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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Does anyone know any good websites/xangas/photobuckets/myspaces with good backgrounds or layouts for myspace because i want some good background patterns that most people don't have. don't tell me to google or type in backgrounds on photobucket.
kthanks.

If you don't want us to tell you to use Google, or type in Backgrounds on Photobucket, then what the hell do you want from us?

Either search MySpace Layouts on Xanga in the Blogrings, or use www.createblog.com. If you don't find something you like there, then do what you told us not to tell you.

Okay, so I've always wondered--if you have a lip piercing [lip ring on the bottom lip], will it feel weird or get in the way of kissing?

I've always wondered that too, but I'm pretty sure it would feel a little different. You'll get used to it I'm sure.

Hello im crying my eyes out because i think im over weight....i dont look it but the BMI thing says I am IM like 5'2 and like somewhere inbetween 127-130 pds....omg i hate myself...im thinking of anorexia.

You're not fat at all. You're probably where you're supposed to be, and you shouldn't even worry about it. If you want to lose weight, then do it healthily. All anorexia will do is make you sickly looking, and it could kill you. Just eat healthy, take vitamins, & work out.

I'm 14/f and my friend is 14/f [Let's call her June] and my other friend is 15/f [Let's call her Jane].

So, June made a promise to me and Jane saying that she would not do drugs anymore. Well, just yesterday, June came to school high. She took 20 pills of some sort of drug and my other friend had to hold her up in order for her to stay standing up. It was really bad.

I really want to tell her parents or someone because I think she needs help with drug problems because this isn't the first time she's done it. I mean she took some pills last year DURING school. But Jane is really super good friends with June & so she's afraid that June is going to get expelled or suspended. I know that if Jane is a good friend, she'd want her friend to get help. But I can't convice her. I really want June to get help but I don't want Jane getting mad at me along with a few other people.

I'm accepting the fact that losing a friendship is better than to know that the friend is doing drugs and letting her ruin her life. But my other friends aren't and I'm kind of stuck...help? What should I do?

If you're concerned about your friend, then you need to tell an adult you trust immeadiately. Whether it be the nurse, a cool teacher, a principal, her parents...anyone. You need to tell someone because she needs to get help. By taking so many pills, her system is becoming dependent on that amount & if she takes anything less than that amount [when she actually needs medicine], she'll get sick & her system will reject it making her vomit.

Get your friend help because she's a drug addict.

what happens if i use my friend's ID in a club in toronto??, i mean if they notice it is not me??...like hre where i live its only like yea wathever as long as you have any ID

Well, you can get in a lot of trouble for using a fake ID. They could put you in jail, they could not even notice, or you could just get sent home. I don't suggest it though. Wait until you're of age to go to the club because then it's no hassle, no panic & no worries.

Okay; so i'm Bi, ive known this for a whille now.
i finally told my mom about it. she didn't really say much. but i've ALWAYS hung out w/ Lesbians & Bisexuals. but now she thinks it's a big deal [now that she knows i like girls too].
what the hell.

what should i do/say to her?

She's just shocked about it & obviously didn't see it coming. She's not sure how to handle it, and what to think of it, so she's making it out to be something it's not. This should be expected from most parents. It's not exactly what they wanna hear [unless they're easygoing & don't care what your sexuality is].

Talk to her about it calmly like you did when you told her you were bisexual. Tell her you're not any different than you were before, and you're still the same person, but your sexual preferences are different. Ask your mom what she does/doesn't like about your decision, and ask how you can make things smoother for her. If nothing seems to work, give your mother space & let her get used to it for a while.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kh6RTr3U8fA

how do 3 year olds know those kind of words?

Bad role models, bad parents, bad tv shows..

Okay, so how do you determine what your life color is? Like in colorology? xD lol, thanks.

Say you had so called friends mybe one real one and one accompliance with that person you d not like so much and they were talking about girls they thought were pretty and you weren't included but they all were would you still consider these people your friends?

Not really, but then again, everyone isn't beautiful. And it depends who you're talking about. I'm not afraid to admit that some of my friends aren't exactly gorgeous, but they're still pretty.

Talk to your friends about it & if they make some lame excuse; cut them short & get new friends.

Okay, so I've been talking to my ex boyfriend's friend(who is a freshman and so am I), and we both have been getting to know each other alot. Plus two days ago, he told me he liked me, and I told him I liked him...Bad part is that he lives like an hour away and I don't know how we would see each other. Even thought he goes to the same school with my ex, and they are friends, but i'm not on good terms with my ex. But we really want to hang out, we just don't know how, and if our parents would even let us.

