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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end. I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.
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So, usually I'm used to answering these type of quetions. but, I guess I need your advice. because i'm not sure how to help myself.
[its not as long as it seems, i just skipped alot of lines, PLEASE i beg you, read]
14/f
You know how some people will say, 'there having a bad week' and they either tell you, how they got grounded, or got a F on a big test.
Well imagine this..
Imagine losing your whole group of friend, because they ditched you, for a huge graduation dance, when they were all going out to dinner together, and they didn't invite you, and you've been friends with all of them for atleast 4 or 5 years.
So, right now, your probably thinking.. that sucks. but its not the end of the world.
ok now imagine you just lost your best guy friend, who you were like madly inlove with, but a couple mistakes, mess up your friendship, and you were friends with him for 4 years. not friends actually, best friends. like the kinda guy you tell everything too.
now, your probably thinking, that sucks even more. but you can always make new friends.
OK. now imagine, your dog, your dog, not the family dog, your dog, dies. and gets hit by a car, early in the moring before you going to school.
now, i bet your saying wow now this really does suck for her.
BUT. wait theres more. now imagine, before ALL this happened, you talked about switching schools, just to one person, but they told everyone. So, now that the whole school knows, you decide you gotta go and switch. because if you don't, it will most likely just get worse at your school and people will call you a liar.
So, now your out of your comfort zone, your in a place, where things are way different.
this didnt all happen over a long period of time, it happened to me in a week. 1 week. how would you deal with it?
I'm asking for your advice. In the beginning of all this when it all happened, I covered up my sadness, I smiled and laughed, like I always normaly would. But, its starting to hit me now, hard. I'm not smiling too much, and i find myself losing track of my grades. I'm no longer focusing, and starting not to want to do normal activities. Since I took a class in depression, I know these are early signs of depression. I want to stop it before I get worse.
But, I do not, do not want to see a therapist. My mom would freak. And it would make me feel uncomfortable around my family. So, thats a total noway. I'm strong when it comes to things like this. I can make it, if I just know how to. But, as of right now I don't. I'm normaly a A and 2 Bs [rarely] student. My grades have dropped tremendosly.
I need your help. Your advice will mean a great deal to me. Please help me in any way possible.
thank you very much.
Aww, I'm very sorry. That's a horrible week.
I'm not sure what to advise you to do, but I can say that things will most definitely get better for you.
If your friends drop you for something as dumb as a dance & some mistakes, then they were never really your friends. Your friends are always supposed to stick around when you make mistakes. It's like a pact you make the day you become best friends. It just works that way. Since your friends dropped you like a hot potatoe, then they were never your friends & you need to make new ones.
As for the rumors that everyone started about you switching schools. Those people are dumb. They obviously were not listening to you when you said that you were THINKING about it. Explain that you never said you were switching, but thinking about it. If you actually decide to switch, you're just giving them more reasons to get to you, & more reasons to start rumors when you're gone. Set the record straight. No matter what people think, you're the only one who knows the truth. So prove it.
Talk to your mom about things. She can help a ton with it. If it's uncomfortable talking to your mother, are there any siblings or cousins you're close with? If not siblings or cousins, maybe an aunt or an uncle? Talk to anyone you can about this. Anyone in your family could be a big help. Whenever I need help & can't go to my friends, I go to a family member that I'm close with & they usually help a great deal. If you wouldn't like to talk to them, then you can IM/Email me. My info is on my column. Good luck.
Can anyone give me an honest opinion how to or how do you pick out a dress?
For the style, do I pick a style that's in right now, style I like, or style I feel comfortable in?
For colour, do I pick a colour I think is IN right now, my favourite colour, or a colour that suits and contrast and goes good with my skin tone?
I'm having so much stress right now because grd is coming and half the girls want poka dotted dresses and onyl one shop is selling them (dun dun dun) and everyone's scared they might get the same one. i just don't know what to get there's so many styles I want but I'm nto sure if it'll fit in or stick out too much
Buy something that you like, you're comfortable in, & that fits you & flatters you well.
Go to a place nobody would think of for your dress. Originality is key & going to the same store as everyone else will cause a mishap like this.
is there a way to change your screen name without having to get a new column because i would really like to change mine..thanks :)
You would need to have a paid account to do that. It's $10 a year, and you have to use PayPal to do it.
