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So, usually I'm used to answering these type of quetions. but, I guess I need your advice. because i'm not sure how to help myself.
[its not as long as it seems, i just skipped alot of lines, PLEASE i beg you, read]
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You know how some people will say, 'there having a bad week' and they either tell you, how they got grounded, or got a F on a big test.
Well imagine this..
Imagine losing your whole group of friend, because they ditched you, for a huge graduation dance, when they were all going out to dinner together, and they didn't invite you, and you've been friends with all of them for atleast 4 or 5 years.
So, right now, your probably thinking.. that sucks. but its not the end of the world.
ok now imagine you just lost your best guy friend, who you were like madly inlove with, but a couple mistakes, mess up your friendship, and you were friends with him for 4 years. not friends actually, best friends. like the kinda guy you tell everything too.
now, your probably thinking, that sucks even more. but you can always make new friends.
OK. now imagine, your dog, your dog, not the family dog, your dog, dies. and gets hit by a car, early in the moring before you going to school.
now, i bet your saying wow now this really does suck for her.
BUT. wait theres more. now imagine, before ALL this happened, you talked about switching schools, just to one person, but they told everyone. So, now that the whole school knows, you decide you gotta go and switch. because if you don't, it will most likely just get worse at your school and people will call you a liar.
So, now your out of your comfort zone, your in a place, where things are way different.
this didnt all happen over a long period of time, it happened to me in a week. 1 week. how would you deal with it?
I'm asking for your advice. In the beginning of all this when it all happened, I covered up my sadness, I smiled and laughed, like I always normaly would. But, its starting to hit me now, hard. I'm not smiling too much, and i find myself losing track of my grades. I'm no longer focusing, and starting not to want to do normal activities. Since I took a class in depression, I know these are early signs of depression. I want to stop it before I get worse.
But, I do not, do not want to see a therapist. My mom would freak. And it would make me feel uncomfortable around my family. So, thats a total noway. I'm strong when it comes to things like this. I can make it, if I just know how to. But, as of right now I don't. I'm normaly a A and 2 Bs [rarely] student. My grades have dropped tremendosly.
I need your help. Your advice will mean a great deal to me. Please help me in any way possible.
thank you very much.
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Wow! and I thought my life was bad..lol..I am so sorry that this happened to you! I think it's really not fair how your friends ditched you just for a stupid dance...they weren't real friends if they did that. Just try talking to someone in your family because you need to talk to someone! Just hang in there and things will get better soon. Always stay positive, but if you really feel like you need to cry..just cry it all out and you'll feel way better after. I am REALLY sorry about you losing your best guy friend and your dog dying...I know how you must feel. Maybe you could try writing out your feelings on paper, that always works for me or just relax, listen to music...that'll help you deal with the problems. I hope my advice helped!
*Good Luck!*:)
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Aww, I'm very sorry. That's a horrible week.
I'm not sure what to advise you to do, but I can say that things will most definitely get better for you.
If your friends drop you for something as dumb as a dance & some mistakes, then they were never really your friends. Your friends are always supposed to stick around when you make mistakes. It's like a pact you make the day you become best friends. It just works that way. Since your friends dropped you like a hot potatoe, then they were never your friends & you need to make new ones.
As for the rumors that everyone started about you switching schools. Those people are dumb. They obviously were not listening to you when you said that you were THINKING about it. Explain that you never said you were switching, but thinking about it. If you actually decide to switch, you're just giving them more reasons to get to you, & more reasons to start rumors when you're gone. Set the record straight. No matter what people think, you're the only one who knows the truth. So prove it.
Talk to your mom about things. She can help a ton with it. If it's uncomfortable talking to your mother, are there any siblings or cousins you're close with? If not siblings or cousins, maybe an aunt or an uncle? Talk to anyone you can about this. Anyone in your family could be a big help. Whenever I need help & can't go to my friends, I go to a family member that I'm close with & they usually help a great deal. If you wouldn't like to talk to them, then you can IM/Email me. My info is on my column. Good luck.
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i feel so sorry for you.dont change schools because you think if you dont everyone will call a liar.who ever told everyone that you were changing schools isnt your true friend.
for the other issues talk to your mom.she will understand how your feeling even if you dont think she will.
im the same way where your used of giving advice but then it comes to yourself you half a clue what you should do.
you had a really tough week.i hope next week will be better for you,xxaoifexx
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I'd say! If I've ever heard of a bad week, this would be it...
First off, don't go switching schools because you think you need to out of fear everyone will think you are a liar.
Think of it this way- the kids who spread all about the word that you ARE switching schools are the liars. You said you were thinking to. Big difference.
Don't let them run you off.
Now, as for your other issues, I strongly advise you talk to your mom. You have to remember, that adults (including our moms and dads) were teenagers once in their lives, too. There are a lot of situations that they have experienced and overcame. Someone like your mom may be of more help to you, and more understanding of these situations than you may realize.
I don't think you need therapy. I think you need to talk to your mom about these goings-on and your feelings on them. Don't worry that she will freak if you talk to her about your problems. EVER.
Mom's tend to be very welcoming of such discussions, because they WANT to help. Sadly, they just don't get asked very often, because teens tend to shut them out, when it comes to their problems.
Hope next week goes smoothly. :)
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Wow,
That feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders seems to be getting to you pretty badly. Feels like the whole world is falling apart on you? My suggestion, let everything in your social life go, concentrate as hard on your schooling as possible, sign up for a club or sports team. Then at the end of the day go home and take a relaxing bubble bath to help relax yourself. Don't be afraid to talk to an adult, like a parent or teacher. Try not to think about your old friends and open your arms to new ones.
Hope I could help o^-^o
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