend is mad at me.
Like everytime I message her on myspace she just reads it. every time I text her she just ignores it and doesn't reply either. Everytime I try to hang out with her she makes up lame excuses like she's grounded from hanging out with people and then like an hour later she's hanging out with someone else. I wanna talk to her about it but I don't wanna start a fight with her. If I was to talk to her what should I say? Am I just being to overdramatic or do I have a reason to think she's mad at me?

hey there,
okay first off you are not being overdramatic you definately have a reason to think like this.
I mean your best friend doesnt just ignore you or make up lame excuses like that without a reason.
shes going about it the complete wrong way if you have done something wrong she should just confront you and tell you,without making you wonder what the hell youve done,its like shes trying to make you figure it out for yourself
have you done something to upset her? (my guess is no)
Dont be worried about starting a fight,you deserve to know if you have done wrong and therefore have the oppurtunity to apologise if youve upset her in any way.
just maybe go around to her house if she wont respons to texts or anything and say look whats the deal here i dont wanna get into an argument but youve been shutting me out for a while and I need to know whats going on
If she has no reason to be doing this then you really need to rethink your friendship im afraid (sorry if thats not what you wanna hear)
I hope I helped and that this all works out for you =)
good luck,you should definately talk to her
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I recently went to my cousin's house for her senior graduation party. This kid was there that I have had a major crush on for nearly a year now, so I was by him a lot. He likes me back, for now, so he was being rather cooperative. When I left that day, we were making plans to see each other again. Randomly, my cousin texts me telling me she doesn't want me and the boy talking, so in result, she will never invite him over if I am there. She tells me that we should see each other on our own time. She also freaks out about how all her friends have my number. On Friday, I'm s'posed to go to six flags with a bunch of her friends, but I didn't invite her because she doesn't know this girl I'm friends with that was originally going with me. She found out and is upset with me for not inviting her. I told her that she didn't get an invite because she didn't know my friend and because she always said she hated roller coasters. I also didn't think of inviting her because when she told me she wasn't inviting her friends around if I was there, I thought she didn't want her friends and I in the same environment at the same time. And then she went on to say, "Way to put friends before family" just because I didn't invite her this once. Am I supposed to invite her to every single outing I go on?!
So, what is her problem? Why is she acting like this? What do I do? & am I in the wrong for not inviting her and reacting the way that I'm reacting?
Thanks in advance.

Hey there,
your cousin in my opinion probably feels like your taking her friends away from her,and is possible afraid that they might stop liking her and hanging out with her and liking you more etc.
its a common jealousy/fear issue and almost all of us get that slight feeling once and a while
she probably feels a bit left out maybe espically since you didnt invite her even though you were only going on the grounds of what she said so you were right and wrong in a way it was confusing.
your cousin needs to realise that your not out to like steal her friends or put them before her.
you need to talk to her and ask her whats up why doesnt she want you hanging around her friends,if she says because shes afraid your taking them then explain to her that your not.
and that youd love if you could all just be around each other and get along also include each other as much as possible with the friends make each other feel wanted etc.
theres no reason why you all cant be friends with each others
hope I made sense and helped in anyway =)
good luck
much

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