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Hey umm i have this problem...im not a bad looking guy not that that matters and im very well equipped sexualy..but for the whole of my life every time i have been in the position to have sex i always back out..i start thinking too much and questioning whither or not i love the girl and i just back out, im the only 18 year old i know that hasent had sex...my question to you is: What do you think i should do and why am i so afraid to go all the way?
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There is nothing wrong with you, you are one of the few guys who think before sex. That is very noble. Many men believe that sex is something that should be done just to be done, but you actually think before you act. There is also nothing wrong with being a virgin at 18. If there were more men like you the world would be a better place. I think that is so amazing!!!!
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Oh my gosh, a man like you is the only kind of guy I'd want to date! You're afraid because you have morals and you RESPECT sex. I'm surprised that you feel like you shouldn't be a virgin at 18. In my opinion, people SHOULD be virgins at 18. I bet you believe guys when they mention their hookups. Well don't..about half are lying.
I like you! Don't have sex until you're ready AND in a very committed relationship :) Sounds like you'll regret it if you aren't.
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Personally I think it is awesome that you havent gone all the way. It shows respect and maturity. I think you are very intelligent to be thinking through whether or not you love the girl. Love takes time to develop, lust on the other hand takes no time at all. Going all the way can be scary for many reasons, one of which can be because your virginity is something valuable that you can never get back once you have given it away. You may want to wait until you can give it to the woman who is going to charish it the most, and that may end up being your future wife. You may be subconsciously afraid of the consequences you often hear about in health classes and TV like pregnancy or STDs. Or you may be afraid of what having sex will do to your reputation, self esteem, friendship/relationship with the girl or others, ect. There are so many possibilities as to why you are afraid but there is nothing wrong with that, its 100% normal. Everyone gets that way their first time. As for what you should do, well that is entirely up to you, but my suggestion (and this coming from someone who knows) I think you should wait until you know you are with the woman you want to share your life with. Dont throw something as valuable as your virginity away just becuase you are "in the mood" for the moment or because its what everyone else is doing. Sex is a serious matter and you are smart for thinking it through. I hope this helps. Also, if it helps I know TONS of guys who are 18 and older and are virgins... some of the best guys I know too. :)
Love, Tandra
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Hey there,
okay the fact that your feeling afraid and questioning it means that your not ready simple.
theres nothing wrong with doing that,infact if more guys were like you itd be a god send!
itd mean less of us girls being used for sex,and endding up pregnant etc,anywaay
you want to make sure your in love,and really care for the girl before you go all the way and thats seriously a good thing.
forget about the fact that your the "only 18 year old who hasnt"
big deal!? do it when YOU want and when YOU feel ready not because everyone else is doing it just for the thrill and because you feel like you have to or you should you dont.
chances are half of those people who know who are having sex are just doing it for all the wrong reasons its totally meangingless and they wont remember their first time as anything special
please think about what im saying even if it might seem a little gay or whatever lol but its the truth and dont just give in girls will have so much more respect for you trust me.
Anyway hope I helped =)
Good luck
much <3
Jess [15/f]
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