Then he told me that he just wanted to be friends and he said that a relationship wouldn't work out, so by that I got very sad...I mean wouldn't you be sad if a guy led you on like that, then dropped you?

But then he told me he didn't mean it like that, yeah right, and then he still wanted to try to have something with me because apparently he likes me "alot".
I don't know though, because after he told me it probably wouldn't work, I agreed with him, and now I don't know how I feel.

Plus there are two other guys that like me too. One of them goes to the same school I do(I don't really like him), and the other guy goes to a different school but he still lives close by, which I kind of have feelings for...Even though i'm a freshman and he's a jr. (in highschool)

So if anyone has any advice on what I should dooo...Please help.
Because I'm stuckkk.

I don't think he lead you on. He probably does like you but realized what you are right now. There's no way for you guys to see each other, and if there was, you wouldn't see each other often.

If you like the guy who lives close to you, then get to know him more & go out with him. Stay friends with the guy who lives an hour away, and let down the guy at your school easily.

what is the difference between dating and being boyfriend and girlfriend?

When dating, you're either getting to know the person, or you're going on dates with different people. When you're boyfriend & girlfriend, you're dating the same person for a while.

so.. dance team try-outs are the 2nd week of may..and the try-out is a week long so we can learn the moves. im soo scared because, im NOT stiff..but i can be. how can i loosen up because i am so scared and really wanna make it into dance team..i can dance but i dont know how to loosen up when it comes to try-outs. ive had hip-hop dance class before and i know how to dance...please help.

If you know that you know how to dance, there's nothing to worry about. Before you go to tryouts, try meditating. It's a way to relax yourself & get calm & clear your mind before you go out there.

i have a huge scratch on my krzr. i don't know where it came from but it keeps getting bigger. is there anything i can use to get rid of the scratch?

I don't think there is anything to get rid of the scratches, but maybe you can get the front&back replaced. The phone is just like a cover, and they can replace that. OR you can buy an actual phone cover so when you drop it, it won't get hurt or break. Covers are about $20 depending on where you go.

okay so about 2 months ago i did something with the guy i liked. i ended up being his rebound girl and i didnt want to be so i stopped what we were doing before it got any further. ok so i told my one "friend" about this because she was bothering me about not getting any action from guys so i wanted to shut her up because it was getting really annoying. she promised she wouldn't tell anyone and i trusted her because she was always a trustworthy person. except for now. she went and told this boy's ex girlfriend that i made out with him (i didn't make out with him) and now they're both mad because they think i made it all up. im not known to lie by the way. but anyway then they went to the guy and asked him and he's denying it all because he still thinks theres some chance that him and his ex are going to get back together. so i look like the liar but this boy has been known to lie to get himself out of these dramatic situations before. i dont know what to do, they wont believe me when i tell them i didn't make out with him and they think i made this all up for attention and i didnt! this guy just isnt helping me and coming forward with the truth. please help me, what do i say to these so called "friends" and how do i get the boy to come clean?

First off, never tell your friends anything ever again. They've just proven to you that they cannot be trusted with secrets, or any type of information, so cut them short & find new friends before they tell everything about your life.

Second, you can't get this guy to come clean. He used you & now he's not gonna admit it. He'll never tell the truth about it. Sorry to say, but some guys are like this, and they'll probably never change their ways. But you can always laugh when his ex & him don't work out [that's if she takes him back, of course]. Besides, if they didn't work out before, what the hell makes him think it's gonna work out this time? Plain & simple -- it won't, so no matter what, you'll be getting the last laugh.

Just go on with your life. Your friends are fake, this guy's an asshole, and you're the only one who knows the truth. As long as you know what happened, and what's the truth & what isn't, then you're better than them & you've got no worries. Don't worry about some dumb guy. He's not worth your time. It's about time you realized that.

So, I'm 18 (and a girl). I like a 25 year old guy, and there's a pretty good possibility he likes me back. But the thing is, we see each other often. I dogsit for him sometimes, train his dog, and he's sort of my boss (if he needs help he asks me [he owns his own business]). So, if he says no, there isn't really time to avoid him. Should I start with something casual, like lunch or bowling? Just go all out and ask if he wants to see a movie or whatever?