If you don't wanna buy an account, then you can always email DangerNerd with it. But you need a severely good reason for him to change it. Reasons like "I don't like it anymore" probably wouldn't be good enough. Try anyways:
dangernerd@gmail.com
okay well this girl has been hanging out with me and my grou of freind for a while and for about 3 months now we have all found out that none of us liked her. We all were just getting along with her just becasue we all thought everyone else liked her but now my freinds are still acting likethat but yettheyl tell me that they are wanting her out of our group what do i do?
I think it's rude to "kick someone out" of a group because no one likes her. Give her another chance & if it doesn't work out, then tell her that things aren't working out with her & the group & suggest her to be friends with someone else.
turned 13 recently. my mom and i do not get along at all anymore. she hates my friends music clothes me and just how i act. my friends are all i love not my family not my mom not my cousins nothing and nobody else. so my mom makes fun of my friends and says everything she thinks is wrong with them and how they dress and all about them. then i try to get her to stop she talks over me so i cant say anything then i yell then she yells then im grounded. then she says 'o i dont care what you do do whatever you want' then i do then a little while later she get even madder about it. everything i wear that is red purple black brown she gets mad and yells till i change. my jewelry she tells me to take it off then the next day after school its gone she takes my stuff. she tells me to burn things that I like and I wear. im screaming and crying more than ever. but when im around my friends im fine. their gothic their parents let them wear what they want. i cant even get the side bangs. my friend had them and died her hair redish brown it even mainly looks brown its not bad at all. her parents let her. shes having confirmation soon even. i told my mom then she starts saying thats stupid her parents are wrong for letting her do that thats just sick. WTF! why does it matter! now its to the point i have to hide my music i add songs i hate in a folder like glamorous and stuff like that then a folder for the music i like like evanescence and the used and stuff like that and i erased the names on all of them their just numbered. last time she heard it she freaked out yelling at me. then i hide my jewelry in a locked box saying pictures and when id go somewhere i would put some in my purse then wear it on later. my friends say me cry for the first time yesterday. they know about my mom so they came over wearing preppy junk and tried acting different for me so my mom would leave me and them alone. my mom said clothes doesnt make a person. so they said ya so why does it matter its just clothes. my mom said but MY clothes do matter. so all the yelling in my life is for nothing because clothes dont matter. but its who i am its what i like its my body not hers. gothic is another stereotype just like preppy is. my brother is preppy so he gets all he wants. my mom is trying to change me she wants me to dress like a slut all the clothes she gets for me. my Best friend is a guy which can never ever comeover hes even a prep. everyone makes fun of me family cousins strangers and people at school. i can cut my hair it wouldnt help i could cut my wrists just might again deep id be quicker. but im guessing my moms rule is NO friends fun or freedom. ive been going trough this for about 2 years she will not budge i will not either. i will never give up. i tell her all this like one thing everyday till im sent to my room then refuse then get grounded. if she yells ill yell i even told her that. i act calm she yells then i do. i say how prep and goth are both just stereotypes how their just names and how she gives him everything because its a different name. i go through too much for anyone to go through. i only act tough because id be dead 2 years ago if i didnt. i cant get a therepist or even talk to my mom or write what else is there to do before i die and shell never even care. there is no way of ''kindly'' doing anything to her she just wont let me.
Whoa nelly, you hold it right there missy!
Never change for anyone. Don't change for your mother/family. Don't change for your friends. Don't change for your boyfriend. Change for no one but yourself. It's a whole lot easier to change for yourself than it is for someone else. Changing for someone else would be changing for the wrong reason. Don't change for acceptance. If people cannot accept you, then fuck them. They're not worth being in your life. I realize she's your mother, but you need to talk to her about it calmly.
Sit her down & explain to her that if she loved you & cared about you, she would accept you the way you are & let you do the things you wanna do. Tell her that she would support you & she would never make you change. If being gothic makes you happy, then so be it. Tell her that you're not changing for her, and that you won't be goth forever. And I know you won't be. Lots of kids change & never stay the same label or stereotype their whole life. You're 13, you're in 7th grade, I'm guessing, and you've still got 5 years of school to see what else is out there.
When you talk to your mother, talk to her calmly. If you scream and yell & throw fits, then nothing is gonna change & it's just gonna get worse.
Don't commit suicide though. You can be so many things & do so many things with your life but if you kill yourself you'll never get those chances or those experiences. See a counselor, see a doctor & talk to your friends as much as you can. Life is what you make of it.
15/f (16 in a month)
For years, I've dyed my hair, dressed nicely and worn make-up. I've always tried to be a nice person, but everyone knows not to mess with me.
