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Friend and Drugs
I'm 14/f and my friend is 14/f [Let's call her June] and my other friend is 15/f [Let's call her Jane].
So, June made a promise to me and Jane saying that she would not do drugs anymore. Well, just yesterday, June came to school high. She took 20 pills of some sort of drug and my other friend had to hold her up in order for her to stay standing up. It was really bad.
I really want to tell her parents or someone because I think she needs help with drug problems because this isn't the first time she's done it. I mean she took some pills last year DURING school. But Jane is really super good friends with June & so she's afraid that June is going to get expelled or suspended. I know that if Jane is a good friend, she'd want her friend to get help. But I can't convice her. I really want June to get help but I don't want Jane getting mad at me along with a few other people.
I'm accepting the fact that losing a friendship is better than to know that the friend is doing drugs and letting her ruin her life. But my other friends aren't and I'm kind of stuck...help? What should I do?
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If you're concerned about your friend, then you need to tell an adult you trust immeadiately. Whether it be the nurse, a cool teacher, a principal, her parents...anyone. You need to tell someone because she needs to get help. By taking so many pills, her system is becoming dependent on that amount & if she takes anything less than that amount [when she actually needs medicine], she'll get sick & her system will reject it making her vomit.
Get your friend help because she's a drug addict.
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Well, If you tell her parents they can get her in a treatment program and if her parents are involved in the help process she won't get into any trouble at school. Allowing her to go on as she is makes her risk of getting expelled, or even arrested at school 10 xs more likely. I know you want to be a loyal friend to her but you need to ask yourself if your willing to risk her life to keep her happy with you. If she can take 20 Pills without dying on the spot she has worked her way up to that and will soon need to take more to achieve the same high. This may sound harsh but I really think you and Jane should consider this, you don't want June mad at you right? So you want her to be happy with you even as shes laying in a casket? It sounds like you are already realizing this, if you can't sway Jane to your side you should go it alone. Your her freinds it is your responsiblity to help her. Besides if the whole heaven thing flys, do you guys want June sittin up on her cloud watching you two grow up and live your lives like she never will, Shed Probably be pretty ticked then that you two diden't get her help, dont you think?
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You should seriously tell some one because if you were really a good friend you would do anything to protect her. She could get seriously hurt because she will hurt her amune system
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June does need help, you're right about that. Drugs aren't an easy thing to just give up on your own.
Kinda like chocolate. You promise yourself that you're not going to eat any....But then you decide a LITTLE bit couldn't hurt.
And then maybe just a LITTLE bit more...And then you think "What the heck, I might as well finish what I started" and you end up pigging out anyways.
But if you had a friend there, glaring at you and shaking their head, your guilt would be kicked into gear and chances are you wouldn't eat any.
If June really is your friend and respects your opinion, she's not going to want you to think lowly of her. Have a nice looooooooong chat with HER before going to your superiors.
Explain to her that you have her best interests at heart, and google a few disgusting facts about drugs to back you up.
Jane doesn't have to know about this talk. Usually I wouldn't support keeping secrets from friends, but June really does need help, and if Jane's getting in the way then the easiest thing to do is leave her in the dark.
And if your chat with June works out, then SHE can tell her parents, and ask for help herself instead of having it forced upon her.
But if it doesn't work out, then you'll have no choice but to tell someone who can do something about it. June and Jane and others may be angry with you at first, but (as over-used as it is) they WILL thank you in the long run.
Probably when June's married with 3 kids who WEREN'T born with mental disorders.
But suck it up, a little pain will be worth saving your friend from a lifetime of it.
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So...do you supposes there is another way to help her without telling her parents? If you got a way, go for it but I doubt it.
Go tell her parents. They can help her as well.
Especially if I was her parent I could smak the help into her.
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Ok hunni. This is a tough situation. In this case, I think that the best thing for you to do is to tell an adult that you trust and who "June" trust as well. They can point you in the right direction to get her help. Don't tell a shool however, becuase, she could get in trouble. You don't want that. You want to HELP her, not get her into trouble. Just tell a parent or an adult friend that you both trust that can handle this in teh best way possible. Also, talk to your friend about it and tell her your intentions of helping her and your concerns. It may be rough for a while, but, she will thank you in the end. Your doing the right thing. Best of luck to you, dear!
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