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friendship over relationship
So one of my best friends hangs out with her boyfriend 24/7 and even at school we don't even really hang. So I was asking her if we could hang out but since shes always with her boyfriend, and her boyfriend invites his friend who is my ex boyfriend. So then my best friend never invites me because she doesn't want to be a fight between my ex and me, cuz we aren't on good terms.
Then I talked to my best friend how I felt and she ignored me. She basically said that she thinks that her boyfriend will get mad if she says she doesnt want my ex to come when her boyfriend invites him, because she doesnt want there to be a fight. Also, she thinks that if she tells her boyfriend she doesnt want my ex to come, shes afraid her b/f will get mad and then break up with her.
But what boyfriend would break up with his girlfriend when his girlfriend wants to hang with her best friend that she hasn't hung out with for like 2 months.
Then the me, my ex, and my best friend got in a huge fight, abd basically my best friend said that she would rather have her boyfriend than me. Because she told me she doesn't want to lose what she has with her boyfriend. But it's not like they are going to be together forever, I mean they have been going out for like 3 months, and they still haven't hugged or kissed or anything whatsoever...So she's willing to lose her best friend over her boyfriend.
Oh, and my ex likes my best friend...and her boyfriend is my ex's best friend..
So does this make any sense to anyone?
Because basically my ex told me it was wrong to get mad at this whole situation, but i've been crying for 3 days straight, and I can't stop.
I just really don't know what too do.
Is it wrong that my (ex) best friend shoved me out of her life just to have her boyfriend because she doesn't want to lose him? Because I think they won't be together...
Please helpp..
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ohhhhhhhhh, sweetie, i'm so sorry. You need to find new, good, trustworthy friends, one's that can be your supports. if your EX-FRIEND can jjust push you out of your life like that, then she wasn't that great to begin with. just leave her alone, mingle. you gotta be single to mingle! have fun, and please, she is sooooo not worth it.
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I don't think you're in the wrong in the least bit. Your friend is. In my opinion, she's shallow & stupid, and she doesn't deserve you as her friend anyways.
I don't understand why her boyfriend would break up with her for wanting to hang out with you. That's stupid. And why would he get mad? You guys haven't spent time together in so long, and she does need a break from him. I'm surprised they've been together constantly & she hasn't gotten sick of him yet. Her boyfriend sounds abusive to me, because if he's telling her who she can/cannot hang out with, who knows what that could lead to. He sounds pretty controlling to me. But maybe it's in my head.
Talk to your friend. Tell her you don't think it's fair that she pushed you away for some guy she isn't going to be with for the rest of her life. She might get mad at you for saying that, but it's true. Seriously, how many high school couples last when high school ends? Not many. She needs a serious wake up call, and a slap to the back of the head for choosing a guy over her best friend.
Guys are whatever, friends are forever.
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i think your best friend is totally wrong she shouldnt have picked her bf over her best friend.as you said yourself their not going to be together forever.just talk to her again and keep talking to her until she realises your right but make sure you dont have a fight over it with her.she will realise soon that she was wrong.
just to let you know the same thing happened with my best friend and i.everything will work out for the best.
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