Recently, my "best friends" and I got into a fight. Now it's three against one and they keep saying I'm fake. I don't think appearance makes a person fake, it's what's inside. I'm not an idiot either, I have a 4.0 GPA and I work hard for that.
I don't know what makes a person fake. When I'm around them they just laugh and pretend to be happy (quite fakely) and talk behind my back. I always say how I feel right to people's faces.
Is there anyway I can prove I'm not fake? What makes a person fake? Should I just ignore them? They are like.. harassing me with this though. They are also ganging up on my other best friend and they keep making her cry. I really want to stand up to them. I always say things right to their faces, should I continue this?
Thanks, all insight and advice is greatly appreciated! =)
I honestly don't think your fake. You do what you want, and you know who you are.
Being fake would classify you as the type who talks shit about someone & then acts nice to their face. Or being friends with someone & talking shit about them. Or just lying about everything & always making up stories. THAT is being fake.
Just continue being yourself & ignore them. They've obviously got no life & a ton of time on their hands.
A few days ago a sparrow egg fell out of the nest and it's too high up to put it back in so I decided to try to hatch it. When I got it, it was still warm so I figured it might still be alive. I have it wrapped in a tissue and a little bucket on my satelite reciever (I never turn it off so it gets kind of hot). I haven't been able to find anything on incubating the egg except that it lasts for about two weeks. Does anyone have any more info on this?! Thanks in advance!!
Why didn't you get a ladder & put it back in the nest? The chances of this egg surviving are very slim.
if you are assaulted by someone else first...then you kill the person b/c you're trying to protect yourself..would you go to jail?
Well, since it's self defense, probably not, but you'd need an extremely good/expensive lawyer to save your ass. So, it's likely that you will be put in jail.
Ok, I've been playing the guitar since I was in the 4th grade.
I'm in 8th grade now.
I kind of stopped playing because of a guitar teacher I had last year. I plan on playing next year again in school as an elective.
What Im asking is:
A good website that I can have to will help me tune my guitar because it's waaay out of tune.
Also, a website or store that I can buy a good but not too expensive guitar at.
:) Thanks.
Why did you stop because of the teacher? That's a dumb reason to stop playing an instrument.
Alright, I found a tube of lip gloss on my desk at school today. well, it was victorias Secret, very expensive, it was a full tube, and it seemed like it was only used a few times!
well, what is the chance of me getting anything if i use it? is it even possible to catch anything, other than maybe being sick, but like disease or antyhing from it?
I would suggest not using it. There's a ton of ways to invite something to your body by using something that is someone else's. Don't share brushes, don't share anything.
If you really want this lipgloss, find out the flavor, and save the money so you can buy your own. Throw this one away or leave it there so the girl can get it back.
is it possible to have physical symptoms but not emotional?
because i have all symptoms for physical.
but absolutely N O N E for emotional.
is this depression or something else?
thank you :D
Yeah. There's different types of depression. See your doctor about it. No matter what type of depression it may be, you need to treat it because leaving it untreated will only make it worse.
14.f. ok, so i've been really depressed latley. over guys. i know i'm only 14 and i have some time to have a boyfriend, but i'm tired of waiting. i've never had a boyfrined before, and i like this guy, but he doesn't even notice me, and all my friends are like "when you get into high school, you'll have a boyfriend" but i want one now! i only have one good guy friend, but besides him, i never talk to guys. i always see the "popular" girls talking to guys, because they talk to the girls first, but guys never talk to me. and it makes me feel sad. i've tried to loose weight (not just because of guys, i really am fat- bout 160 pounds) is that why guys don't like me? beause i'm fat? urrr!! it just drives me nuts. what if i never go out with any guys in my life, and i become 20 years old, and live all alone with a dog and on friday nights i'm stuck at home with nothing to do. help please. what do i do?
Sweetie, you're 14 years old. You've got all the time in the world for guys, and they're not really all that important. I mean, they're nice to have around, but guys can be annoying & ugh. They're just full of trouble. I'm not trying to tell you to turn into a lesbian & just forget about boys, but forget about them for now.
If a guy doesn't notice you or like you, then that's his problem & his loss. Don't let it bum you out. I'm sure you're really pretty with a great personality. Just keep waiting. The right guy will come around eventually.
ok so basically iv wrote a question similar to this one but not really.. One of my close friends that i knew since 6th grade. Well i started to like him last year, and i have been liking him ever since. Heres the weird thing though. Every time i think bout him he pops up out of no where. Just like this.