Sweetie, he's 7 yrs your senior. Who cares if you're an adult or not, that's disgusting. I wouldn't advise dating this man.

ok i got this thing in the mail that said i could be in national american miss. but the thing is, i'm fat. 5'2 13/f 145pounds. i really want to be in it, but do you think they will accept a fat person? i have a bigger stomach then butt. but i'm just plain fat.
please help me
p.s. i have to answer in 9 days

It could be a scam, but if you'd really like to do it, then sign up & apply for it. Don't think they're automatically gonna knock you out because you're not what the media says you're supposed to be. Big or not, every girl is beautiful. Unless she's Rosie O Donnell of course.

hey im 14/f
theres a guy i like and sit with at lunch who has been making fun of me all year, but in a "flirty way". for example if i drop a french fry he'll call me "ketchup fingers" (haha i love his sense of humor).

but sometimes he can get really ...frustrating, like one day he'll joke about me being a lesbian (which im pretty sure i'm not cause I like this guy :p) or comment on how short my skirt is (which it isn't), etc. it's really embarassing and it hurts my feelings because one of his friends who doesnt sit with us told me he likes me (i dont know whether to believe him or not because of how much he changes, but on the other hand over the entire year he has pretty much proved he likes me)

so should i get over him? he likes me (i believe), and i like him, but he's being totally disrespectful and i am a big believer in a thing called R-E-S-P-E-C-T

thanks in advanceee

I don't think he's doing these things to hurt your feelings. He probably doesn't even realize that it's hurting you, so you need to come clean & tell him that it is. Pull him aside and say "I realize you're probably kidding, but it hurts when you say things like that, so stop?" It sounds corny, but you need to get the message across as best you can.

But I think that if you like him, then dwell on it. He supposively likes you too, so ask him to go to a movie or something with you & maybe to a place to eat? If something happens then you know he really does like you, and that his friend was right. Good luck. =)

So one of my best friends hangs out with her boyfriend 24/7 and even at school we don't even really hang. So I was asking her if we could hang out but since shes always with her boyfriend, and her boyfriend invites his friend who is my ex boyfriend. So then my best friend never invites me because she doesn't want to be a fight between my ex and me, cuz we aren't on good terms.

Then I talked to my best friend how I felt and she ignored me. She basically said that she thinks that her boyfriend will get mad if she says she doesnt want my ex to come when her boyfriend invites him, because she doesnt want there to be a fight. Also, she thinks that if she tells her boyfriend she doesnt want my ex to come, shes afraid her b/f will get mad and then break up with her.

But what boyfriend would break up with his girlfriend when his girlfriend wants to hang with her best friend that she hasn't hung out with for like 2 months.

Then the me, my ex, and my best friend got in a huge fight, abd basically my best friend said that she would rather have her boyfriend than me. Because she told me she doesn't want to lose what she has with her boyfriend. But it's not like they are going to be together forever, I mean they have been going out for like 3 months, and they still haven't hugged or kissed or anything whatsoever...So she's willing to lose her best friend over her boyfriend.

Oh, and my ex likes my best friend...and her boyfriend is my ex's best friend..
So does this make any sense to anyone?

Because basically my ex told me it was wrong to get mad at this whole situation, but i've been crying for 3 days straight, and I can't stop.
I just really don't know what too do.

Is it wrong that my (ex) best friend shoved me out of her life just to have her boyfriend because she doesn't want to lose him? Because I think they won't be together...

Please helpp..

I don't think you're in the wrong in the least bit. Your friend is. In my opinion, she's shallow & stupid, and she doesn't deserve you as her friend anyways.

I don't understand why her boyfriend would break up with her for wanting to hang out with you. That's stupid. And why would he get mad? You guys haven't spent time together in so long, and she does need a break from him. I'm surprised they've been together constantly & she hasn't gotten sick of him yet. Her boyfriend sounds abusive to me, because if he's telling her who she can/cannot hang out with, who knows what that could lead to. He sounds pretty controlling to me. But maybe it's in my head.

Talk to your friend. Tell her you don't think it's fair that she pushed you away for some guy she isn't going to be with for the rest of her life. She might get mad at you for saying that, but it's true. Seriously, how many high school couples last when high school ends? Not many. She needs a serious wake up call, and a slap to the back of the head for choosing a guy over her best friend.

Guys are whatever, friends are forever.

hi id like to know if any good store in toronto and new york that it's cheap! and has cute and cool CLOTHES please tell me , where it is or the name or website =D

I don't live in NYC or Toronto, but I know that both are very expensive places to shop unless you know who to go to. I don't know who that is because I've never been there. However, I do live in the state of New York, so I can tell you some of the stores we have in my city that you might be interested in.

DEB.
Hollister Co.
American Eagle Outfitters.
Abercrombie & Fitch.
Charlotte Russe.
Rave/Lola.
Express.
H&M.
579.
Rue 21.
Macy's.
Rainbow.

I'm not sure of their websites, but you can google them. =)

how to decrese boobs any excercise plz u have to help me out in this i am really pissed off

Why are you mad that you have boobs? You shouldn't be, and you shouldn't wanna have a flat chest either. But if you really want to lose them, then just lose fat by sweating.

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