1: When me and my friend were walking home i was thinking about him and then like 2 minutes later he drove right past us and yelled HEY
2:One morning i was thinking i wonder wut hes doin i got outside and there he was across the street from where i live playing basket ball
3:When i had a slide show on my computer of my family and friends all the pictures were fine, but when the picture of him came up my computer froze. Of all of the pictures to freeze on
4: When me and my friend were going to walk to the corner store i saw no one outside walking, then i was thinkin oh we are going to walk right past his house, then a couple of seconds later i heard foot steps from behind me and it was him walkin up behind me tryin to scare me.
5: I also always see him in the hall way and the thing is that i never did until i started to like him
This is really weird and it happens all of the time.. wut does this mean is something tellin me something??
help me out
It's just a coincidence. I think he might like you, so talk to him about it.
okay so like a couple week ago i came down stairs at night to throw my stuff in the wash and like walking down the stairs i saw my brother on the comp like with his hand down his pants and then like when he realized i was coming down he exited a website (wonder what kind that was.. ew.) and moved his hands. and i just like blowed it off. i mean i dont want to say anything. and then i think that happened one or two other times. and i think hes embarrassed or thinks im stupid and like dont know what hes doing (or since i blow it off he prob. thinks i don't realize)but serouisly.. im 14. i know what hes doing..
and TONIGHT. EWW. omg so i came down to get paper from the comp at like 11:00 because tomarrow is bring your child to work day and im not going to school so i decided to stay up late and work on a project. and i saw him like naked or no pants on.. on the comp. and i just looked away and walked into the laundry room. and he liked close a web. and again i blew it off. and like he'll just try to blow it off too. and just ew. i think he knows i know but just tries to act stupid. i never say anything about it. cause. how awqward.
and it just like grosses out because its MY BROTHER. and like hes not exacually the most attractive guyy so that just makes it like 1238 times grosser. ah. this is really disturbing me.
oh yeahh and like he makes it obvouis when hes gonna do it or whatever. like since you know i walk past the comp to get into the laundry room he'll always be like so are you going to do your laundry now? or throw your laundry in now. ill just be like okayyyyy.... because he doesnt want me to come downstairs while hess doing whatever. AH. this is GROSS. im getting distgusted. oh freak. its nasty.
advice? anything?
ew.
thanks for reading this all.
Haha, of course your brother isn't going to be attractive to you. That'd be disgusting, immoral, wrong & possibly incest.
Confront your brother about it. Just tell him how you feel about it. Tell him if he wants to masturbate, then to get a magazine & do it in his room but not at the computer where anyone could possibly walk in on him.
Is it illegal to start your own newspaper in your neighborhood with like 13-15 houses?
I don't think so. Maybe go to your town or city hall & talk to an official about it.
I'm 15 first of all. I'm always paranoid. always think everyone hates me. I've been so quiet, and so like "to myself". Which is extremely unusual, I'm usually the loudest hyperest and most ADD kid. I feel like I'm losing all my friends. I can't stand my mom, I hate her and wont talk to her about anything, she is why i always feel as though while everyone is out there living life to the fullest, i'm not aloud to live but only to exist. This feeling of depression has gotten me from straight A's to D's. It feels like things can't get any worse and that's why i have no motivation. I never let out my feelings though. I dont let my friends or family know somethings wrong. (well i can't talk about that with my family) but myfriends anyways. I never cry in public, I keep my business to myself. So it always feels like theres a fucking tornado of feelings and emotions crammed up inside me, with no one to talk to. I can't even let it out to my very best friend. We're really close, she doesn't go to my school or live in my city, but she's the other half of me. Without her, I would completely go insane. Well anyways, what can help me feel better?
No matter what anyone says, talking always helps you. ALWAYS.
Why is it that you hate your mom? What has she ever done to make your life so horrible? Has she kept you in the house or not allowed you to go out with some friends? Whatever it may be, that is between you & your mother, and the best thing to do is to talk it out. No matter how much you hate each other. I mean, I'm not sure how you could hate the woman that gave you life, but maybe try to overcome these things with her. You're gonna realize when you get older that your mother can be your best friend & that everything she told you & taught you was gonna work out in the end, and it was never a lie.
For paranoia, that's a disorder so you need to see a doctor to get on meds to treat it. Without any type of help from a doctor, these feelings will only get worse & they'll drive you insane. So seeing a doctor is definitely a good idea.
If you can't talk to your family, your friends, or even your best friend, who can you talk to? Maybe a counselor? If that doesn't work, you can always talk to me. I'm not sure who you are & I know nothing about you, but I can try to help you as best I can. All of my information is on my column if you'd like further help.
Okay so i have some jewelry. And i think its pretty nice too. So i really need money. So you know those places where you go and like sell the jewelry to the store. Well What are those places called?
Think its a good idea?
They're called pawn shops I believe, and I don't really think it's a good idea if you're under the age of 18. I tried to pawn something & the guy told me I couldn't because I was 15, and not 18. Haha, so bring an adult with you.
But if you want to make money a better way, try babysitting or doing extra chores around the house. I'm not sure how old you are, so telling you to get a job would be out of the question, but if you're 16, try looking for a job.
is england a country?
Yeah.
okay so on april 20th right after school i met the boy of my dreams hes half porto rican (im not sure how you spell it sorry) and half black his name is carlose well he asked me out on friday and i told him yea.So i was on my way home from my friends house and her and my boyfriend were like talking for like 40 minutes because i had to do my homework well i called him and he hung up with her and she called me the next day and was like yeah he said he wants to marry me and have a baby with me and all this other shit.So the next day whick was on Sunday i confronted him on the phone and i said did you say that stuff to amanda and he said hell no babe i dont even like her.Well i didnt belive amanda whick is like my best friend i belived my boyfriend.This boy means everything to me for example im a virgin right and he actually respects that and hes gonna wait for me but i know he wouldnt say that stuff to amanda well on saturday carlose told me he loved me and i said i loved him too because this was true love and dont say im rushing or its too soon because its not so anyways when i went to school on monday i told everyone i was gonna fight amanda because she told all these boys i was single and im not and then she told everyone that im rudhing with some boy i dunno but then we got called to the deans office remind you that were only in the 8th grade and she brought me all this drama and im 15 years old i can take care of myself so i decided not to fight her and i decided to be a grown up and talk to her face to face in the deans office and now i guesse were bestfriends again.Well my family thinks im to young to have a boyfriend and no boy has ever called my house well i showed my grandma a picture of carlose and she said he was cute but i told her he was porto rican(sorry if i spelt it wrong) and half white not half black.Well she knows im like in love with him but if she found out i was dateing a boy that live a hour and a half away from me and im in middle school and hes in the 9th grade.She would not approve of that but next year hes going to the same high school as me and i wanna tell my mom we go out but ahh idk.......WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
Which* Puerto Rican* Dating*
Anyways, the girl below me is wrong. Middle school may be drama, but it's nothing compared to the drama you're gonna experience in highschool.
You need to sit your friend down & ask her why she was spreading those rumors about you. She might be jealous that you have a boyfriend & she doesn't, she might have a crush on him, or she just might wanna break you up because she doesn't wanna share her best friend. Whatever her problem may be, you need to get to the bottom of it & find a way to fix it. Fighting each other won't fix things. It just makes them worse. Besides, you'll find that less drama throughout school makes you happier, so it's best to avoid it & not feed into it when someone starts shit with you.
Also, why didn't your grandmother approve of him? Was it because he was a year older & already a freshman? Whatever it may be, talk to her about it. I know she's your grandmother, but things aren't how they were back when she was young, and things have changed dramatically. If you like this boy, then you should be very open about the relationship. Let everyone know you're together so nobody tries to get with him, and so that people know you're taken & indeed NOT single. If your family thinks you're too young to date, then maybe hold off on relationships for a bit until they think you're old enough. Or you could be responsible & prove them wrong. Keep your grades up while dating him & prove that you can have a boyfriend & have good grades too. If you can do that, then they should allow you to have one.
And I doubt you're in love sweetie, you guys have only been together for less than a week. Love takes time to grow, it's not instant. I think you've just got a major crush.
why did she lied? okay i was having a good talk to my friend just our hey and whats going on. her phone rang and she pick it up, i heard a "hello...Lara" she hang up quick and i laughed and she did also and i said
"who was that?"
she said "wrong number"
"but i heard them say your name" I said
"umm i dont know..just wrong number" the cell rang again and i looked at it and the number showed. it didnt say a name but i knew the number was from our old school friend of ours. i said "its Tony..." (tony calls her once in a while) she said"oh..really?...well he can leave a message" and we continue talking.
why did she lie about that? i know she gets phone calls from him cause she tells me but why act like you dont know the number?
its odd...
Your friend sounds weird. Maybe ask her why she did it?